tbaba1234:

Sure, you can pick the few stories they are.

The vast majority cultures on this earth, had polygyny, whether in Africa, Asia or Europe. That is fact.

sandijey:

Read my statement again. I said I do not no how many people planned to be polygamyst meaning there are some people who actually planned it but I am yet to see a christian who planned it and am sorry but it's almost impossible not to include religion. Meanwhile are u a polygamyst? If yes how do u handle your wives or how do your wives handle you

texanomaly:




A wife in a polygamous marriage knows exactly who her husband is sleeping with, and who the other wife is sleeping with. Is a monogamous marriage to a philandering "holy man" a "better deal"?

datalossvictim1:

LIES!!!! Trust me that is totally false!

texanomaly:

If you tell me how you came up with your assumption, I may "trust" it. How did you come to believe it is all lies? What experience do you have that would convince me that I should take what you say as the truth?

datalossvictim1:


You authoritatively made the assertion that women in polygamous marriages know the exact women their husbands sleep with..

Please ignore me ! sorry for disturbing your mentions . My stomach wants to burst

datalossvictim1:
You authoritatively made the assertion that women in polygamous marriages know the exact women their husbands sleep with..
Please ignore me ! sorry for disturbing your mentions . My stomach wants to burst

coogar:

the world would pass you by if you continue to hold rigidly to these traditional norms. things have changed drastically. in this day & age where married couples willingly invite a 3rd party to their bedroom for the fun of it, you are still thinking polygamy is flawed? that opinion is so 1934.

look around you, women have made giant strides over the last 50 years. the stats are grim. more women have college degrees than men. matter of fact, the only category you would find more men than women is in the prison system - otherwise, women outnumber men in any age group after childhood.

this disproportion puts women at a big disadvantage. they have fewer choices of a marital partner than the men. should a woman then marry down because she's got a tiny pool of marital partners to choose from or she shouldn't marry at all because all her male counterparts with the same college degrees have been taken? or perhaps you prefer her to engage homosëxuality?

who's going to marry all these female graduates that abound everywhere you look since men seem to have stopped pulling their weights? it won't be long now - polygamy would be made legal starting from the US & the UK. the available eligible men cannot simply go round and something would have to give in on the long run.

as it is today, a woman has 3 choices....

•hope there is a good single man available
•steal another woman's husband
•settle for polygamy


the last option is the most feasible out of the three.

Shirley07:
In your cloud-cuckoo land.
And what do you mean by couples inviting 3rd party to their bedroom? party is it, huh? Is that what you're telling us to practise and to let go of our traditional ways?

If you only knew that Polygamy is a traditional practice, not that I'm suprised though. Whatever, take your 3some advice to your fellow pigs out there.

coogar: rather than have a husband cheating, is it not better for him to bring the other woman home & marry her legally?
!

cococandy:
No it is not better. It far worse.
I'd rather he cheats and I don't find out than he brings her home.
#justsaying.

BTW the men who used to patronize runs girls more during my uni days were the polygamous alhajis in the area.
Or the visiting ones who come for business meetings et al

Polygamy even makes them more 'liberal' in sharing the sausage
If you know what I mean.

coogar:

shut up & dig your head out of your rectum for once. i said human relationship has gone past one man/one woman theory for most. these days - many are keeping virtual relationships with or without their spouses' knowledge to keep it together. rather than have a husband cheating, is it not better for him to bring the other woman home & marry her legally?



the above tells me nothing other than the fact that......you are a tool!

2-parent families are not the reality for millions of children in the 21st century. dvorce, surrogate parents, extended relatives, and other diverse family arrangements mean families already come in different sizes—why not recognize polygyny legally?

yet you call yourself a feminist - you must be the mgbeke breed cos feminism has always advocated for the choice of women. if a woman wants one hubby, let her have one. if she wants a man who's already got 5 wives, why stop her from having him? it's all about choices.

Shirley07:
It doesn't rhyme, find something better, as$.

Not to forget all what you just regurgitated has been talked on, ruminant.

coogar:

and if he imports HIV or HPV for you, what then? how do you reverse HIV?

cococandy:
That was me #justsaying.
But in reality I will not accept an unrepentant cheat and turn a blind eye to his philandering in order to stay married.
Tua.

Just wanted you to know that even though the two are evil,cheating is in no way comparable to legalized cheating(polygamy)

coogar:

i wouldn't advise anyone to stay with a cheat. that decision belongs to the aggrieved party to make by him/herself



it's not comparable how?
so a man that is honest with his motive - tells the first wife he's found another woman he would like to bring home is worse than the one that lies to his first wife he's having conferences across the country while bunking with another woman secretly?

datalossvictim1:

LIES!!!! Trust me that is totally false!

cococandy: That would be if the polygamous man sleeps with only his wives right?
But you and I know that it is not so.

Ok speaking ideally the way it should be.
A monogamous man should sleep with only his wife and a polygamous man sleep with only his wives. Now from the days of job,people have been going back on their vows. So one can't say all polygamous men are honest with their wives. That's a big joke.

Which would I chose? A monogamous man through' and through

There's no guarantee that a polygamous man will keep to only his wives. Infact the type of marriage he has that is devoid of strong emotional connection makes it easier for him to drop wives and atke wives at will.(Go to the north and see for yourself)
All the excuse that is done to avoid infidelity is farce.
Neither is it done for charity.
It's pure lust at work

coogar:

do monogamous men sleep with only their wives? same risks apply - the difference between a polygamist & a monogamist is the honesty & the transparency the polygamist man has. the fact that a man is monogamous doesn't mean he's not dipping his sausage elsewhere.

and the fact that it is a monogamous union gives me the right to take necessary action against him for breach of contract




one can't say all monogamous men are honest with their wives as well. the same danger exists in both settings & this is exactly why i said there's nothing wrong with both systems if everyone is honest......the people are the problem, not the system.

if ideally everyone is honest,I would still have a problem with polygamy. Because my husband is honestly 'fvcking' another woman. Naa. Can't accept that with open eyes



if i understand you correctly.....you would choose a monogamous man that cheats over a polygamist that cheats?

but of course yes.even though none of both is desirable to me but if ti comes to chose one or die. You know what my choice is..



by the same token, there's no guarantee that a monogamous man will keep to his one & only wife. there are more cheating monogamous men than cheating polygamists.

I know this is fallacy. I could try argue it with you but none of us can actually state for sure that we are right on this particular issue. So I'll let it go

polygamists don't have a double-headed pënis......they are exactly the same as the monogamous men apart from the fact that they are more honest about their urges towards women.

and also more insensitive and selfish. Yea.

if the society via christianity didn't make polygamy a social stigma, 99% of the men practising monogamy today would all be polygamists. so many of the men you see today are just keeping up with the joneses - if they were born in another part of the world where polygamy is widely accepted, they would be polygamists!

yea but they are not and some are still faithful to their vows.

Leave talk coogar I know we won't agree on this matter.
Just know that there's no comparison between the two.

coogar:

for the slow-witted, obnoxious dullard like yourself, it's better to repeat till fade cos if half word is enough for the wise, you need a whole encyclopaedia.

you are the dullest nigerian female i have been unfortunate to come across.

Shirley07:
Stale..
You add nothing that wasn't being discussed already.
Talking of dullard, why don't you chew on your living hair strands, Fo0lish Ruminant?

cococandy:
yea but they are not and some are still faithful to their vows.

cococandy:
Leave talk coogar I know we won't agree on this matter.
Just know that there's no comparison between the two.

coogar:

ok, let's agree to disagree.....

coogar:

i wouldn't advise anyone to stay with a cheat. that decision belongs to the aggrieved party to make by him/herself



it's not comparable how?
so a man that is honest with his motive - tells the first wife he's found another woman he would like to bring home is worse than the one that lies to his first wife he's having conferences across the country while bunking with another woman secretly?

coogar:

shirley, go fück yourself.....
i am busy having an intelligent discourse with a respectable lady. you should borrow a leaf from her on how to conduct yourself like a lady. you have the swag of a mango tree.



how are you so sure of this? hilary clinton woulda sworn her hubby was faithful until monica lewinsky decided to spill the beans.



ok, let's agree to disagree.....

Shirley07:
I will keep fvcking with your head until that archaic cerebrum of yours is diminished. It's quite embarrassing.

coogar:

but i don't wanna fück you....na by force?

Shirley07:
What specie of ruminants are you? Goat? Cow? Babirusa? Lets discuss that first.

coogar:

what we should discuss first is your endless clitoräl erectiöns for me. is it that you are single or your spouse can't satisfy you enough?