I just had to post this because i've had enough. Im 22 years old and has been somewhat bombarded by Nigerian men who are married. The worst so far happened at a Nigerian Independence Day party out here in L.A. where i was stalked by this married man. This is not the first time that this has happened to me and a lot of my friends go through this as well. Recently a friend was called all night by a man that was doing business with her company. She had to call her phone company to change her phone number because he left threatening messages saying that he will come after her if she doesnt mess with him. 
Back to my case, this man told me that he and his wife was at the parade earlier and he had seen me and he was so excited to see me again. I told him i dont date married men or men with girlfriends and he told me it wouldnt be a problem he can hide it from his wife well. The thing is that he wasnt the first guy that is married to hit on me that day. I've been through the same thing at other nigerian parties.
Why is it that Nigerian men are so unfaithful, im so mad that i dont even want to marry one because im scared i will be in the place of the wives on day. I dont dress provocatively, im more on the conservative side but like a normal 22 year college student would dress. I hate to say it but i think people accept this behavior in our community because its so common.

UPDATE
I dont like dating Black guys(African American and West Indies) because they are for the most part cheating or players or psychos and the few that are good are already taken. I've dated 4 guys in life 2 were African Americans, 1 was Latino, and recently i dated this nigerian guy that was at my school. Now the reason i chose Nigerian men is because in the States Nigerians put themselves on a pedestole compared to Whites and African Americans. We think that we are well behaved and can do no wrong. They say oh we dont have as much divorce but then at all these places they are hitting on young girls to mess with on their wives. I dont mind being approached by Nigerian guys around my age or at least single but married one? come on? A lot of these guys got young kids and a beautiful wife at home. Im sure that those guys would leave their wives if they find out that they were messing with younger guys or any other guy for that matter. Why cant we do better?.

He probably thinks u're a mumu and he wants to use your kitten for woowoo!   

Why is it that Nigerian men are so unfaithful, im so mad that i dont even want to marry one because im scared

so, how would you feel if we say the opposite ? your conclusion is really appaling.

we r unfaithful cos we r nigerians,and we r married!

Girl I feel you, at my uni all the Married 9ja men are cheating on their wives. And they use the same old recycled bullshit line "Its not working with my wife" One of them said his father forced him to marry the girl and he doesnt love her _{mind you he had only been married for less than 9months} God help us when we get married. Its like they dont believe in the institution of marriage anymore. Why get married if you know you are going to mess about.

^^ c wat i mean? '. . .all married 9ja men' hmm not even an exception!

Then we can conclude we cheat cos we r nigerians and married!

@ posakosa
Im mumu huh? I guess he is mumu for picking the wrong girl to pursue.
Abeg
@ deji2009
Im just stating the fact, Im not saying all married Nigerians are like btw.
The community should shun it but rather other men kind of encourage it.
@ ebonyeyes
I know huh? They need to go back to the santity of marriage and i already decided that i wont be the poor wife sitting at home for my husband to come back home from his girlfriend. I feel you on that

goodass:

^^ c wat i mean? '. . .all married 9ja men' hmm not even an exception!

Then we can conclude we cheat cos we r nigerians and married!

Hehehe Goodass dey vex, . . . . . . . but some of your brothers aint helping matters . . . . . . .

goodass:

^^ c wat i mean? '. . .all married 9ja men' hmm not even an exception!

Then we can conclude we cheat cos we r nigerians and married!

I guess you are right since your reply makes more sense than posakosa's nonsense.
Its done then, Im going after African Americans , whites or latinos here.

Agnesqueen:



I guess you are right since your reply makes more sense than posakosa's nonsense.
Its done then, Im going after African Americans , whites or latinos here.

you better go after white men and African Americans, and latinos,

@tub
i no dey vex o,na d othr one wt startn wt 's' i dey do.lol
ur sistaz wey dey 'collabo' wt us nko?

@agne
go ahead jare,u r our gift to d world.keep standin ur ground

Yes deceive yourself thinking only Naija men cheat. Check the way whites do theirs

hehehehe

i think we shld starting thinkin properly b4 we hastily generalize and conclude stuffs

if Nigerian men are adulterers and they have grown in confidence over time, isnt it becos Nigerian women have been accepting their offers?

in this case, the offeror and the offeree are all guilty of adultery hence i can safely conclude an average Nigerian woman is an adulterer cos they often sleep with married women

are we on the same page?

dayokanu:

Yes deceive yourself thinking only Naija men cheat. Check the way whites do theirs

leave her jo! let her keep yarning DUST. White man go kill am finish and collect life insurance for her name. Shoooiiiir!

Ok MOST MEN in general are cheats. I dont know why they bother with Marriage they should just remain single forever, then they can [i]fook [/i]all the girls in the world if the want to and then die eventually with HIV.

Ebonyeyes:

Ok MOST MEN in general are cheats. I dont know why the bother with Marriage they should just remain single forever, then they can fook [/i]all the girls in the world if the want to and then die with HIV.

The problem is not that they bother with marriage its the reason why they choose to:

1. family pressure/they're getting old/they need a cook/some woman pressures them/the [i]WOMEN THEY MARRY DON'T CARE WHAT THEY DO AS LONG AS THEY HAVE "A MAN" AND A manliness TO PLAY WITH AT NIGHT. seriously, 

Some of these women know that they are players AND MARRY THEM ANYWAYS.

posakosa:


Some of these women know that they are players AND MARRY THEM ANYWAYS.

The bigger your status in society, the more leeway women would give you in a relationship.

players/ballers get the biggest perks of course.

I don't doubt the poster lots of nigerian married men cheat though some don't and the worst part is the society praises them rather than frown at it.It's so bad even my landlord was like i should organise him some chics i'm like dude am 23 you're 42 wtf shud i contribute to someone's infidelity.And his wife is nice and beautiful.Most of his friends see him as the  chairman but i see them as some bunch of weaklings who have been brainwashed by immoral societal values.It's so f u c k e d up now that faithful and truthful pple are the crazy ones and the infidels are the sane one.I think to myself in a world where 90% are crazy with 10% sane,it would reach a point that being crazy will be normal and being normal will be seen as being crazy.Lagos is a good example now a virgin is frowned up.So i say f u c k western influence and nigerian mentality.Have a mind of your own.

pc guru:

it.It's so bad even my landlord was like i should organise him some chics i'm like dude am 23 you're 42 wtf shud i contribute to someone's infidelity.

watch your rent increase, you uncooperative tenant

pc guru:

I don't doubt the poster lots of nigerian married men cheat though some don't and the worst part is the society praises them rather than frown at it.It's so bad even my landlord was like i should organise him some chics i'm like dude am 23 you're 42 wtf shud i contribute to someone's infidelity.And his wife is nice and beautiful.Most of his friends see him as the  chairman but i see them as some bunch of weaklings who have been brainwashed by immoral societal values.It's so f u c k e d up now that faithful and truthful pple are the crazy ones and the infidels are the sane one.I think to myself in a world where 90% are crazy with 10% sane,it would reach a point that being crazy will be normal and being normal will be seen as being crazy.Lagos is a good example now a virgin is frowned up.So i say f u c k western influence and nigerian mentality.Have a mind of your own.

Marry Me _{Just kidding with you} I agree with the bolded sentence. Its crazy how society is spiraling out of control. We are following the western world but things are crazy in the west with 50% divorce rate, immoral kids who start messing about before their teens, teenage mothers, the list is endless. God help us.

@OP
your post should have read Married Men and Adultery.cos all men are the same

BTW,whats wrong if a hard-working man wants to enjoy his sweat the way he pleases.Because am sure all these men are comfortable.Knowing you girls only go for men who are loaded.

Leave men alone jare! After all girls know they are married and still flock around them

posakosa:

The problem is not that they bother with marriage its the reason why they choose to:

1. family pressure/they're getting old/they need a cook/some woman pressures them/the WOMEN THEY MARRY DON'T CARE WHAT THEY DO AS LONG AS THEY HAVE "A MAN" AND A manliness TO PLAY WITH AT NIGHT. seriously, 

Some of these women know that they are players AND MARRY THEM ANYWAYS.

That's why they are getting away with murder because they know someone will still take them.

hehehehehehehehe somebody has been hurt real bad

posakosa:

The problem is not that they bother with marriage its the reason why they choose to:
1. family pressure/they're getting old/they need a cook/some woman pressures them/the WOMEN THEY MARRY DON'T CARE WHAT THEY DO AS LONG AS THEY HAVE "A MAN" AND A manliness TO PLAY WITH AT NIGHT. seriously,  
Some of these women know that they are players AND MARRY THEM ANYWAYS.

Well I never thought I'd say this to you, but youre right. Youre sooo right, Im like  

60% of the mothers in our society need to be taken one by one and flogged because when a woman asks God for a child, the only thing HE demands of her is that she be a Mother. Its apalling, the job mothers do nowadays.
They bring up their boys to think women are glorified housewives and bring up their daughters to think their lives are not complete until a ring is sitting on their finger. Whether they marry a useless thief or not doesnt matter. The women just want to tie Asoebi.

@Poster, dont get frustrated. The problem seems to be you. Youre answering them in the first place. You dont know the easiest way to get rid of a man is to ignore him?
His pride wont beable to take it if you ignore him and he'l walk away fast. You, youre going into explanations of how you dont date married men? Pretty naive, cos black men pride themselves on their ability to convince women into dating them. Ignore them and you'l see the way they'l reduce.
Society accepts it because tradition permits polygamy in many cultures, so the only way for you to fight it is in your corner.

As one poster said, the guys probably think you look gulible enough and so they approach you. With time, if you ignore them enough, you'l get this look on your face everytime a married man approaches you that'l tell him straight up, youre not one of those girls.
This is experience talking girl.

Many of our men are useless. They see an innocent looking girl and instead of leaving her as clean as she is, they always seem to want to soil you. So the can tell themselves theyve had it all. Its disgusting.

Everything has to be kept immoral or else things won't work.You think stuffs like citypple would sell if the nation wuz good.But still i don't follow what pple say or care what they think cuz at the end of the day you'll wake up one morning and find out you've been living your life for pple and society and it'll be too late cuz your wife and family will hate you for it.Speaking from experience my [grandad].It all boils down to the kinda peers you keep.Don't comfortable with this topic peace yo.   @ebony yes i will marry you.

pc guru:

I don't doubt the poster lots of nigerian married men cheat though some don't and the worst part is the society praises them rather than frown at it.It's so bad even my landlord was like i should organise him some chics i'm like dude am 23 you're 42 wtf shud i contribute to someone's infidelity.And his wife is nice and beautiful.Most of his friends see him as the chairman but i see them as some bunch of weaklings who have been brainwashed by immoral societal values.It's so f u c k e d up now that faithful and truthful pple are the crazy ones and the infidels are the sane one.I think to myself in a world where 90% are crazy with 10% sane,it would reach a point that being crazy will be normal and being normal will be seen as being crazy.Lagos is a good example now a virgin is frowned up.So i say f u c k western influence and nigerian mentality.Have a mind of your own.

You get a kiss from me.

Most people will cheat on their married partners. Period. The point is that many Nigerian men do it like it is a job. It is just different with a lot of Nigerian men. Just admit it. The sort of men the young lady is talking about here do it over and over and over again and they feel no shame or remorse about it. The first step to fixing a problem is admitting that it does exist. Why do you think that she would pick on Nigerian men. So far this has been her experience.

This is the simplest thread and question. If u read the history of nigeria very well, u'll find out
that we are higly polygamous in nature. The white man did us a lot of damage by trying to impose
her marital lifestyle on us. Personally, I've decided that I'm not gonna marry so that I'll have nobody
to cheat on.

are you saying men of other ethnicity are more faithful.

don't be naive.

naijacann:

This is the simplest thread and question. If u read the history of nigeria very well, u'll find out
that we are higly polygamous in nature. The white man did us a lot of damage by trying to impose
her marital lifestyle on us. Personally, I've decided that I'm not gonna marry so that I'll have nobody
to cheat on.

lol wait till your parents start pressuring you for grandshidiren

some men are just selfish.

naijacann:

This is the simplest thread and question. If u read the history of nigeria very well, u'll find out
that we are higly polygamous in nature. The white man did us a lot of damage by trying to impose
her marital lifestyle on us. Personally, I've decided that I'm not gonna marry so that I'll have nobody
to cheat on.

Thank God for that.

@ Poster:

Why is it that 80% of campus girls are dating married men?  
are they dating them at gun point?

well u sounds a nice fellow by your statement
but girls are the course of the problem, because they believe
that if the man didn't come up with their demand they will threaten him with
do you want your wife to know about this ?  , thereby siphoning them of their hard earned dough  

GIRLS!   GIRLS!!   GIRLS!!!