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There's this girl am dating, she's beautiful and has everything a man wants in a woman.

But The problem is "she had a child outside wedlock" and hardly go about without carrying The baby(5yrs old). This makes me feel embarrassed among my peers, knowing am not the legitimate father.

She always gets upset whenever I try to know about the father of her child. All she has told me of him is they broke up.

She also pressures me to marry her that she is tired staying with her mom.

She's 20yrs while am 26. Should I succumb or Jakpa? Please help a brother with some advice.

Meedon:
The guy is liken to a pot calling a kettle black.

Who told him that having a girlfriend (fuckmate) is a responsible lifestyle?

oil dey your head!!!

anthonyuncle:
don't celebrate irresponsible lifestyle

is having a girlfriend a responsible lifestyle? flee from fornication and embrace God.

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
The little boy is gonna be a real niggarrr i must confess
God give me a child like this real niggarrr

Let me see if i can get this little dude
He should grow up fast
Me personally go find this small boy
Make i add am join the huzzle kingdom and teach him how to bomb
Imagine at this age he is capable of hypnotizing.... persuading and dissuading already....
And bombing is all about hypnotizing

how far, I am very good at bombing too. Would you mind if we work as a team?

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
The little boy is gonna be a real niggarrr i must confess
God give me a child like this real niggarrr

Let me see if i can get this little dude
He should grow up fast
Me personally go find this small boy
Make i add am join the huzzle kingdom and teach him how to bomb
Imagine at this age he is capable of hypnotizing.... persuading and dissuading already....
And bombing is all about hypnotizing

how far, I get bombing skills. Inbox me So we can work as a team.

SAMBARRY:
All these mummy's boys sef wey their brain still dey under their mummy's armpit

No maturity from the boy at all.cant he respectfully Tell his Mom to move back for peace to reign?

Awon my mummy said men.... tufiaaaaaa

See them all over the thread spewing rubbish

No common sense, they cannot make independent decisions without asking what mummy thinks about it.soon they still ask their mummy what part of the v@gyn@ they should put their preek inside

your type is capable of poisoning a mother in-law. Would you stand watch your husband do that to your mom? Some Women are so greedy!!!

Ugaboy:
people like this dont have enough sense. I swear.

dont bother yourself. He is a Muslim. Check his signature.

rottennaija:
These are religious organisations and they are all welled organised.
Catholic
Methodist
Apostolic
Deeper Life
Scientology
Seventh Days Adventist
Baptist
Jehovah's Witnesses
Church of Christ etc

All these are well organised.

most practices of today's churches are shameful. The Catholic precisely. They bow to images. Am not judging though

BengaziTherapy:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5qE0bWhRH4

Erstwhile National Chairman of the All Progressives’ Congress (APC) arrived his hometown, Iyamho in Etsako West LGA, Edo State for the time since his removal.

Oshiomhole and his entourage drove into Iyamho yesterday evening to meet throngs of supporters who laid siege around his premises to welcome him.

Oshiomhole addressed the enthusiastic supporters and told them he was back home to reclaim the state from PDP.

Source: https://heartbeat360media.com/oshiomhole-arrives-edo-state-promises-to-reclaim-the-state-from-pdp/

i love the way he addresses EDOLITES. he is never pompous about it. Unlike PMB who doesn't give a damn about NIGERIANS.

Trumpcard05:
Except you are not on ground here in Edo, then u can say or believe otherwise. What Crusoe Osagie has just said is nothing but the plain truth. I understand why people on this forum may have their doubts as many are not from or in Edo state at the moment. But go ask the common man on the street and this will surely be confirmed to u.

Barring the unforeseen or unexpected before Election Day, Obaseki is coasting home to victory.

Even the few campaigning for Ize Iyamu gradually noticing this fact, many are decamping to support Obaseki & others completely demoralized.

how much were you paid for This?

9jayes:





I can now sue my landlord on WhatsApp

lol... But You go still buy data oo. No be free

bayelsaowei:
i tell you..give each individual some huge cash as derivation so that we can all develop ourselves.. NDDC is a huge mistake and a joke..

If everyone has the money, who will work for them to feed? They know what they are doing!!

Amotolongbo:
https://punchng.com/breaking-akpabio-denies-collecting-n500m-nddc-projects/?amp=1

and they keep on stealing the money, keep on borrowing why the citizens goes asorrowing.

seanwilliam:
So series of abortion is okay?
Taking pills after every sex is ok?
Every love is unconditional ?
A man relying on equal contribution is ok?
Did I ever say money is the only thing that gives u respect in the family and society at large?
Mr. Man stop this your tu qouque jare.

Problem someone like you have is that, you are seriously suffering from inferiority complex( if that's the right word to use).. you see western culture as the superior and best bet.. where as you dont fully understand/grab how it works over there... .


Do I need to even argue with you? How would a right thinking individual be suggesting abortions and taking pills after every sex when you clearly know the consequences that follow that..and u know some people swallow whatever they see on internet...

And a sensible person would know that the word IF
Cant be overemphasized...

A sensible person would always weigh his options and consider every possible outcome before he takes any action..


Once again , taking pills after every sex or abortion should be replaced with using condom properly or total abstinence.. that being said ..

During our fore father's days, there was nothing like equality.. men had the total control both in finance, emotions and every aspect that determine leadership ...






And be like say you are a preacher of love? Lol, this is 2020, it is high time you woke up from your slumber.. and maybe u just jam one girl wey dey bamboozle you with LOVE..no worry, na here we go dey ...



Being an alpha male means being in control in emotions, finances, self worth and every aspects that matter..


AND MIND YOU, what works when you are single wouldn't work when you are MARRIED.. but your problem is ; you are not ready to admit the fact pointing to your face.. you'll rather deny it to make it look like fiction..



Stop twisting my points..


If you are equally contributing, it means both of you are equal in every way.. there is nothing like you are a leader or she is a leader.. no superior nor inferior.. and when there is no leader, an organisation is tend to fail in the long run because there would not be succumber cos every one would make sure their proposal is duly registered.
Hypocrisy is when you think you can control or bewield someone that has same power with you ... alaye wake up!
If you are ok with equality in contribution, no problem, but dont come here when your partner refuses to submit to you in the long run..


But as a brainwashed- western wannabe, who doesn't have iota of ego, I'm sure submission wouldn't be a problem to you ..

but wait oo. Who come win for this argument now? Seanwilliam or MrBrownJay1 Lol.........

VicM6:
Unless if i play US lottery jackpot then i can bcom a 30billon gang overnight if i won.

yes you are right. Before playing and wining the lottery, the work you did to earn the money and believing to win is called FOCUS.

shestrong:
Makes alot of sense...no lies.

shestrong, thanks.

seanwilliam:
yea.. in all my post I support women financial contributions...infact, no man should marry liability..but equal contribution would strip one off his leadership position.. and when there is no leader an institution is tend to fail..

It is expected for your wife to support you , but the moment she assumes the leading role( in finance, security etc), she would lose the ultimate respect for you in the long run.. u as a man would see that as a bruise to your ego, from that problem would start ...

I'm 100% in support of women's contribution but not equality.. except you as a man would become the wife in actual sense and u will not have any cause to complain , it's fine..

Note by women contribution ( western culture) and still giving you the ultimate respect (Africa culture) as a leader, I'm trying to blend the two cultures to make the marriage effective both in finance and respevf
Peace!

you are wise.

seanwilliam:
MR. MAN stop saying what is not to feel good.. we know a man is rated based on what he can provide..and the earlier you know that every love is conditional love the better ..the earlier you know that a woman loves u based on what you can provide..(money, good sex, decision making, security , assurance etc.) The better..
No woman will love u unconditionally without u providing the basic needs..
Stop this whataboutism..


I can prove it to you in a 1000 ways that there can never be equality in contribution in marriage down here.. even in the west, spouse dont give absolute respect for their husband.. why? Because you both directly sharing the leadership position...
Marriage is an institution, every institution needs a leader / controller to paddle the canoe.. before u can lead/control , you must possess what others dont..
It is not ego, it is tradition.. A family man deserves every respect, and he can only get that through what he can provide coupled with some self worth..



The truth is a man cant say he is tired, rather change method and approach to make things easier for him...

The day you are tired is the day your respect diminishes in the family and society at large..
Stop basking in euphoria of western equality in marriage.. it doesn't work anywhere.. that is why west has higher divorce rate compared to Official statistics that suggest that divorce is exceedingly uncommon in Nigeria.


What works here might not work over there and vice versa, cos we have different upbringing..

Biblically , women are known to be supportive but not advocating for equality in contribution..

U dont give respect to who you are better than or who you are in the same position in the long run.. why ? Because u know you have nothing to loose since you already can do what they have to offer..



U self ask yourself, you have a roommate, both of u contribute equally from house rent to sustenance, to decision making, to every aspect of living.. now tell me what is going to determine the leader? And organisation/group/family/
Society without leader is a joke. clear cut decision would not be possible because everyone would make sure that their idea materialise..


There is a reason God created man first, there is a reason God made man the head..
Modified: paying bride price already gives u edge over your wife, that clearly shows u man is superior.. it means you indirectly buy her.. what does that tell you?? Sheybi we are equal , nobody should be mandated to pay any price nah...

If you recognise and support paying bride price then your hypocrisy is topnotch




Equality doesn't make marriage work..

1.Marriage would work if there is absolute respect for the LEADER..
2.Marriage would work when the basic needs are provided

Marriage would work when you as a man combines the 1&2 above with self worth( redpillsm)..

am 100percent in support of seanwilliam / MrBrownJay1 Quotes. We don too pamper women spoil sef. What he is saying is very simple. A woman should also have a monetary contribution to the family. Have you wonder why the men die before the women? it's because of the excess work load they bear. A man pays the DOWRY, pays for her upkeep, pays for the kids fee, pays for rent, fends for the wife's family, meet pressure from in-laws and the woman does what? WHAT A MAN CAN DO, A WOMAN CAN DO also. They're bunch of LIABILITIES.

.chai, I just dey imagine myself fhucking premium pussy ... not Lagos-Ibadan Express wey we get here [/quote]Chaiiiii you Don finish naija girls. But have you seen how ugly p*ssy is?

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ennon92:
The award for "The Most Foolish Human Of The Century" should be given to Hushpupet


You go about scamming ppl of their hard earned money causing them sifia pain, as if that's not enough u still have the effrontery to post and flaunt ur opulent lifestyle on social media...Wait o, Shay him mama no dey talk to am ni...I guess the English Premier League club wey the guy wan scam na Arsenal football Club, that stingy club...to buy better players Na wahala, na hin Hushpupet wan com scam




Mompha is the next target, ur days would soon be numbered... It's a shame how these criminals are being celebrated back home.

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ennon92:
The award for "The Most Foolish Human Of The Century" should be given to Hushpupet


You go about scamming ppl of their hard earned money causing them sifia pain, as if that's not enough u still have the effrontery to post and flaunt ur opulent lifestyle on social media...Wait o, Shay him mama no dey talk to am ni...I guess the English Premier League club wey the guy wan scam na Arsenal football Club, that stingy club...to buy better players Na wahala, na hin Hushpupet wan com scam




Mompha is the next target, ur days would soon be numbered... It's a shame how these criminals are being celebrated back home.

nice post. I wonder how people fall victim of investing money to generate profit in minutes.

ennon92:
The award for "The Most Foolish Human Of The Century" should be given to Hushpupet


You go about scamming ppl of their hard earned money causing them sifia pain, as if that's not enough u still have the effrontery to post and flaunt ur opulent lifestyle on social media...Wait o, Shay him mama no dey talk to am ni...I guess the English Premier League club wey the guy wan scam na Arsenal football Club, that stingy club...to buy better players Na wahala, na hin Hushpupet wan com scam




Mompha is the next target, ur days would soon be numbered... It's a shame how these criminals are being celebrated back home.

nice one. I wonder how people fall victim of investing money to generate profit in minutes.

seanwilliam:
brother i will rather die than not being able to take care of family... my uncle has a 17 years old daughter and 3 younger ones.. the man and his wife had a fight.. his daughter was telling him to 'go and husle'.. bro this man was practically crying, i furiously lambasted the girl... this is a man that goes out everyday to husle for what these children will eat oo.. he told me he didnt want to see the girl (eldest girl) again.. he said the girl was shouting and supporting his wife in fighting against him just because he couldnt provide much for the family..

the wife and children dont have any iota of respect for the man.. na him go wash cloth by himself and stuffs like that..

i sha beg him and advise him on one or two stuffs...


bro this shit is not a joke i swear.. see, money is the most important in marriage.. there is different between demanding respect and commanding respect... brotherly anyone wey no get the capacity to feed atleast 2 mouths should run from relationship not to talk of marriage.. i cry for this uncle ehn.. naso the girl dey shout at her father "what have you done for me before".. i almost slap her..

a great testimony. God bless our hustle. Man no dey expire. A little patience.

lefulefu:
chances are the guy would become an okada rider or a molue bus rider to cater for the girl.he shelves his lofty dreams to enter street hustle to cater for the mother and child.worst thing that can happen to a struggling young man.there"s one of my brother"s friend..dis dude made a girl pregnant when he was in his finals.today if u see the guy he looks haggard.dude dat had a nice appearance todays looks like he is 78 yrs old.he is so broke that he now wears his dad"s old clothes the dad wore in the late 60s and early 70s as a youth.sometimes if u see the guy u will just feel sorry for him.for the girl she is hustling selling tomatoes in the market.he is still getting little aid from his family but its not easy for his family catering for the girl and the child plus him since the family aint wealthy.

life is a lesson. He who learn from the mistakes of others will surely go far in life.

Hollasmall:
God saved me this year sha. All my plan for go down the drain

abeg Share your testimony with us.

InfinityFabric:
I guess 1000brains is the minimum, you're @ 22. Not good! Not good!

1. I changed the title
2. I posted another line based on the changed title
3. U don goofed m8.

My point is: the post is only for struggling bachelors and they should take struggle serious. The moment they're OK, they won't have issues even such cases arrive.

With these few points of mine, I hope I've been able to confuse u and not to confuse u that u were confused when u confusingly wrote that non related confusion above.

lol.... Have you taken your medication? Hahahaha

22brains:
In our struggle to become successful, we meet so many roadblocks and things that want to stop us from attaining our goals in life. Somehow, when all these problems and roadblocks hit us, we also manage to find a way to defeat the problems and continue with our hustle and life.

The 1 mistake that would destroy your life as a man is getting a girl pregnant when you are still struggling. As a lady, if you get pregnant to a man who is still struggling like you, it is game over for both of you. It's only the grace of God that would see you guys out of that situation.

Some would say it's a lie, how will getting a girl pregnant destroy my life? Well, I will give your couple of reasons why it will destroy your life.

When you are not financially stable and you find yourself in this ugly situation, it makes you lose focus. If you have a dream you want to pursue, it will be difficult for you to continue chasing those dreams. Don't pay attention to the movies that make you believe you can still make it after impregnating a girl. The chances of you making it is slim because the money that was supposed to go into your plans will end up going into what you didn't plan for.


The girl giving birth to the baby will help to increase your chances of not making it. This is because you are no longer taking care of yourself alone but two extra human beings. It gets more frustrating when your monthly income is very poor. You won't be able to save, you will be in debt and regrets will engross your thoughts.

The girl on her own side is not safe as well because all her plans in life are now shattered. She will have to take care of the baby until the child is able to walk and start school. She will not be able to chase her dreams because her baby comes first. The lives of these two individuals who are involved in this situation are already in danger.

I have a brother who got a girl pregnant. I told him that, this action if yours would affect you and the plans you have. He thought I was lying when I said that to him. Today, he is realizing the things I told him.


In conclusion, For you to not destroy your future as a hustling man, don't impregnate a girl. This saying goes to the girls as well, don't get pregnant for any man if you want successfully chase your dreams without having to think that you have a burden to carry. If you must engage in anything intimate with anyone, make sure you are well protected to avoid stories that touches.

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MissyB3

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habsydiamond:
Na channels news @10 I go dey take fvck be that.... Na for one hour for one round...

Suicide mission