NEVER!!!!
I'm a humanbeing, I deserve a good life and fulfillment.I can't just sit at
home like a ninny just because my hubby says so.Where was he when
my parents were toiling day and night just to ensure that I am educated?
If I were not, he wouldn't even consider me as good enough for his wife.

Tell me, what's the use of a formal education, if I wanted to end up a
fulltime housewife? why bother myself studying all these years if
I wanted to end up sitting at home all day, waiting for Oga to come.
What a boring lifestyle, quite unfulfilling.Over my dead body.

Though my I love my family, I can never sacrifice my career.There's a plcae
for the family, there's another for career.The children would all leave me for
good, so I have to make myself happy.

Beyond ridiculous. So the women (and in some cases, men) who give up their jobs and share their lives with their children full time BECAUSE THEY WANT TO are less than human beings?
Purleeze!

NEVER!!!!

I'm a humanbeing, I deserve a good life and fulfillment.I can't just sit at
home like a ninny just because my hubby says so.Where was he when
my parents were toiling day and night just to ensure that I am educated?
If I were not, he wouldn't even consider me as good enough for his wife.

Tell me, what's the use of a formal education, if I wanted to end up a
fulltime housewife? why bother myself studying all these years if
I wanted to end up sitting at home all day, waiting for Oga to come.
What a boring lifestyle, quite unfulfilling.Over my dead body.

Though my I love my family, I can never sacrifice my career.There's a plcae
for the family, there's another for career.The children would all leave me for
good, so I have to make myself happy.

chaircover:

People seem to generalise housewives as being totally dependent on their husbands financially and wasting their education.

Not always true and one can be a housewife and still run a successful business from home.

I personally dont like the ides of a woman being totally dependent on a man even if he was the richest man on earth. It diminishes the woman's self esteem and the husband gradually loses respect for her. It also sends a wrong message to the children who grow up thinking that women are supposed to be kept.

the husband gradually loses respect for her?

SeanT21:

A lady with a career can also do that. Stop making lame excuses!!

JustGood:

So much for the inexperience displayed on here.

Please come back tell us THE TRUTH about it when you get married.

JJYOU:

you know i will gladly give you my granny for marriage for this.

visplace:

No i will not, GOD forbid. after spending 4yrs in the university. i like to do my own things at my own time. not if i want 2 buy things, or send money 2 my people, i will announcing it, by begging him 2 give me some money.

Mazi:

@visplace

What did the God you are calling on to forbid, create the woman for?

chaircover:

From experience, I find that men respect women who add valuable input into the relationship.

Yes looking after hubby & kids as a housewife is recognised as “valuable input into the relationship” but there are a lot of career women out there who seamlessly combine both.

So are women who can combine both not more of a better asset to the husband & family as a whole?

We are all different and have different strengths & weaknesses. Some women are unable to combine both career & family and one or the other suffers; in cases like this they need to take stock and decide on the best way forward. Ideally family should always come first.

Some women perform better when they have a variety of roles in & outside of the home. I certainly fall into that category and even though my husband can afford to “keep” us I prefer to work part time. My housework gets done and I still manage to spend quality time with my kids and husband & put something in the family purse.

Personally I couldn’t imagine being in a position of having to ask my husband for money every day & watch my husband work his ass off & come back from work late & stressed just to “keep” us. I love him too much for that.
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Chaircover, are you talking mainly abt the nigeria setting? because i don't think women ask men for money where i live. they have access to it  .

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zaliya:

this is ridiculous

JJYOU:

  mmmmmmmmmmm u wish u waz right. always nice to hear the sensible minority on matters like this.  some people cant believe one size dont fit all.  it is money and money alone that decides everything. mostly agree. always so good to hear common sence on these matters

apreshe8:

I would advise any married woman living in naija to have at least a source of income, if you must be a stay-at-home mom.Been a stay-at-home mom isn't just about twiddling your thumbs doing nothing! Cooking, cleaning, washing etc takes time and energy, granted, but pls have a source of income.   My reason for this is because you might find yourself in a situation whereby, you would need money(for a lot of things, your folks: parents and siblings inclusive might need ur help) and your husband might not be able to afford it at the time. If you have to sell recharge cards at home please do it, cos for all those saying "it is our money", someday the song would change to, why are you wasting money on frivolous things?! Men sometimes percieve women as been frivolous, we need to pamper ourselves once a while, get a pedicure, fix a weave and most of all pamper your children!
The proverbs 31 woman wasn't totally a housewife without a source of income and most woman aspire to be that woman!
Lets not raise the argument of the in-laws who think every good thing you do stems from their son's money! Every family gathering is used to scrutinize whether their son's finances haven't been depleted due to your excessive life style(real or imagined), no matter how rich he is!
If as a woman, your family needs your undivided attention then please think of a source of income that would keep you relatively independent.

Theblessed:

Well, if I wasn't right, I challenge you to count the number of people on here who said 'No' to the idea of full-time Housewifery and cookie bakeries then, let us know the result. That way you will know you are backing the loosing horse.  The whole thing boils down to WORK LIFE BALANCE - balancing motherhood with your own self esteem, ok.

JJYOU:

you make me see why  nigeria will always have polygamy and mostly weak and struggling relationships.  religious societies are supposed to have strong marriages not nigeria where everyone is wired to think or have plan B just incase.  

zaliya:

Message to housewives,

Hey, hurry up, the kidz are soon gonna be back from school, sshhhhh, u've been on the computer (NAIRALAND) all day, remember u aren't yet done with doing the dishes, scrubbing the floor, washing the clothes, cooking, doing ur general housechores and guess what?

Hey, too bad Ur momsie ought to go back this evening.she's waiting all day for ur hubby. Just tell her to hold on a while more till 'Oga' comes back to give her some money. You know everything that's got to do wit ur family needs, 'OGA' must know o.

Fhemmmy:

Cos she is a housewife doesnt make her a house help, the kids can still do dishes, the husband can still take care of the laundry, all he has to do is dump them in the machine and take them out, you can still wait for the hubby to come from work and yu cook together {really sexy - u can get lucky in da kitchen too}
Once again, i think you are mixing being a househelp with being a bum, and there is a big difference.

apreshe8:

@ Fhemmy
The reasons you stated i agree with, but could be said to be extreme cases. The scenario i painted is that in which the woman would not want to feel overly dependent on the husband. If she has a need (no matter how flimsy or irrelevant) and her husband can't meet it at that time, and she also isn't financially independent then she is helpless! No one likes to feel helpless at least not me.
A woman can take a hiatus, take care of her kids below the age of 7years and afterwards get a job, but in the interim have a source of income, no matter how small!
@JJYOU
you make me see why  Nigeria will always have polygamy and mostly weak and struggling relationships.  religious societies are supposed to have strong marriages not Nigeria where everyone is wired to think or have plan B just in case
I think everyone the world over should have a plan B. Not with desperation but with the thinking that nothing lasts forever! The husband might not die but could become disabled ,God forbid! Also it's not only in Nigeria that there are weak and struggling relationships!