vicade:

well looks are more probable to change than personality. well that is a first. most girls will go for the tall,handsome AAND RICH guy  who serves her breakfat in bed during courtship and[b] turns her into a punching bag in marriage.
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God forbid bad thing!

tope2000:

Hmmmm . . . . . hate to say it but i kind of agree

This is where Debosky is getting stuffs wrong. . . . .
He thinks he can spot a woman on the train and get attracted to her good character??
How would he know if the babe has good character by sitting on the train reading METRO news!!!
Nansense!!!

chika98:

It can yes but hard to find a very gorgeous girl/guy with a good character.

It is not hard. . . . . .
Ma girlfriend is gorgeous and her character is few inches below Mary!!!
It wasn't hard for me to find her. . . . . .It shouldn't be hard for you to find HIM.

well that is a first. most girls will go for the tall,handsome AAND RICH guy  who serves her breakfat in bed during courtship and turns her into a punching bag in marriage.

Abeg poor men don't punch their wives?

~Sauron~:


It is not hard. . . . . .
Ma girlfriend is gorgeous and her character is few inches below Mary!!!
It wasn't hard for me to find her. . . . . .It shouldn't be hard for you to find HIM.

loving dis statement hon,love d encouragement

syphillis:

pata u don't get it,nobody is telling a man to choose looks over personality

but why marry for persoanlity and still prefer other womens looks over ur wife's?

that is d issue here

BUt if the women that have your preference in looks, have bad personalities it would be wiser to be with someone who has a good character and is reasonably attractive. Those women's looks will fade eventually as well so you'll have nothing to be attracted to in later life.

~Sauron~:

This is where Debosky is getting stuffs wrong. . . . .
He thinks he can spot a woman on the train and get attracted to her good character??
How would he know if the babe has good character by sitting on the train reading METRO news!!!
Nansense!!!

It is not hard. . . . . .
Ma girlfriend is gorgeous and her character is few inches below Mary!!!
It wasn't hard for me to find her. . . . . .It shouldn't be hard for you to find HIM.

Amen Jesu!

~Sauron~:

U are getting things mixed up here.
No man would marry a beautiful woman with a lousy character just like he will NOT marry a worwor babe with the character of Mother Theresa.
The question is. . . . .WHAT COMES FIRST? Can u look at a woman across the street and DETERMINE she has a good character? HELL NO.
The beauty gets to u first before u check what her attitude is like!!
If she is now lousy, u move on to someone else who has a bit of both.

Beauty and Good character can co-exist!!!!

Yeah but Beauty is TEMPORARY. she will get GREY and OLD and MENOPAUSE. Good character neither  gets old nor grey . Some girls just have good character that oozes out while most dont have and most of this most are very very pretty girls.

Believe it or not a girl with a good character will be beautiful for a longer time than a girl with just physical beauty.

syren:

BUt if the women that have your preference in looks, have bad personalities it would be wiser to be with someone who has a good character and is reasonably attractive. Those women's looks will fade eventually as well so you'll have nothing to be attracted to in later life.

That is not the point . . . . . . . .People say this all the time and i think it's laced with myopia.

Looks won't fade. If i marry a woman cos she's beautiful and she later loses that beauty, will i be stagnant too?
Won't we age together?? If she is old to me, i am prolly old to her so it cancels each other out.
Old men date old women. They still see the attraction we yung'uns cannot see.
Why can't people face reality for Zeus' sake.

syren:

BUt if the women that have your preference in looks, have bad personalities it would be wiser to be with someone who has a good character and is reasonably attractive. Those women's looks will fade eventually as well so you'll have nothing to be attracted to in later life.

if so then stop comparing always,stop preferring the other women's body type to ur wife's,if u know she has a good personality and u also think shes good for u then stick to her,instead of telling ur friends in iya basiras food joint that u love ur wifes personality but still prefer a slim woman anyday anytime

vicade:

well looks are more probable to change than personality. well that is a first. most girls will go for the tall,handsome AAND RICH guy  who serves her breakfat in bed during courtship and turns her into a punching bag in marriage.

That is every girl's dream man
He only exist in her head

~Sauron~:

This is where Debosky is getting stuffs wrong. . . . .
He thinks he can spot a woman on the train and get attracted to her good character??
How would he know if the babe has good character by sitting on the train reading METRO news!!!
Nansense!!!

Roflmao

~Sauron~:

That is not the point . . . . . . . .People say this all the time and i think it's laced with myopia.

Looks won't fade. If i marry a woman because she's beautiful and she later loses that beauty, will i be stagnant too?
Won't we age together?? If she is old to me, i am prolly old to her so it cancels each other out.
Old men date old women. They still see the attraction we yung'uns cannot see.
Why can't people face reality for Zeus' sake.

dont mind them,afterall some pple r stil as pretty and even prettier in old age than in their youngie days

Man Shortage ?

Dont think so.

syphillis:

don't mind them,afterall some people r stil as pretty and even prettier in old age than in their youngie days

I will age together with my WIFE. Same rate of ageing. . . . .
If she comes out with a sagging breast, i woulda come out with receding hair line, protruding tummy and wrinkles too.
So what right have i got to say she doesn't look PRETTY again??

Are people this fickle-minded??

syphillis:

pata u don't get it,nobody is telling a man to choose looks over personality

but why marry for persoanlity and still prefer other womens looks over ur wife's?

that is d issue here

The truth is that man will ALWAYS continually to look over the wife at other women. He only get his consolation when he knows that his wife's character/personality out-weighs the beauty of the women he sees outside.

I will choose personality/character over beauty at any point in time. A sting of beauty definitely has to be there no doubt which has to be confirmed by all and sundry, but paramount is her character/personality.

syphillis:

but why he keeps preferring other womens look instead of his wife's is crazy

For the umpteenth time,he doesn't keep preferring. He keeps ADMIRING other beautiful women,which is a natural male instinct. It in no way means he doesn't love his wife or doesn't accept the way she looks.

He marries for personality because all things being equal it is everlasting. It lasts a lifetime,which is more important than looks.

He ADMIRES his original preference in a woman because he is a man. Its the way his genes are programmed to function. Men admire ANY beautiful woman at all.
His admiring a slim woman doesn't mean he hates his fat wife. And I'm getting tired of typing the same schiznit repeatedly

Syphilis the fact that you don't like the whole schitzo doesn't mean it doesn't exist/happen. Really,you should accept that it happens everyday world over. Not every man's life is picture-perfect.

The sooner men and women alike keep searching for utmost perfection,the happier they will all be. Tomorrow men will say women are the ones that set impossibly high standards for themselves when they do too.

vicade:

Yeah but Beauty is TEMPORARY. she will get GREY and OLD and MENOPAUSE. Good character neither  gets old nor grey . Some girls just have good character that oozes out while most don't have and most of this most are very very pretty girls.
Believe it or not a girl with a good character will be beautiful for a longer time than a girl with just physical beauty.

Ugly girls with ugly characters abound more than you think.

~Sauron~:

I will age together with my WIFE. Same rate of ageing. . . . .
If she comes out with a sagging breast, i woulda come out with receding hair line, protruding tummy and wrinkles too.
So what right have i got to say she doesn't look PRETTY again??

Are people this fickle-minded??

come here,u need a mind blowing kiss from chika or tope choose one

but for real u r right,if u love ur wife u wouldnt even notice any flaws on her skin,or watever's gone wrong wt her body

syphillis:

if so then stop comparing always,stop preferring the other women's body type to ur wife's,if u know she has a good personality and u also think shes good for u then stick to her,instead of telling ur friends in iya basiras food joint that u love ur wifes personality but still prefer a slim woman anyday anytime

What i'm saying is you can't just turn it off You don't stop finding other people attractive just because your married, though it would be great, but yes you can learn to appreciate and love your own partner's body also if she isn't your ideal type.

cristalz love,d man keeps and is still digging d slim shadys

come sauron ooooo,abeg no vex,when a man say he loves his wife personality but still digs a slim shady anyday ,wat exactly does he mean by dat statement

Pataki:

The truth is that man will ALWAYS continually to look over the wife at other women. He only get his consolation when he knows that his wife's character/personality out-weighs the beauty of the women he sees outside.

I will choose personality/character over beauty at any point in time. A sting of beauty definitely has to be there no doubt which has to be confirmed by all and sundry, but paramount is her character/personality.

Pataki, would u marry KEMISTRY if she has the character of Virgin Mary??
Just answer TRUE OR FALSE. No explanation.

syphillis:

come here,u need a mind blowing kiss from chika or tope choose one

but for real u r right,if u love ur wife u wouldnt even notice any flaws on her skin,or watever's gone wrong wt her body

mind blowing kiss ke? Times like this Sauron actually stops chatting shit and makes some sense for a change

stillwater:

Ugly girls with ugly characters abound more than you think.

Abi ooh. them full ground

No man would marry a beautiful woman with a lousy character just like he will NOT marry a worwor babe with the character of Mother Theresa.

@ Sauron,

This statement is very untrue! I have come to realize there is nothing like worwor babe that money cannot refurbish. If a man sees a woman with character of Mother Theresa and there is the money to re-package her, are you saying the man will not go for HER?

Be deceiving yourself about being prettier in old age - Which 50 year old woman (Without lipo, lifts, tucks and all that trash) is sexier than a fit and well proportioned 24 year old woman? NONE

The reality is that beauty will FADE - your wife WILL NOT be lepa forever the way she is now, the boobs will sag, her waistline will increase. THEN WHAT?

Is she the same woman you chose as your 'type' when you were young?? If you can 'adjust to her and find her attractive in old age' why can't you adjust if you find other stuff in her that you love?

This undue focus on lepa/orobo and all that is silly. Chac telling me would I detect good character on the train? Do you marry train chicks or what?  
I search well before dating or marrying, it's not fly by night based on some fleeting attraction. Get real.

syphillis:

but for real u r right,if u love ur wife u wouldnt even notice any flaws on her skin,or watever's gone wrong wt her body

That is a LIE - you LOVE Someone by acknowledging their faults and LOVING REGARDLESS of that, not by imagining the person has no flaws or anything. You can even LOVE the flaws, doesn't mean they are not there. Saying 'I can't see the flaws' is self delusion and not true love. LOVE is IN SPITE of imperfections, not the absence or 'not noticing' them.

stillwater:

Ugly girls with ugly characters abound more than you think.

Funny enough such girls in reality  are often wealthy as in too much money.

~Sauron~:

I will age together with my WIFE. Same rate of ageing. . . . .
If she comes out with a sagging breast, i woulda come out with receding hair line, protruding tummy and wrinkles too.
So what right have i got to say she doesn't look PRETTY again??

Are people this fickle-minded??

yes sauron some people are, that's why we have married people running after younger women/men, you can't deny the hugh hefners of this world do exist

syren:

What i'm saying is you can't just turn it off You don't stop finding other people attractive just because your married, though it would be great, but yes you can learn to appreciate and love your own partner's body also if she isn't your ideal type.

i dont think u read dis thread from d beginning? there is nothing wrong in admiring smone,but preferring a particular specie of women which ur wife isnt is where i come in

stillwater:

Ugly girls with ugly characters abound more than you think.

Funny enough such girls in reality  are often wealthy as in too much money.

~Sauron~:

Pataki, would u marry KEMISTRY if she has the character of Virgin Mary??
Just answer TRUE OR FALSE. No explanation.

Yes I will marry her if I have the money to re-/package her. However most MEN are looking for ready made package, drop dead gorgeous but  check her personality, she is the devil's professor herself.

vicade:

Funny enough such girls in reality  are often wealthy as in too much money.

Not really.

syphillis:

cristalz love,d man keeps and is still digging d slim shadys

come sauron ooooo,abeg no vex,when a man say he loves his wife personality but still digs a slim shady anyday ,what exactly does he mean by that statement

It means he loves his wife's personality,accepts her appearance,but still enjoys admiring a slim lady,which was his original preference.

Guess the word 'dig' has become over-hyped like most other things here Dearie if you don't understand something I say all you have to do is say so and I'll break it down for ya. I pwomise

stillwater:

Not really.

So you dont have too much money or how do you know for sure

debosky:

Be deceiving yourself about being prettier in old age - Which 50 year old woman (Without lipo, lifts, tucks and all that trash) is sexier than a fit and well proportioned 24 year old woman? NONE
.

debosky u r a big liar,wat ever happened to liz benson,bianca ojukwu,and a whole lot of them,those women r by far prettier than a 24 yr old girl,abeg get ur facts str8

debosky:



That is a LIE - you LOVE Someone by acknowledging their faults and LOVING REGARDLESS of that, not by imagining the person has no flaws or anything. You can even LOVE the flaws, doesn't mean they are not there. Saying 'I can't see the flaws' is self delusion and not true love. LOVE is IN SPITE of imperfections, not the absence or 'not noticing' them.

now dats another lie,my dad is yet to tell my mumdat shes old and wrinkled or wt saggy breasts

when a man loves his wife,he takes d wrong side of her as d best

oh pls forget d not true love,said who?havent u seen a woman dat looks like shit wt skin as terrible as krokro ,but her hubby still appreciates,admires and loves her like silly

is anybody perfect no way,so why notice any flaws in ur wifes skin or body ,abeg debo u no get talk ojare