Op if nurturing the girl will be devoid of sex then he should go ahead but I doubt if your friend will be able to maintain that clause.

dubemnaija:


8yrs difference, a pedophile?

Just googled this:
Pedophilia or paedophilia is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children, generally age 11 years or younger.
[1][2] As a medical diagnosis, specific criteria for the disorder extend the cut-off point for prepubescence to age 13. [1] A person who is diagnosed with pedophilia must be at least 16 years of age, but adolescents must be at least five years older than the prepubescent child for the attraction to be diagnosed as pedophilia(1.Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders 5th edition.2.Classification of Mental Behaviour and Oral Disorders 2014)-This means that even an age difference of 8 years is not too small for paedophilia.And although I feel the girl is very young but scientifically a 16 year old girl going out with aN adult is not paedophila.(No be me talk am na d people wey introduce the term talk am)

She if na ur sister you go support the guy!

dubemnaija:
My friend is 24, a graduate, and does a fairly paid job. He recently started wooing a 16-yr-old SS2 student through her aunt (The girl lives with her mom's sister). According to him, he wants to nurture this girl probably for marriage .

He told me about it today and I was stunned. He said he wanted to get as many advice as possible, so he'd know the next line of action to take..

dubemnaija:
My friend is 24, a graduate, and does a fairly paid job. He recently started wooing a 16-yr-old SS2 student through her aunt (The girl lives with her mom's sister). According to him, he wants to nurture this girl probably for marriage .

He told me about it today and I was stunned. He said he wanted to get as many advice as possible, so he'd know the next line of action to take..

it is a good thing though he possibly has a good intention but does he know what the girl can become. i have seen cases of guys nurturing ladies for marriage and after school the girl will marry someone else? what will he do if such thing happen to him. what you guys are forgetting is that everyone has a mind of him/her own. you may think she is young but she may be sharper than a 30yrs old girl. just tell your friend to go for his age mate not a girl that will get to school and may likely change.

drinkmorewater:
The hypocrisy surrounding under age dating is alarming.


When we were teenagers we dated teenagers and had mind blowing and unprotected sex, yeah I said it!

How much more less a adult who wants to do the same and even has plans to marry.

This topic is too broad due to religious, modern societal views and traditional views.


While I won't encourage my sister to do this, I would rather want to know any adult dating her and tell him to keep it in his pants if possible. I mean what else can I do? shoot him?

To answer your question if he wants to date her, he should prolly do it on the down low and no sex allowed unless if ...


Like I said its to complex

Just let the guy treat the girl like his sister first before thinking of her as a girlfriend


That's all I got!

Behold, the wise one has ressurrected, King Solomon of Ancient Hebrews

I don see plenty guys wey don nurture bebs for marriage wey d thing later no work out based on say d girl come later upgrade pass d guy, na there you go begin here things like :him mouth d smell, him get body odor wey pass he-goat own etc.

dubemnaija:
According to him, he wants to nurture this girl probably for marriage .

Preposterous! That's how they create problems for themselves.

Nuture wetin, na Dog?

eheeen is it bad...I met my husband when I was 18 and he was 44..today we are very happy.

quiinnBee:
tell him he's a paedophile

Most of you here your mother's got married at a very tender age does that make your fathers paedophiles?
And for those saying ''8yrs difference'' some of you are guilty of worse, ladies btw the ages of 19 - 23 going out with men above 40 what do u call this one?#NotInSupportThough

Adaeze003:


you wouldn't know how much I tried not to curse him... it's really irritating what some of these guys and even men do these days.

u sound bitter on this issue asif its a 10 years old girl and a 30yrs old.
truth is a 16years old is nt a kid any longer and they look 20 dese days as long as they are capable of getting pregnant
he has good intentions of norturing her to be ripe for marriage by following dues process nt molesting her and am sure if he nurtures her for marriage and she gets to 21 and dey later become happily married u will kp ur mouth shut
if you're bitter that guys dnt approach u , dnt put it on d girl cos u sound like someone that was heartbroken
NOW GO BACK TO THE KITCHEN!!

if only d guy is a muslim somebody here will be talking about sex slave

Abeg ask am whether he wants to be d gal's nanny or daddy's daycare

quiinnBee:
tell him he's a paedophile

the age difference is 8years

The girl I intend to marry is 14 younger. If una no like am go and die. Most of these big ones are outdated and have wasted away with sex and abortion, na me go come kee myself? I do what I like. They have done what they liked

jordanriverz:
eheeen is it bad...I met my husband when I was 18 and he was 44..today we are very happy.

God bless you ma
am sure if he nurtures her for marriage and they are later happily married none of these NLanders opinion will matter, so let him follow his heart asfar as d girl understands.
let other girls wait till time is no longer on their side(40yrs) b4 dey get married nw.

I thought it is the usual stories we hear; a 67yr old defile his 7yrs old daughter. I have a problem with d girl's age. Because for me at age 24 I was waiting for my NYSC call up letter. So u can imagine how many Kitty I can smitten if I want to. My advice, the guy should leave the girl alone let him roll with at least 20-21that is if he is not a true Christian.

quiinnBee:
tell him he's a paedophile

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At which age did you start chasing men around ? Hypo

dubemnaija:

8yrs difference, a pedophile?

Dat is not the issue the issue is dat the girl is UNDER AGE.

Toks2008:


I bind every form of monitoring spirit by fire in Jesus name...Ada abeg kpa chara n yagi.

Bros, dis your comment caught me off guard- I almost fell from the seat.

quiinnBee:

are you seriously asking me that? a girl in ss2.

Are they not 20yr old students inSS2...

zinaunreal:
The girl I intend to marry is 14 younger. If una no like am go and die.

lol bros abeg send me ur number
I dy feeel you die
nobody matters when it comes to love

I was 16 when I started dating.. My first boyfriend was 24.. Although I was already done with sec sch.. Guys my age then were acting like babies and i needed a more mature mind. I never had sex with my first bf

jordanriverz:
eheeen is it bad...I met my husband when I was 18 and he was 44..today we are very happy.

Chiiiisos!! 40-wetin?

Every thing na friend for nairaland. These friends of u people are they not nairalanders? Bck to topic. By the time the girl acquire admission after her year one. Ask ur friend bobo how far for that girl nah? U will hear stories that touch the bottom part of the heart.

i feel like bitting his ear

[size=18pt]That was the age that famous Nollywood actress Omotola Jalade gave her virginity to Captain Ekeinde.[/size]

zinaunreal:
The girl I intend to marry is 14 younger. If una no like am go and die. Most of these big ones are outdated and have wasted away with sex and abortion, na me go come kee myself? I do what I like. They have sone what they liked

words from a man with low self esteem.. For you to prefer a girl of 14 years younger than you are with these your reasons goes a long way to say that you are a coward and cannot take up responsibilities or challenges.. You want a woman that you can control because you are weak and cannot earn your respect as a man. You want respect by force.. Oga earn it and stop being weak

Siena:


It doesn't matter what class she's in. She's 16. If a 20-year-old girl was in SS2, and a 28-year-old guy asked her out, does that automatically brand him a paėdophile?

*Sigh*

Hmm... Oga Siena. Old- timer and auto guru. Long time.

LadyX:

Bros, dis your comment caught me off guard- I almost fell from the seat.

That moment when someone mentions you on a thread you never commented on or even knows it exists abeg help me judge the matter.

Abelejayan spotted

JustHere2Observ:

Then my man who is 7 years older than I am is a pedophile

pls help me ask dem ma men scarce for those girls side dats why