Hi everyone,

This is my predicament, have been dating this lady for almost two years now and anytime we want to have sex I usually don't have an erection. This is unlike me because usually I am very active when it comes to sex. Even when I watch a simple music videos I feel an erection in me. But anytime am about to make love to my fiancee, even if I had an erection it just goes down. Sometimes even when I succeed in having an erection it dies in the middle of the sex. We have never had a complete round of sex before. I thought something was wrong with me so I tried having sex with another lady and this didn't happen.

Please people I'm here because I need your help on what to do because am about to start marriage plans, but I don't want a marriage I will not enjoy or where I will be cheating outside. Please help me everyone including pastors in the house.

Thanks

This is something serious.

Since it worked on another lady (that's cheating by the way), I'd say you're fine. It's probably just in the mind.

Then continue with your Vaseline. You have a psychological issue

Dont get married now.
And stop includin pastors in every cause of sexuality. Jeez, dis nigerians nawaooo

You have a long-way to go in discovering ur true sexuality. Maybe Gay or transgender. Who knows.

Never mind everything else, I still can't get over the image of you getting an erection from watching a music video. LMFAO. So when the rest of us are mindlessly watching & not paying much attention, you on the other hand are getting freaky with it. Go on with your bad self.

how can this problem be solved? Because we are getting close to getting married.

Both of you are not sexually compatible.
You shouldn't marry her unless you don't care about sex at all.
Bye.

shay101:
Hi everyone,
This is my predicament, have been dating this lady for almost two years now and anytime we want to have sex I usually don't have an erection. This is unlike me because usually I am very active when it comes to sex. Even when I watch a simple music videos I feel an erection in me. But anytime am about to make love to my fiancee, even if I had an erection it just goes down. Sometimes even when I succeed in having an erection it dies in the middle of the sex. We have never had a complete round of sex before. I thought something was wrong with me so I tried having sex with another lady and this didn't happen.
Please people I'm here because I need your help on what to do because am about to start marriage plans, but I don't want a marriage I will not enjoy or where I will be cheating outside. Please help me everyone including pastors in the house.
Thanks

Premarital sex is a sin; it exposes humans to diseases and untimely death.

Well I feel sexual compatibility is the word.

Durentt:
Dont get married now.
And stop includin pastors in every cause of sexuality. Jeez, dis nigerians nawaooo

You have a long-way to go in discovering ur true sexuality. Maybe Gay or transgender. Who knows.

Interesting. He just stated he had sex successfully with another woman. Maybe u didnt read that. So what has that got to do with true sexuality?

It will pass when u get married. U only need to relax. And when u re married u will relax.

Is she clean/neat? Cos that could be a factor.

Op u and ur bae aren't s*xually compatible.... Aw would u make shay101 junior??

The attraction is not there, if you marry this lady u will regret in that marriage.

#justsayingtherawtruth

Then don't marry her pls unless u r ready to make her cry all tru d years and on ur part u r ready to cheat on her. One tin guys abi babes fail to understand is dat,a guy is always a guy and very hard to change. U hardly c a guy who changes for a gal, if u can't sex her means u don't love her. So y tinking of marriage? Sex has made and broken marriages oh

vfactor:


Interesting. He just stated he had sex successfully with another woman. Maybe u didnt read that. So what has that got to do with true sexuality?

You know sexuality changes over the period like weather changes. You can ask halfrica bcuz she's straight today, gay tomorrow, transgender in the night.


Thats life 4 u *Akara in the wheel of steam*

If you feel it will pass, have you been in such or do you know anyone that has been and how did he get over it?

Durentt:
You know sexuality changes over the period like weather changes. You can ask halfrica bcuz she's straight today, gay tomorrow, transgender in the night.


Thats life 4 u *Akara in the wheel of steam*

Pls use another example. Maybe scientifically reseached and confirmed case of changing sexuality. Don't even use caitilyn Jenner abeg! Those ones no follow.


However I don't think that's the case with this young man. His case is psychological impotency.

shay101:
how can this problem be solved? Because we are getting close to getting married.

In your own words,'i don't want a case where i'll cheat on her' Oga you've already cheated on her when you had sex with someone else to check if your d*ck still functions :-/.
Be honest with yourself,have you tried communicating with her?The problem is with you not her,You probably want to test the 'ENGINE'That's why you are so bothered by the SEX.
YOU ARE NOT QUALIFIED FOR MARRIAGE.

.serious issue...tell her whatsup man..

You can't marry her if you can "sunch" her

It may be a mind thing tho..

But if you can't find a solution, don't marry her..

Reallllyyyy

Oga Nicki this no be test engine matter if not I would have left her already. Psychology I think would probably be the answer in this casw

Oga Nicki this no be test engine matter if not I would have left her already. Psychology I think would probably be the answer in this case

Thunderbolt

Maybe you need to check out with your Doctor. And check your anxiety level, because before you start you might be thinking its going to happen again. I am going to get weak again. So you need to get that thought out of your mind. Or maybe is God telling you need to wait till marriage for Sex.

shay101:
Hi everyone,
This is my predicament, have been dating this lady for almost two years now and anytime we want to have sex I usually don't have an erection. This is unlike me because usually I am very active when it comes to sex. Even when I watch a simple music videos I feel an erection in me. But anytime am about to make love to my fiancee, even if I had an erection it just goes down. Sometimes even when I succeed in having an erection it dies in the middle of the sex. We have never had a complete round of sex before. I thought something was wrong with me so I tried having sex with another lady and this didn't happen.
Please people I'm here because I need your help on what to do because am about to start marriage plans, but I don't want a marriage I will not enjoy or where I will be cheating outside. Please help me everyone including pastors in the house.
Thanks

Do you get an erection_ when you imagine or fantasize having sex with her?

Op, I think it's caused by anxiety on your part.
If you don't want both of you to end up frustrated for the rest of your lives, don't marry her.

Decker:


Do you get an erection_ when you imagine or fantasize having sex with her?

No

LadyX:
Op, I think it's caused by anxiety on your part.
If you don't want both of you to end up frustrated for the rest of your lives, don't marry her.

How can that anxiety be curbed because have gone too far already

shay101:
No

But you get an erection when you see video vixens on music videos.....

Well, it's obvious you aren't sexually attracted to your girlfriend and it would be wrong to proceed into marrying her.

Leave your fiancee and find someone else who you are sexually attracted to and compatible with. Because there is no point in marrying someone you aren't sexually attracted to.

shay101:
How can that anxiety be curbed because have gone too far already

If you can have access to a s*x therapist, see one.

Op, do you feel that your fiancé understands you fully? Maybe subconsciously you feel that she will judge your performance. This might be due to something she said before. It might also be due to the fact that you didn't meet your own expectations on day one.

Ask yourself this question: Does your fiancé turn you on? If yes, what thought crosses your mind and makes your boy to sleep?