₦airaland Forum

You are the one paying all the bills in the house, you are the one that gave her the springboard to start her business, So you should
Man up and be a Man that you're suppose to be. You are suppose to be the heavy weight in the house and not the makeweights,
giving the fact that you meet all your responsibilities as a Husband.


Your wife is suppose to worship you for making all the finance available at her disposal. My advice for you is, don't involve her in
any business plan you have or intend to venture into.let it be a surprise to her and also an avenue for you to go out of the house.
To be frank, you need to take your position as a man of the house because from what am reading from your post, your wife has
really taken over and has crushed your Ego in the process. This domination is just too much.

If you love him too, give it ago cos there is nothing to lose. People are capable of changing as the only constant thing in life is change.
He may be a bad boy before during your secondary school days, but is possible that maturity has changed him and made him to look at
life in another perspective.




Go for it girl but be-careful thou.

Nagi the snake girl

All this pictures of massive crowd here and there floating on Nairaland lately is getting too much. between, how many of them have PVCs?

Why go into something you already have the plan to make her pay for what she did to you? Is pointless marrying her
because you will always think of what she did to you and that will surely affect your love for thereby leading to a loveless
Marriage. If you want a relatively happy Marriage, then get married to someone you love genuinely and not someone you
have an unforgivable personal vendetta.

So wrong.

Congratulations bro.I rejoice with you.

If you are a christian, pray fervently and fast about it.

Don't marry him. call it off. The guy will surely beat you and also cheat on you when you get married to him.
He wont change cos he cant change. That is who he is. The red flags are too obvious to ignore. a broken
relationship is better than a broken marriage. I know your biggest fear is that you might not find someone to
marry you within the shortest of time but my dear your best bet is to move on with your life.


A word they say is enough for the wise.

Bro you have to communicate this to her. Tell her how it makes you feel. Be open and discuss it with her.

Is writing a message..............................

Your Husband should keep helping them, However, he should cut down on the amount he gives out. If possible, he should channel half of the money to saving for the future. You are his wife and is also your obligation to ensure a
better tomorrow by giving him good advice about the future.

How you talk to him matters a lot. Make him see reasons and don't sound as if you are against him extending
hands of fellowship to his family.

Joel3:
na person livelyhood una just dey spoil so.

ShIo? Most people here will do worst. Coming to public to shout one thing one thing. one will wonder the type of comment here and believe nigerians are good people. How come will have 90 % corrupt and bad people? fake internet life.

At the poster,

take health. Now you find out the truth yourself. You knw what best and good for you to do. But beware of pms. I knw nigerians will want to send you pms. But don't replied anyone outside here.


At to the mod. Do not put this on the front page. It will only result to more complicating issue and childish.

You knw what she is already going through now with the comment she read here.

Which kind yeye livelihood are you talking about? Why didn't he think of her own livelihood when he lied to her and married another woman?
let us be fair here and stop been sentimetal because that is always the problem of we Nigerians. let's call a spade a spade and not a garden Bleep.

In this sistuation, their is nothing wrong in airing his laundry here.

Things some Naija men do to get green card is very bad .Take heart. I will advice you stop giving him any form of monetary assistance no
matter what he tells you. Because if you do, he will use it to be financing his Marriage back in Nigeria.

Ritualists alert.

In my single days, I was very lucky with ladies and relationships. I never had an off-peak or offline period.I always had the perfect option B ready to fill in the void of the main gurl.so once there is a disconnection,I reconnect with a new one sharply.

Punctuation is the guide to grammer and writing. So use it

Dude like seriously? you must be kidding right?

Bro if you want them to respect you, the best thing is to move out of the house and get your own place no matter how small.
Dey don see you finish that is y.

Can someone help me with what the OP is saying in nutshell?

Ochendu 1 of Abia has done nothing in the State rather than impoverish us. What pains me most is that he is gonna be the Senator representing Abia central come 2015.

no more schooling in France for some people here.

welcome to Japan

Is no mistake bro. they both knew what they were doing. Forgive them and move on with your life but dont associate with either of them again.

Something is surely wrong somewhere. Have a heart-to-heart talk with her and get to the root of the matter.
The earlier the better bro.

Love is not hate, love is not revenge and two wrongs dont make a right.

Is writing a message......

Life at times is a slow process and sometimes we have to start somewhere and not waiting for the right time bro.
I married when i was earning 50k. I dont know how i did but i pulled through bro. When you take that leap of faith
and marry, God somehow make a way where there seems to be none. to be frank with you i think there is no benchmark as to the lowest amount or highest amount you must have before you get married.

So how can one reconcile reach Men that got married when they were earning six figures and all of a sudden they
lost all the affluence they had? This is my humble submission and oppinion.

Must you react to everything? Goodluck Jonathan is always reacting to other peoples comment. Stop this immature act and prove them wrong by simply making good policies that will develope Nigeria. Your perfomance should speak for you Mr President and not by replying people up and down! I wonder who is advising Mr President to be replying comment.

Their are serious issue such as Boko Haram to react and attend to and not this.

The only way you can revisit that book and finish it, is by dedicating your time to it and challenging your self to finish what you started. Sometimes the issues, attractions and diversions of life circumvent our set goals but it can only take a focus mind to execute a desired goal. #stayfocus#

Your handle says you are famous so your hubby must have noticed you receive too many calls from the opposite sex and that is making him uncomfortable. He is your head and you just have to do as he says so long as is good for the family. Women are the maker and breaker of their home and if doing away with your sim will enhance peace in the house then let the sim go.

Marriage is all about sacrifice and this is one out of the many you will be faced with to make. I did not ask my Wifey to do away with her sim when I married her cos I don't see it as anything. However, your hubby's opinion is his opinion so my dear for peace to reign, give up your sim.

Tribe should not be your yardstick for chosing life partner. You jutapox between them and you said the second guy
makes you happy, so ignore the tribe thing and go all out for the second guy.Even if you marry your tribe, is not a
guarantee for a blissful marriage. #Talkingfromexperience