avicky:

Yes, it is not a death sentence and we should not stigmatize. But do they tell them to inflict others without revealing their status? What makes her think the guy wouldn't marry her even with her status? Why the deception? If my eyes are not deceiving me, I think op said they had protected sex once.
I don't think anyone will crucify the lady in question. I'm not but I do not support her deceitful actions. It's very expensive. And is this what you call love.? What advice would you give your brother if he were in op's shoes

avicky:

Au'revoir. It means good bye.

Iriruaga100:
Op, I hope u dnt give her a head during d protected sex u had with her? I just pray u never did.

Vickyydera:
Do you think she is worth ruining your life for?
I can't marry a HIV positive person,even if you like be an angel.
capisce!

afroditte:
I agree she wasnt right in her management of the situation but atleast they were protected. That should show she wasn't totally heartless.

You can see for yourself the level of stigma attached to this thing. It can warp the carrier's mind and make them scared of revealing it because they know for sure that they would lose the partner.

Now the OP has said it, that he wants her for a wife but the HIV is the problem. If he were my brother, I would just ask him to think about it deeply, weigh the pros and cons. Whatever he chooses I would support.

HIV is not a problem for me.

SUPOL:
hmmm, very nice. Do u teach french?

ceaser:


He can still give head with minimal chances of getting infected so far he does not have mouth sores when carrying that out and most especially if the lady has veeeery low viral load.

However that is not to say he is free to do that everytime. You never say never in some things.

avicky:

Nope.

SUPOL:
ok, ur Gud in teaching

afroditte:
I agree she wasnt right in her management of the situation but atleast they were protected. That should show she wasn't totally heartless.

You can see for yourself the level of stigma attached to this thing. It can warp the carrier's mind and make them scared of revealing it because they know for sure that they would lose the partner.

Now the OP has said it, that he wants her for a wife but the HIV is the problem. If he were my brother, I would just ask him to think about it deeply, weigh the pros and cons. Whatever he chooses I would support.

HIV is not a problem for me.

avicky:

Thanks.

ladyF:
All of you saying she should have told him, you think it's easy abi? Some people would just prefer to keep their issues to themselves. Does she have to go around telling everyone she dates she is HIV positive, considering they are only dating. If they have a bitter break up now, the guy will go and start broadcasting her status upandan. I do not blame the lady, she did what's best for her. If he can't handle it, lover boy can take a walk.

Say NO to HIV stigmatisation, you guys here are even part of the problem sef.

histemple:
For those of you asking if he had unprotected s3x with her, he could have unprotected s3x without contracting the virus.
A man contracting the HIV from a lady is very slim except there are cracks. But a lady contracts it immediately a male carrier ejaculates in her, no matter the quantity of fluid.

Back to your concern OP. You may have to be sure that she isn't pulling your legs to watch your reaction. She may possibly be trying to gauge how you will tolerate or discriminate against disability.

Gasout:
Yes, we had sex just once and it was protected

ladyF:
All of you saying she should have told him, you think it's easy abi? Some people would just prefer to keep their issues to themselves. Does she have to go around telling everyone she dates she is HIV positive, considering they are only dating. If they have a bitter break up now, the guy will go and start broadcasting her status upandan. I do not blame the lady, she did what's best for her. If he can't handle it, lover boy can take a walk.

Say NO to HIV stigmatisation, you guys here are even part of the problem sef.

Gasout:
Yes, we had sex just once and it was protected

histemple:


I didn't say they can't contract the virus through s3x, what I said was that chances for female to male transmission is SLIMMER than male to female. In s3x, the female is the receptor while the male is the depositor.
The virus is infectious and not contagious. It can't be transmitted via physical contact. It is mostly via blood.

Besides, s3x is just one of the many possibilities of contracting the virus, and that explains why we have a lot of virgin carriers of the dreaded virus.

histemple:
But a lady contracts it immediately a male carrier ejaculates in her, no matter the quantity of fluid.

Gasout:
Good evening members in the house. I purposely brought this topic to this section (family) cos I blive i'll have a mature responses and contributions.

I'll try to be brief as possible.
I met this lady 2014 but we started dating November last year. It took her a whole year for her to accept dating me.

But then, she told me that, there is something she will tell any man who desire to marry her bt, depend on the level of seriousness of the man.

Then, I took what she planned telling her hubby to be as nothing serious nt until d relationship began to wax stronger. After being in the relationship for a while, I discovered she posses virtually all d qualities I desire in a lady and wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with her.

I tried to make her tell me what she has in mind that she plan to tell her hubby to be, she refused. At this stage, our both parents re aware of our relationship and we planned to have our INTRO this June.

I proposed to her last week, she accepted and busted to tears. Initially, I thought it was a tears of joy, nt knowing it was something entirely different from my thought.

I took her home with different feelings within me since she couldn't stop crying. When we got to their house b4 she alighted, she hold my hands and told me me 'she's HIV positive'

I was startled for minutes. She said I should think about it if I still want the relationship.

I have make enquiries from Doctors if both of us can marry and He said yes Bt the am nt still convince. Please, Nairalanders, I need ur sincere advice on this issue...

eyinjuege:


Pls do not misinform people.

The HIV clinic is filled with both men and women, young and old. Boys n girls that are 18years, 20s inclusive, men and women in their 60s are also not left out.

histemple:

You are pretty correct doctor,some of us know this too,just that"keeping it out of the public"because of abuse!.
I didn't say they can't contract the virus through s3x, what I said was that chances for female to male transmission is SLIMMER than male to female. In s3x, the female is the receptor while the male is the depositor.
The virus is infectious and not contagious. It can't be transmitted via physical contact. It is mostly via blood.

Besides, s3x is just one of the many possibilities of contracting the virus, and that explains why we have a lot of virgin carriers of the dreaded virus.

EgunMogaji:


This is what you said, and it is incorrect and you're misinforming folks.

Admit you're wrong and post a link for folks to go and do their own research. You're simply adding to the fear of stigma that placed op in this predicament.

ladyF:
All of you saying she should have told him, you think it's easy abi? Some people would just prefer to keep their issues to themselves. Does she have to go around telling everyone she dates she is HIV positive, considering they are only dating. If they have a bitter break up now, the guy will go and start broadcasting her status upandan. I do not blame the lady, she did what's best for her. If he can't handle it, lover boy can take a walk.

Say NO to HIV stigmatisation, you guys here are even part of the problem sef.

histemple:


You are apparently asking me to indicate a link so that people can go and read a report submitted by another human being but it's difficult for you to assimilate my researched submission.

It's acceptable to people to believe research that was conducted by seasoned researchers in seasoned healthcare organization than folks on the internet that passes of unproven data. Since you seemingly are not open to sharing the source of your obtuse data then I am forced to submit data that proves your frankly immature submissions as wrong. I was hoping that you would rise to the occasion and do the right thing.

You can quote me anywhere that I said it is easier for a lady to contract the virus from a male carrier than it is for a male to contract it from a female carrier.

Here is your quote that you requested and I wasn't the only one that called you out on your personal views that you are passing off as golden rules. Where is the research that back up this quote?

histemple post=46704824:
For those of you asking if he had unprotected s3x with her, he could have unprotected s3x without contracting the virus.

A man contracting the HIV from a lady is very slim except there are cracks. But a lady contracts it immediately a male carrier ejaculates in her, no matter the quantity of fluid.

Back to your concern OP. You may have to be sure that she isn't pulling your legs to watch your reaction. She may possibly be trying to gauge how you will tolerate or discriminate against disability.

In all my experiences, I have seen couples whose husbands were negative but the wife were positive. But I am yet to see a male carrier whose wife is negative.

It's okay to share personal experience but you can't use that to make wild generalizations such as the one you made.

Talking about heightening the OP's fears, I am still wondering where you got that from my submission----considering that the OP is a male.

Nevertheless, you can educate the house instead of engaging me in an argument.

I have no interest in engaging you in an argument, no interest. I have no interest in educating the house. They have access to the internet and have access to who.int and can do their own research. However, if you insist on passing off wrong information then I will call you out on it as others have, guaranteed.