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Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 10:11pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Truckpusher: |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 10:12pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
SINNZ:Really? Are you a Nigerian? I didn't tell anyone Pele! |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by SINNZ(m): 10:16pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
daretodiffer: Haba, is it cos I said you're the smartest muslim girl I know? Ofcourse I'm Nigerian. I'm sinnzu. So how many monikers have u switched since Insidous? |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Truckpusher(m): 10:33pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
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Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 10:36pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by tempix: 10:38pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
You brother is just capitalising on what isnt an issue. But sha thank God for Islam and my prophet. He clearly stated it that any woman should retain her maiden name anytime, anywhere......... I hope you people will take pain of reading this article and digest. Thanks in advance QUESTION> Many Muslim women take their husband’s last name (surname) when they marry. I have heard different views on this; some say it is Haram and others say it is necessary. I am confused and would like to know the correct Shari’ah ruling on the matter please? <ANSWER> In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful, A wife adopting the last name (surname) of her husband upon marriage is neither unlawful (haram) nor required in Shari’ah. As such, both positions – i.e. to say it is haram or that it is necessary – are incorrect and extreme in one way or another. In order to understand this issue properly, it is important to first realize that one of the central aims (maqasid) of Shari’ah is the preservation of one’s lineage (nasab). It is unlawful and a major sin to change one’s lineage and ascribe one’s self to other than one’s biological father. Many texts of the Qur’an and Sunna mention this explicitly; for example: Allah Most High says, “… And He [Allah] did not make your adopted sons your [real] sons. That is [merely] a word uttered by your mouths. And Allah says the truth and He shows the [right] way. Call them by [the name of] their [real] fathers; It is more equitable in the sight of Allah. And if you do not know their fathers, then they are your brothers in faith and your friends…” (Qur’an 33: 4-5) Continue here...........http://jamiat.org.za/wife-changing-her-last-name-after-marriage |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 10:38pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
SINNZ: Yes! How much are you willing to pay for the information? |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by SINNZ(m): 10:43pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
daretodiffer: Not a dime It'll only prove to me that you are whom you say you are. C'est fini. |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 10:44pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
SINNZ: How so? |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by SINNZ(m): 10:48pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
daretodiffer:I know a few of her (insidous) older monikers . A lil birdie told me. |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 10:54pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
SINNZ: That would be me Or Jacksparrow |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by AfroKnight: 10:55pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
You brother should realize that this is just the beginning. He will still make more concessions in this marriage. She is probably doing this not out of disrespect for her fiancé but out of respect for her late father. If they cannot agree on this issue, then they should place the wedding preparations on hold. A person's identity is very fundamental and the decision to bear any name should not be taken lightly. He should consider her cos she's the one to bear the name. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by SINNZ(m): 10:59pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
daretodiffer: Definitely not you or Mr Stfu. I've got a feeling you've got reservations. Well if you do then forget about it. Forget we even spoke. |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 11:06pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
SINNZ: About what? Who? You are allowed to whisper |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by poshestmina(f): 11:09pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
No big deal.I am not dropping my surname when I get married too |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by SINNZ(m): 11:16pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
daretodiffer:So u know about "whispering" too? . Anywayz.. I whispered. |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by SINNZ(m): 11:26pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
daretodiffer:kindly wipe out "yandex" n replace it with gmail. Can't seem to login that acct. |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 11:28pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
SINNZ: Okay |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 11:29pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
SINNZ: There is no email address |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by SINNZ(m): 11:35pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
daretodiffer:Whisper. |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 11:36pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
SINNZ: |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by SINNZ(m): 11:40pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by tpiar: 11:40pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
tempix: it depends on which line is traced- the mother's line or the father's I guess. |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 11:41pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
SINNZ: Okay |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by SINNZ(m): 11:45pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
daretodiffer: |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by NemzySeries(m): 11:49pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Estharfabian:Mitcheeeeeeew.....apart frm d *a55hole* U've not made any sense as far as masef & orda NLanders are concerned.....seems U've not read d part bible said a man & woman wud leave deir parents & start a family of deir own? So y carrying ur fada along? |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by NemzySeries(m): 11:52pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
If u can't accept ma name as urs & urs alone den kip ur luv & wife material to ursef....after all itz called Marriage not attendance |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by NemzySeries(m): 11:58pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
daretodiffer:Dis is africa specifically nigeria....wat happens in Belgium stays dere....... |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by NemzySeries(m): 11:59pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
daretodiffer:Dis is africa specifically nigeria....wat happens in Belgium stays dere.......but in as much as ure here u must bear d name |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 12:01am On Dec 15, 2015 |
NemzySeries: This is Nigeria And where I come from, there is nothing like surname. What we have is ‘Jane Doe' the daughter of this, the wife of that, the lover of this, the mother of that |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 12:01am On Dec 15, 2015 |
NemzySeries: Must? Are you okay at all? |
Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 12:01am On Dec 15, 2015 |
NemzySeries: This is Nigeria And where I come from, there is nothing like surname. What we have is ‘Jane Doe' the daughter of this, the wife of that, the lover this, the mother of that |
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