Bahddo:
nice... Please who would win the 2018 world cup?

Lol . World cup is not an attachment to me. I can only tell with close family member or friend.

My family members hope you all are doing pretty good? Appreciation to all who have been keeping the flag up despite some of us been very very absent, my honorable 'Glory 'I. The house, you are da bomb, our coordinator 'Olarewaju '(even though you sef take style scarce like me!) job well-done.TO all our Newbee in Da House, I say in Hausa language "sannu ku dazuwa "Allah ya ba da sa'a "

And this is the link to the Facebook Introvert group:

https://mobile./242444873197623?refid=18&_ft_=qid.6570190556248746685%3Amf_story_key.242448149863962%3Atop_level_post_id.242448149863962%3Atl_objid.242448149863962%3Asrc.22&__tn__=C-R

ayodiya:
get tired of talking easily, i wonder my people spend so much chating and talking . meet people kind of easily but after first meeting am short of words.
everyday is stressful hve to deal with people who think am quiet because am stupid , They dont know i dont give a f about they are talking abut and most the gals think dey don jam mumu

Its always gratifying when people think you are one thing, but right within yourself you know you are something else. What matters is what you think about yourself and not what people think about you.
Being an introvert is the most beautiful thing that has ever happen to me. I love and enjoy my own company.
The only time I have issue is when one lousy extrovert is trying to tell me why I have to be social, why I need to be talking, why I should always be in the gathering of people, why I have to stay at a party till the very end.
The point is, extrovert never want to accept and respect introvert for who they are

komek:
The only place where introverts express themsefs is on faceless forums like NL. Iam one. As we dey talk so, I dey inside my room for this long hols, can't go visiting anybody and don't even want pple around.

Introversion doesn't prevent you from having people around you or keeping friends. The thing is, when you are around the people talking and discussing, when it get to some stage, you will get bored and tired and need to be alone to recharge mentally.

Extro-Introvert nko i.e some of us that alternate ?

That's Ambiver....you are neither introvert nor extrovert. You fall inbetween

My dear friends it's good to be in your midst, at times I wonder if I'm alright but it's good to know that being an introvert is not bad. I love you all.

A very good article. Thanks to the author.

All my time in the family section, I haven't noticed this thread.. Looks like I'm inbetween

yettymuse:
All my time in the family section, I haven't noticed this thread.. Looks like I'm inbetween

If you're inbetween then you're an Ambivert . Same with me.



By the way, I really like your diary.

folake4u:



If you're inbetween then you're an Ambivert . Same with me.



By the way, I really like your diary.

Feels good to be here..

Thank you

yettymuse:
Feels good to be here..
Thank you

You're welcome

This is kool mehn


There is no greater feeling been an Ambivert !! You can relate been Intro and Extro


#Anfara ( In Aboki Lang )

I am an introvert too but I don't have a problem in socializing and conversing with people, I also partied alot back then in my university days. But I just don't really like people that much and I don't like having too many friends, just a few is ok for me, I also enjoy spending time by my self, I don't depend on people for company, just leave me with my series and movies. I also prefer being friends with people who love watching series and people who love dogs because I'm also a dog lover.

Hmmmmm

I bring you greetings from Sambisa forest. Lemme go and bring in my popcorn, AK 47, RPGs, IEDs.

I think it's safe to say that introverts are all dog lovers, yeah? Raise your hand if you are introverted but hate dogs.

Love this thread . I think am in between.


My three kids though still tender are my direct opposite.

I hate noise, talkatives and l'm a big fan of short talks/discussions

I don't think I'm introvert o. But I hate all kinds of noise whatsoever.

folake4u:



If you're inbetween then you're an Ambivert . Same with me.



By the way, I really like your diary.

finally i find my place.... i am extremely inbetween

I just wish I cud meet an ambivert sincere hookup here... Im 27 and matured for a start..? Do pm, I will take it up from there. Cheers

.

I guess I'm late, better late than never sha.

I'm also an introvert. my case was that worse that when i speak to my family members, my immediate family o, i cnt look up into their eyes, i cnt speak at length, as my voice will betray me (breaks and shakes) and smtimes when i'm alone I cry my eyes out, because i dnt lik my condition, i see it as a defect in my being.

I spoke to a confidant abt it, worked on suggestions, though things changed a bit but i'm still there, i just wish things would change completely.

Most times, i happen to have a lot of ideas, but always scared to express myself. can anyone help on how i can speak in d midst of people without my voice betraying me?

Gosh somebody just got me angry, am easily pissed off, and my own vex no be here . Some people just wanna take advantage of you because you are introverted . And I won't let somebody make me feel like am stupid. Marching out want to go teach him some lessons

AJIKOLA:
Gosh somebody just got me angry, am easily pissed off, and my own vex no be here . Some people just wanna take advantage of you because you are introverted . And I won't let somebody make me feel like am stupid. Marching out want to go teach him some lessons

Lol@ "marching out to go teach him some lessons". I used to work at a call center, one day something happened and one of my female colleagues shouted at me and said " Ah you're too quite". The way she said it was so embarrassing that I had to warn her seriously, seeing how angry I was she came back later to apologize. Often times people tend to see introversion as something bad but I have come to realize that the advantages of being an introvert outweighs it's disadvantages.

AJIKOLA:
Gosh somebody just got me angry, am easily pissed off, and my own vex no be here . Some people just wanna take advantage of you because you are introverted . And I won't let somebody make me feel like am stupid. Marching out want to go teach him some lessons

Some people think introverts are dumb but I allow people to Bleep their first chance up so other people can know I've tried.

MrJavaS:
Guys I need help.

Due to negative experiences I had in the past, I'm
not as social as I used to be.I was stabbed in the back by someone I trusted and noticed that I was just being too nice.I also noticed that people only take interest in me when they need something.

Now I'm a 100L student in the university and I'm a triangular student.I rarely talk to anyone and ignore many of my course mates.I also became very cynical.However.....i became acquainted with many reliable sources of knowledge including the 48 laws of power that "Isolation is dangerous" .

I know I need to make friends but I just can't seem to have the "everyone is my friend" personality.Most people think I am proud of myself.However I believe being selective about friends isn't a sign of arrogance.

I also don't want to seem too desperate and needy to make a friend.I don't like someone who has wholeheartedly embraced mediocrity.I also want a first class.I need advice from you all.

Yea, you're right "Isolation is dangerous". If you're a loner people tend to forget your existence. How do you intend getting a first class if you're always all by yourself?

Na naija you dey o. I've not met anyone more introverted than myself, yet I've always had at least two close friends at any point in my life. I didn't force it either. I just noticed that like minds gravitate towards each other. I made friends with people who we engaged in similar activities or whom I shared similar interests with.

Try make some friends. Go play sport, video games, study groups and engage in church activities, you'll definitely make friends. In a Nigerian institution where sometimes assignment and tests are given without your knowledge, who'll remember you when such info is circulating?

Asides from that, you'll need the contact after school. Remember school is just a small chapter of your life, there is a whole world out there. You might make connections that will aid you job search or provide accommodation for you when travelling.

I won't be so hanged up on first class if I were you. There are many first class graduates without jobs. Seek first to be a balanced person, socially, mentally and emotionally. Don't become a mindless robot by reading all the time in the name of first and thus become a social misfit.

@bolded. Shall we say we won't travel by air or land due to possibility of plane crashes or accidents? Certainly not.

Being nice is one of the banes of the introvert. Usually such niceties are acts to cover up our insecurities, getting people to like you, because we feel we don't have other endearing qualities. This is simply not true.

Most introverts tend to be nice to the point of subservience which makes us prone to being taken advantage of. I learnt this the hard way when people I trusted failed to reciprocate when I needed help most.

Since I realized no one owes me anything, I have lived a happier life. That's not to say I've become cold, I just don't go out of my way to please people anymore. There are people I still go the extreme for, but they are those whom I consider worthy.

Introversion and a personality disorder are quite different. I talked to a professional psychiatrist friend lately and got a diagnosis. Helps me view myself in a slightly different light.
Sometimes there's more to your traits than you know I guess.

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kennybelle:
I guess I'm late, better late than never sha.

I'm also an introvert. my case was that worse that when i speak to my family members, my immediate family o, i can't look up into their eyes, i can't speak at length, as my voice will betray me (breaks and shakes) and sometimes when i'm alone I cry my eyes out, because i don't like my condition, i see it as a defect in my being.

I spoke to a confidant about it, worked on suggestions, though things changed a bit but i'm still there, i just wish things would change completely.

Yes it's a defect, one you should not rest until you've completely eliminated from your life. Don't mistake introversion for shyness. Anyone can be shy.

You can be a shy introvert or a shy extrovert. You'll know if you're introvert if social activities drains you and you find yourself leaving parties early so you can have an alone time to recharge.

On the other hand if social activities boosts your energy, you're buoyed by highly charged environments and you wish the party never ends then you're extroverted.

Introversion is often mistaken for shyness because the lifestyle and life choices of an introvert is akin to those of a shy person. The way we process information and our responses to stimulus are internal and how we feel while an extrovert focuses on the environment.

There are introverts who have gone on to live the "supposed" extrovert life. People like Barack Obama, Bill Gates to mention a few. You'd notice these people are not shy, but that doesn't make them extroverts.

Your shyness is worse because you're exhibiting it in front of family, people whom you should be the most comfortable around. They are the ones who should know you in and out.

The only reason I can point out is you come from a family that abused you emotionally or at the very least did not encourage you to be the best version of yourself. Or they never thought you could amount to anything good.

As humans, we all need validation to boost our self esteem. When we don't get it, we feel inadequate as though we'd never amount to anything good. The more this continues, the more confidence we lose.

You can't wish it away. You have to work at it everyday of your life starting from today. My advice to you is that you should do you. You're the only kennybelle out there, everyone else is taken. Begin to love yourself deeply and seek out your self interests. No one will love you if you don't love yourself first.

Don't be afraid to seek out the the things you desire without fear or favor. Forget about what others think of you, it only exist in your head. That's not to say you should become an insensitive prîck.

So I want you to take out a sheet of paper and write all of your good qualities on it. Write out ten qualities for a start and recite it till it sinks in. Now put that paper under your pillow and recite it every morning before stepping out.

Read books on self confidence and apply what's written within it's pages. Don't just read, apply. I would have sent you some if I hadn't formatted my laptop recently. Check the first ten pages of this thread, you will find some useful resource materials to download. Engage in activities that test your confidence. Join debate groups, go for evangelism if your church does such. Volunteer to take readings in large gatherings.

Basically, I want you to put yourself in the exact situations you try to avoid. You'll fail, you'll stumble, you'll feel embarrassed but ultimately you'll improve. Self improvement is what we all strive for and no one is the finished article.

kennybelle:
Most times, i happen to have a lot of ideas, but always scared to express myself. can anyone help on how i can speak in d midst of people without my voice betraying me?

I used to be like this way back in primary school even when I had the right answers to questions because I was afraid of prying eyes. Even to this day I hate been the centre of attention. But I realized it's a necessary evil if I'm to amount to anything in life.

The key here is to know your onions. I feel more comfortable discussing issues where I have above average knowledge. I noticed over time that it doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it that matters. If you believe strongly enough in what you say then you will get people who will believe you.

Think of how scammers operate. Do you think if they approach their mark feeling unsure of themselves, probably sweating and stuttering all through, they'd be able to pull off great heists?

Check Adolf Hitler who was able to convince a whole nation that they were a superior race and the perceived inferior races had to be exterminated. Do you think he would have gathered much support if he was wavering and unsure of himself?

Having butterflies when you're about to face an audience is natural. It also happens to extroverts. Even the best public speakers get flustered meeting a new audience.

Practice speaking in front of a mirror and project a confident body language. Progress to speaking in front of someone familiar, it could be friend or family. Then move on to small groups and if possible a larger group until you're completely rid of shyness. Shalom.