Melahou:
Its obvious she has seen something damaging so defending yourself is out of it
cos its glaring...
she`s your wife for Christ sake...that you dont check her phone does not mean
she cant check yours especially when you have created room for suspicious...

ask for forgive and tell her you wont "misbehave again"

Closetoheart:
Forgiveness is a choice. My husband cheated on me with his long time gf barely two months into our marriage. I saw the messages... I wanted to commit suicide. I was pregnant at that time. I felt abused, disappointed and bad. He apologised and I forgave him. Eight months later, I saw him send his unclad picture to the same girl. I threatened to pack out of the house, he apologised again, and promised not to do it again.

Now, you know what? I don't care any more. Whether he is still seeing the girl or not is his problem. He is answerable to God. He is a xtian, he ministers in church now. So if he still indulges in such acts, he will have God to answer to.

Do you why I kept on forgiving him? Because he apologised. It still pains me, but I have promised myself that the forgiveness will stand, and I will continue to forgive him, even if he does something worse. Because I cannot continue to bear grudge in my heart. I want to make heaven.

The best I can do is to be wise. When I say being wise, it means protecting myself and my children from whatever inactions or actions of their dad that might want to cause harm to us.

Chidonc:




GOD BLESS U MUMMY

AwesomelyMade:
You are a real woman and home maker too!

candygosh:
Smh at most of the comments. One sided ish

First his wife had no reason smashing her phones and that shows she has anger management issues. For goodness sake it could be ur head tomorrow. And then moving out of the house is completely unacceptable

Second, u have no right to say she won't be coming back. It only proves that you r either tired of the marriage n want out and she just gave u a cheap reason to

Third to address the issue of people saying there should be no privacy in marriage. For pete's sake everyone is entitled to their privacy and yes even in marriage. Some things are just better left in secret. You don't go searching 4 trouble where there's none.
If any of the partner so love and cherish the other as much as respect them. They discuss issues not go haywire on one another. He might have a good reason to not want to share that kind of conversation.
I knew couple's that talking about each others day and other people hitting on them gets the other partner insecure and jealous.

Lastly, I bet my last kobo that most female nairalanders disapproving of the op and supporting the wife take even worse shits from their husbands at home and even end up begging him.
Who's deceiving who?

bukatyne:


Because she continually forgives a cheating husband?

Optimall:



Ask am oo...
Anyway whatever we ask for, we will get.

bukatyne:


Because she continually forgives a cheating husband?

charles009:
Hey guys,

I got married to my wife last December, we have been living happily. But last night, events took a bitter twist. She woke me up 2.09am today and started raining abuses on me. Be for I could talk, she smashed my phone on the floor.

The question is why is she angry? She read an exchange of sms between me and a certain girl. I stead of her asking questions, she went extreme.

I don't visit her phones and I expect her to do the same. Am still asking how she managed to get the password.

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

Now I ask?? Is it right for her to breach my privacy and get into my phone?

Closetoheart:
Forgiveness is a choice. My husband cheated on me with his long time gf barely two months into our marriage. I saw the messages... I wanted to commit suicide. I was pregnant at that time. I felt abused, disappointed and bad. He apologised and I forgave him. Eight months later, I saw him send his unclad picture to the same girl. I threatened to pack out of the house, he apologised again, and promised not to do it again.

Now, you know what? I don't care any more. Whether he is still seeing the girl or not is his problem. He is answerable to God. He is a xtian, he ministers in church now. So if he still indulges in such acts, he will have God to answer to.

Do you why I kept on forgiving him? Because he apologised. It still pains me, but I have promised myself that the forgiveness will stand, and I will continue to forgive him, even if he does something worse. Because I cannot continue to bear grudge in my heart. I want to make heaven.

The best I can do is to be wise. When I say being wise, it means protecting myself and my children from whatever inactions or actions of their dad that might want to cause harm to us.

candygosh:
Smh at most of the comments. One sided ish

First his wife had no reason smashing her phones and that shows she has anger management issues. For goodness sake it could be ur head tomorrow. And then moving out of the house is completely unacceptable

Second, u have no right to say she won't be coming back. It only proves that you r either tired of the marriage n want out and she just gave u a cheap reason to

Third to address the issue of people saying there should be no privacy in marriage. For pete's sake everyone is entitled to their privacy and yes even in marriage. Some things are just better left in secret. You don't go searching 4 trouble where there's none.
If any of the partner so love and cherish the other as much as respect them. They discuss issues not go haywire on one another. He might have a good reason to not want to share that kind of conversation.
I knew couple's that talking about each others day and other people hitting on them gets the other partner insecure and jealous.

Lastly, I bet my last kobo that most female nairalanders disapproving of the op and supporting the wife take even worse shits from their husbands at home and even end up begging him.
Who's deceiving who?

bushdoc9919:


Yeah.....so if I was yer husband...and you caught me with a nice young thing in bed...one day after work...and you get angry....I hope no one will say Anger Management!



True.



How about trust? How about if privacy is cover for some night fun activites?



They probably do....but that does not make it right....and we should not be tolerating such stuff!

(Pardon if I sound angry.....but years of treating wives infected with HIV by their devoted husbands has left me less tolerant. I hope I am not that loutish when I tie the knot!)

AwesomelyMade:
Yes! There is no limt to forgiveness especially a spouse. I'm sure her forgiving spirit is the reason why her home is yet to collapse. She is a woman of honor.

bukatyne:



Don't mind the guy...

I need to get his definition of a real man

bushdoc9919:


Yeah.....so if I was yer husband...and you caught me with a nice young thing in bed...one day after work...and you get angry....I hope no one will say Anger Management!



True.



How about trust? How about if privacy is cover for some night fun activites?



They probably do....but that does not make it right....and we should not be tolerating such stuff!

(Pardon if I sound angry.....but years of treating wives infected with HIV by their devoted husbands has left me less tolerant. I hope I am not that loutish when I tie the knot!)

bushdoc9919:


Yeah.....so if I was yer husband...and you caught me with a nice young thing in bed...one day after work...and you get angry....I hope no one will say Anger Management!


True.


How about trust? How about if privacy is cover for some night fun activites?


They probably do....but that does not make it right....and we should not be tolerating such stuff!

(Pardon if I sound angry.....but years of treating wives infected with HIV by their devoted husbands has left me less tolerant. I hope I am not that loutish when I tie the knot!)

soulglo:


Do you really need to ask LOL

He is not ready to fix the problem. He wants someone to tell him that his wife is the devil for looking through his phone.

OP you need to grow up. Your wife might be wrong for searching through your phone but that is the smaller issue here. The fact that you have refused to take responsibility for anything is very telling. You will not even admit that you have been whoring yourself out. You either think that the people you are hoping to get responses from are fools or that you truly feel that you have the right to do whatever you want to and take no responsibility. In either case you would be wrong.
I am willing to bet that you have been playing games for a while and when confronted you have lied through your teeth and she finally guessed the password probably from weeks or maybe even months of trying. Some women go crazy just trying to prove that they are not imagining things when their husbands are cheating. So now she has the proof and you cannot lie anymore and what do you do? You come one nairaland and gloss over what she saw and focus on the part were she went looking in your phone.
Looking through your phone is wrong but that is not the real issue here.

Odunharry:

lol....

Melahou:
Its obvious she has seen something damaging so defending yourself is out of it
cos its glaring...
she`s your wife for Christ sake...that you dont check her phone does not mean
she cant check yours especially when you have created room for suspicious...

ask for forgive and tell her you wont "misbehave again"

MizMyColi:

Passworded Phone Which She Can't Have Access To and They're Married? Like Really Married, Not Contract or Arrangee Married?
I don't gerrit, why?
Is she overly sensitive and largely insecure? But even at that..............

Call me overly idealistic o, but You see,
This is why I will not decide to live forever with a person who consciously chooses to underplay these principles.
Openness
Sincerity
Trust
&
Selflessness

Wife may have gone too far by being violent, but I shudder to think what I'd do if I were in her shoes, of course, that's depending on the enormity of expose on the SMS(es).

It hurts to give your all to a person and watch them treat it as thrash.

bukatyne:


Interesting

Who is a man of honor?

elantraceey:
You are married not dating !!!!!! Should there really be such privacy and secrets in marriage?


I can't imagine dating someone that i can't go through his phone not to talk of getting married to one.

What was the chat like? Why am i even asking ? What kind of chat will infuriate a wife like that?


And you could still get angry



lemme stop joor

yebo:

honestly i so Much love your comment, You have Saïd it all, i told m'y husband That ces cheating on me but He denied but Just to prove it i went through hes phone n i saw his chat with a lady, asking m'y husband to take hip out That she Is bored at home

bushdoc9919:


Is that the kind of marriage you want?

Where your wife goes on affairs?

Where you go on affairs and then go to church on sundays to be pillar of the church?

Some of you people......stop tolerating sin in the church!