I see a bunch of ladies that fall into financial trouble after divorce because they were living of their husbands.

oyinda.:

nothing is broken down about uk societies either. maybe u meant single parent families.
IMO families with career parents are the most successful (with both parents involved in the upbringing of the child rather than leaving the task to just the mother).

women don't have the right to self fulfulment you mean? only men do?
imagine yourself dependent on somebody to do everything you need. even to buy sanitary pads or tampons u have to ask ur husband. that's a sad life to live IMO. some women prolly enjoy that but  

Outstrip:

My husband does not tell me anything. We discuss issues. I cannot see myself as a housewife but my kids are my primary responsibility. If my work happens to get in the way then bye to it.

oyinda.:

nothing is broken down about uk societies either. maybe u meant single parent families.
IMO families with career parents are the most successful (with both parents involved in the upbringing of the child rather than leaving the task to just the mother).

women don't have the right to self fulfulment you mean? only men do?
imagine yourself dependent on somebody to do everything you need. even to buy sanitary pads or tampons u have to ask ur husband. that's a sad life to live IMO. some women prolly enjoy that but

C2H5OH:

LOL IMO.   That really gave you a load of bonus points.  lol     alakori

IMO the guy is just trying to be a loving provider for his family

C2H5OH:

LOL IMO.   That really gave you a load of bonus points.  lol     alakori
IMO the guy is just trying to be a loving provider for his family


If you want to work go on ahead and work

oyinda.:

nothing is broken down about uk societies either. maybe u meant single parent families.

IMO families with career parents are the most successful (with both parents involved in the upbringing of the child rather than leaving the task to just the mother).

women don't have the right to self fulfulment you mean? only men do?

imagine yourself dependent on somebody to do everything you need. even to buy sanitary pads or tampons u have to ask ur husband. that's a sad life to live IMO. some women prolly enjoy that but  

SeanT21:

Who do u respect more?? A housewife or a wife with a JOB?? Will U not find it annoying when the women keep coming 2 u for all her needs?? Plus, what kind of lesson are U teaching your daughter(s)??

C2H5OH:

a good wife

after making so much money, u get back home one day and realise that the son (age 14) whom u have refused to train and give attention has been involved in a street fight and has stabbed someone else to death. You then ask urself, when did he start carrying a knife?
Or the daughter (age 15) tells u that she is pregnant. Then u ask urself, when did she start having sex?

In today's world, the man is expected to bring the food to the table, its not an ego thing, its just the norm. The lady should work if there is a need for it, not out of pleasure. Wealth, riches and career fulfilment are good and desirable but family values and peace are better earned.

oyinda.:

so housewives usually know when their daughters start having sex?? you're funny
if you are not homeschooling your children, then your argument holds no water.

nothing wrong with working while the children are away at school. it eliminates having to sit at home watching daytime tv operas (these tv series were actually created with housewives in mind lol ) and chatting with other housewives all day.

you get to make enough money to send your kid to better private school and live in a better neighborhood/ environment for the proper nurturing the children need than if only the husband was working

the only time I would want to be a "housewife" is right after the child is born for that year or two. because that's the period when it's hard to juggle career and children and children should always come first. when the child reaches school age, there really is no point staying home unless you're homeschooling them or something. are you going to be changing diapers when your child is 9 yrs?

another thing is housewives tend to have wayy more children than career parents (ex. average american family size versus typical naija family size)
maybe the women are too bored that they need new babies to keep them busy. lol

pls get with the times. that's in yesterday's world. in today's world, women are also expected to bring food to the table and that's the norm now
even in Naija when I stayed with my aunt for a short time, she wished she had a job throughout (mind you, the husband provided everything and even encouraged her job search) just because she didn't like how she had to breakdown what she needed money for throughout the day and the whole sitting at home watching tv and gossiping with friends while the kids were at school etc she was really bored to say the least

there is no one size fit all "family value" different stroke for different folks. even pastor's child with housewife mother is just as capable of becoming a teen mom or robber.

noetic2:

I believe I spoke in simple English.

A woman at home taking care of the children WHEN the husband earns enough income, helps to ensure the kids are well trained and preserve the family's peace.

Its all about choice.

oyinda.:

the average family isn't earning "enough" income. there are always opportunities to improve ones financial situation.
even obama's wife is a career woman. lol
but if I were married to a millionaire , . . hmm I wouldn't want to be a full time housewife but my work hours will be a lotttttttt shorter. lol so you got a point there
and yes, it's all about choice. some women enjoy being housewives some don't. it all boils down to choice I guess.

While the lady might feel fulfilled to be a career woman, there is bound to be neglect of the kids, the husbands/family needs are hardly met and the family's future/peace is threatened. At least this in my opinion is the basis for the broken society in UK today.

prittigrrr:

When I was married, I was a housewife. I also was a full time student. I loved being a housewife. I volunteered at my stepkids' school. I was in graduate school and I had time to manage the home and attend to my studies. On break, I would take a part time job, but most times, I only worked in the home. I volunteered at my church and stayed very, very busy. Most money came from my husband, but I was able to make pocket money doing a few things. I could easily go back to being a housewife because I know how to do a lot of different things. If I got bored, I could always open a home business or start working in my profession part time. However, I am glad I knew how to work and had experience and education since I ended up getting divorced. Even if a lady is a housewife, every woman should know how to work and provide for herself.

JJYOU:

sean, oyinda and co, do i get the impression you guys believe  money and being able to earn your own money = happiness and fulfilment?

mrsb:

This is very much a matter of personal choice.

In fact one of HSBC's current point of view ads uses a mum at home with kids all over her  - three pictures of the same lady/kids in the same homely setting - priviledge, sacrifice or role model?

For me, well I tried it in between having my kids and my husband and I both realised pretty fast that it didn't suit us as a couple. He fell in love with me as a feisty young independent woman and found me stuck at home with no motivation kind of a turn off. I felt totally worthless and called him a million times a day out of loneliness!! Plus I am no domestic goddess. Drove me crazy that I even had to ask for money to get a pedicure or grab a coffee etc.

It was great to be around a bit more for the kids and to keep an eye on the cook etc but for us as a family, we are all happy with me working. I have a kind of flexible job so I can make sure I am home first, can do kids homework etc. and if my husband needs anything during the day, I will juggle whatever is happening in the office to put him first. Luckily I have a clueless boss so can get away with murder. 

Omolola1:

yea right.

but i can't be an housewife, NO WAY! why did i go to school, why do i have my certificates? TO WORK! TO BE INDEPENDENT! and not to rely on any man! For God's sake, anything could happen.

oyinda.:

so housewives usually know when their daughters start having sex?? you're funny
if you are not homeschooling your children, then your argument holds no water.

nothing wrong with working while the children are away at school. it eliminates having to sit at home watching daytime tv operas (these tv series were actually created with housewives in mind lol ) and chatting with other housewives all day.

you get to make enough money to send your kid to better private school and live in a better neighborhood/ environment for the proper nurturing the children need than if only the husband was working

the only time I would want to be a "housewife" is right after the child is born for that year or two. because that's the period when it's hard to juggle career and children and children should always come first. when the child reaches school age, there really is no point staying home unless you're homeschooling them or something. are you going to be changing diapers when your child is 9 yrs?

another thing is housewives tend to have wayy more children than career parents (ex. average american family size versus typical naija family size)
maybe the women are too bored that they need new babies to keep them busy. lol

pls get with the times. that's in yesterday's world. in today's world, women are also expected to bring food to the table and that's the norm now
even in Naija when I stayed with my aunt for a short time, she wished she had a job throughout (mind you, the husband provided everything and even encouraged her job search) just because she didn't like how she had to breakdown what she needed money for throughout the day and the whole sitting at home watching tv and gossiping with friends while the kids were at school etc she was really bored to say the least

there is no one size fit all "family value" different stroke for different folks. even pastor's child with housewife mother is just as capable of becoming a teen mom or robber.