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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by MilesLamar(m): 4:03pm On Sep 20, 2016
uyiekpen26:
Myself and this particular girl have been dating for quite sometime (let's say like 2yrs) now. This is someone I do everything for. I pay for the house she's currently living in, send her money for her upkeep, paid some of her fees in school and once in awhile take her on some of my trips within and outside the country.

I've noticed that most times when I call her in the evenings she's never with her phone and she doesn't even pick when I call. I thought maybe she's reading or something. So I don't usually bother to ask her. At some point I noticed some strange behaviors in her. This was someone who was never a club person and all of a sudden she started clubbing and smoking shisha. I confronted her and she said it was just once but I kept quiet. So I decided to do a little investigation without her notice. So I called her one day and a guy picked up and asked who I was. I ended the call and decided to pay her a surprise visit. As soon as I entered, I saw a guy on boxers and singlet sitting on her bed and as soon as she saw me she almost developed high BP. But I pretended like nothing was happening and told her I just came to check up on her.

I left her house that in anger. I went straight to the bank the following week I opened an account for her and closed the account. I stopped with immediate effect the visa processing I was doing in her name. Burnt all the clothes I bought for her from dubai recently and gave all the jewelries I bought for her too to one of my neighbors. I told the landlord to issue a quit notice to her in the house she currently stays. I'm supposed to be renewing the rent by October 17. I'm equally thinking of coming to remove everything in that same house by the weekend with some mobile policemen. As for the school fees she can forget about it. She will have to source for that herself. Just yesterday she and some of those her useless friends and family members have been disturbing my phone begging. Saying I'm taking things too far.


Bro you have not started yet. deal with her well
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by easternguy: 4:16pm On Sep 20, 2016
Women are the most ungrateful creatures in this world.
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by davdjayj: 4:20pm On Sep 20, 2016
Terryindeed:
listen mr man, what is yours it's yours, and the Good Lord will not stop more from happening if you take it back. Jesus Christ, what is to gain from breaking his heart nothing, but he lost everything, is hearth, is trust for women, his love, and finally his kindness, bcus next time he meet with another girl , he will be to heartbroken to move on or to love her , bcus he fear she might alway cheat even if she won't. Bro it's your property, don't alllow anyone tell u to leave it for God or for her and move on, bcus when you did it for her, it was from your heart with love, and now she's turn against you , why should you still be kind to her? Why didn't she think about the repercussions before cheating? I can bet my soul that she's be doing it long ago. Haba get her to the gutter. Some people never appreciate Good friends, and my advice is this , Cut Ties and be with better people. So op forgive but get your self away from her and your stuff. To be honest those type of people don't change, they always want to test new things. Okay you want him to leave it for her and the next girl he meet, will do the same and he will still leave it for her too, over and over, after this experience, i bet he will think twice before doing anything for the next girl even if she's an angel, because of what his ex has done. Men have emotions, these scars don't leave easily, it even make us hate women and turn into a womanizer, just to have sex and go , because of experience like this.



You are a man i suppose. The same thing i said is what i will tell any of my sons. When you GIVE someone something it no longer belongs to you. Giving is different from lending. Dont let emotions cloud your sentiments. You cant wint such a case in any court. What is yours is yours, what has been given out is no longer yours son!

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by 234GT(m): 4:32pm On Sep 20, 2016
Your story dey console me. I'm just smarting from the loss of my babe to another guy, but I no spend reach you o. You be chairman. What pains me is the fact that a girl we loved eceach other so much could dump me like thrash. This is a girl that used to calll me daddy lol. This is a girl I showed all the love in the world and treated like a queen. Truly, girls aren't loyal!
You did not go to the extreme my brother. Recover as much as you can from her, make you no lose completely.

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by Artistree: 10:57pm On Sep 20, 2016
davdjayj:




You are a man i suppose. The same thing i said is what i will tell any of my sons. When you GIVE someone something it no longer belongs to you. Giving is different from lending. Dont let emotions cloud your sentiments. You cant wint such a case in any court. What is yours is yours, what has been given out is no longer yours son!
The most sensible comment on this thread so far, I mean, who does that?
This scenario plays out often in Benin and I can imagine a typical aggressive, unenlightened, egotistical Bini boy carrying out his threats on a lady.

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by Felixtuta(m): 11:38pm On Sep 20, 2016
Take it easy Bro
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by Nobody: 12:32am On Sep 21, 2016
I want to apologize before I tell you what is on my mind. I read almost all the comments and I see just very few matured mind to advice you on what to do.
To start with, what the lady did was very bad.
I want to let you know that everything we have in life is given to us by God and we have often time been so ungrateful to Him. Don't do the things you said you want to do, you will surely look back some day and deeply regret it. Leave everything for her and move on in life. I borrowed from the bank to pay my then gf and after her education she left me. I tell you the truth she still my friend today and respect me more than when were dating. You never can, tomorrow might be her to help you. I am hold enough to tell you that this world is crazy place
I pray you don't take my advice, so that you will know how golden it is but I wish you take it.

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by placeofallure(f): 12:46am On Sep 21, 2016
uyiekpen26:
you don't expect them to.


True, hoes ain't loyal but we're not all like that. She messed up big time but you should remember the times she had pleased you in the relationship. You may freeze the account, instruct the landlord and stop the visa processing but leave the rest for her if for nothing but those passionate moments. Leave her with something to remember you by. Many women are out there who are busy with building up their man, supporting him with everything they've got, even financially, you have just been unfortunate in love.

Uyi, maybe I will be factual with you, why are you attracted to a woman who would go clubbing and smoke shisha at the turn of the head? What manner of man are you? Just wondering. In all tamper justice with mercy. Good luck!

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by JoyChinwe22(f): 12:59am On Sep 21, 2016
abokibuhari:
God bless you bro, you just made my day sire. more grease to your manhood




after recession fear WOMEN
...BECUASE PORN IS NOT HARMLESS
(Your Love life and Pornography)

Pornography is the portrayal of sexually explicit contents on pictures, magazines, videos and so on for the sole purpose of arousing anyone who views them. Pornography is also called porn.
Several years back however, porn was not really accessible to everyone in the form which they are these day. Back then, you had only play boy magazines with pictures of scantily clad models. Things started to get bolder by the day and got even worse with the advent of the internet.
In as much as porn is said to have helped couples build and continuously revive their sex life, it also has a few negative effects on one's love life which cannot be over emphasized. Such effects include:

Porn gives room for unrealistic expectations: Constant viewing of pornography makes you crave to have sex in ways which ordinarily you would find repulsive. You always want to do something different and insanely wild. I'm totally not against spicing things up in the bedroom; but when you want to do that because you have programmed your brain to believe that, 'the weirder, the sexier', then something is seriously wrong.

Porn never satisfies: Porn instils lust and lust is never satisfied. The amazing thing is, lust doesn't crave for more, it craves for something 'different'. This is the reason why someone will have a very wonderful partner and still cheat on them; not because their partner is not attractive. The other person in question may not even be as attractive as their partner, but they just needed something different.
To continue, visit http://lovelifelaughs.com/157/because-porn-is-not-harmless-your-love-life-and-pornography
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by naijaboiy: 1:24am On Sep 21, 2016
Funny how all the Nairaland girls have gone silent. cheesy

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by killermanIsBack(m): 3:51am On Sep 21, 2016
Women are just sex tools, I wonder why any nigga will take them serious...

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by Greenbullet(m): 3:55am On Sep 21, 2016
Talk2Bella:


Nah she cannot eat sand another man will just take your place grin
why would another man take his place,w
ho be MUMU?

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by AngelAhnie(f): 5:30am On Sep 21, 2016
Terryindeed:
My brother God bless you too, please do one thing for me before you leave the house, spit on her face and walk away, don't exchange a word, don't say I have heard you, just pack everything, then when she comes to you , get hold of her face and spit on her forehead. That will make her in her life never cheat with even a dog. What I just said will follow her to her entaph (grave) . Brother Friday is too far, what happens tomorrow? Abeg I don't want u to forgive her o.
Mehn!! You mean bizgrin

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by Nobody: 6:53am On Sep 21, 2016
majority of Nigerian girls 're just foolish, how can a man, take Care of u from head to toe , kitchen to bedroom, and u still cheat on him with a broke azz nigga.. empty that house , don't leave a thing .. she's a biatch and will always be,

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by abokibuhari: 7:02am On Sep 21, 2016
JoyChinwe22:
...BECUASE PORN IS NOT HARMLESS
(Your Love life and Pornography)

Pornography is the portrayal of sexually explicit contents on pictures, magazines, videos and so on for the sole purpose of arousing anyone who views them. Pornography is also called porn.
Several years back however, porn was not really accessible to everyone in the form which they are these day. Back then, you had only play boy magazines with pictures of scantily clad models. Things started to get bolder by the day and got even worse with the advent of the internet.
In as much as porn is said to have helped couples build and continuously revive their sex life, it also has a few negative effects on one's love life which cannot be over emphasized. Such effects include:

Porn gives room for unrealistic expectations: Constant viewing of pornography makes you crave to have sex in ways which ordinarily you would find repulsive. You always want to do something different and insanely wild. I'm totally not against spicing things up in the bedroom; but when you want to do that because you have programmed your brain to believe that, 'the weirder, the sexier', then something is seriously wrong.

Porn never satisfies: Porn instils lust and lust is never satisfied. The amazing thing is, lust doesn't crave for more, it craves for something 'different'. This is the reason why someone will have a very wonderful partner and still cheat on them; not because their partner is not attractive. The other person in question may not even be as attractive as their partner, but they just needed something different.
To continue, visit http://lovelifelaughs.com/157/because-porn-is-not-harmless-your-love-life-and-pornography
chinwe, why all these sermons ?
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by eyinjuege: 12:26pm On Sep 21, 2016
davdjayj:




You are a man i suppose. The same thing i said is what i will tell any of my sons. When you GIVE someone something it no longer belongs to you. Giving is different from lending. Dont let emotions cloud your sentiments. You cant wint such a case in any court. What is yours is yours, whats# has been given out is no longer yours son!

That's so true.
Once you give out something, it's no longer yours, and even the courts will see it that way.
Interesting story though.

Waiting for part 3 on Friday....

Ghenghen.....
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by samuelUMOH(m): 1:40pm On Sep 21, 2016
What i s the essence of this thread ? I see pride and lies from the OP .You bought this and that for her ! Cheap gals are already sending PM to the OP .The aim of the thread is to get attention not advise .@ Op did you buy the blood she is using ? Rich mature dudes don't come online to announce how much they spent on a lady .Some even give a lady cars not car. only kids will fall for your braging .

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by JoyChinwe22(f): 1:00am On Sep 22, 2016
abokibuhari:

chinwe, why all these sermons ?
so ppl will change...lol
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by abokibuhari: 5:13am On Sep 22, 2016
JoyChinwe22:
so ppl will change...lol

and you had to quote me with that story abt porn making it to look like I'm a porn monger, its no fair ma
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by AngelAhnie(f): 9:12am On Sep 22, 2016
naijaboiy:
Funny how all the Nairaland girls have gone silent. cheesy
Don't tell me you believe this story.
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by naijaboiy: 10:15am On Sep 22, 2016
AngelAhnie:
Don't tell me you believe this story.
But it doesn't change the fact that it happens.
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by Bizibi(m): 10:55am On Sep 22, 2016
Snow5:
Lols... OP I feel your pain oo...


Mine is a different direction.. I felt for the guy that was dating the lady.. So dat night.. I couldn't touch her cos I have a conscience...

NOW THE STORY..


we were good friends(I and the lady) .. Last time we saw ourself was way back 2010,..so I was serving in benin 2014 /2015 when I saw this my old time friend... We hugged each other and almost kissed while on the road self.. We got talking and she said she is a student in uniben.. I was too eager to visit her or she visits me... Either ways.. What was on my mind was to kpansh her(enjoy a night with her)..

We got to a point when we discussed almost everything... And I got to realise that she already has a fiancee.. And that finance graduated 2yrs before I graduate... And was doing a meager job... And from that meager job that nigga was doing... He rented an apartment for this my lady friend.. Bought everything that was literally in that house... The lady was comfortable.. And the nigga visits every Saturday jst to satisfy his fiancee in all ramification..

She visited me in my room.. Where I was serving and she passed the night in my house... Immediately she came in.. We hugged but dint kiss at all(she was even surprised at my attitude).. I cooked for her.. She ate... And she quickly took a shower... It was about 7pm then.. She came and sat on the bed NAKED.. jst only panties on..

I was busying pressing my phone and doing nothing inside my phone... Lols...she was like "Patrick what's wrong? Are u angry at me?.. I said no oo.... I moved closer and and we started gisting again oo... I in initiate almost all the stories that night... Jst to make her tired and weak...


She eventually fell asleep I dint even kissed her... I couldn't even romance her... Cos my minid nor let me do the thing... Because I WAS FEELING FOR THAT NIGGA THAT THought HE HAS A GIRL HE WANT TO MARRY ALREADY... I couldn't do it.. I slept on the floor that night..

She woke up the next morning and left about 7am to catch up with lectures.. That evening... Her watsapp status was "dem give you knife and yam you nor fit do anything"... I knew that status was for me... I jst shook my head and till I left that Benin... Na twice we see and na for road we take talk and chat..

Almost all ladies act like this.. I don't know why... What will it take u to be loyal? U see someone that does almost visually everything for you... U still cheat on him... As in... Wetin u dey find? SMH..

bro take heart jor
wow....

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by andreernest28(m): 11:00am On Sep 22, 2016
,Move on man,dic bitch aint loyal.Forget her for life
uyiekpen26:
Myself and this particular girl have been dating for quite sometime (let's say like 2yrs) now. This is someone I do everything for. I pay for the house she's currently living in, send her money for her upkeep, paid some of her fees in school and once in awhile take her on some of my trips within and outside the country.

I've noticed that most times when I call her in the evenings she's never with her phone and she doesn't even pick when I call. I thought maybe she's reading or something. So I don't usually bother to ask her. At some point I noticed some strange behaviors in her. This was someone who was never a club person and all of a sudden she started clubbing and smoking shisha. I confronted her and she said it was just once but I kept quiet. So I decided to do a little investigation without her notice. So I called her one day and a guy picked up and asked who I was. I ended the call and decided to pay her a surprise visit. As soon as I entered, I saw a guy on boxers and singlet sitting on her bed and as soon as she saw me she almost developed high BP. But I pretended like nothing was happening and told her I just came to check up on her.

I left her house that in anger. I went straight to the bank the following week I opened an account for her and closed the account. I stopped with immediate effect the visa processing I was doing in her name. Burnt all the clothes I bought for her from dubai recently and gave all the jewelries I bought for her too to one of my neighbors. I told the landlord to issue a quit notice to her in the house she currently stays. I'm supposed to be renewing the rent by October 17. I'm equally thinking of coming to remove everything in that same house by the weekend with some mobile policemen. As for the school fees she can forget about it. She will have to source for that herself. Just yesterday she and some of those her useless friends and family members have been disturbing my phone begging. Saying I'm taking things too far.
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by Nobody: 1:09pm On Sep 22, 2016
uyiekpen26:
Myself and this particular girl have been dating for quite sometime (let's say like 2yrs) now. This is someone I do everything for. I pay for the house she's currently living in, send her money for her upkeep, paid some of her fees in school and once in awhile take her on some of my trips within and outside the country.

I've noticed that most times when I call her in the evenings she's never with her phone and she doesn't even pick when I call. I thought maybe she's reading or something. So I don't usually bother to ask her. At some point I noticed some strange behaviors in her. This was someone who was never a club person and all of a sudden she started clubbing and smoking shisha. I confronted her and she said it was just once but I kept quiet. So I decided to do a little investigation without her notice. So I called her one day and a guy picked up and asked who I was. I ended the call and decided to pay her a surprise visit. As soon as I entered, I saw a guy on boxers and singlet sitting on her bed and as soon as she saw me she almost developed high BP. But I pretended like nothing was happening and told her I just came to check up on her.

I left her house that in anger. I went straight to the bank the following week I opened an account for her and closed the account. I stopped with immediate effect the visa processing I was doing in her name. Burnt all the clothes I bought for her from dubai recently and gave all the jewelries I bought for her too to one of my neighbors. I told the landlord to issue a quit notice to her in the house she currently stays. I'm supposed to be renewing the rent by October 17. I'm equally thinking of coming to remove everything in that same house by the weekend with some mobile policemen. As for the school fees she can forget about it. She will have to source for that herself. Just yesterday she and some of those her useless friends and family members have been disturbing my phone begging. Saying I'm taking things too far.

my brother, ur decision is steady.
with d experience I had with a lady I've bn faithful to 4 gud 4yrs and she end up surprising me 3mnths back.
I think u did nothing self, compare 2 wat she did.
bros, till 2 day I'm still wondering if an average woman really knows wat she want in her life, ONLY but a few of them.
so feel 4 u hmmmm! all d best bravo.
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by JoyChinwe22(f): 5:03pm On Sep 22, 2016
N
abokibuhari:


and you had to quote me with that story abt porn making it to look like I'm a porn monger, its no fair ma
lol, awww, didn't intend to mk u look bad... so sorry honey.
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by emiike: 7:48pm On Sep 22, 2016
uyiekpen26:
thanks brother. Even the phone she's been using to disturb me was bought by me. I'm going to collect everything including the phone and everything in that house. After all, I bought them with my own money not hers.

you didnt go far buh my adv is to leave her with the things currently with her e.g phone just leave it with her n forget bouh her completely
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by Nobody: 10:06pm On Sep 22, 2016
Many pretend to be do-gooders and chauvinists to paint a good public picture of themselves even when they're actually dying in their minds. Bro since you have started the operation recover my looted funds, carry it out to the end. Your happiness lies in your own hands. If taking back the much you can recover can placate you, do it. Learn to be firm when you make your decisions cos even coming on this platform seems a bit puerile on your own part. No body has the magic wand to solve your problem. The only problem i have is whether or not you made the payments and purchases in your name or hers and therefore whether you have rights to the deeds aforementioned. Another thing is that you don't assume all girls are same but learn to play your cards well from now onwards. Even when they tell you to forgo what you have spent, you still wouldn't be sure of any happiness neither are you sure the actions you have chosen to take, so I'd tell you to do what is in your mind. one more thang, people should prepare themselves before getting into relationships. Don't just act on impulse and inordinate emotions.
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by Fidelismaria: 11:16pm On Sep 22, 2016
well
seems u already got d needed advice

ama just going to observe
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by abagajnr3: 11:19pm On Sep 22, 2016
u observe am too...
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by kaywhynoni: 11:38pm On Sep 23, 2016
uyiekpen26:
Myself and this particular girl have been dating for quite sometime (let's say like 2yrs) now. This is someone I do everything for. I pay for the house she's currently living in, send her money for her upkeep, paid some of her fees in school and once in awhile take her on some of my trips within and outside the country.

I've noticed that most times when I call her in the evenings she's never with her phone and she doesn't even pick when I call. I thought maybe she's reading or something. So I don't usually bother to ask her. At some point I noticed some strange behaviors in her. This was someone who was never a club person and all of a sudden she started clubbing and smoking shisha. I confronted her and she said it was just once but I kept quiet. So I decided to do a little investigation without her notice. So I called her one day and a guy picked up and asked who I was. I ended the call and decided to pay her a surprise visit. As soon as I entered, I saw a guy on boxers and singlet sitting on her bed and as soon as she saw me she almost developed high BP. But I pretended like nothing was happening and told her I just came to check up on her.

I left her house that in anger. I went straight to the bank the following week I opened an account for her and closed the account. I stopped with immediate effect the visa processing I was doing in her name. Burnt all the clothes I bought for her from dubai recently and gave all the jewelries I bought for her too to one of my neighbors. I told the landlord to issue a quit notice to her in the house she currently stays. I'm supposed to be renewing the rent by October 17. I'm equally thinking of coming to remove everything in that same house by the weekend with some mobile policemen. As for the school fees she can forget about it. She will have to source for that herself. Just yesterday she and some of those her useless friends and family members have been disturbing my phone begging. Saying I'm taking things too far.

Op, can please update us? We have been waiting patiently for today Friday as you promised.

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Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by motherfucker: 7:43am On Sep 24, 2016
uyiekpen26:
satisfy what? Don't say what you don't know. She should go and meet that other guy to satisfy her.
so what is the update bro. We wanna know. Do not leave us in the dark.
Re: Did I go too far with my actions? by motherfucker: 6:03pm On Sep 28, 2016
uyiekpen26, what's up with this case? Please come and update us please.

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