Smellymouth:
Tanx

MizMyColi:



Cut him some slack Bro.

He realised and made up for it.

It's worth commending.
If I were his girl and he shared this with me, I would be offended for a bit then come to forgive and cherish him more.

Nothing beautifies a relationship than when both partners can be themselves to eachother, irrespective of what a mess they think they are.

A relationship that's based on Openness, sincerity, trust and selflessness has always been a life long dream.
And I can certify that men like that really exist.‎

kaziblake:
35yrs
Are you married?
An harmless question,you don't need to reply.

luciouscookie:

I wonder why the girl no rape am. What kind of nonsense embarrasment is that one?

livinbygrace:


Yes my dear..

MRBrownJ:
@corperscorner
let me be the bearer of bad news, if you brought a gal home , "touched" her everywhere (possiby kiss her too) and undressed her fully, then you have already cheated bro!

if you believe that cheating is only when you penetrate someone then you are clearly mistaking....
here is a clue: would you allow your gf to be "touched" and undressed fully by some other dude, since it is not cheating?!

sashaa:
It shocking how men are talking down on the op instead of commending him.

@op, please ignore them. They are only envious of your self control which they themselves lack!

MRBrownJ:
@corperscorner
let me be the bearer of bad news, if you brought a gal home , "touched" her everywhere (possiby kiss her too) and undressed her fully, then you have already cheated bro!

if you believe that cheating is only when you penetrate someone then you are clearly mistaking....
here is a clue: would you allow your gf to be "touched" and undressed fully by some other dude, since it is not cheating?!

ClassCaptain:
Great stand.

But this will only be reasonable in a situation where the man is 100 percent sure of the loyalty of the girl..or at least to the extent of not commiting the same act elsewhere.

Imagine all this self control only for u to hear later that one guy dey pipe her steady for where she stay..

.
Na sorry case be that oo

but wait oo, u actually removed her clothes till d last outfit and u no contunu ... Shey that kind thing fit happen if na omotola , geneienve or juliet ibrahim ?

Bros no lie.. The body odour and smell oozing from the engine drive u comot

Dklef:
You see, the society we live in has made the wrong things look like the norm and when one try to act mature and be morally upright, people starts calling you a coward.

Our society has 'mis-prioritised' many things to the extent that; a man who neither smoke nor drink alcohol is seen as weak and 'e nor jasi'

I had an elderly friend, a married man. Now his friends, all married used to visit this sex-house to carry women and ofcouse, cheat on their wives.
So the day this my friend was call to join them, he refused and they began to laugh and call him all sort of satirical names like, 'husband material' 'bole' 'weakling' 'mr lover lover' and all.
We have made things of frivolity to become our topmost priority. And OP you've shown how strong of a 'man' you are!


Kuddos to You and you should never allow people make you believe you did anything wrong.
You're a man, human too and so i wont actually fault you for going as far as taking a lady home (and undressing bla bla). Cos all that is just carnality playing out.

Reading your essay alone, one can read through your mind and that you're a real man with conscience and principle. Bravo!

corperscorner:
Its been a couple of months since my girlfriend traveled and the frequent rain fall haven't really been helping matters. I initially felt I could contain my urge but sometimes it gets out of hand (GUYS WOULD UNDERSTAND BETTER).

So yesterday, I decided to invite a particular girl over, she happens to have been hoping I would do that a long time though.

To cut the long story short, the touching began and it got to the stage where she gave in and allowed me pull off her entire outfit.....like down to the last. At this point, it must have been so certain to her that we were going to get down.....

But to the glory of God, it suddenly flashed through my mind how my girlfriend would call frequently and how she would often profess her love for me.......the fact that we've grown to become an item over time made me feel a prick in my conscience and all of a sudden I started feeling disgusted with myself. While these activities were going on in my head, this particular girl that came over had already arrived cloud 9....waiting for me to 'enter the place'. But somehow, I was able to knock senses into my head and attempted to help her back into her outfit while she completed the process herself. (IT TOOK AN EFFORT - BLIV ME)

She turned to me and asked? 'Whats the problem?'...........I said 'nothing, its not happening'. Then she pulled away hurriedly and vowed never to visit me again. I was really glad but concealed this so it would not be obvious though.

Anyways, with all that past me now........one thing I can say is that. I have no regrets and if any at all, it would be inviting her to come over in the first place. I realized we guys can be faithful, it only takes a little effort towards self control. I called my girlfriend a few minutes after the drama and we spoke at length for close to an hour..............and from the conversation, all I could deduce was......I care about her feelings much more than I thought.

Bro, say the truth and shame the devil.. .. .. She didn't allow you in coz there was no condom!!!!!! Period!!!!!!

MizTyna:
Sorry Op,you still cheated. And there's nothing like small cheating cos you didn't have penetrative sex. The fact that you knew you could invite her over sef is already cheating. Cheating isn't all about sex bro

And I see how people are commending you for not penetrating. Women inclusive,smh! See,you don't want to cheat,remove yourself from any situation that can bring on cheating,you don't just decide not to cheat when you're almost inside the girl,you decide way ahead. Like cutting ties with people you know you might be tempted to sleep with,gush about your partner,etc. Not when you arouse some poor girl,leave her high and wet then come on nairaland expecting some backslapping about being a 'good' man

Nienie:
Lol..gerrara here

Angelberry:

You can join me at the table not bed

cattyvince:
@OP, unsmart guy. You saying that you trust an ordinary girl friend 100%? . Again that is unwise.
u better call the said girl again and....

luciouscookie:

Commending him cos he kissed, romance, undressed, fingered but didn't insert his disk

Nawaoooo If you walked in on your man doing same to a girl, would you say it's not cheating because he hasn't penetrated?
There's nothing to be envious of here babe.

Smellymouth:

Hhmmmm Dat was harsh. Lol

Angelberry:

I'm sorry

luciouscookie:

Grace of God to invite an innocent girl and disgraced her? He wasn't seduced in anyway. That girl should have stabbed/rape you to death. Nonsense.

ClassCaptain:
Great stand.

But this will only be reasonable in a situation where the man is 100 percent sure of the loyalty of the girl..or at least to the extent of not commiting the same act elsewhere.

Imagine all this self control only for u to hear later that one guy dey pipe her steady for where she stay..

.
Na sorry case be that oo

but wait oo, u actually removed her clothes till d last outfit and u no contunu ... Shey that kind thing fit happen if na omotola , geneienve or juliet ibrahim ?

Bros no lie.. The body odour and smell oozing from the engine drive u comot

Smellymouth:


Awwww, now I just realized am gradually pulling down the barriers. Angel did what she rarely does, she blew me a kiss!!!

FAINTS #####

Angelberry:

Give me back my kiss you making it a big deal

livinbygrace:



My dear have done that many years ago,am 35 so take my words to the bank.The guy ll surely regret it.Most guys with such attitude re always losers at the end.Take it or leave it.

ada2604:

with all due respect sir! thats y u are actually still single or probably not happi in ur relationship d reason for dz form of tot. there is somtin funny about life, we attract who we are, and trust me in any case u attract someone diff from u its jst a matter of tym before u unknowingly rub off on da person, and that person unknowingly start having a diff form of thinking and doing things. just count around u those principled, focused and reliable men out there and check their foot steps and b honest with ursef bout your findings. forget bout anyone else focus on creating d u, u want and u will attract someone like u and u will even be confident enough to ascertain that people wen lots are around u, just same way our personality attracts d kinda frndz we have.

Smellymouth:


Nah. I can't give it back and it feels good. it's all mine now,and ama cherish it for a long time . In d deep voice of Don jazzy -" Omalicha,if you want the kiss u can come and have it

luciouscookie:

What you are saying is entirely different. Your married friend refused to go because he was a real man with conscience. He didn't go to the ashawo house to kiss, romance, UnCloth and refuse to insert disc unlike the op. I hate the fact that he humiliated and innocent girl because he wants to appear holy.

Eureka123:
It's funny how much many humans base their reactions on other people's actions first. So, it's an offense for the OP to do what he perceives as right even just for his own sake?? It was okay for him to go down to the worst despicable level if his girlfriend was cheating on him? Or that he was a fool to let go of such an opportunity if he wasn't sure of his girl friend's loyalty?? How about him not going ahead because of the self respect he has for himself and for values, girl friend aside??

What's really wrong with our society's morals today? What has really gone wrong? I wonder the kind of parents a lot of you would make.

Angelberry:

You can keep this kiss. are you from Igbo?