jumanche:
I met my boyfriend online. We were in a long distance relationship for a 2 months before I moved back to his town.
Before we met, he told me he smoked cigarettes but socially. I was ok with that. I thought that If he needed a cigar to calm his nerves , its alright. I do not smoke.

After we met, It turns out that he's a chain smoker. He takes at least 3 packs of cigarettes a day. After a month of dating him, I just couldn't take it anymore. After we visit each other, I reek of cigarettes. My clothes, my purses, my hair, the bed-sheet. Everything stinks. Sometimes I have to re-do my laundry. He smokes inside the house and car so the smoke is directly on me .

I talked to him about this. I told him that the smoke stinks everywhere up so bad and that I have to wash my clothes after I visit him. He got really mad and we didnt talk for days.

I love my boyfriend but I cannot take the smoking. Its also starting to affect him medically , his teeth is rotten and he coughs chronically. I tell him to stop at least for his health and he starts to give examples of non-smokers who died early or smokers who live long.

I am at my wits end because everything and everywhere stink and cigarette butts are everywhere.

How do I tell him to stop?? Or do you think its time to end the relationship.

pls hun leave d relationship

jumanche:


Actually, my boyfriend is a very good man. He is very down to earth and respectful. He will never ever punch me. He helps around the house, he cooks for himself and even helps do my hair. He is perfect. Its just sad that he has this addiction. Please do not insult him.

This is the reason why I am confused about the smoking because that's his only flaw. Its a really bad flaw but he's a very good man and i wish I could help him.

refer him to the church Of Jesus Christ of latter day saints, by the time learns about the effects on him and his family, he wil rethink and be grateful to God for u in his life.

jumanche:


his teeth is completely bad and he has really bad cough. The effect of smoking is showing

You shouldn't leave him..try and help him cos u said you love him and if he detests your help only then can you walk away after you must have complained to one of his friends.
Smoking is not really good reason to abandon a relationship.

because of d Love u hav for Him, Stay with him, Die with him, enjoy d smoke together...Love is blind nah

Pictures of him smoking or adonbilivit

he is an addict, they'll always give reasons to justify their actions, its either you try your very best to stop him or reduce his intake, it's gonna be very hard but it's not impossible. If he loves you enough he will make a little change, in the history of addicts women has always been the reason for their turn around except you feel you are not equal to the task ahead then you can take the easiest way out. You still got a decision to make

jumanche:


your friend just reminded me of him. He says his healthy and that even non-smokers die young. He will start talking abut smokers whom he knew that live long. Excuses and Excuses and delusion.

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You're welcome bro. Nice input.

CaptPlanet:


Thanks a lot bro! I appreciate

The guy na real chimney

You cannot change him....
You either accept his smoking habits or you move on_

trigar12:
In Yoruba land, we will describe your bf as SANGO

Now this got me

If you all starts condemning addicted peeps,who's going to help them change...bae if you love him change him!!!

Ha lie abeg abeg.3packs a day? Na chimney him be?aba mana.

If you Love him, do nothing but the best to help him and when you've done that and he doesn't seem to flow, WALK ON BY(in Great WHITNEY HOUSTON's Power-Packed-Voice)

jumanche:
I met my boyfriend online. We were in a long distance relationship for a 2 months before I moved back to his town.
Before we met, he told me he smoked cigarettes but socially. I was ok with that. I thought that If he needed a cigar to calm his nerves , its alright. I do not smoke.

After we met, It turns out that he's a chain smoker. He takes at least 3 packs of cigarettes a day. After a month of dating him, I just couldn't take it anymore. After we visit each other, I reek of cigarettes. My clothes, my purses, my hair, the bed-sheet. Everything stinks. Sometimes I have to re-do my laundry. He smokes inside the house and car so the smoke is directly on me .

I talked to him about this. I told him that the smoke stinks everywhere up so bad and that I have to wash my clothes after I visit him. He got really mad and we didnt talk for days.

I love my boyfriend but I cannot take the smoking. Its also starting to affect him medically , his teeth is rotten and he coughs chronically. I tell him to stop at least for his health and he starts to give examples of non-smokers who died early or smokers who live long.

I am at my wits end because everything and everywhere stink and cigarette butts are everywhere.

How do I tell him to stop?? Or do you think its time to end the relationship.

Dont leave him but Save for his burial.

Can we work out a maths here....... Chain smoker ,at least three packs a day. OK let agree it's three packs a day. So three pack a day, six pack two days. 1, 2, 3 till 31 days . So 3 x 31 = 93. So 93 packs in a month. Now how many is in a pack, 20 piece in a pack. So 20 x 3 = 60. 60 sticks of cigarettes a day.

A month is 93 packs x 12 months = 1,116 packs a year.

60 sticks x 31 days = 1,860 sticks a month.

So 1,860 sticks x 12 months = 22,320 sticks in a year.

Grand total 22,320 sticks of cigarettes na ya guy dey consume a year.

dump him.

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Resistance:  There is continual resistance to every move you make.  The water offers 12% - 14% more resistance than when you exercise on land.  Resistance does not allow for sudden body movements.
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Why do people exercise in the water?

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Therapeutic:  Helping people recover from accidents and sickness.  Combating the aging process.
Social:  Meeting and being with other people.  You can talk to others as you water exercise.  Workout facing your partner or side-by-side.  Meet new people, too!
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Builds up endurance
Increases muscular flexibility
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Heart muscle becomes stronger
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Fellowship with other people
Enjoyable - even when working hard
It is a safe program
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jumanche:

I love my boyfriend but I cannot take the smoking. Its also starting to affect him medically , his teeth is rotten and he coughs chronically. I tell him to stop at least for his health and he starts to give examples of non-smokers who died early or smokers who live long.

kontinew luving him.. Anyways, gals luv bad boyz.

TDstarr:
I understand perfectly...tell him to reduce it...tell him lovingly don't nag. Don't fight..just calm down and tell him..he should reduce it to 3sticks a day. And he should be smoking outside...soon he will get bored and stop..dats how my girlfriend made me stop smoking now I hate it with passion

not easy to stop smoking once...it has become a habit that took time to start and time it will also take to stop. Love is patience

See the rubbish tthat is getting to FP!
Common sense shud tell the girl that she shd forget him with no mercy! Some girls dey mumu shaa! The right guy still dey beg her somewhere ooh!

If I were to be an idi0t like this, nah to sue the guy for poisoning me gradually.
After tthe court case, I will use him as a burnt offering. He's a perfect material for that.

@jumanche even before you said so i was able to deduce your guy was ok in all areas but for the addiction. try googling on how to stage an intervention. also take him for a test to know how much of his lungs remain. dr's results might put fear in him

for you to have the scent on you means you have been well exposed. you do need a test as well. maybe knowing the results of what he has done to you might prick his conscience too. if all fails then you can keep away to prolong your lifespan. cheers

CaptPlanet:



I kindda like your attitude about the whole thing. First you have to understand that cigarettes contains nicotine ( the substance that makes it addictive) and it's very difficult to quit so you're in for a huge task

If you really want to help him, I suggest you take some drastic measures.

Let him know that you won't visit him if he'll smoke with you around and if he does, leave his house ASAP/ do things he don't like, if he calls you let him understand that you can't stand the habit and if he really loves you, he should respect you. Deny him candy if u must (men love candy and we'll do anything to get some) That should at least cut down his smoking with you around (it's difficult but you gotta stick with it)

When this starts to work, spend more time with him, he'll reduce the way he smokes and also dispose of every packs of cigarettes around the house. Allow him some space to smoke (he can't quit abruptly)

Talk to him about it all the time, better yet NAG about it, men despise nagging. Get info on the adverse effects of smoking and show it to him, u can get pics of affected lungs off the Internet and show him. It'll stick in his subconscious mind, that should help.

Make him open up to you (men hide alot) esp how his day went, get him to trust you, don't judge him when he tell you difficult stuff, act like it's no biggie, you chics have your way with men so you should know how to get him to release all that worked up stress/emotion from a hard day.

Gradually reduce his average sticks a day (make charts with him), if he burns like 15 sticks a day, you could make it 5 a day if you go about it the right way. You can give him a treat once or twice a month, you know what he likes, like nice meal, warm bath together, seduce the living daylight out of him....use your imagination.

Finally you can get him e- cigarettes , they're healthier and more environment friendly.


PS: get him to eat a lot of fruits, let him go for detox.

I hope this helps.

All d advice I v read on dis thread is very truthful and straight 4ward but dis is d most mature and sincere advice I would give myself esp if u want 2 help ur guy and every indication shows u really love him respect and want 2 help him but just dnt know how 2 go abt it cos u keep defending him and even acknowledges his goodness. I ll advice u follow all dat captainplanet said and he ll change but if he refuses 2 change den u. R free 2 quit. But help him ist, stand by him,talk 2 him even pray 4 him and him 4 himself aswell cos d relationship r about 2 Quit may v dis lil test 4 u 2 enter ur paradise or d new one may v something more detasteful dan dis.

jumanche:


its even more than 3 packs a day. I said at least 3 packs. We only spend few hours together a day and during that time, which is usually like 5/6 hours, he finishes 2 packs. It may be up to 5 packs a day..

i know i have to leave but i guess i was looking for a way to let him stop.

I don't believe you,are you trying to tell us that this 6 hours you spend. With him he just smokes and nothing more no good moment.?do you know what you mean by 3packs?? mehn that much and you need to leave this. Bros abeg cos there is danger

jumanche:
I met my boyfriend online. We were in a long distance relationship for a 2 months before I moved back to his town.
Before we met, he told me he smoked cigarettes but socially. I was ok with that. I thought that If he needed a cigar to calm his nerves , its alright. I do not smoke.

After we met, It turns out that he's a chain smoker. He takes at least 3 packs of cigarettes a day. After a month of dating him, I just couldn't take it anymore. After we visit each other, I reek of cigarettes. My clothes, my purses, my hair, the bed-sheet. Everything stinks. Sometimes I have to re-do my laundry. He smokes inside the house and car so the smoke is directly on me .

I talked to him about this. I told him that the smoke stinks everywhere up so bad and that I have to wash my clothes after I visit him. He got really mad and we didnt talk for days.

I love my boyfriend but I cannot take the smoking. Its also starting to affect him medically , his teeth is rotten and he coughs chronically. I tell him to stop at least for his health and he starts to give examples of non-smokers who died early or smokers who live long.

I am at my wits end because everything and everywhere stink and cigarette butts are everywhere.

How do I tell him to stop?? Or do you think its time to end the relationship.

u mean he owns a CAR which he uses to cruise u around town??.......case closed.

Op if you still read this comment, I need toi say that your post shows that you are worthless and you lack class. First of all the men around (off internet) no one consider you to be worthy of a relationship until you encounter a useless chain smoker, again you are hell bent on sticking up with him in a relation for fear of being left over.

Donpizzle:


u mean he owns a CAR which he uses to cruise u around town??.......case closed.

I own my car and also live alone in my house (bought with my money). I don't know what you mean.