eniolaamoda:



U still don't get the point do u

All men love sex

The point is it is sex we want as reward

U grab

So I will do all d financing just gv me sex

Besides what else can u gv me apart from dat

sweetgala:


Sex is not a necesity because you buy her things, in fact sex is not a a necesity in a relationship where an agreement is made and both individuals are comfortable with that resolve.

In such a relationship emotional desires are satisfied innotger ways, however we need to address the real issue which the OP has raised which is the weaponisation of sex.

In my most recent relationship, the was nonsex for 2 yrs after we meet. I had no problem with that, because our emotional commitment was strong

eniolaamoda:


Cc yourmain

Now let's say if the guy and girl are boyfriends
And d guy loves sex obviously all guys love sex and dat is an apex reward all guys thinks a lady should gv them for any favours or gift they gv a lady out of their way.

Now yourmain understand what I and neonapacalypce are talking aboutabout

It is okay to buy gifts from ur Gf if she does not ask for it.
Now let's not forget that this bf in question is d type that likes sex but because of his respect for ur no-sex relationship thingy he does not request sex from you.
Now is it not wrong to DEMAND things from him while u don't gv him what he will most likely DEMAND from you.

If such is d case then I suggest nobody DEMANDS from each other except both parties are willing just to gv something to each other on freewill.

If u will demand money from me without me not free willing giving it to u,den I shall demand sex from u without u not wanting to free willing give me,

And please your main don't come here and bore us with the lecture of "so is it sex you want as a reward or sex should not b ur reward u r worth more than that,pls we r guys and hell yeah sex is our reward"


Now back to the reason why I quoted u both

Let's say the boy has been giving the girl what she demands without asking for sex yet the guy is a sexfreak but bcus he respects the lady he does not ask of sex but yet he gives her gift from his willingly mind and he also goes out of his way to give the lady whatever she DEMANDS for.

Now let's say they are now married then the guy now wants a no-sex relationship marriage after they have given birth to a child or 2children.

And d lady wants sex but the guy sees no reason or for some emotion reason or some good reason best known to him wants a no-sex marriage relationship till they both die


Will u then call the guy selfish or wicked for not giving sex in d marriage?

neoapocalypse:


And we come back to the same point , I really would have helped her without cause but she was using the relationship as a bargaining chip which is very wrong , I value honesty more than love , I would rather date a girl who is completely honest with me and doesn't love me rather than one who loves me but lies through her teeth to me.

IBROHIM:
no vex o! You be fish? Ur mouth is perpetually open!

Youngpo413:
none virgins don't deserve a "no sex relationship"after all what is there again..

kandiikane:
I don't understand why there are so many potential rapists in nigeria? Is it something in the water or food? If she still says no to all that rapmoney mentioned, will she be forced to have sex?

This should not have been on frontpage, it promotes ra.pe! Stop using money to attract women. I understand most of you don't have anything to show for yourselves when attracting a woman except the pittance you hang on a stick to pull in all these hungry girls but that does not give you the right to say what they can or cannot to do with their body.

eniolaamoda:



Am sorry but what would u rather consider a token of appreciation?? Reading d guy a lullaby??

U don't get it

A guy always considers sex a apex reward from whatever he gives a lady.

It in me
It in ur brother
It in ur father at least at some point in his adolescence or youthful age

It in all men abeg

Just know dat

neoapocalypse:


Hahaha , I was toying with her. But really a relationship shouldn't be about what you can get from it or what you're giving to it , compromises and sacrifices should be made by both people in the relationship. No role is attached to any gender and both should work for the benefit of the other and the relationship as a whole. No one should have the " upper hand" , when this happens it seizes to be a relationship.

If I'm in a relationship with a lady and she loses her job I should be able to take care of both our needs ( within my means ) , we prioritise what is most important to us as a couple and take care of those things first and she should be ready to do the same if the tables are turned. And like I said about roles , I'm not one to sit idle while my wife does all the chores in the house , who says I can't cook meals from time to time or even on a permanent basis if her work schedule is tight.
About sex , I really don't mean if she refuses sex then I don't do the things I ought to do financially , what kind of husband ( or boyfriend ) would that make me ?. I'll respect her wishes for not wanting sex at any particular time. I have heard of cases though where the wife always refuses to have sex with the husband , such a relationship definitely has issues and they should work on their issues.

treazure1:


If u say sex is an expression of love and I claimed that I love u but u refuse to av sex with me, how else do u want me to express my love for u?

YourMain:


There's other ways to express love. For example, when your girlfriend says she's not ready to have sex with you, respect her decision.

treazure1:


while she refused to respect mine!

YourMain:


What's your wishes? sex ?

Well in that case clearly yous are not working out.

treazure1:


According to you, sex is not a wish, is an expression of love...........anyway, all my girls are loyal. Am just not convinced with all your defensive tactics.

YourMain:

Lol convinced of what exactly ?

treazure1:


That it OK 4 my girl to say no to my expression of love.......lol

Sincere4u:

Most people's opinion except sister Mzpecs.

If you say so..
Happy sunday!

YourMain:

Then express it another way.

treazure1:


maybe I need a private lecture on that......

YourMain:


Yes! She is? What? Just because you have sex with someone doesn't mean you've to do it with another. It doesn't matter. If she doesn't want to have sex with you and you claim you love her. You'd let it go. And if you're not okay with then then leave her.

Btw you broke up with a girl you were happy with cause she wasn't a virgin... dude.

adanny01:


What have you said here that i didnt say in the comment you quoted.

Let me restress my point. Any girl who i propose a relatiinship to and she gives me no sex condition, i will withdraw my proposal immediately. I am not forcing neither should she give me conditions.

Think about if for a minute, if she gives me that condition , will she accept my condition for looking for sex elsewhere? What kind of relationship will that be. Besides i never asked her for a sexual relationship so she should not tell me no sex. Its plain ridiculous.

If i really love her and she tells me no sex and gives me reasons while we are dating, i will understand but a girl cant accept my proposals on condition. No way!

YourMain:

Ask your gf

lahit14:


This is why some ladies will get beaten up oneday or raped for dat matter. Hope neva to meat a 1bar joyed dude wit this ur idea, it might not end well.

YourMain:


Lol okay. Withdraw your proposal. Let a good girl go because you're unwilling to stay without sex.

YourMain:


So you literally debated with me for zero reason.

deathmen12:
Even daddy chrismas we dy pay 2 see dem dis days

Joy1706:
She's got no right? On top her own body? Get real abeg