esosa993:




and if I don't??

CUMPOLICE01:
i reserve my reply

firstEVA:
it's a very shallow one sided post, just as there are un appreciative wives and girlfriends, same applies to siblings. It's myopic to make such conclusions based on one or two cases you've seen. Well, that's you.

RedBenson:
Well, i wouldnt like to bla bla bla too much but i would like to address issues as i may be able.

No woman, i repeat, no woman is seem to be a sure property to any man, not even your wife. Yes, you heard me well....i said not even your wife, yes the woman you paid dowry to and killed cows for the community to eat and celebrate. She's certainly not yours and may never be yours. We've had so many issues of this kind of situation and they will continue to happen till the end of time. Women are unpredictable and obviously will remain so till only God knows when such will stop. The very last encounter is a woman who married to a mechanic and the union has already produced 3 kids with the eldest starting JSSI this September. The mechanic husband took it upon himself to train her in the university and she gradauted. When she went to service, according information made available, till this very minute, her whereabout is not known again. Not like she was kidnapped or killed, but because she followed another guy and dumbed the sorry ass mechanic husband and kids behind. Well, such wasnt the first nor the second, third, fourth or will it ever be the last.
Girlfriends and wives dumb their partners regularly.

Now, imagine if all the resources spent in sending a girlfriend/wife to school were spent in sending a brother/sister, the impact that would've created in the family. Train him/her to become a medical doctor, lawyer, an accountant etc. He/she comes out and be gainfully employed, the impact wont just be created on you alone who trained him/her, but to the family, the community and the society. As he is your brother/sister, the status remains same till death come calling. If it's well with him/her financially, it will be well with you as well. Even when you go broke, he/she will sure be there to support you and make sure your challenging moment does not last for long. I will post a further link to prove my point in this regard. What am i saying? Your brother or sister is the right channel to make that investment. Guys, wise up and stop spending your money on that lady/woman. She's not yours and may forever not be yours. Invest and groom that your brother/sister especially the he/she who has interest in education and bring him/her to appreciable level that the society will now appreciate him/her while he/she works and contribute his/her quota to the national/community development. Women are just there for their selfish interest and will sure dumb you once a better option seems to show up. But your brother/sister will forever remain your brother/sister.

This is something i learnt recently and therefore decided to bring it to the knowledge of those who may not think in this direction.

Well, a word is said to be enough for the wise.

I'm out of here!

esosa993:
as much as I support male folks, the hatred direct to ladies on nairaland is quite alarming and scary, the romance section is just full of bitter people and misogynists. its getting out of hand.

Chidexter:
Hmm op i just dey laugh you in 3d.
You can go ahead and marry your sister or brother then.

To buttress this your pointless point, you decided to fabricate a story of a woman who married a mechanic and couldnt be found after the said mechanic husband trained her to university level,...... Now this said woman you're saying couldnt be found, all of a sudden you said she followed another guy.

Abeg how you take know?.
too much nollywood don format your brain.

Infact this your writeup has so many leaks even more than Nigeria's oil pipeline.

RedBenson:


So in your consideration, the female (sisters) that i urge to be given more attention in training are not ladies? Are ladies only referred to wives?

esosa993:






I am talking in general the hatred on the romance section towards women is too much , I was in a thread where some guys supported rape and even said ladies should be killed cos we don't deserve to live,this section is very tiring ...
..some of you would have girl child later in life, will you be happy if your daughter ends up with a man who doesn't take care of her?

RedBenson:


Well, whether we'll have daughters or not, let's allow ourselves to be judged by the circumstances we've come across in the hands of women. Simple!

RedBenson:


Well, whether we'll have daughters or not, let's allow ourselves to be judged by the circumstances we've come across in the hands of prostitutes. Simple!

chiboy429:
Please redbenson. I have followed ur other thread sent you a pm but you havent replied since then this is my contact 08182161527 ,add me on watsapp ,need your help thanks waiting for reply.

ambient:
op is a big liar families in nigeria are the ones that pull thier brother down not the wife or a girlfriend .once you start making money your family stop seeing you as thier brother/son they start seeing you as an avenue to get money.imagine my fiance relatives only comes to visit when they need money his brother demended that he put him on monthly allowance.for them he is now a gold mine.God save us from this nigerian mentality.

RedBenson:


So the one you've been syphoning and hoarding for yourself, you wont dare mention those ones. Btw, if he is gone broke now, no one will see your brake light near him again, but the brothers and sisters will sure still be there for him.

Abegi, wetin we never see for this country.

PinkBarbie:
Big trash!

Balderdash!!

Guys don't be so silly to buy this preposterous idea. When you get married, your wife is now your direct family. She comes first before your parents and siblings. That's what it means to leave your father and mother and be joined to another.

Note: your wife not your girlfriend. Even though there's nothing wrong about spending on your girlfriend.

lifeisabitch:
you have still not corrected the dumb to dump, you must be very dumb

wristbangle:
OP in as much as I bash gold digging ladies, I will not succumb to maltreating your wife whom is your direct family while others must come second. The example of a mechanic and a graduate comparison is outrageous bro.

Marriage is different from relationship. Even in relationship u have to spend something on ur lady no matter how little it maybe.

wristbangle:
OP in as much as I bash gold digging ladies, I will not succumb to maltreating your wife whom is your direct family while others must come second. The example of a mechanic and a graduate comparison is outrageous bro.

Marriage is different from relationship. Even in relationship u have to spend something on ur lady no matter how little it maybe.

ERCROSS:

broh, r u really serious abt putting ones wife above ones parent

RedBenson:


Is that my madness or what? When did it start?

RedBenson:


So the one you've been syphoning and hoarding for yourself, you wont dare mention those ones. Btw, if he is gone broke now, no one will see your brake light near him again, but the brothers and sisters will sure still be there for him.

Abegi, wetin we never see for this country.

ambient:

yes i do spend his money and he do spend mine but the difference is that i always find ways in which we maintain our comfortable status not when dere is no money the only thing you will be hearing is 'e go better' anyway you sound bitter.

RedBenson:

So the one you've been syphoning and hoarding for yourself, you wont dare mention those ones. Btw, if he is gone broke now, no one will see your brake light near him again, but the brothers and sisters will sure still be there for him.
Abegi, wetin we never see for this country.

RedBenson:
Well, i wouldnt like to bla bla bla too much but i would like to address issues as i may be able.

No woman, i repeat, no woman is seem to be a sure property to any man, not even your wife. Yes, you heard me well....i said not even your wife, yes the woman you paid dowry to and killed cows for the community to eat and celebrate. She's certainly not yours and may never be yours. We've had so many issues of this kind of situation and they will continue to happen till the end of time. Women are unpredictable and obviously will remain so till only God knows when such will stop. The very last encounter is a woman who married to a mechanic and the union has already produced 3 kids with the eldest starting JSSI this September. The mechanic husband took it upon himself to train her in the university and she gradauted. When she went to service, according information made available, till this very minute, her whereabout is not known again. Not like she was kidnapped or killed, but because she followed another guy and dumbed the sorry ass mechanic husband and kids behind. Well, such wasnt the first nor the second, third, fourth or will it ever be the last.
Girlfriends and wives dumb their partners regularly.

Now, imagine if all the resources spent in sending a girlfriend/wife to school were spent in sending a brother/sister, the impact that would've created in the family. Train him/her to become a medical doctor, lawyer, an accountant etc. He/she comes out and be gainfully employed, the impact wont just be created on you alone who trained him/her, but to the family, the community and the society. As he is your brother/sister, the status remains same till death come calling. If it's well with him/her financially, it will be well with you as well. Even when you go broke, he/she will sure be there to support you and make sure your challenging moment does not last for long. I will post a further link to prove my point in this regard. What am i saying? Your brother or sister is the right channel to make that investment. Guys, wise up and stop spending your money on that lady/woman. She's not yours and may forever not be yours. Invest and groom that your brother/sister especially the he/she who has interest in education and bring him/her to appreciable level that the society will now appreciate him/her while he/she works and contribute his/her quota to the national/community development. Women are just there for their selfish interest and will sure dumb you once a better option seems to show up. But your brother/sister will forever remain your brother/sister.

This is something i learnt recently and therefore decided to bring it to the knowledge of those who may not think in this direction.

Well, a word is said to be enough for the wise.

I'm out of here!