For your own health and not his health this time around you need to leave because his not.gonna just stop,he is addicted already.

CaptPlanet:

brother u seems to know much about relationship, please permit me to send u pm so u can discuss privately

Its also starting to affect him medically , his teeth is rotten and he coughs chronically...

Sorry!

Don't dump him. Join him

Abeg.... Walk out. But the decision is urs... U already gave a vital reasons why you should quit already.


The ball is in ur court

missdebs:
for the sake of your health and that of your future kids, leave the bros

Your boyfriend get rotten teeth and smelly mouth yet you dey ask whether make you dump am?. talk true na d money dey make you contemplate

if you cant beat him,join him


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I guess he should dump u for posting his affair with u on NL.

U wanna tell me u don't know abt his smoking behavior before giving him ya ass!!

Funny shit on NL.

jumanche:
I met my boyfriend online. We were in a long distance relationship for a 2 months before I moved back to his town.
Before we met, he told me he smoked cigarettes but socially. I was ok with that. I thought that If he needed a cigar to calm his nerves , its alright. I do not smoke.

After we met, It turns out that he's a chain smoker. He takes at least 3 packs of cigarettes a day. After a month of dating him, I just couldn't take it anymore. After we visit each other, I reek of cigarettes. My clothes, my purses, my hair, the bed-sheet. Everything stinks. Sometimes I have to re-do my laundry. He smokes inside the house and car so the smoke is directly on me .

I talked to him about this. I told him that the smoke stinks everywhere up so bad and that I have to wash my clothes after I visit him. He got really mad and we didnt talk for days.

I love my boyfriend but I cannot take the smoking. Its also starting to affect him medically , his teeth is rotten and he coughs chronically. I tell him to stop at least for his health and he starts to give examples of non-smokers who died early or smokers who live long.

I am at my wits end because everything and everywhere stink and cigarette butts are everywhere.

How do I tell him to stop?? Or do you think its time to end the relationship.

I understand perfectly...tell him to reduce it...tell him lovingly don't nag. Don't fight..just calm down and tell him..he should reduce it to 3sticks a day. And he should be smoking outside...soon he will get bored and stop..dats how my girlfriend made me stop smoking now I hate it with passion

raayah:
I would end it if I were in your shoes. Him telling you that he smoked socially when he smokes 3 packs a day would also be a sticking point for he, and I would read into that a certain level of dishonesty.

Your boyfriend could probably get diagnosed with a substance use disorder. The stuff he's doing is fairly typical of an addict. You unfortunately most likely do not have the leverage to be able to force him to change, especially considering he's addicted to a legal substance and your relationship is newer than his addiction.

u speak as if girls are angel that dosnt lie
Anyway pray and google tips to help me stop keep hope that he will stop and
God will reward u for making him stop.. And believe me you will be forver be happy that u made someone to stop adiction. Peace

Op its not easy I know but from the looks of it it seems he's past socially smoker

If U still want to be with him then U have to use drastic means

Is there no way U can send him smoked up lungs pictures in his phone, U can just be sending him those pix everyday through whatsapp..

Or why not get a medic to come explain to him the disadvantages

So many ideas...

My dear Op pls fight for your guy with all means before U think of dumping him,

also give U and him a timeline of let's say 3 months, try within then to pull him out of it, if nothing then.. "What's not meant to be is not meant to be".

This ur case doesn't need advise cos its straight forward, leave him and I think what may be giving you Λ rethink is his generousity cos smokers aint stingy and those closer †̥ dem tends †̥ pity dem

To me, the mere fact that you are asking this question means you love the guy.

U wi also share in the health damage over time. It is only ur teeth that won't be rotten cos u are not directly smoking.. But d rest parts .. Na wash o. If u can't help him, help urself my lady!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKXPjk909sw

Yes

for me its a yes, cos you dont smoke i guess#meaning their you dont match#

You complain too much. Should he dump you?

If he refused to quit smoking
You quit the relationship, for a broken relationship is better to a broken marriage.

no..marry him

IF UR BF SMOKES TOO MUCH DERS EVERY TENDENCY U LL STRT TAKING BEATING TOO MUCH (dats if u avnt strted)

Future problem it is...

No...stay there and keep endangering your life. Don't you know that the non-smoker is worse off,inhaling the tobacco?

Why not introduce him to vaping. That is a much cleaner & healthier way to smoke. He can vape and puff all day and you won't have to worry about the stench getting on your clothes or hair. Not to mention there are fruity vapour liquids he could use that would improve the fragrance in your home. He would also save his lungs and chest from long term diseases acquired from chronic smoking.

jumanche:
I met my boyfriend online. We were in a long distance relationship for a 2 months before I moved back to his town.
Before we met, he told me he smoked cigarettes but socially. I was ok with that. I thought that If he needed a cigar to calm his nerves , its alright. I do not smoke.

After we met, It turns out that he's a chain smoker. He takes at least 3 packs of cigarettes a day. After a month of dating him, I just couldn't take it anymore. After we visit each other, I reek of cigarettes. My clothes, my purses, my hair, the bed-sheet. Everything stinks. Sometimes I have to re-do my laundry. He smokes inside the house and car so the smoke is directly on me .

I talked to him about this. I told him that the smoke stinks everywhere up so bad and that I have to wash my clothes after I visit him. He got really mad and we didnt talk for days.

I love my boyfriend but I cannot take the smoking. Its also starting to affect him medically , his teeth is rotten and he coughs chronically. I tell him to stop at least for his health and he starts to give examples of non-smokers who died early or smokers who live long.

I am at my wits end because everything and everywhere stink and cigarette butts are everywhere.

How do I tell him to stop?? Or do you think its time to end the relationship.

stop lying. NOBODY CAN SMOKE 3 PACKETS OF CIGARETTE A DAY. EVEN CHINESE MAN WILL NOT GET TO THAT LEVEL. ONE PACKET OF CIGAR IS 20 STICKS, 3 PACKETS = 60 STICKS.

Normally smokers smoke less if they r with a girl. Smoking 3 packets in your present means he could take 10 packet when he is alone. SISTER STOP LYING.

cancer has a funny way of ending relationships like this U knw.



not that I do not wish him well, but 3 packs a day is a first class flight ticket to heaven

CICERO09:
3packs a day nd he hasn't turned to smoke i don't believe it

ur a learner....next time expand your horizon bf u comment

:oBabe him tie ur legs for there, u dey see the future and u re waiting for som1 to tell u to run for ur life pls run

. I tell him to stop at least for his health and he starts to give examples of non-smokers who died early or smokers who live long.

[/quote]this part clearly shows that your so called boyfriend is not ready to change, dump him without thinking twice.

and u too z turning to second hand smoker by staying closer to him. since u are inhaling too

jumanche:
I met my boyfriend online. We were in a long distance relationship for a 2 months before I moved back to his town.
Before we met, he told me he smoked cigarettes but socially. I was ok with that. I thought that If he needed a cigar to calm his nerves , its alright. I do not smoke.

After we met, It turns out that he's a chain smoker. He takes at least 3 packs of cigarettes a day. After a month of dating him, I just couldn't take it anymore. After we visit each other, I reek of cigarettes. My clothes, my purses, my hair, the bed-sheet. Everything stinks. Sometimes I have to re-do my laundry. He smokes inside the house and car so the smoke is directly on me .

I talked to him about this. I told him that the smoke stinks everywhere up so bad and that I have to wash my clothes after I visit him. He got really mad and we didnt talk for days.

I love my boyfriend but I cannot take the smoking. Its also starting to affect him medically , his teeth is rotten and he coughs chronically. I tell him to stop at least for his health and he starts to give examples of non-smokers who died early or smokers who live long.

I am at my wits end because everything and everywhere stink and cigarette butts are everywhere.

How do I tell him to stop?? Or do you think its time to end the relationship.

If you love him as you claim, then stay with him. What do you want our community to do?