NoFearNYC:

Naija sha, na wah o!

What's all this testing BS? 2 people meet, they date etc, find each other sexually attractive and have sex - end of story. Are you guys only "test-driving" the ones that are husband/wife material? Nah, u Hot mofos are banging whoever you want, but think "test-driving" makes it sound better.

I respect those who choose to wait until they are married before having sex, they are called virgins(male or female). I also respect the choice of the rest of us, who are no longer virgins, but adults with healthy sexual appetites.

To each his own, if I were to give advice, I'd say marry someone sexually compatible. As for virgins, that's the virtuous gamble you are just going to have to take, hopefully, it will work out.

How many years una go dey "test-drive", PLEASE!

lmao. . . good question

NoFearNYC:

Nah, u Hot mofos are banging whoever you want, but think "test-driving" makes it sound better.

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sinners

Treetop20:

sinners

pretender

Treetop20:

sinners

I agree

Sex before marriage kills trust in marriage. Try and avoid it

ibkaye:

I agree

how u no go agree, pr

Oxone:

how u no go agree, pr

But it's the truth

ibkaye:

But it's the truth

truth ke, i don see pastor wey dey advocate sex before marriage o cos f her own experience, was shocked when i heard it 4rm her but saw reasons with her when i heard her story

So many marriages are either broken or have become a battle ground today because of the foundation they have created during their relationship period. marriage can only grow on 'trust' and 'love' both couple have for one another. you cannot sleep with your eyes close believing that your pause is not doing something funny out there when you fully know that during your relationship he/she lacks self-control to wait till you are married before having sex.

when you have sex before marriage, can go a long way in destroying your marriage because both of you will no more trust each other as far as sex outside marriage is concern. Just as what happen between you when you are not married can happen between your spouse and someone outside there. Waiting for sex before your marriage does not mean you don't have sexual feeling for your partner, but your self-control is what will help you and that can go a long way in saving your marriage in future. Is just like a father who has little income but rather than spending it on pepper soap in the restaurant, choose to be drinking gari to save some money for his children education which is his future. we too can reserve our pleasure for sex today for excellent and trustful marital life tomorrow.

Oxone:

truth ke, i don see pastor wey dey advocate sex before marriage o cos f her own experience, was shocked when i heard it 4rm her but saw reasons with her when i heard her story

To each his/her own, we live this life for ourselves, now as for me, I just don't believe in premarital sex

ibkaye:

To each his/her own, we live this life for ourselves, now as for me, I just don't believe in premarital sex

i suggest u start believing now cos of the problems that might rear its head later like premature ejaculation & the whole works.

u could be left battered, unsatisfied, bruised, sore all in the name of performing ur wifely duties cos u did not have the common sense to know who ur getting married to
there are lots of sick pple out there who will not get it up or enjoy sex except in the following situations
1. when the woman is raped
2. where some kinky scary stuffs is done during sex
3. they inflict pain on the woman
4. S&M

& so much more i cannot mention here.

As much as there are chances of such things happening, there are also chances of things working perfectly fine, I have enough faith to take such chances   

I have thought about the 'risks' of not sleeping with my boyfriend, fiance etc before marriage believe you me and after all the mind boggling thoughts, my choice still stands 

ibkaye:

As much as there are chances of such things happening, there are also chances of things working perfectly fine, I have enough faith to take such chances   

I have thought about the 'risks' of not sleeping with my boyfriend, fiance etc before marriage believe you me and after all the mind boggling thoughts, my choice still stands 

good luck with that, dont want a divorce & so am never going to take that kind of chance

Oxone:

good luck with that, dont want a divorce & so am never going to take that kind of chance

So you MUST sleep with your girl before getting married to her? What if she's like me in terms of her premarital sex beliefs?

ibkaye:

So you MUST sleep with your girl before getting married to her? What if she's like me in terms of her premarital sex beliefs?

who doesnt accept ur terms is not meant to be your husband

platinumnk:

who doesnt accept ur terms is not meant to be your husband

I feel you, though if the guy really loves the girl, it won't be easy for him to just forget about her and the possibilities of marriage with her due to her beliefs differing from his, same way it won't be easy for the girl to do the same, very tough decisions to be made

ibkaye:

So you MUST sleep with your girl before getting married to her? What if she's like me in terms of her premarital sex beliefs?

well if she's worth it then i will take the chance but if i find out she has issues, then the marriage is actually over (divorce)

have dated a gal like that b4 & i tell u sex was a nightmare for her no matter the amt of pre-intimacy. i know sex is not everything but its an important part of marriage. chikena

SeanT21:

Sex before marriage Is a sin. "Test Driving" or whatever crap u call is just a lame excuse. For all the men out there that use "Test Driving" as an excuse,cut the crap and tell us already. We all know U just want your d.i.c.k sucked.For all the females out there using "Test Driving"as an excuse also,STFU already. I can see right through your lame excuses.U just like the feeling of d.i.c.k.s in your mouth.CUT THE CRAP and KEEP IT REAL.

"TEST DRIVING" LMAO.

Real talk

Oxone:

well if she's worth it then i will take the chance but if i find out she has issues, then the marriage is actually over (divorce)

have dated a gal like that b4 & i tell u sex was a nightmare for her no matter the amt of pre-intimacy. i know sex is not everything but its an important part of marriage. chikena

Issues as in

it helps.

ibkaye:

Issues as in

ibkaye:

Issues as in

she couldnt get wet no matter the amount of pre-intimacy & hence sex was painfull for her.
its a medical condition called dyspareunia

Dyspareunia is painful sexual intercourse, due to medical or psychological causes. The symptom is reported almost exclusively by women, although the problem can also occur in men. The causes are often reversible, even when long-standing, but self-perpetuating pain is a factor after the original cause has been removed. It's a common condition that affects up to one-third of women at some point in their lives

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dyspareunia
http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/women/reproductive/sex-dys/669.html
http://chealth.canoe.ca/channel_section_details.asp?text_id=1601&channel_id=16&relation_id=27919
http://health.usnews.com/blogs/on-women/2009/05/19/6-ways-to-relieve-vaginal-dryness.html
http://chealth.canoe.ca/channel_section_details.asp?text_id=1601&channel_id=16&relation_id=27919
http://www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/40000154/
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/painful-intercourse/ds01044

Oxone:

she couldnt get wet no matter the amount of pre-intimacy & hence sex was painfull for her.
its a medical condition called dyspareunia

Dyspareunia is painful sexual intercourse, due to medical or psychological causes. The symptom is reported almost exclusively by women, although the problem can also occur in men. The causes are often reversible, even when long-standing, but self-perpetuating pain is a factor after the original cause has been removed. It's a common condition that affects up to one-third of women at some point in their lives

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dyspareunia
http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/women/reproductive/sex-dys/669.html
http://chealth.canoe.ca/channel_section_details.asp?text_id=1601&channel_id=16&relation_id=27919
http://health.usnews.com/blogs/on-women/2009/05/19/6-ways-to-relieve-vaginal-dryness.html
http://chealth.canoe.ca/channel_section_details.asp?text_id=1601&channel_id=16&relation_id=27919
http://www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/40000154/
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/painful-intercourse/ds01044

Someone does his research

So this is something to divorce your wife over? Ok o.

ibkaye:

Someone does his research

So this is something to divorce your wife over? Ok o.

well a good percentage of marriages ends because of this

but the truth is ofcourse i'll try everything within my power to resolve the issues medically but how long does a man have to wait to consummate his marriage & in some cases these issues are never fully resolved.

there has also been arrangements where the husband is allowed to sleep with other women cause of this
i'll rather divorce than cheat on her

Oxone:

well a good percentage of marriages ends because of this

but the truth is of course i'll try everything within my power to resolve the issues medically but how long does a man have to wait to consummate his marriage & in some cases these issues are never fully resolved.

there has also been arrangements where the husband is allowed to sleep with other women cause of this
i'll rather divorce than cheat on her

Alrighty mister.

I like the bolded line.

You're only human sha.

ibkaye:

Alrighty mister.

I like the bolded line.

You're only human sha.

So i tot

Oxone:

So i tot

Righty Ho SeOxone.

Your tongue is awfully long by the way

ibkaye:

Righty Ho SeOxone.

Your tongue is awfully long by the way

wait till i show you my talent

Oxone:

wait till i show you my talent

Roll it in and out? I can do that too, not much of a trick

ibkaye:

Roll it in and out? I can do that too, not much of a trick

haha, not that, i can see ur very naive
anyways dnt think i can say it here