apreshe8:

Excellent analysis Chaircover, helps to understand the different reasons why some women choose to be housewives.
Though i would prefer the term stay-at-home mom.
Cheers everyone

Theblessed:

Well, if I wasn't right, I challenge you to count the number of people on here who said 'No' to the idea of full-time Housewifery and cookie bakeries then, let us know the result. That way you will know you are backing the loosing horse.  The whole thing boils down to WORK LIFE BALANCE - balancing motherhood with your own self esteem, ok.

What's whole point of making a ludicrous amount of money while your house is not in order

Fhemmmy:

I love that terminology, "stay-at-home" Mom.

The chaircover has been uncover again--- u too much jare.

~Sissy~:

@ skyone

and what is the guarantee that if she becomes a full time stay at home mom 24/7 that her household will be in order

like i said earlier, a good woman/wife will always be whether she's a stay at home mom or a working class woman, she will always know how to manage her home and her career and the bad ones will always exhibit it wherever they are, stay at home or working, it doesn't matter she will always be bad.

chaircover:

HouseWife Type 1
Husband is very rich
She doesn't work or own a shop or do any business
Tells her husband she is going to Dubai to buy Jewellery to sell but she doesn't sell any and ends up using them herself
Rarely supervises the cook or go to the market
Doesn't do any housework
Spends day in her friends shops, at the salon, gym, shopping, gisting
Does not contribute financially to the family purse

HouseWife Type 2
Educated
Got married, fell pregnant had a baby but decided not to go back to work after the baby because she didn't trust anyone well enough to look after her "new" husband
Does not contribute to the family purse

HouseWife Type 3
Works from home e.g. Fashion designer, Hat maker, bead maker, Caterer, Writer, Runs internet business etc
Contributes to the family purse

HouseWife Type 4
"forced" to stay at home by low esteem husband who is scared that other men in the office will maul his wife; after all that's what he does to his secretary's and all those young youth corpers serving in his office
The wife is resentful & nags at the husband every other day anyway.

HouseWife Type 5
Lazy and doesn't want to work. Spends all day on the phone chatting, gossiping and causing mischief.

HouseWife Type 6
Chosen to devote her life to her family for a period of time until the kids start school and can look after themselves.
Husband doesn't earn mega bucks but she chooses to cut her coat according to her size and downsize for a number of years until she can go back to work.

HouseWife Type 7
Victim of circumstance due to illness, redundancy etc

These are all I can think of for now

( over my dead body, never, i can never never, because i'm selfish, ).

~Sissy~:

@ skyone

and what is the guarantee that if she becomes a full time stay at home mom 24/7 that her household will be in order .

chaircover:

HouseWife Type 1
HouseWife Type 2
Educated
Got married, fell pregnant had a baby but decided not to go back to work after the baby because she didn't trust anyone well enough to look after her "new" husband
Does not contribute to the family purse

HouseWife Type 3
Works from home e.g. Fashion designer, Hat maker, bead maker, Caterer, Writer, Runs internet business etc
Contributes to the family purse


HouseWife Type 6
Chosen to devote her life to her family for a period of time until the kids start school and can look after themselves.
Husband doesn't earn mega bucks but she chooses to cut her coat according to her size and downsize for a number of years until she can go back to work.
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truly-opal:


I repeat if u cant b there 4 a child, simply dont give birth to it. just go and continue pursuing your career . Anyway not everybody is maternal, but the idea of having half baked motherhood can never be justified. A child that grew up with his mother always around him/her can never be thesame as a child whose mother is absent. simply because our mothers did motherhood/ carreers doesnt automatically make it right. Deep inside our hearts we wish they were there when we were growing up.Moreover the dilemmas a growing up child is facing today is a nightmare compared to when our mothers were bringing us up.Every normal woman wants 2 give her child more than her mother gave to her.
LET THE TRUTH BE TOLD

truly-opal:


I repeat if u cant b there 4 a child, simply dont give birth to it. just go and continue pursuing your career . Anyway not everybody is maternal, but the idea of having half baked motherhood can never be justified. A child that grew up with his mother always around him/her can never be thesame as a child whose mother is absent. simply because our mothers did motherhood/ carreers doesnt automatically make it right. Deep inside our hearts we wish they were there when we were growing up.Moreover the dilemmas a growing up child is facing today is a nightmare compared to when our mothers were bringing us up.Every normal woman wants 2 give her child more than her mother gave to her.
LET THE TRUTH BE TOLD

truly-opal:

This post has clearly shown us the type of family values the new generation Nigerians have.
Yes, i agree its not ideal for a woman to let her hard earned degree to waste, particularly in a country like ours, where numerous women dont hav d oppurtunities you have. But the issue is this, is the need to justify that hard earned certificate surpasses the moral integrity of your kids and the stability of your home?
Im not sayin a medical doctor shld stay at home and be a housewife.No, but she can work in an enviroment that will permit her flexibility to be there 4 her family particularly the kids that are young. The moment they get old enough (like secondary sch) u can chase the moon if u want.
There are certain circumstances where the need to work is absolutely necessary, that cant be argued, but if not
All d nigerian professional women that are shouting career over evrythin, were they not d 1st to drop that career the moment oga became gov/president/vicepresident, all in the name of giving him support. What happened to career or Gov. no fit die

SeanT21:

It is a wonder that most of these men here wants their wife to be a housewife. I have my reasons why but let me not say!!

JJYOU:

copy and paste how many men want their wife to be housewife.

*Shentz*:

doubt it too boring to solely stay at home fending for my family alone

SeanT21:

Unless I am generalizing 2 much but from many of the post I read most men seems to be in favor.

Fhemmmy:

Wont be boring, cos the man could be coming home for lunch and maybe have one for the road too.


I am yet to see a man that actually said, he wants his woman to be a housewife, we have just been talking about the pros and the cons.

Fhemmmy:

No human likes housework, just that it has to be done.
However, i think the relationship btw the man and the woman will determine how they get it done.
i think there is fun in sharing.

origina9ja:

make una see as phemmmy dey do gentle man now
i hope he is like this in real life