ChappyChase:

Then babe its obvious you never read the op's point(na FTC battle you rush come do!) The op mention three points and if a girl is guilty of any of those points, she got no Right to right to ask for a "no sex Relationship"!!

Rapmoney:
I have never debated before, online or offline, on whether relationships should be free of love-making or not; I am not a moral teacher and I believe whoever that is 18 years and above, living in Nigeria is an adult by the laws of the land. This implies that I cannot judge whoever is of the opinion that relationships should go with love-making; in the same sense, I cannot give names to people who feel that love-making should never be part of relationships too! To each, his or her opinion!

At this point, it is important to note that it is very annoying to see how some ladies campaign for No-sex relationships without considering the level of the authority they use in campaigning for this. The truth is that you cannot be in Moscow and expect not to feel cold!!! Below are the categories of ladies that do not deserve a No-sex relationship:

1) Ladies who cohabit: How can you be staying with a guy and all of a sudden, you wake one morning to tell him that you want the relationship to be free of sex? Did you smoke grass? So what have you been thinking all these months/years? You think you can just convince him to lose what he has been 'eating' all these years just like that? Except you are breaking up if he disagrees; don't cohabit while thinking of No-sex relationship!

2) Ladies who depend on men for their daily resources: You want a No-sexie but you want to chop his cash? Demanding unnecessarily from guys surely makes you vulnerable to sex. You can ask sometimes from male friends when in need; after all, what are friends for? But you should not make it a favourite hobby! Ladies who do this do not deserve a No-sexie!!! There's no difference between the one that stands in brothels and you!!!

3) Ladies who do multiple dating: Don't you think it is very unfair to deny Akporode sex while giving that same stuff to Emeka? Most often than not, when some girls tell you that they want a No-sexie, it doesn't mean they are out of it. It could mean that they have stopped it with you and started it with someone else!!! A lady must prove herself worthy of it. Anything far from this should sincerely be seen as counterfeit! . If you have not been faithful in the past, how do we tell whether you would be faithful to the guy if he eventually agrees to the No-sex situation? You surely lack the authority to campaign for this. Trust is earned, it can never be commanded!!!

Sex is an important issue in a relationship which must be seen as one! Don't be too emotionally carried away that you would outrightly condemn it when you in person lack the authority or platform to do that! In law, they say 'He who comes to equity must come with clean hands'. In romance, they say 'He who comes to No-sexie must come with a good stand or authority to back it up'!!!

Let's call a spade a spade! Let's not call it 'that instrument that is used to dig the soil'!!!

Good evening everyone!

tmanuelle:


Yesooo, if she's guilty of all these, then she's got no moral justification to demand for a no-sex relationship. Seconded

YourMain:

So you literally debated with me for zero reason.

YourMain:

No one is obliged to have sex. Man or woman. If the man doesn't want to, he doesn't have to. If a woman doesn't want to she doesn't have to. Regardless of any thing. If you've a problem with her demands tell her.

YourMain:


I didn't mean in the whole marriage. I'm just trying to express the point that a woman can refuse sex anytime she wants.

treazure1:

sounds like ur talking from experience...

ChappyChase:

Get Real my foot!!! You girls just want every thing your own way!!!!

MzPecs:

If you say so..
Happy sunday!

YourMain:


No one is obliged to have sex. Man or woman. If the man doesn't want to, he doesn't have to. If a woman doesn't want to she doesn't have to. Regardless of any thing. If you've a problem with her demands tell her.

Sincere4u:

I say so.
Happy Sunday to you too. Wishing you will one day come to see things differently in your own time and at your own pleasure.
It's not a forbidden fruit you know.

Lol

I know it's not!

Joy1706:
Toh! Continue deceiving urself na

MzPecs:

Don't get the OP wrong at that number 2 point.

You'll hardly find that man who will do things for you without asking for sex. On the other hand, demanding unnecessarily from a guy actually makes girl vulnerable to sex! After all, we sometimes do demand for things from our male friends buh making it an everyday thing for that guy thinking that you've caught a maga will make him demand for sex.

So your equating sex for financial gratification ain't applicable to the OP's point number 2.

ikp120:


Please don't say you can hardly find "a man" who will give without asking for sex, rather say you can hardly find "a he goat" in human flesh who will give without asking for sex

neoapocalypse:


*tongue out*

I completely understand your point and for genuine love I would never trade sex for money , nothing should be traded for the other and there should be respect for one another. But we guys know when a girl isn't genuinely in love with us ( at least most of us guys know ) and only using us for money , I think the op is referring to these kind of girls

Innu:






Now I got the missing link which perhaps is the cause of this debate/discuss albi initio: Genuine and true communication riding on the back of mutual respect which to me translates to LOVE, JUSTICE and PEACE.

halfrica:



It is the girls right to stay away from evil niggas u just mentioned


I prefer to b single for life dan b with u evil guys


The girls are just never good for u!!!!!!!

MzPecs:

Lol

I know it's not!

lahit14:


Ok hun, let's be clear on 1tin, am not an evil guy, as much as I hate to blow my own trumpet, I tink am one of the very gud guys. Evry relationshp is give n take, tit for tat, quid pro quo, whether its companionshp u want, care, love, money, u'lld hav to giv somtin in return and it doesn't necessarily hav to be sex but just like the op said any girl dat indulges in those tins he mentioned has completely forfieted her right to a no sex relationship. And I agree!!! So c'mon bae be with me, will u. I giv u my word thr will be no sex!!!

Sincere4u:

I'm very glad you know and wish you should go on to desire it. It's a powerful force made by God that binds the world together and forms the bedrock of the family which is the smallest unit of any society.
It can never be overrated.

YourMain:


No one is obliged to have sex. Man or woman. If the man doesn't want to, he doesn't have to. If a woman doesn't want to she doesn't have to. Regardless of any thing. If you've a problem with her demands tell her.

halfrica:


I dont fuvkin care if u want no sex or u want sex
Goodbye

lahit14:


Well!!! U win some, u loose some.

YourMain:


What ? Are you dating a prostitute or a sex machine? You're in a relationship with her because you have feelings for her. It says a lot about her if her reward for whatever you give her is sex. Says a lot about you too. No offence but that's a really disgusting act.

MzPecs:

I hope you acknowledge the fact that it's meant for husband and wife?

Sincere4u:

Yes and I know you'll make a faithful wife based on your perception of it but it's in no way overrated. I hope you know that something that binds and ensures the success of marriages can't be overrated dear.

Okay, my bad..
It's not overrated

YourMain:


lol no im just disagreeing. theres so much more a woman has to offer than sex. and if shes not ready to have sex and youre in a relationship with her regardless of anything she has a right.

MzPecs:

Okay, my bad..
It's not overrated

ChappyChase:
And the toy go cuddle you when "it" dey fvck you abi?!

tosyne2much:
hahaha

YourMain:
B

No. It's not about the man. When a woman decides she doesn't want to have sex in a relationship she's not thinking " how can I cheat this man". It's probably due to her own emotional turmoil. It's unfair and blackmail in my opinion to then tell the lady she has no authority to deny you of sex because you buy her a few things...

In my opinion, if you love this lady, you wouldn't degrade her so much.