freshdude2:
What's a 'friendzone'?

symbian03:
But honestly, what's bad in having female friends without the so called benefits? sex is just overrated . I've got so many female friends and I do stuffs for them without expecting anything in return like I would for any male counterpart. Am I being a fool here? definitely not! So if I've got 50 female friends, would going intimate with all of them give me that 'smart guy' title most guys wants?

Mynd44:
The OP is wrong.

This argument is so flawed it is amazing but hey, whatever the heck rocks your boat.

**back to hibernation**

Mightyify:
I think mine is a little complicated than being friendzoned. There's this girl i love, i have shown her everything to prove it, but my problem is that she rarely reciprocate...I have been asking her out for 3months now, she keep telling me "no". The most puzzled of this all is that whenever she comes to my house....we will kiss, i suck her br**st and sometimes we even make love, but still after everything she will still tell me "no". Am getting tired... I need some advice.

LMAyedun:
So what do we call a situation where you asked a girl out, she refused and said she wants you as 'just a friend'... Along the line, she kisses you, romances you and even spend time with you (not the demanding kinda lady) and she still stood her ground on 'Just Friends'...?

symbian03:
But honestly, what's bad in having female friends without the so called benefits? sex is just overrated . I've got so many female friends and I do stuffs for them without expecting anything in return like I would for any male counterpart. Am I being a fool here? definitely not! So if I've got 50 female friends, would going intimate with all of them give me that 'smart guy' title most guys wants?

freshdude2:
What's a 'friendzone'?

ihedinobi2:
After reading a friend's latest entries in her diary, I thought about writing my "closing" arguments on friendzoning and "nice guys finish last". I decided that it isn't worth my energy right now. But I'll say the following and leave it at that:

Friendzoning is an act of selfishness. This is because love is beautiful when you're the recipient. When someone loves you, they make you a very high priority in their lives. You benefit a lot from that. They're always there for you. You can count on that. If you have any kind of need, they will be right there to stretch themselves and provide it. But here's where it gets tough: love is vastly expensive to the lover. The lover spends a very difficult kind of currency - themselves. Where do you replenish such expenses? Only from other people who love you in the same degree.

Now, someone is spending themselves on you and you enjoy that. But you would rather not spend yourself on them for whatever reason is applicable to you. What do you do? Call Love Friendship and invent arguments for why they should keep up the expense even when it kills them to do so. That is what makes the Friendzone issue difficult to leave alone. Those who have been drained like that tend to be cynical about love and the value or worth of fellow human beings.

About the "nice guys finish last" matter, I have only this to say: like attracts like. If a woman is attracted to men who do not respect or value womanhood, it says a lot about her not just about men who do respect womanhood. If a woman wants tough guys who are all about swag and money and bachelor pads, whatever she says about them being real and all that, it means only that she is not very interested in motherhood and stability. You want to live the life of the club and spotlights, you don't belong in the home, the kitchen and the bedroom and nursery. It's that simple.

When a man or woman is ready to take on life, they don't look for fast-moving stuff, they look for deep roots. And if they have spent their youth running around and jumping on every train headed south, well they have the consequence that they will not be very deserving of any kind of love, to say nothing of a good man's or woman's love. Forgiveness exists to ensure that they can be rescued but it is not something they have any right to. So if you're a nice guy and the flashy girls are giving you the cold shoulder, move on. Don't complain. Simply build yourself a life you can be proud of and you will have your own pick of women. Don't be bitter about other people's choices even if they hurt you. Just free them and thus free yourself to breathe, to live, to grow and become everything you can be.



Addendum: I realize that there is a conflict about the definition of "nice guys". I have only this to say about it: there are dull guys, there are players and there are decent men. Dull guys are boys who have not acquired the, er, "balls" to take on life. Players are the typical bad boys. Decent men are the "nice guys" in question here. Decent men make homes. They tend to keep long relationships so whenever they're in the market after their first time, they aren't nearly always the most polished. They place their women very high on their priority list because they understand gow critical the role of womanhood is to a man. You don't generally find them in clubs, not because they don't like fun but because they have moral boundaries. You won't meet them at strip joints unless they're on a break from decency. They aren't regulars at pick-up bars and restaurants because some things tend to be overdone. A decent guy is simply a man with boundaries. He does not live on a constant high. He is a centered person and does not chase thrills as a matter of course. That's the nice guy here. If you have any other definition, it doesn't apply to my arguments.

There, have a nice thought or two now.

Mightyify:
I think mine is a little complicated than being friendzoned. There's this girl i love, i have shown her everything to prove it, but my problem is that she rarely reciprocate...I have been asking her out for 3months now, she keep telling me "no". The most puzzled of this all is that whenever she comes to my house....we will kiss, i suck her br**st and sometimes we even make love, but still after everything she will still tell me "no". Am getting tired... I need some advice.

sanchezzz:
Friend zone. I hate this word with passion. But truth be told you cant date every girl you meet. Most girls out there are in one relationship or the other . So best thing is if u ask a girl out and she said NO, best thing is withdraw if u truely can't withstand being friend zoned.

MizMyColi:
Well, true, that.
If he's the pestering kind who just won't understand no matter how I try to make him see, I employ maximum avoidance, to a fault.
I won't even accept any gifting or make him feel comfortable around me.

There are people too, that we meet, who you bond with and at the same time you just know, this one's filial.
I have one in particular who does exactly what you've described below.
He tries to steer clear because he knows it won't happen, yet He loves me deeply.

Now whether he agrees or not, there are those times when we all need someone to show us that they care.
That's what I try to do despite his feelings for me or not.
I think he understands.
I also know when to cut off, like go radio silent.
It all boils down to wisdom being profitable to direct a person's path.

Mynd44:
The OP is wrong.

This argument is so flawed it is amazing but hey, whatever the heck rocks your boat.

**back to hibernation**