makydebbie:

these words are magical. .thanks alot


happy Sunday to you!

OBTSubtle:


I really don't know.. I don't want to be kept..


But if as a woman, you can figure out a man's life and set the things you know aren't right.. Walahi he's yours forever..


And it's really not difficult.. Y'all just lazy..

If he's the type who loves going out, hanging with friends and leaving you at home.. Get to know his friends, win their respect.. Don't force him to stay at home with you, he's not an animal, if his friends respect you.. They'll make him spend more time with you..

If you're observant and wise, the man is yours..

It's not food or sex..

No woman will ever cook better than mother.. No matter what she cooks..

Sense keeps a man..

misspicy:

My biggest fear

I need suggestions on How to avoid it too
Someone please heeeelp

Girl360:
So my own...

I don't believe in love..

As in two people "falling in love"

I always doubt guys when use those three words:
"I love you"

I've even been told I have a psychological problem because of that Lol

Yeah, so that's it... I don't know if that's a fear

Laveda:


Lol I believe time would change all of that.
At one point in your life, you will.

Mskrisx:
My only fear in life is being a poor girl... I just wan be rich... I dunno why I have attached a lot of relevance to this particular feeling.

Dear lord, please help your girl. She Loves the good things of life.

IamNawty:
my own fair is not to be able to takia of my parents.. Asin the thought drive me nuts . I love love love doing for them.. I rilli a wanna be successful , not bcus of me first, but because I want to takia of mum and dad and I don't want them to ever lack anything good at old age

ipain:
it is fear and I just hope you do not miss that "great guy" I am speaking from experience. Because of my past, I allowed it to rob how I view girls. I used to share my story and it got so bad that someone here quoted "if you close your eyes because you do not want to see a devil, you wouldn't know when an angel will pass"

When it happen, my mind flashed back to those quote.

Be careful, lighten up because if you find you missed someone who could make your heart sing with joy, it is often more painful than heart break.

I usually do not show my real self to ladies ( I mean that guy that sings, write poem, get her surprise gift, check on her etc) and it takes "the one" to naturally make me do this (I had reset my heart to function that way )

Cos I am confirm lover boy, a romeo, just had to bury that guy for safety reasons.

Since that experience, I have learned to be careful not make same mistake and strike a balance.

dollyjoy:
Following.

Am scared of getting married to the wrong guy. Have some married friends and their stories isn't too encouraging. Epp me God.

Sleekyshuga:

Hi .. Just maybe, it is..


No, it's not possible. You called it a break up, didn't you? It's like beating a child and at the same time, telling the child not to cry. Does such action make sense to you? The pain(s) of a break up must be the there but then, the level of pain(s) depends on the level of gains one was enjoying in such relationship.


Truth is, every relationship is like a thumb print. The uniqueness of yours may (will) differ from mine. If you ain't happy after quitting your relationship, then, that means, you jilted a union at its premature stage; just maybe, you would have given it time before drawing the curtains.

In my opinion, I still don't think there are ways of breaking up without hurting the other party.


Hope I was able to answer your question ?

ipain:
hmmm... your words remind me of my elder sister's prayer which is : "oh God, please help me grow fast so I can take care of my mum" she kept her words and even built a house for my mum except mum didn't last to enter house

DissTroy:


[b] Every woman (including the females who strut the red-light districts) is emotionally wired to crave and give love even if she's been heartbroken a thousand times and she refuses to admit it.


The problem is, ALL women fall in love for selfish reasons, even the most noble woman.

If you ask any girl who's registered her presence on this thread why she fell in love with her boyfriend or why she'd fall in love in the future, she'd reply with one, two or all of the below:

1. He makes ME laugh and happy.

2. He respects ME.

3. He listens to me , shows concern about me and gives ME attention when I need it.

4. He makes me feel special and like a top priority in life.

5. He looks like someone who'd fit into the kind of future I WANT.

Notice I deliberately left out financial benefits? I want to keep the argument straight.

Every woman's reason for falling in love is conditional. She doesn't set out to better the guy's life but she's out for how he fits into her agenda.


She might be the most loving and faithful girlfriend in the world but her reasons for loving you are selfish all the same.

The moment you stop making her laugh, happy or making her the center of your world (even if you're still faithful and rock her bed like never before), she'd start thinking of someone who'd make her feel the way you used to.


Men, on the other hand, love selflessly when they fall in love.


It tastes like quinine when you absorp it but it's the truth all the same. [/b]

jake2much:
most girls are bitches a girl will only stay wit u once u hav money.i knw wat am saying if u neva xperience pain in reationship u dont know.

bibijay123:
My fears......


Marriage: Maybe it is because of the many failed marriages i know. Or maybe it is because i am afraid somehow the love will die and i will be stuck with someone i no longer love. I don't know but it scares me alot, even the tot of it is enough to make me but its crazy that i love weddings n the whole glitz that comes with.


Pregnancy: I love babies and i would love to have some, some day so i don't know why dis scares me. I am not afraid of the pain of labour, no i can deal with the pain. I am also scared that wen i finally get over this absurd fear i may not be able to conceive becos i was told i hve to start my family early due to some health issues.


Poverty: Just the name is enough to scare anyone. I don't want my kids to experience any shiit i went tru in life. I want them to have the best, that is why my ' Hustling mode' is activated now and its connection is so strong. I am scared of being married n poor.


Falling for the wrong man: I have seen men beat up their wives in front of their kids, i hve seen women cowering in fear just at the mention of their husband' s name. It is not just for my own sake but for the sake of the innocent children we will bring into d world.

handsam:


excuse me pls. What are you?



Berlynn.. Suzan404 do u feel nippl.e-pain sometimes

Diddyydiva:
Seems this is the right place to ask a question that has been on my mind for quiet a while now...

The question is ......


Is it ever possible to break up with someone without hurting them?.

I did break up with a guy I felt I was doing a favour letting him go, Yea am not the type who play games and am kind of too honest. Well this ended up bad for me that I even wished I should have just let him be, probably start acting weird till he freaks out. ( you know what I mean ) .

Although something tells me I did the right thing but I still question my actions sometimes.

Could I have handled the situation better?
Are there other possible ways to break up without hurting the person.

I'd like to learn from intelligent people here.

Cc

Laveda
Twaci
Missspicy
Sleekyshuga
Mizmycoli
Lanicky
Ishilove

And any other intelligent persons who sees this

ipain:
you seemed the most matured around here with broad insights. Kudos.

Diddyydiva:
Seems this is the right place to ask a question that has been on my mind for quiet a while now...

The question is ......


Is it ever possible to break up with someone without hurting them?.

I did break up with a guy I felt I was doing a favour letting him go, Yea am not the type who play games and am kind of too honest. Well this ended up bad for me that I even wished I should have just let him be, probably start acting weird till he freaks out. ( you know what I mean ) .

Although something tells me I did the right thing but I still question my actions sometimes.

Could I have handled the situation better?
Are there other possible ways to break up without hurting the person.

I'd like to learn from intelligent people here.

Cc

Laveda
Twaci
Missspicy
Sleekyshuga
Mizmycoli
Lanicky
Ishilove

And any other intelligent persons who sees these

lanicky:



Hmmmmm... It's obvious you still have feelings for him.. (I don't wanna say love now)
You left him for a reason right? Yeah, maybe you noticed he changed from the guy you used to love...
Or maybe, you felt or was sure he was cheating on you..

Or ..
Maybe you felt he wasn't good enough for you... Maybe you wanted more..

Or
Maybe, you wanted attention and he's not giving you... Or you just wanted him to love you like you loved him, but he didn't do that...


Right now, you're remorseful cos you feel what you did was bad... It's not so bad if you ask me, but you didn't follow the right step...


You should've expressed yourself.. Let him know how you feel, and what you want in the relationship and what he's not doing right.

If he doesn't change...then you can tell him you're not ready to continue with the relationship...


But the did has been done already... You can't change that. But dear, you can change something, You can still talk to him...if you're strong enough to do that.. Don't ignore him totally like an enemy, except he did something you can't forgive. Let him know you don't hate him...All you wanted was happiness.


The most important thing is..

DO NOT GIVE ROOM FOR RESENTMENT.
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING BY LETTING HIM GO.... IT SHOWS YOU LOVE HIM..
PLS, DON'T DESTROY YOURSELF WITH ANGER.

Be Strong

misspicy:

Just ignore him
That was what we did to vanquay last year,remember?

cc Girl3.60

Diddyydiva:
@Lanicky, thanks so much for your words, sincerely I have no feelings for him ( romantically) I just felt I should have done better. I did the right thing in the wrong way . I know better now. Thank you
BTW. We are friends now, we have nothing against each other

Benita27, Thank you too

Twaci, I have moved on. Just reflecting on the past to avoid reoccurrence of such mistakes. Thanks for the cake . How did you know I love chocolate cake


Ipain He never cheated, he was a good guy with a wonderful heart. The problem was with me lets say I was infatuated you dig? But its been settled now. I was just reflecting . Thank you for the birthday day wishes too.



Thanks guys

Diddyydiva:
@Lanicky, thanks so much for your words, sincerely I have no feelings for him ( romantically) I just felt I should have done better. I did the right thing in the wrong way . I know better now. Thank you
BTW. We are friends now, we have nothing against each other

Benita27, Thank you too

Twaci, I have moved on. Just reflecting on the past to avoid reoccurrence of such mistakes. Thanks for the cake . How did you know I love chocolate cake


Ipain He never cheated, he was a good guy with a wonderful heart. The problem was with me lets say I was infatuated you dig? But its been settled now. I was just reflecting . Thank you for the birthday day wishes too.



Thanks guys

tukdi:
I am ready to take you the way you are!


Come lets move on together!

Diddyydiva:
Ah ah


If my guy catch you eh ?

danbrowndmf:
nor be only you o. My preeq cap too,every period of the month

Laveda:


Bae any good news? my phone was off all through yesterday so I couldn't make calls,and I'm off whatsapp for now...
were you able to reach him? Lol surprisingly I've been so worried...

morning..

modified••••
I reached him

We bless God for everything and I learnt a lesson from it all.

Good morning

ipain:
don't eat too much and drink everything for enjoyment. Do not lie down too much because you don't have anything stressing you.

That's how I started getting fat tummy and now I am working to reduce it. It's easy to get fat than losing fat.

I have noticed the fat tummy too,more reason I'm getting concerned.

Funny enough,I'm still slim but I fear for the future