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Having attempted to master the fiddle myself, i'm fully aware of the complexity involved. Fair play too the lad, he's got bags of talent

carefreewannabe: That is your opinion.
No evidence provided.

I would have thought that was common knowledge and didn't need evidence, however since you insist here are a few:

1. Farrington, David, and D West. 1995. Effects of marriage, separation, and children on offending by adult males. Current Perspectives on Aging and the Life Cycle 4:249-81;

2. Irwin, J. 1970. The Felon. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall; Sampson, Robert, and John Laub. 1993.

3. Crime in the Making: Pathways and Turning Points Through the Life Course. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press; Warr. M. 1998.

4. Life-course transitions and desistance from crime. Criminology 36: 183-216.

5. Duncan, GJ, Wilkerson, B, and P England. 2003. Cleaning up their act: The impacts of marriage and cohabitation on licit and illicit drug use. Evanston, IL: Northwestern University.


There are many more papers that indicate that marriages provide better outcomes for individuals and the society

Sagamite: From your post I can deduce your definition of the 'problem' is "the practice of homosexuality". I don't think the law is there to solve/remedy the problem. It is there to prevent the problem being part of mainstream society and popular culture. The law is preventer, not a solution.

I don't think anyone is stewpid enough to think laws will solve such a problem. It is clinical discoveries that will do that. Unfortunately, the region with the capability are unwilling to accept a view of solving the problem as they want to convince all it is not a problem.

I am not interested in waiting for people to march down Ahmadu Bello way before I expect a response. I want them not to even dare consider it. They should do whatever they want to do behind closed doors.

I am completely against same sex marriage or acceptance. But as long as they keep it in their house and there is little chance of anyone forcing me to accept it or approve of it as part of my life/culture, I don't give a hoot about homosexuals.

It can only gain mainstream following if there's is a critical number practicing it. The basis for the law presumably is that there are people practicing the act that may lead to a call for same sex marriage. Prevention is surely better than cure. Produce laws that will bring about strong families and we will never need to worry. Remember that there was considerable international pressure on malawi to reverse their anti gay laws. Who is to say that won't be the case for us in the future. Strengthen the base so that when that pressure comes, there will be no place within that the seed can be sowed.

We both don't subscribe to homosexuality but will you at the very least concede that there are a hundred and one more pressing issues.

Sagamite: Are you telling me that a society without dictated moral standards will be a sane society?

Do you know of any society in human history that does not have laws based on moral? Even the so-called modern societies of today?

A majority not clamouring for a bill does not mean the bill is not necessary or relevant.

With the aims and direction of the powerful countries today, the bill was very relevant.

It is a connected world today, all around you in the Westt, they are aggressively promoting homosexuality, it would be silly to wait before the impressionables in Naija gather before one acts.

Without this bill, some might be bold to start their sicko homo campaign as "human rights". And then some citizens might take the laws into their hands which is not good for anybody concerned.

I am sure a parliament can handle multiple bills expecially if some will fly through the process.


Trust me, it is already a credible danger. And it is being addressed.

They are already forcing gay clergy on the churches for God sake.

If being addressed does not inhibit other issues being addressed.


You are highlighting the problem yourself.

Whether such psychiatrists or psychologists can do such, they are being suppressed. That is waht makes the issue a credible danger.

In the UK now, you are damned if you speak publicly against homosexuality. The only acceptable public opinion is to support or praise it.

Thank God, the Naija parliament is not waiting for that.

...No, i am saying that legislating against strictly moral problems as opposed to easily measurable deleterious problems does not solve the problem but creates a different problem

A parliament is elected by the people to represent them, they should deal with problems in the order/ magnitude it affects them, methinks. Out Nigerian parliament have enough serious bills to stop the haemorrhage of human life and wellbeing. If they are struggling i can help them with a hundred to start with, many that will promote the wellbeing of the family and prevent further breakdown in our morals.


I highlighted psychiatrists because it's not the law that can solve the 'problem'. Examples abound on how ineffective laws are in relation to strictly moral problems. With regards to public opinion You and i need to speak out against it not in demeaning or violent language but with calm and understanding taking care not to castigate individuals.

I don't subscribe to the practice of homosexuality but yet i recognize that legislation is not the way to remedy it. I also think that our legislature have myriad(sssss) of pressing issues to keep them occupied. The day we have a group of people marching down Ahmadu bello way supporting homosexual marriages is the day i will be support the definition of marriage as between man and woman in law (note not an anti same sex marriage bill)

Eziachi: Hi,
Where is your friend based? If its in the U.K, I will like to see him but it might be difficult because he may not be able to afford private treatment but I will recommend two colleagues of mine that works within the NHS.
One is Dr Mo Lahoti- he is as I knew based at Kings college hospital and with him he can combine with the team I had worked with in the past at St Thomas's hospItal. I believe they are the best hope for your friend within the NHS.
Pls am going out now, I will tell you more later please.

Dude can't be in the NHS. MRSA osteomyelitis would have had everyone running helter skelter to sort him out. It must be in our wonderful Nigeria!

@sagamite your language is unbecoming, it's unnecessary to go around calling people names. can't we all just have a civil discussion without degenerating to that level...

Now that's out of the way, i feel you misunderstood my point. Government legislating on morality is dangerous because accept it or not morality ends up being relative and once we get on that slope it is only downhill to who know's where. sharia law for example has aspects of this moral legislation and many find it undesirable.

Where morality is to be taught and practiced is in the basic unit of the society i.e the family. What we need are strong families that work together for the good of children and the society. I will not wait on a bill on anti same sex marriage before i will teach my children that marriage is ordained of God and is between man and wife

Why i think this bill is misplaced is that there is virtually nobody clamoring for this bill whereas there are millions crying out for basic amenities. It behooves a concerned legislature to attend to the society's priorities not attempt to pass a bill on the bleeding obvious. Let's face it, it is hardly forseeable in Nigeria that a same sex couple will attempt to publicly marry.

In the event that we do solve all the other pressing issues plaguing our nation and we have a credible danger to our values and family system then is the time to strictly define what marriage and a family are in law. I suspect that this definition probably exists in the current marriage acts or it may be amended accordongly.

For those who are not aware, homosexuality used to be classified as a psychological illness in the psychiatric diagnostic and statistic manual. It was removed some time ago as a result of pressure from certain quarters. I know for sure of psychiatrists and psychologists who were able to 'treat' it and return the individual to non sexual interaction with the same sex. The merits or otherwise of this is left for you to decide but the way to handle homosexuality for those who abhor it is not to criminalize or legislate against it but seek to show love and understanding

Nigeria's credibility out the window!

slyfoxxjoe: I don't have a view for or against homosexuality but for all of u calling it a disgusting vice that should warrant capital punishment, I would just say this: if we are to talk about immorality and sexual vices, have u forgotten that FORNICATION is a sexual vice too? God doesn't hate homosexuality any more that he detests fornication or at least I don't see anywhere in d bible that says so.. Now would u advocate a government bill against fornication? If not then don't u think u got double standards? Some issues really shouldn't be government issues. What ever any one does with anyone else in d bedroom, as long as its done with mutual consent shouldn't be a matter for government. Next topic please

I concur. it;s that simple, government has no right to legislate on morality. It is a slippery slope to nowhere good. If we are so 'moral' why are we then so corrupt. Deal with the criminal first and then maybe just maybe we can approcah the strictly moral problems

aaidel: If we can be like man utd and always outscore our opponents we might have a chance but then again this isn't our first team so good win for the boys but yobo apaam should be our central pairing

The trouble is that there isn't much difference in the quality of defending when dem guys are playing

3-1 final score to naija. very misleadinng scoreline

The state of the defence is the mark of a coach. Any body can score but not every team can defend. There is no way in heaven we will win anything with this porous defending unless na 6 goals we sey budget for every tema we play

Havilah93: Is Elderson our
best bet at left back? The
guy is a joke

Absolutely spot on. even for braga the guy na waste pipe

nigeria traditionally was good at slowing down the opposition to our pace, where has that gone?! game to frantic and it suits the V boys down to the ground

abifoluwa: the guy who played as a striker in the u-17 world cup in 2008 or 2009, hioghest goal scorer of the competition..... i dont knw why nigeria didnt make that boy a star. dude can score goals for days

he went on to a bundesliga team where he hardly ever started. Methinks he was largely 'spent' before he burst on to the scene

the defending with our team is always so frantic. where are the calm heads in defence?!

abifoluwa: SMH, WHERE THE hell is ajiboye, the boy who keeped for naija in under 17 some years ago? he had great potential, where is rabiu ibrahim? and chrisantus, does nigeria grooms young players at all? not satisfied with this squad. and a lot of defenders in the under 17 team that won the world cup in 08 or so should have made this team, this team defence is poor. point blank

that's cuz the allegedly under 17 boys have children old enough to be overage players in olympic squad.

mikron: ONAZI, IGIEBOR, IDEYE, ECHIEJILE THESE GUYS MADE ME PROUD, THEY ARE GOOD

not so sure about echejile

see as simple 1-2 passing they finish venezuela

c ameobi oh! e no dey play for england again!!!

anyone see that miss!

All dis one na distraction

irresponsible of people to give false and misleading medical information...
Patient should go to a reputable hospital and be treated appropriately.
MRSA sepsis is no joke! Left untreated in the setting of a bone infection will inevitably result in an amputation.
Having treated patients with it myself i know for definite that you will need intravenous antibiotics for a number of weeks, in a setting where you can be monitored for adequate response to treatment and potential side effects.

zmoni: This the best site for now...http://www.muntumedia.com/media/tv/?id_video=10

Thank you, God bless you!!!

phy: pls any video link. the online commentator is a rookie and cause hypertension

Na tru, the guy dey give me serious palpitation on top simple throw in. All my usual football links not showing the game so seems we will have to make do with the guy and pray we survive till the end

king100: radio commentary on this link http://abbeyliveradio.com/listen-live-2

Thanks for the link, audio better than nothing.

You can come into Nigeria with an expired passport and get a new passport while you're in Nigeria. Personally know someone who did it. You just need to have a contact that can ensure you get your passport done before you leave. My passport is about to expire and like you I'm dreading having to deal with the embassy. It's much easier having it done at home

Yea does happen, depends on one's nationality. My Kenyan wife got her visa at arrival so i can say for certain it applies to Kenyans

I'm going via a work to residence visa. Currently a professional in Europe so was able to find a job comparatively easily in NZ. I hear NZ is a bit friendlier and laid back compared to OZ... Small economy probably means i'll be unlikely to find an African store to quench the belle songs

Hey guys i'm thinking of relocating to New Zealand. Anyone ever been there? any experiences to share? would you recommend it in favour of Australia?

...But forget the winning of medals as a reason for investing in sports. The real reason should be for health and well being of the society. Michelle Obama went as head of the US delegation to the Olympics in furtherance of her 'let's move' project. They know they need a healthy population to be productive so they invest in facilities to encourage it.

@Goshen360 I'm not trying to turn this into a bashing or a contest but it seems you ignored the last bit of my post that rejects your assertion that all things that emanate from the OT are done away with. The higher priesthood that was held by Melchizedek in the old testament is the same higher priesthood in the NT. You picked only the things that were indeed fulfilled, the Lord still requires us not to steal, fornicate or bear false witness same as he required from people of old.

It seems your real gripe with Tithing is its misuse by pastors of today. I don't know that the truth of a doctrine should be dictated alone by the way it's practiced by inherently fallible proponents. There is a good and a bad way for tithe to be administered, because it is administered badly doesn't mean the continuing practice of tithe originates from man's selfishness.

Ok you may not agree with that but i will appeal to you via another means; 'the spirit of the law'. It makes perfect sense for deity to demand a portion of our income. We spend many years studying, toiling and working to be able to/ earn an income. There are not many comparable things that we are as dedicated towards as our income. In many cases it defines us and qualifies most of what we do. With it we provide for ourselves and our family the necessities of life. We can buy food, shelter, clothes and provide some entertainment. It's the one thing towards which most of our energies our focused. It is difficult to get any one's income from him without a fight. The Lord thus asks us to prove him and show faith in him by giving up a part of the thing we most desire and work for with a promise that he will provide for all our needs and bless us bountifully. Is doing this not part of the love that God desires we have for him above all else. Remember that He had to give up His beloved son for us and so requires us to give up things for him too.

There are fewer ways we humans can show love for God than by giving up part of what we possess. Tithing is not about money, it's about faith. Faith among other things is required of Christians to enter into heaven. To think that giving up a portion of one's income is not part of Christianity is to ere in the very essence of the religion.

The problem really is to whom are we paying the tithe. Thankfully i am able to pay tithe in such a way that i know for a fact that it doesn't benefit any indivdual but is used to further God's work. I have been blessed as a result and would recommend that every Christian finds where they are comfortable paying tithe and pay it. As the saying goes put your money where your mouth is.

Thanks to those who posted previously I learnt a couple of things from reading the posts. My own 2 cents is while BH is no doubt a terrorist group, It may not necessarily be in Nigeria's interest that they be labelled as such. It is still unknown though whether not labeling them as terrorists is good for the nation. Like someone said previously, the real problem is that nobody cares really about Nigeria and its people. Everyone is looking after their own interest! Until we Nigerians unite and take these politicians to task, we will all be running around in circles chasing our tails.