I can, if the child's mother isn't alive.

If she's alive, it complicates everything. I just don't think I can handle what it entails, too much drama.

Depends on d amt of love i have for her. No problem really if d child is female. Bt if d kid is male, den certain issues will have to be resolved first.....u really wont want to be in the middle of a tussle for the male child.

hmmm, there a lot of challenges ... as the kid may (naturally) not accept me as a father ... that said, if I really love the lady, I will surely marry her and try my best to raise the kid as my own and be the best dad I can be ... after all the child(ren) is innocent in this situation.

neva..I will be thinking a big child pass tru her puss* so wetin my own pppp wan do wey wan satisfy her ? I want a girl that even a finger can turn her ON,I want it tight

No!! Whether She has aborted before I no send! My nightmare will b d future of d child not mine

yea, I can marry.... there may be a good reason behind d baby.

Is there anything wrong in dating after one Having a child means she's cursed?? This Post funny sef!!!

If am in love wid her.. Bt e go hard small. Also if d she has neva been married .y not

Hell no!..i want to marry a virgin.

No, I can't.

no!

Let love decide.

But since I'm a virgin
I need a virgin too to compliment my efforts/virginity.

never never

It depends on circumstances surrounding d child, her type of person presently n d type of past she must have lived.

To make a mistake is not a mistake but!

It depends, on the condition that her folks wud slash her dowry by 95%, cos na tokunbo she don turn so!

Yes I can, even am into relationship wit my sweetheart whose already has a son

HELL NO!!!

Like someone said, its all about maturity and genuine love. People still make wrong choices today but try to patch the relationship with Love and maturity. I'm presently dating one and even though she is puzzled about my care for her (because like most of them, she believes she's a cast away), I still manage to stick to her and make her understand that she is not stigmatized but blessed by having me and her child. For me, its never a turn off.

y not

AdeniyiA: At least it shows her fertility, how do you explain a lady who had had several unprotected intimacy not having a baby, it's either she's done abortions or she's infertile, either way what's d assurance she'd be able to conceive when married /

Oga, I Know Some1 Who Got Married To A Single Mother And Till Date, They Gat No Issue. Na Only God Dey Give Pikin. Fertility Ke? Manurity Ni?

OliverPin: NO I cannot.

[size=8pt][/size]luk at d way u sound no I cn nt, bt u cn marry a lady who has drop evry single of her into toilet, tel me single mom and empty CAN is one is better?

Jarchi:
No No No Yes,my yes is of 25percent xcept on reasonable ground,but why can't they marry the fada's child is still my question

Their child's father doesn't want them. Many single dads dont even have the means to wed them, let alone nurture their own child.

[b]Yes I can...

But wouldn't recommend it to anyone. It requires a whole nother level of maturity of mind and mental strength.. You have to deal with certain emotional dramas that can really fhuck up the feeble minded and put untold strain on the relationship.. You have to try to raise another man's kid like they were yours. You have to deal with her/his past that keeps looking at you in the face daily. Let's not talk about the step parent drama that most step kids bring with them. Also when you now have your own kids, the battle line of fairness and equality is drawn and everytime you accidentally fhuck up by treating yours differently to theirs, the fall out is big. Infact you are almost always required to treat your step kids better than you would treat yours as they are technically the victims in your relationship. If the spouse with the kid isn't also mentally mature, they tend to create even more problems than the kids. In some cases, they start hoarding their assets and stashing them for their own kid for inheritance purposes. Every disciplinary action to take towards the other person's kid is seen as exaggerated and excessive. You most times end up emotionally messed up cos having to deal with that drama does tend to take its toll on you eventually.

In my opinion, I would highly discourage it.

Simply put, marrying a single parent is not for the emotionally weak.. But I believe I can handle that.

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databoy247: I have often been in hot conversations with other peeps, and most of them sound like it's a taboo to get married to a lady who has a child (maybe out of wedlock). It's usually cool when they as guys having one or two kids wants a lady to get married to them but when its the reverse, na war.

Wat's behind this mentality? And are single unmarried ladies who already have a child actually "bad" like the society paint the picture? Am not a traditionalist so i really dont discriminate but my peeps sometimes see me as someone who have "lost it" cos i dont see anything wrong with single ladies (with a kid). Your views pls....

nothing wrong with it
afterall, we all screw
but in Nigeria, I have noticed only two types of men that more easily marry women with kids:
1) The poor
2) The rich
You can add a third class
3) Men who were previously married or presently married -they are mostly the rich men

Middle class folks tend to avoid it.


Its a Nigerian mentality thing, not that the women are bad. In fact, she might be sexually safer than the other women.

for those of u saying yes,my first question for u is
1,how would u feel when d real father appear to take his child(maybe after d child's graduatn or when its time for his or her wedding)
2,will u allow her to visit that child father? dont u think d man may attempt to phuck her again and do u think ur wife can resist it?

If all keeping specifying the kind of single mother they want to marry with specific qualities and xter my question remains if you eventually find the woman with all these why can't she with all the right qualities and xter maintain her current marriage with her child's father? Except her husband is late which is an exception.

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I can not marry a mother who has a child but I can marry a child who has a mother..won't suffer for another mans effort and her mistake..There are lotsa single ladies outdere.

I can't marry a mother who has a child but I can marry a child who has a mother..won't suffer for another mans effort and her mistake..There are lotsa single ladies outdere.

yemaldo: for those of u saying yes,my first question for u is
1,how would u feel when d real father appear to take his child(maybe after d child's graduatn or when its time for his or her wedding)
2,will u allow her to visit that child father? dont u think d man may attempt to phuck her again and do u think ur wife can resist it?

Utter rubbish.. No offence.

Your concerns are the least of the issues associated with marrying a single parent.

i will marry a single mother,because she is tasted and trusted...you can trust that she can give you a child also,but single ladies?NO,unless she become pregnant for me,because they have killed many children through abortion