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Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by rebella(f): 11:17pm On Aug 22, 2014 |
Dygeasy: By being interested you mean you explicitly expressed your interest or you were just give cues or clues passively for him to act on?lol @ unobservant, anyway the crux of the matter still remains, when you are friendzoned take a long walk 1 Like |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by daveP(m): 11:19pm On Aug 22, 2014 |
Hmm, this issue would never rest still. Dygeasy come finish that tori o! |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 9:16pm On Nov 23, 2014 |
Where do people get this information from? Every body seems to be living by the same rules. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by veave(f): 10:04pm On Nov 23, 2014 |
What has this long epistle got to do with the fact than i am crushing on the op |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 10:57pm On Nov 23, 2014 |
veave:Do we have a friend zoning situation here veave? |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Truckpusher(m): 5:09am On Nov 24, 2014 |
What is friendzoning ? because, here in the Atlantic ocean we don't know about this. 4 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 5:10am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: one girl almost friend zoned me,she message when she got problems or when she Hot, but you know what, a stranger alway end up satisfying her. man i just erased her memory outta my head. although na smash i wan smash sha, but still i ran anyways na mars i dey sha. how earth 4 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by niggi4life(m): 5:33am On Nov 24, 2014 |
PLEASE HELP ME, I HAVE BEEN FRIENDZONED BY MY WIFE OOOOO 11 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by AmINotHuman(m): 5:35am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Well, for all the "nice guys" out there, no one owes you a relationship. A woman is not obligated to date you because you managed to fulfil the basic requirement of being a "nice guy". The real question is, what else can you bring to the table? As shallow as this sounds, are you good-looking? Rich? Smart? Talented? Funny? Any thing more than just being a "nice guy"? Being a a nice guy is nothing but the bare minimum. Saying "if I were your boyfriend, I won't treat you like that". It's not always about what you won't or don't do ("At least I'm not like the other guys", "At least I won't break her heart" ... and several other reasons while you're not a bad person). What can you contribute to her life? Women invest too much into themselves (appearance-wise and so on) to meet a certain standard and you have to meet up with that standard, being a "nice guy" just isn't enough. All in all, you can't force someone to fall for you. If a woman isn't romantically interested in you, there's no need to force it or pressure her or guilt trip her into dating you. It'll only make you her doormat. I recommend this article for those who want to face the harsh realities of life: http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/ 3 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by symbian03(m): 5:36am On Nov 24, 2014 |
But honestly, what's bad in having female friends without the so called benefits? sex is just overrated . I've got so many female friends and I do stuffs for them without expecting anything in return like I would for any male counterpart. Am I being a fool here? definitely not! So if I've got 50 female friends, would going intimate with all of them give me that 'smart guy' title most guys wants? 8 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 5:41am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Friend zone is the most dreaded zone for me. It's just selfishness of the highest order. Girls can be so selfish chaii! |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by onadana: 5:46am On Nov 24, 2014 |
When you go into a relationship...be prepared to receive all the package,competition,heartache's,betrayal(sometimes),love etcLove is beautiful if you know how to play.Love is sweet money makes it sweeter.It irks me when guys feel bad that they spend and spend and yet she dumps them...didn't you lay her?Can she take that back?As long as you folks have not tied the nuptial knot no body has a hold over anybody.Get it. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by symbian03(m): 5:47am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Amefrica: What exactly do you expect in return when you help a female friend? |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Konjour(m): 5:47am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Seems this 'zoning' stuff is a bigger deal than I thought. If you're in a 'zone', its definitely cuz you want to be there. Sticking around in such zones with futile hopes raised, to me, means that you probably deserve to be there. Nuff said. Nice guys finish last? That belief applies to an extreme minority of 'nice guys'...at least of the ones I know. A lot of the nice ones I know are really having some hard times selecting their pick among the plethora of 'options' they're being bombarded with everyday, basically cuz they are 'nice' and are seen as final 'bus stops', rather than connecting ones. Indeed, there are plenty of fishes in the sea as the saying goes. If your bait is good, your hooks might be torn off the line if you're not careful enough. I live at sea so I've seen it happen a lot. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 5:52am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Nice write up...trust me this friend-zone of a thing can be wicked,a lady that happened to be my friend for more than five years was expecting more from me,the day she finally knew I was not interested in a relationship with her she felt very disappointed and heart-broken,so my advice to all we guys out there is that if a lady is having a crush and interested in you and you don't have interest then please let her know so that she will move on with her life because putting her on friend-zone might make her think there is still hope or maybe you are shy to ask her out,and by the time she finally knew that she can never be more than a friend after a long period of friend-zoning trust me she will feel like killing you,it hurts alot 3 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by tintingz(m): 6:06am On Nov 24, 2014 |
When a guy is nice some girls use them, take advantage of his nice nature and dump or friend-zone them, only girls that knows the value of being nice keep them and love them. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by passionate88: 6:07am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by jauntty: 6:13am On Nov 24, 2014 |
If u are "friendzoned" then its ur fault. I always define all my relationships with females. If I want a relationship and u saying 'friendship' I take a walk. Simple! Ironically guys also friendzone gals, so its not just gals who r guilty. Infact, some guys will not only friendzone a girl but also " sexzone" her. Love is a function of ur location and chance, so why imprison urself. I had this Cutie I liked back then in Univ. We became close, but wen I start reading her the love epistles, she was like ' she likes me but wanted us to be friends', I zoomed off. Few weeks later I hooked up wit another Cutie, that was wen she started getting jealous and becoming interested. Too late. #no_dulling 3 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by seedord247(m): 6:14am On Nov 24, 2014 |
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Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 6:21am On Nov 24, 2014 |
How do you guys type lengthy words without getting tired?? 4 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by BigBen10: 6:22am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Op you make sense joor especially as regards the nice guys arguments. I am one of such nice guys. I have different experience with ladies but never let them take away my diginity or get friendzoned. There was this girl which I wanted to ask out about a year ago. We started well and we were making headway but I guess I was too dull for her. I invited her one evening with hints of my intention. She refused to come stood me up from 7-10pm. When I Called her she kept saying she's coming and eventually that she is watching film and too lazy to come. I swallowed the bitter pill and let it go. I tried maintaining contact but nothing changed. Now a year after reevaluating(the guy she liked then didn't like her back). she starts texting me that "I did not even say anything again". I laugh. I guess her fast and furious guys has dulled her. she Now hugs me whenever she sees me. issokay. I made several attempts at getting close to other ladies but they were not forthcoming. But suddenly a good number of them are starting to rethink me . Its now my trurn to pick and choose who is too "hyper" for me. so the nice guys out there just chill take your time don't bend your moral nature. Yes you may not have the so called beautiful babes but there is that one beautiful girl who fancies you and your "dullness". 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 6:26am On Nov 24, 2014 |
symbian03: Friendship is mutual, rub my back while I rub yours. Not some parasitic girls, that would extremely feed on you and wouldn't want to do anything or give something up for friendship's sake. 2 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Votukpa(m): 6:27am On Nov 24, 2014 |
AmINotHuman: Did any one read this? Have a read and save urselves from the friend zone enigma. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by jauntty: 6:32am On Nov 24, 2014 |
wakacome:Totally agree with u. Even tho its hard to tell a girl who is crushing on u that without making her feel bad its still d best thing to do. Had this girl close to my work place who is my friend. After a while her calls and chats became 'emotional funny' and she was becoming jealous if I joke around with her female colleagues n stuffs like dat. One day I told her I needed her advice : that I have this gal who I like as a friend but can't date. (She knew I was talking abt her). She feel bad tho but we remained gud friends. (I even encourage her to accept the guy she is dating now). |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 6:34am On Nov 24, 2014 |
rebella: Exactly! When people talk of being friend zoned, i only blame the zoned. We are all humans, and we enjoy being loved and cared for so i won't blame the zoner. If a girl says she doesn't love me "that way" , that's it! I'm out, i wont waste my time. Personally i don't believe in wooing a girl and making her fall in love, I'd never ask a girl out . I simply tell her how i feel. If the feeling is mutual, a great relationship can start, if not i wont try to persuade, i just walk away and deal with my own feelings. No need trying to convince her 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Opiosko: 6:35am On Nov 24, 2014 |
MizMyColi:Adannaya u are wise...but my new wife is wiser. Truely, Wisdom is profitable to direct.... |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Feraz(m): 6:41am On Nov 24, 2014 |
symbian03:Nope! The writeup isn't talking about you gaining sex from female friends and all. Friendzone is not about you having benefits from female friends, it's about loving one out of all your female friends but she not reciprocating this love. She knows you do love her and will go any length to prove this fact but instead of letting you go, she doesn't. It hurts sometimes especially when you know your intentions are genuine. Some go the extent of scuttling your chances with others just cos they want you being around them, showing them that attention they so want. Funny thing, when you are hooked up with someone else, she becomes jealous and start showing you all the love you once wished for. And Ihedinobi my n*gga strikes back!!! Where's wackyj1 to complete this? 2 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by youngvizzy1(m): 6:42am On Nov 24, 2014 |
I couldn't finish reading it, too long to read, who else didn't read it |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by sunnyflakes(m): 6:44am On Nov 24, 2014 |
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