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Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Rizmo(m): 11:08pm On Apr 22, 2016

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by TopeQs: 11:08pm On Apr 22, 2016

just carry her, and turn upside down.....

simple.

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Nobody: 11:08pm On Apr 22, 2016

Slowly relegate her to the FRIENDZONE DIVISION, when she stays there for some time without featuring in the main team, she go get sense.

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Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Afrok(m): 11:09pm On Apr 22, 2016

I pray for strength to turn down green lights though cry

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Sunofgod(m): 11:09pm On Apr 22, 2016

TELL HER YOUR NOW BROKE - She'll leave you!

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Olusharp(m): 11:09pm On Apr 22, 2016

SuperModz:
Uhm! There is this lady that has been throwing a lot of green lights at me. The thing is I don't really like this girl and am the kinda guy who doesn't date a person I don't have feelings for.

This girl has been bombarding with cute texts, love emoticons and all that. It scares me atimes and as much as I would like to enjoy the attention, I don't want to hurt her and I don't wanna play her.. I just wanna lay her off me without hurting her.

Does anyone have any idea how I can do this

Mature minds pls... And ladies pls before you get drunk in love, try to figure out if 'that' guy really likes you.

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Category1: 11:09pm On Apr 22, 2016

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Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Topestbilly(m): 11:11pm On Apr 22, 2016

HateU2:
Sit her down and act like a man my bro. Be gentle with ur words and let her understand dat u don 'fvck' around or else u would have 'fvcked' her.

HateU2!!!

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by pressplay411(m): 11:18pm On Apr 22, 2016

SuperModz:
Uhm! There is this lady that has been throwing a lot of green lights at me. The thing is I don't really like this girl and am the kinda guy who doesn't date a person I don't have feelings for.

This girl has been bombarding with cute texts, love emoticons and all that. It scares me atimes and as much as I would like to enjoy the attention, I don't want to hurt her and I don't wanna play her.. I just wanna lay her off me without hurting her.

Does anyone have any idea how I can do this

Mature minds pls... And ladies pls before you get drunk in love, try to figure out if 'that' guy really likes you.

Are u gay?
Why u turning down free kpekus?
Ur either too gay or she's too damn ugly.

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Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Nobody: 11:19pm On Apr 22, 2016

@OP I don't think there's anyway you will do it without hurting her,but you must do it anyway, it's really nice of you to be sincere unlike other guys that'll just use and dump her

I think guys can handle the "rejection" better than us, maybe cos they are used to it

It hurts a lot when you truly love and want someone who doesn't feel the same way

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Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by mickool(m): 11:21pm On Apr 22, 2016

The is that if the girl has been throwing alot of green lights at you,then you should give her the red light. If she bombard you with texts and love mssgs,rply her with same.even if you doesnt like her itcdoesnt mean you should start treating her like slut. I can bet you if dont treat this well now, you will regret it later when she start dating another guy.maybe the gilr is not beautiful enough or not presentable enough.get to know her and if she is poor, polish her up and educate.not every friendship that ends up in a relationship.she might be ur saviour tomoroow.dont treat her badly now ooo...

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Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by TrollTrap: 11:22pm On Apr 22, 2016

Category1:
[size=15pt]op firstly, you gonna live with my family and friends who are traveling by the way Psg has been in the hood moves with the family and friends who have been so long ago was that the Nigerian genre of music do u have a good day to day life and I respect them to keep seeing and hearing your day is going to the hood of the champions league final exam tomorrow night and sweet and sour cream on the middle of the champions league final decision on my bed streaming porn and u know when you wanna quote with just a little bit and then we can do it back to work tomorrow morning at all today is the most hated club in the US is like calling you back home to get the for the expensive one of the largest markets are you doing now [/size]

Seems like someone threw alphabet tiles on the floor and you picked em up randomly....wtf is this angry

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Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by BrainnewsNg(f): 11:23pm On Apr 22, 2016

ronald4lif:
Start giving her subtle hints that you have a girlfriend and in a committed relationship, even if you're not presently seeing anyone. While at it let her know that nothing in this world will make you cheat on your woman. She'll withhold her intentions if she's sensible.

Also, don't in any way make her feel less of herself and you may remind her how beautiful she is just not to hurt her ego.

I love this

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Nobody: 11:23pm On Apr 22, 2016

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Africanpride: 11:26pm On Apr 22, 2016

Tell her you have spiritual problems, that your family in the village is controlling your destiny. That you can't commit to woman so because of that she deserve someone better. That you are not worth are beautiful heart. Always put the blame on yourselve it does work.

Come back and thank me later.

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by tonaydo(m): 11:29pm On Apr 22, 2016

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by cardoctor(m): 11:31pm On Apr 22, 2016

Just get ready for whats gonna happen next if you turn her down cos anything could happen.

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by nonjebose(m): 11:31pm On Apr 22, 2016

Do nothing, she would get tired and get the messsage

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by nigeriafilm(m): 11:32pm On Apr 22, 2016

Don't play along ie pretend as if you don't understand what she means. If she summons courage to face you, tell her you love and appreciate her but you are seriously serious somewhere

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by notoriousbabe: 11:34pm On Apr 22, 2016

Come and introduce me to her as your fiancee

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by martineverest(m): 11:34pm On Apr 22, 2016

Just assume that you are not noticing her advances

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by BizBloke(m): 11:35pm On Apr 22, 2016

No matter what you do, she'll be hurt. Sad reality!

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by EmekaBlue(m): 11:36pm On Apr 22, 2016

If she fine wella without makeup o...Just giv me her contact make i help u tidy am

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by bigcarrot15: 11:36pm On Apr 22, 2016

HateU2:
Sit her down and act like a man my bro. Be gentle with ur words and let her understand dat u don 'fvck' around or else u would have 'fvcked' her.

that will spark it up the more.

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Kainene77: 11:36pm On Apr 22, 2016

Slapsticker:
it's easier if you aren't single. you just have to tell her to put herself in the shoes of your gf.

However, if you r single...that's gonna take some wit.

They aren't methods around it. just principles.

- Be relaxed
- Don't crush her ego, or make feel like a slut
- choose your words carefully and be in control of your body language.
- Afterwards, make sure she isn't embarrassed
- Don't leave without telling her how much she means to you.
- A hug will do.

Never ever do that unless you want to torment her. Such a sentence will fuel hopes and she will suffer longer than necessary.

4C2215131:
It's simple!
No need for theatrics and all the heart to heart talk and stuff (you may just hurt her more with all that yapping about bla bla bla).
Just via your body language let her know you're not game. Trust me ladies are very very quick to catch on when a man doesn't want them as they are nimble at knowing when he does.
No replies to her SMS', very formal stance when you're together in fact treat her like you'd a guy that is an acquaintance and not a friend. Note the words I used here 'acquaintance' and 'friend'. Both mean different things.
Do this and you're rid of your problem. Note that there is no easy way to turn someone who has feelings for you down without hurting them especially when you go the face-to-face, heart-to-heart route. You gotta be abrupt, cold and distant. It helps the other party when they develop some sort of hate for you via the way you're ignoring them. Their hurt is channeled via this hate emotion thus healing them quicker. Don't be afraid, they don't really hate you it's just a sort of knee jerk reaction to the whole rejection thingy.

Exactly!

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Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by vchykp(m): 11:36pm On Apr 22, 2016

[quote author=kirchofff post=44955333]Tell her dat any lady u date die within a week...........she'd even do testimony 4 church self[/quote

]Lolx.. Aswear you no normal #lwkmd

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by vchykp(m): 11:39pm On Apr 22, 2016

kirchofff:
Tell her dat any lady u date die within a week...........she'd even do testimony 4 church self

.

Lolx.. Aswear you no normal #lwkmd

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by iyke649(m): 11:39pm On Apr 22, 2016

Tell her with all seriousness dat u are HIV positive . Infact she will start sending u red light instead of green one grin

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by VickyRotex(f): 11:42pm On Apr 22, 2016

SuperModz:
Uhm! There is this lady that has been throwing a lot of green lights at me. The thing is I don't really like this girl and am the kinda guy who doesn't date a person I don't have feelings for.

This girl has been bombarding with cute texts, love emoticons and all that. It scares me atimes and as much as I would like to enjoy the attention, I don't want to hurt her and I don't wanna play her.. I just wanna lay her off me without hurting her.

Does anyone have any idea how I can do this

Mature minds pls... And ladies pls before you get drunk in love, try to figure out if 'that' guy really likes you.

Op, I must commend you. Good to know you're not someone who wants to take advantage of her like some other guys would've done.

I can see Atleast 3 to 4 good advises on the first page. I do hope you're able to handle it.

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Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by dickt(m): 11:45pm On Apr 22, 2016

U r here looking for how to mildly turn a girl down when so many girls who don't like u would even go as for as asking you "slippers nor get size?" when u ask dem out, not minding how it would hurt your ego. SMH.

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Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by vchykp(m): 11:46pm On Apr 22, 2016

Please more comment peeps, I want to learn from you guys cos my own case is worst, this one fights every girl she suspects..!

Re: How Do You Turn A Lady Down Without Hurting Her by Acebar(m): 11:48pm On Apr 22, 2016

SuperModz:
Uhm! There is this lady that has been throwing a lot of green lights at me. The thing is I don't really like this girl and am the kinda guy who doesn't date a person I don't have feelings for.

This girl has been bombarding with cute texts, love emoticons and all that. It scares me atimes and as much as I would like to enjoy the attention, I don't want to hurt her and I don't wanna play her.. I just wanna lay her off me without hurting her.

Does anyone have any idea how I can do this

Mature minds pls... And ladies pls before you get drunk in love, try to figure out if 'that' guy really likes you.

but guy u for tell us why u no like the gal, she might get some qualities someone here may be longing for grin

......anyway I had such a gal den she even went far to call my mum on her birthday of which I don't even know who told her that day was my mums b'day and my mum in question don't even know her until she explained that she's my friend. olorun grin

see me see wahala. after some weeks my own b'day came up she brought cake all the way from her school to mine to celebrate me. but all
I did was to show NO interest on her thru my actions . so Bro wat u dont like is wat u don't like. it's all about choice. The best thing to do is to show little or No interest on her advances provided u never Chop. but if u Don chop clean mouth, hehehehe.....e no easy o grin

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