tommychow:


I have enjoyed this argument so far.

I get you and I'm pretty sure I would have been a feminist if I was Swedish. Maybe in Sweden, women are enjoying equal rights in workplaces because women are equally driven professionally NOT because they simply ranted about it on YouTube lol. Hope you get my point.

You sef, you should know your fellow naija gals and being typically too dependent on her man. Feminist movement in naij is a big joke on a crack ya ribs level lol. No offense. This brings me to a good question though. In Nigeria, do you think women being equally financially capable will be good for relationships/marriages? Think Hollywood before you answer.

Do you find smart guys like me attractive? I mean, a guy that can challenge you the way I'm doing now has to be appealing somehow.

UncleLondon:


When women don't want to settle for someone who will give them peace of mind. Alpha males have spontaneous mind and their mission is always to seek, sample and destroy as much female entities as they can. Try Betta, Gamma males and you will forget the word misogynist.

BeastOfNoNation:


Why are you swearing anyhow? Did anybody swear at you? Besides, a feminist is someone who believes a woman can do what a man can do. So if you see a woman in power then that supports the idea of feminism. Nigeria is an oppressive society for women. It's not impossible to become successful but it's much harder than it needs to be.

cruzyteejay:


then you are not a woman either,make research before saying anything,feminist this feminist that,go to the senate house and tell me how many women that are there..........till tomorrow women can never equal men in anything,its just nature,do you think God is a fool,he made women just with one rib of a man,i guess you know how many ribs a skeleton gat.........xo how do you think you can equal a man when you are just a single rib out of the many ribs in his body......you gat to think wella,men tend to make you inferior if you take it on yourself to equal with men,i bet you if you can respect and be humble to a man(there is a big difference between being humble and being foolish)then that man will be the one to equal you to himself,its his job not your job,that's why i will always condemn feminism,cus it tries hard to beat nature which in turn isolate them from others and they still think that they are fighting for their right(still being inferior)no offense tho

BeastOfNoNation:


The funny thing is that it's been proven that both men and women have 24 ribs each. However sometimes it is possible to find an extra rib in BOTH genders. You say no offense but what you're saying is offensive.

BeastOfNoNation:


The funny thing is that it's been proven that both men and women have 24 ribs each. However sometimes it is possible to find an extra rib in BOTH genders. You say no offense but what you're saying is offensive.

AfroKnight:
When a lady wants to reap where she did not sow and a guy resists her she calls him a misogynist, uncaring, stingy, etc. When a guy treats you like his equal by asking you to pay your share of the bill, you say he is not a gentleman that he should pick up the bill LIKE A MAN. When it's time to move heavy furniture or switch on the generator or fix a simple gadget in the office or at home, the women ask the men to do "their job". The weirdest is when two lovers are walking on the road and the woman expects the man to shield her from traffic with his body.

Women are the champions of gender-based roles yet they blame men for inequality. What do you women really want?

BeastOfNoNation:
Hello Nairaland! This is my first post I've been on Nairaland for a long time but I've never real felt the need to post anything before but this topic was paining me and confusing me at the same time.

As a bonefide Naija babe (REPRESENT), I made up my mind that when I am ready to marry, I MUST marry a Nigerian guy or I would rather die single (nothing wrong with this sha). The only issue I'm encountering thus far is that the Nigerian guys I've met are very misogynistic I don't even understand why. Growing up I was told that as a child of God I could do ANYTHING but I suppose that Nigerian male ego trumps God's word

So this is a question to all the Alpha-Males out there! Why do you believe that women are less than you? I didn't grow up with this ideology at home and neither did my brothers so I would like some clarification!!

Please remember to be respectful in your answer pleeease! No insults because it's not necessary for healthy discussion. patiently waiting for answers!

mccoy47:

1) When I was younger mum always told me be a gentleman and always carry ladies first

2) When I was in public my elders always told me offer ur sits to women. And should I refuse the whole world stares at me like am a jacka$$ Reason? just because they are women and i am a man

3) When I got to school late in company of my female classmates the head teacher flogs me 24strokes and den tell the girls to kneel.and woe betide any teacher that insists on flogging the girls 24strokes like me. Reason? Because am a man

4) At home am made to do the difficult chores and my elder sister is made to do the lighter ones, should I object? Shush!! Would be the word don't you know she is a gal?

5) When I go on a date with a girl and the bills are brought, she gives me the "pay for it look" afterall it's a man's world

6) When in school and our biology teacher asks. which is the weaker sex? should u answer none! "F" is your portion SCIENCE!

ALL THIS YEARS GROWING UP AND NO FEMALE/ FEMINIST RAISED AN OBJECTION!
NOW AM 23 HUSTLING MY A$$ OUT TO HAVE MY OWN MONEY, OWN MY OWN HOUSE, CARS AND OF COURSE GET A WIFE.
DO YOU NOW EXPECT ME TO SHARE A 50/50 RESPONSIBILITY AND SAY WITH MY FIANCE OR WIFE AS THE CASE MAY BE?

KingRaoul:


If i have learned anything from society is that women are really less mentally developed as guys are (no bias) its best to just stop worrying about what they want and just treat them like ignorant little kids because sad as it is thats how their mind works. (Like ignorant little kids)

cruzyteejay:
......
But you girls do believe that you are a man's missing rib right?

BeastOfNoNation:
Hello Nairaland! This is my first post I've been on Nairaland for a long time but I've never real felt the need to post anything before but this topic was paining me and confusing me at the same time.

As a bonefide Naija babe (REPRESENT), I made up my mind that when I am ready to marry, I MUST marry a Nigerian guy or I would rather die single (nothing wrong with this sha). The only issue I'm encountering thus far is that the Nigerian guys I've met are very misogynistic I don't even understand why. Growing up I was told that as a child of God I could do ANYTHING but I suppose that Nigerian male ego trumps God's word

So this is a question to all the Alpha-Males out there! Why do you believe that women are less than you? I didn't grow up with this ideology at home and neither did my brothers so I would like some clarification!!

Please remember to be respectful in your answer pleeease! No insults because it's not necessary for healthy discussion. patiently waiting for answers!

sonofananimal:
ONE OF THE MOST RUBBISH POST I HAVE EVER ENCOUNTER

LET ME GIVE YOU SOME OF THE ANSWER TO YOUR STVPID QUESTIONS:



YOU SO CALLED NAIJA WOMEN ARE ONE OF THE MOST SELFISH PEOPLE ON EARTH, WHY WON'T WE GUYS CHANGE


YOU PEOPLE ARE GOLD DIGGERS,



GREEDY SET OF WOMEN,


AND THE WORST OF ALL! VERY SMELLING AND DIRTY WOMEN PARADING WITH MAKEUPS UP AND DOWN

BeastOfNoNation:


I don't know the kind of women you hang around but you should probably change that. Besides, you can't call my post rubbish if you are exemplifying everything I said. I said Nigerian men are misogynistic then you go on to rant about your hatred towards women. You've only proven me right.

sonofananimal:
prove you RIGHT! !

Did you even know the true meaning of misogynist

And your post didn't even prove why Nigeria men are misogynistic in nature

BeastOfNoNation:


Oya look at the dictionary definition so that you won't say I'm wrong.

mi·sog·y·ny
məˈsäjənē/Submit
noun
dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women.

You have shown all of the above in your post.
Also a lot of the guys in this post have proven that they are incredibly prejudiced towards women.

BeastOfNoNation:


Please read : "A woman came from a man's rib. Not from his head to be superior. Not from his feet to be trampled on. But from his side to be equal."

BeastOfNoNation:


The problem lies in the environment you grew up in and not because women are physically and mentally incapable of being independent. I don't understand the kind of science teacher you had that would fail you if you said women were equal. Also as for that number four, I have never been in ONE situation where that is the case. It's always the other way round and the reasoning is always that women are the ones to take care of the household and make the man comfortable. Is it right? You and your wife will both be working for the entire day, you both finish at the same time, get home at the same time, you get to relax but your wife's work hasn't finished. She will still cook for you, clean the house for you, take care of the children, and other 'housewife' duties. Would it not be fair to share both the responsibilities. As long as we are all human beings, we are 50/50

BeastOfNoNation:


Of course intellectualism is part of the traits that are appealing in guys but it doesn't seem to be the other way round in regards to women

And I also don't want to think Hollywood because it's not reality. There are many women who work and have good relationships and marriages. I have a question for you too. would YOU prefer a girl who is smart and goals-driven or would you rather feel dominant in a relationship where the girl is emotionally and financially dependent on you?

*Heads up. I'm not attacking you at allll! just curious to know your answer

cruzyteejay:


and what made you think that the rib is inbetween the leg and head......why didn't they come from the waist?

tommychow:


WHAT?! Sharp guys know the value of intelligent women. We know the value of simply talking and falling into the depth of the persons mind.

Yeah, nowadays there are loads of hustling women. I'm happy for them not only because they're making their money but because they are more respectable. They attract only equally respectable men, the fake guys get intimidated easily.

Good question. At this stage of my life I can't be dating a financially dependent chick. About being emotionally dependent, both parties have to be or else it won't feel like a relationship. Although, males tend to be more sexual than emotional unlike females. So I'll say, a working, ambitious babe who's emotionally...and sexually () dependent on moi. Best combo!

Gimme your own combo.

cruzyteejay:




hello bae,you are just fighting a lost battle,i just hope you get married to a man that tolerate bullshit,cus if you don't,this your sense of reasoning will cost your life,the fact remains that men are the head,women are classified under nothing,it is only your man that will place you wherever is suitable depending on how you treat him,the saying that men are the head and women are the neck was just fabricated by your type(fellow feminist),do you even ask yourself why men are always physically stronger than women,so that they can cater for himself and his wife,women are there to keep men company as it was in the beginning though some of these have changed,all in the sense to make your type feel belonged buh you still sit down and type some scrap of irrelevant stuff that are very rare but always seen by you because of your character,a woman with good sense of reasoning will never this of equaling herself with her husband............you won't want to be a house wife but you will like to share the household duties because you now chose to work,though am not of the fact that women education ends in the kitchen but that is still the problem now,as we all know,women are naturally meant to keep the household in order,but they now chose to work like men which is not a bad idea but equally not an excuse to share the household duties

sonofananimal:
let assume we are misogynist, men just don't go haywire on women unless there is something involve, and that something involve is the way WOMEN behave toward the men. You people tend to misuse his good gesture, seen him as opportunity to eat and go, and so on!

So why won't him turn to something else

And don't just tell me “because he his moving with the wrong woman ”

BeastOfNoNation:


He will turn to something else? Another man or animal abi wetin?

sonofananimal:
the something else he has turn to is the very same thing you don't understand, that's why you open a thread and name that thing you don't understand about men and why them change toward WOMEN. You called it “misogynist ”

BeastOfNoNation:


I've come to believe you're just a confused human being

Vinshu:
First of all.. this is what we, the feminists are fighting against. In the Nigerian environment there is discrimination against women. African men in general have the Alpha-like feeling that they are the boss of the boss.

And they present it in a way that women are lesser than they are. It's true. Even in the economy, the top positions in offices are run by Men, even major paying jobs are run by Men. Women are mostly traders (Petty) why?

All government offices are headed by Men. In fact I heard a news that a state in South East Nigeria appointed a Man to head women affairs. How long would this continue?

A guy does a favor for you, he expects a Mouth Action. Why?

They feel when they marry you they are doing you are favor. WTF?

If a girl express her feelings towards a guy she cares about.. she is cheap.

I was at an event last week and a guy requested my contact info and I was hesitant in releasing it to him then he offered me money. Why? Like I'm some LovePeddler? Most men have the idea that all women are prostitutes. .direct and indirect that we all love money. It's rude and disrespectful but who cares? It's Men's world.

A girl is raped they blame the girl for her dressing and no one blames the guy. Continue.. there is God.

No one cares about a girl's opinion in a conversation once 3 guys have spoken.. whether it's good or bad it's settled.

I do not blame these men because women are in the shadows. It's time to start fighting for our place in the society and stop feeding them that ego or giving them the chance to feel on top.

So @Op, not Nigeria alone. .it's everywhere.

If you want to get married make sure you use brute force.

BeastOfNoNation:


Why are you swearing anyhow? Did anybody swear at you? Besides, a feminist is someone who believes a woman can do what a man can do. So if you see a woman in power then that supports the idea of feminism. Nigeria is an oppressive society for women. It's not impossible to become successful but it's much harder than it needs to be.

sonofananimal:
what you don't understand, you called it confuse!

Just a low IQ YOU HAVE

BeastOfNoNation:


I feel likewise. You seem painfully stu.pid

BeastOfNoNation:


Okay. I agree 100% with your explanation. A relationship is a partnership based on mutual respect, emotional attachment, Sex (Before nko?), being each other's best friend, and GOOD TIMES

BeastOfNoNation:


George Orwell's Animal Farm was about communism........ and he was also a well-known feminist so your entire argument is invalid.