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Talk about the matter at hand which is the land he sacrificed without your consent and leave the “ I am the one taking care of my Family for 6Years”

Is your Husband you don’t need to tell the whole world that you are the one providing for the Family.

Your Husband is wrong for not consulting you about the land and you have every right to be mad

gstelly:
I don't even know how to start pardon my errors, my name is Nancy I school in Ambrose Alli university Ekpoma, I'm in my 3rd year now.
Last month i Decided to quit my job since my boss is deducting from my pay we agreed on 15k monthly most I was paid in a month was 12k at times he pays 8k although I was able to save 40k and I took loan to complete the money to enable me pay my school fees due to the strike since I started working February, so on the15th of last month also being the one sponsoring myself in school, I have till November to pay about 56k for my first semester school fees, with no one to call on and there is no way I could pay receiving less than 15k that's another reason I quitted the work,i was employed as a sales girl in one big supermarket with a pay of 25k although it was far from my house i spend #400 daily on transportation i even had to beg here on nairaland for assistance we agreed on 8am to 6pm after I started working he changed our agreement to 8am to 10pm he added 5k to our salary lest than 2weeks I was employed we wer robbed my phone and that of my colleague( she was employed August 20th) was stolen along with the day sale, when my boss he accused us of conniving with the thief to cut it short on Monday I went to work he told us (me & my colleague) not to bother coming to work and we should forget about the pay we should collect from the people we connive with to rob him, now I am very confuse I don't what to do I regret quitting my old job from Monday till now person never see work and time dae go

Only you get all this problem? Na only you waka come? This your format don cast

Yes you are being childish. Her past is her past. Just because you married her as a virgin doesn’t mean you are better than her. Why did you not discuss her body count before marriage?

Marrying a virgin doesn’t guarantee she will be a better wife. Marriage is like a gift box, take whatever you find inside it and make it better.

Take heart bro

You never can tell if you don't take the bold step. Go for it bro. The greatest mistake people make in life is not taking risk .

Normal level na. I am aware of it. It happened to me too but i didn't waste time to talk to the old man. Usually the pin of the airtime is fake

Good one bro. When you fall the only option left is to rise again and continue hustling. Never stay down or be discouraged about any bad situation you find yourself

Your Father has the right to sell or claim the properties because he was Her Husband.

The very first Day you agreed to Marry Him is confirmation of your resolve to stay with Him and love Him regardless of his flaws. You said it yourself that you still love Him so there is still hope to rescue your Marriage.

He has shown remorse by displaying good deeds even without you asking for it. I believe he still loves you too but the problem i see here is lack of communication. Have a talk with him and let him know the hurt he did to you and if he shows remorse and apologise please forgive Him and move back to the House.

No marriage is perfect my dear. I do not support domestic abuse. However, forgive and pray for him so that God will touch him. Finallly, before you move back to his House, call a family meeting (Your People/His People) and let him promise not to lay his hands on you again. You too learn to briddle your tongue and control your Mouth maybe the way you talk to him could be disrespectful.

Best of luck.

I cant fathom what you wrote up there. Write in proper English please.

Nothing wrong in allowing the Girl to head the businesses. Is the Girl not human? When the Boy is busy fooling around with his life?

If i was the Father i will do the same thing. Irresponsible Child be it Male or Female is a no no. I am sure the Girl will take care of the businesses and the Mother. Person way drop out of School and is wayward does not deserve anything if not he will squander everything and run the business down.

Shimmaa:
This is really depressing me cuz I have invested so much in our relationship and I was even thinking of sponsoring her masters in abroad.

My mental health is at stake and I may loose my mind eventually...

What a joke you are. You want to send Somebody that doesn't love you abroad to study? So local heartbreak she is giving you is not enough is international Heart break you want abi. Guy free that girl and be a Man you won't die. You will be okay eventually. Pls let Her go

2million if you interested in selling for that price will pay for it on 7th of January 2022.

ahmthankgod:
You need to get mind for wetin i wan tell you. Go near the alter where their they do offering carry microphone and kindly call her out, do some little speech and you put one knee down by that time people don they shout with joy and ask her that proposal question surely it will be very suprising and romantic

He should make sure he gets the consent of the Pastor to do so

Olumighty123:
At times, it's like we living just to die.. Rest on Kolawole, May God rest your gentle soul, it's too hard on us but what can we do? Looking back at our childhood memories and i'm still feeling the pain Meanwhile, I stay waiting by the phone, Hoping I get a call, telling a nigga that you home

Stay strong bro. Death is a clothe we all must wear sooner or later.

Wrong move Bro. Familiarity will surely come to play either with Her or her Family. Is not possible to stay in same compound and not relate.

Look for somewhere else.

Nancee4love:
Thank you very much sir, I appreciate you. I much more of a better woman with him. Like I said he is a keeper, hmmm that guy has tolerated and accomodated my own bulshit as well. But I love his maturity sincerely, his approach to things amazes me. My ex has slapped me 3times cause of my excesses you know we ladies na, but this my church guy with talk and patience was able to talk me into putting my life in order cos I am no longer a baby. I saw myself getting more mature and behaving more matured with him and yet he has never demanded for money or sex.

He is surely the One for you. Looking forward to your wedding with him .

Nancee4love:
UPDATE UPDATE HERE...
Thank you all for you candid advice and i hid to some and i took the bull by the horn and i asked him who am i to him after all he had said to me. He looked into my eyes and said to me i am special in his eyes and that our friendship has gone beyond friendship, that he was actually going through the healing process and he planned to ask me out on my birthday to be his girlfriend and ultimately be his wife. He explained all his plans to me and asked me if i will stand by him and support him, and that i should promise him i wont let him down.
He told me that their is only one guaranty he will give me in this life and that is God in ur future we are secure together. He may not have it all now but he said it with confidence that he can never be a failure and never be poor in this life. But we have to start from somewhere.
He went to his wardrobe and brought out a gift he bought for me and handed it over to me. It was a perfume.
Tears came out from my eyes and i told him Kay i love you, and i will always love. I left his house by 9pm last night me that use to take bolt always found myself hopping on ogada, because that was what could get last night because of time. Who cares the guy i loved has already voiced out his intentions and plans towards me.
Thank you people i am grateful sure our wedding pictures will be posted here by his grace. I am moving away from my friends and getting new friends, i have not even told my mom yet about this development, same with my aunt. I have to rush here and say it.
Just keep us in prayers. Kay i love you and i will always love you.

I am happy for you, now you have closure. Glad you hid to my advise and held the meeting with him. I am convinced that he is the right Man for you.

Make sure your keep to your promise of standing by him in every situation.

Good luck.

Nancee4love:
1. What my Pastors wife told me.
Hmmm Kai. My pastors wife told me things this guy never told me in 18months. Maybe because he feels that he has not known me enough to voice out.
She said he has been with them for over 9yrs and stayed with them for 3yrs in family house before he moved to his own apartment.
She said he is not in any relationship for now that all his relationships did not work out majorly because of sex and money. That he had dated some couple of girls in church but did not work out. Actually 2 ladies. The first one tore his heart apart and wrecked him financially. She said they were both in relationship with this church girl, he sponsored her to school, sent her on a skill acquisition program. They were already in premarital counseling both families were involved and preparation were going on for intro and traditional marriage.
Before the the girl went and got pregnant for another guy, she the girl told him no sex relationship not knowing she was having sex with another guy which resulted into pregnancy because the guy had money the girl is just greedy and ungrateful said my pastors wife. Because if this girl my church guy lost about 2.4m due to pressure she was putting the guy financially. The relationship has to end and it created another drama in the family that I will talk about.
She told me that d guy is an orphan and has been fending for himself for years and does not have entitlement mentality even though he has brothers who can help him. Everything he has today came by favour and labour.
My pastors wife Said the guy is a very nice and calm person that he is the only one they can trust in the church. He has never betrayed them in 9yrs, others have betrayed them but he has not.

Wow what a revelation. So far nothing is bad about His past. Your Pastor's Wife vouching for him goes to show how nice he is. I wait further update on what he told you.

Nancee4love:
Thank you for this.. I will have conversation with him tomorrow after church, we are in the same unit in church so I will tell him I am coming over to his house later to talk with him, I truly don't want to appear desperate before him and my heart is beating fast what if he say I see u as a friend ... I don't think my legs can carry me out of his house to my house, I may end up crying my eyes out.

My Sister is better you ask than to be kept in the dark. Have an open mind that the meeting will either produce a good or bad outcome.

You have nothing to lose by asking. Forget about whether he will feel yo are desperate. Imagine keeping you in an unsure relationship for another 2 Years? See him after service and sort it out. Time is going my dear.

1. Dont listen to your Friends because samd friends will laugh at you tomorrow if you leave him and settle for Richer Man and get treated badly in marriage tomorrow.

2. He earns 80k today but he can also earn 500k tomorrow. Dont look at the now look at the future. He has the potential to make it

3. True and genuine love in Men is scarce these days amd base on what you said about him i think he is the right Guy for you.

4. I gold digger does not pretend or linger before he shows you his true color of gold digging. 18 Months is enough to show you he does not care about your "Money".

5. Marrying a Man from South South is not a gaurantee for happy Marriage. Dont let nobody decide for you who you will get married to.

6. Have a serious conversation with the Guy and let him tell you what he thinks of you and if he sees a future with you. No time to delay again, 18 Months is enough for him to decide what he wants.

7. Finally, follow your Heart.

I wish you all the best.

No perfect Woman out there bro. My advise is to marry her since you know the kind of person she is. You cant deny that you have not been sleeping with other girls too.

Forget your Friends they cant decide for you

Hmmm be consoled Bro. I feel your pain because it happened to me too. I lost 3 people in my Family withing 1 year. I dont think i can recover from the loss.

Death is indeed painful especially when it happens to people very close to you.

God bless Governorscousine for his kind gestures to humanity

What are you doing for living?

He works at Ikeja Airport

God bless you bro. Is good to be kind

For National peace to reign, please whenever you want to assist you bro dont let your Wife know. This will save you all these stress.

G.O.A.T. well deserved

Invite the Daughter of your former Boss.

So sad their Parents have lost Two of them,One to the cold hands of Death and the other to Life sentence at Kirikiri Prison for Murder.

You see that your Girl? She will never change. Dont mistake pitty for love. The earlier you realize you cant change her the better for you.