Simisola3:
Some of the challenges I face being an introvert is struggling to speak more clearly, working with others, presenting to others, and being an influence to others. But that doesn't mean I don't love being one. It sure has its benefits like being able to think more clearly, being insightful, and paying attention to the things that matter more. I am grateful for those very much.

It is lovely to admit you are happy about your personality trait. Trust me, introverts rock.

I guess you would like to speak more clearly and have a positive influence on others.

The key is to start small, I mean familiarize yourself with the people around you. It is always easier to speak to a crowd when you know most people on an individual level.

I advise you to start by saying "Hello" to your colleagues. Ask how is their day bla bla bla.
They would be surprised by how great a conversationist that you are. Gradually, you begin to have a positive influence on them.

Cheers!

Albertone:


Any idea of which work an introvert can do to earn?
To do business na war.How do I start telling people to patronise me(something I dread totally)

Many introverts are in soft work. I mean programming, graphic design, SEO writing, affiliate marketing, social media management, etc.

Check Nairaland Programming, Career and Investment sections. You might find something interesting.

sweetveek:
the best advantage of being an introvert is peace of mind,asin u have no one to worry about but yourself and mayb family members too...

I swear to God.... You don't have to worry about the plenty troubles of others but bout u and your immediate family.

Olarewajub:


Many introverts are in soft work. I mean programming, graphic design, SEO writing, affiliate marketing, social media management, etc.

Check Nairaland Programming, Career and Investment sections. You might find something interesting.

Cool thanks

inkle:


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Let's talk.
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I and my husband are introvert. Anytime we plan to go on a date, we would end up cancelling it and stay indoor to live our boring life.
We are boring but then, we are cool like that.
Many times I am glad I didn't marry an extrovert. I can't deal with someone forcing me to go out.


Introverts are the champions

africaflozy:
I and my husband are introvert. Anytime we plan to go on a date, we would end up cancelling it and stay indoor to live our boring life.
We are boring but then, we are cool like that.
Many times I am glad I didn't marry an extrovert. I can't deal with someone forcing me to go out.


Introverts are the champions

Nice

africaflozy:
I and my husband are introvert. Anytime we plan to go on a date, we would end up cancelling it and stay indoor to live our boring life.
We are boring but then, we are cool like that.
Many times I am glad I didn't marry an extrovert. I can't deal with someone forcing me to go out.


Introverts are the champions

Enjoy the blissfulness of silence and peaceful life

Simisola3:
Some of the challenges I face being an introvert is struggling to speak more clearly, working with others, presenting to others, and being an influence to others. But that doesn't mean I don't love being one. It sure has its benefits like being able to think more clearly, being insightful, and paying attention to the things that matter more. I am grateful for those very much.

Most of the issues you listed stems from low self esteem.
Forget these psychological schemas most people employ to downplay the effect terrible low self esteem plays in their relation with others, under the guise of introverted personality,just to prevent people from seeing behind the mask of their personality disorder(s) or self image.
Work on your self esteem, trust me, the highlighted will automatically fix themselves, irrespective of your introverted personality ,is you genuinely is one.

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GLYCOLYSISS:

Most of the issues you listed stems from low self esteem.
Forget these psychological schemas most people employ to downplay the effect terrible low self esteem plays in their relation with others, under the guise of introverted personality,just to prevent people from seeing behind the mask of their personality disorder(s) or self image.
Work on your self esteem, trust me, the highlighted will automatically fix themselves, irrespective of your introverted personality ,is you genuinely is one.

Not low self esteem but social anxiety

I basically can never strike a conversation with people I know or barely know, thus, my diffidence around girls I'd have liked to have a thing with. My introversion is a weird one; I don't necessarily need to recharge by being ALONE, I enjoy people's company a lot. I'm however circumspect about my surroundings because I get easily irritated by a vast number of people at a place in time. I'm crusty in nature, which gets mistaken for pride. I think the one correction to my personality I'd be willing to work on will be my relationship with the opposite gender. In my head, I'm a great conversationalist but in reality when around girls I falter.

y33zluv:
I basically can never strike a conversation with people I know or barely know, thus, my diffidence around girls I'd have liked to have a thing with. My introversion is a weird one; I don't necessarily need to recharge by being ALONE, I enjoy people's company a lot. I'm however circumspect about my surroundings because I get easily irritated by a vast number of people at a place in time. I'm crusty in nature, which gets mistaken for pride. I think the one correction to my personality I'd be willing to work on will be my relationship with the opposite gender. In my head, I'm a great conversationalist but in reality when around girls I falter.

You just described me

Wow! Finally on here, you sure don't know what it means to read from page one up to this current page without skipping any page and without skipping any post.. First of all, I'd like to acknowledge the first set of contributors Olarewajub DonOms Vibesking Callmemercy Hakeem12 R2bees and the rest, these are the names that stuck in my head during the journey of my reading. It actually took me two months to finish reading from page 1... It's a lot of work but I didn't want to miss anything including the quarrels of a seemingly condescending girl who claimed she was an introvert yet go about insulting everybody and a certain Jack something Sha and his incessant whining and complaints of a useless life.. Lol.... That's by the way

My name is Lemmy, I'm an introvert, I didn't even realize I was until I came across the word. You see small talks? It detests me, I rarely go out, I get as much fun as I want without the constant urge that extrovert get to step out. I reason really deeply, I tend to counter conventional wisdom, I question anybody or thing I'm not comfortable with, whether it's a pastor or imam.. I'm not that religious by the way..
And I see a lot of introvert complain about being shy, I don't think I'm shy but I can't look directly into the eyes of elders, I don't know but from childhood, it sort of signifies disrespect.. I can't a address a large crowd, this has nothing to do with introversion, I just haven't sharpened that skill.. I can talk to anymore on the first instance, I can initiate a conversation and keep it, I can talk to girls if I want even if she was Agbani Darego, I like parties but I get tired of the whole noise and hysteria quickly and before you know it I'll escape from there and find way to my bed..
It's fun if you ask me, I'm not depressed or anything

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People usually mistake my quiet life for selfishness, especially my family members and I'm going through a hard time dealing with it.

y33zluv:
I basically can never strike a conversation with people I know or barely know, thus, my diffidence around girls I'd have liked to have a thing with. My introversion is a weird one; I don't necessarily need to recharge by being ALONE, I enjoy people's company a lot. I'm however circumspect about my surroundings because I get easily irritated by a vast number of people at a place in time. I'm crusty in nature, which gets mistaken for pride. I think the one correction to my personality I'd be willing to work on will be my relationship with the opposite gender. In my head, I'm a great conversationalist but in reality when around girls I falter.

Samething with me, mine is worst, 2yrs in sch nw i havnt had a conversation with any girl

maximizer61:
Samething with me, mine is worst, 2yrs in sch nw i havnt had a conversation with any girl

Few things I have for you.
+ Dress well and neat.Not necessarily expensive.Groom your body,hair,nails e.t.c....It builds confidence.

+ Start by greeting any girl beside you.You may not start a convo yet.Just get used to greeting them first.Only a girl in a bad mood will not reply a mere greeting.

+ Start with a girl you have something in common.I.e Your coursemate.After you have been greeting for somedays,ask for her name and introduce yourself too.

+ When next you see,greet her with her name and ask how her day went or how her class went.You can proceed to ask what class she has next.I.e Hi Grace.How are you doing?How was Dr.John's class?.
She will answer and probably ask you too.Answer and you can then say "Okay,we'll see later,bye"

+ When next you see,try to make the convo a little longer.You can't be asking about class everytime,so you can decide to talk about your school as a whole,favourite chilling sport,experience in the first week of your freshman year etc.

+ It shouldn't be only one girl,have at least 3 girls for a start.



The aim is to get you comfortable at talking to girls.Asking out,wooing,dating can come later.Just make friends first.
If you know any guy that has many female friends,you can roll with him because you will be forced to talk to his female friends.

These are what I'm doing now to get better at talking to girls.Now,I can walk up to any girl but my challenge is not knowing what else to say asides greeting and basic intro.

Good luck bro!

maximizer61:
Samething with me, mine is worst, 2yrs in sch nw i havnt had a conversation with any girl

You are not alone. Introvertism is an habit that is very hard to break... In school, if you are on your department Whatsap group, try to start messaging and doing video calls with course mates most especially the girls. It's best you break it before you get thru with institution.
It's affecting me now

HotPoundedYam:

You are not alone. Introvertism is an habit that is very hard to break... In school, if you are on your department Whatsap group, try to start messaging and doing video calls with course mates most especially the girls. It's best you break it before you get thru with institution.
It's affecting me now

In my own case,I can actually message or go meet a girl.But I lack things to say.After the exchange of pleasantries,I go blank!!

Let us tell ourselves the truth. there's nothing good that will come out of this government, is like waiting for a ship to arrive at the airport, is that really possible. this government is a total failure, those that called themselves leaders are so selfish, brainless, murderers, grand theft, vampires, liars, criminals, tricksters. they should continue killing innocents people to save their own heads, but let them know that it will all end one day.

Meanwhile, you need to see this, don't deny yourself of seeing this.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GRwS7JxqSx8
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Few things I have for you.
+ Dress well and neat.Not necessarily expensive.Groom your body,hair,nails e.t.c....It builds confidence.

+ Start by greeting any girl beside you.You may not start a convo yet.Just get used to greeting them first.Only a girl in a bad mood will not reply a mere greeting.

+ Start with a girl you have something in common.I.e Your coursemate.After you have been greeting for somedays,ask for her name and introduce yourself too.

+ When next you see,greet her with her name and ask how her day went or how her class went.You can proceed to ask what class she has next.I.e Hi Grace.How are you doing?How was Dr.John's class?.
She will answer and probably ask you too.Answer and you can then say "Okay,we'll see later,bye"

+ When next you see,try to make the convo a little longer.You can't be asking about class everytime,so you can decide to talk about your school as a whole,favourite chilling sport, thanks bro

HotPoundedYam:

You are not alone. Introvertism is an habit that is very hard to break... In school, if you are on your department Whatsap group, try to start messaging and doing video calls with course mates most especially the girls. It's best you break it before you get thru with institution.
It's affecting me now

lol pride no go allow me

maximizer61:
thanks bro

You're welcome!

maximizer61:
lol pride no go allow me

eeya. e dey be lik dt sometimes

Lemmy123:
Wow! Finally on here, you sure don't know what it means to read from page one up to this current page without skipping any page and without skipping any post.. First of all, I'd like to acknowledge the first set of contributors Olarewajub DonOms Vibesking Callmemercy Hakeem12 R2bees and the rest, these are the names that stuck in my head during the journey of my reading. It actually took me two months to finish reading from page 1... It's a lot of work but I didn't want to miss anything including the quarrels of a seemingly condescending girl who claimed she was an introvert yet go about insulting everybody and a certain Jack something Sha and his incessant whining and complaints of a useless life.. Lol.... That's by the way

My name is Lemmy, I'm an introvert, I didn't even realize I was until I came across the word. You see small talks? It detests me, I rarely go out, I get as much fun as I want without the constant urge that extrovert get to step out. I reason really deeply, I tend to counter conventional wisdom, I question anybody or thing I'm not comfortable with, whether it's a pastor or imam.. I'm not that religious by the way..
And I see a lot of introvert complain about being shy, I don't think I'm shy but I can't look directly into the eyes of elders, I don't know but from childhood, it sort of signifies disrespect.. I can't a address a large crowd, this has nothing to do with introversion, I just haven't sharpened that skill.. I can talk to anymore on the first instance, I can initiate a conversation and keep it, I can talk to girls if I want even if she was Agbani Darego, I like parties but I get tired of the whole noise and hysteria quickly and before you know it I'll escape from there and find way to my bed..
It's fun if you ask me, I'm not depressed or anything

That's just wow!!! You read from the first page?

Hakeem12:
That's just wow!!! You read from the first page?

I was surprised at that too, that's some work.

Some challenges I feel about being an introvert is just that... I feel so shy speaking with large number of people and feel somehow talking to someone for the first time(in summary, I struggle to speak clearly) which bothers me at times,... feel shy when going out... but apart from that,.. it’s makes me think better, work on my self,... educate people with my little intelligence and read more news... thou, it’s nice being an introvert, because it will broaden once knowledge

;DJust realised superman's an introvert since he has a fortress of SOLITUDE

GLYCOLYSISS:

Most of the issues you listed stems from low self esteem.
Forget these psychological schemas most people employ to downplay the effect terrible low self esteem plays in their relation with others, under the guise of introverted personality,just to prevent people from seeing behind the mask of their personality disorder(s) or self image.
Work on your self esteem, trust me, the highlighted will automatically fix themselves, irrespective of your introverted personality ,is you genuinely is one.

EXACTLY
I learnt this myself
When one is very self confident, only then can you truly know if you're introvert or you just need to work on yourself