i got this for u.




"By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."

soloroyality:



as a lady may u marry at the age of 30. Say amen

No,...35 actually, ....(no be me tok am oo, na wetin one reaction babe suggest to OP ok oo.. )

Young03:



see wetin u dey advise person


He is still young @ 30 to get married, u mean married man can't go to school, the way una dey hype school self tire me, whereas those that have graduated r yet to see work..


guy u better go marry n enter school

if u want to graduate before marriage, u may turn to Banky w

He cannot successfully get married and enter school at the same time, both endeavors bear enormous responsibilities and demands on his time, energy, finance, emotional and mental well being. You cannot serve those 2 masters equally well at the same time.

ucsparks:
marriage at 30? TUFIAKWA!!!!. You want to give yourself such burden at this young age
Go and get a degree jare, then in 5years time u think about marriage burden

What makes marriage a burden most times is finance. Since op is buoyant enough let him marry. He gets to enjoy his family more than when he's 40.

Young03:



see wetin u dey advise person


He is still young @ 30 to get married, u mean married man can't go to school, the way una dey hype school self tire me, whereas those that have graduated r yet to see work..


guy u better go marry n enter school

if u want to graduate before marriage, u may turn to Banky w

Gbam!...you nailed it....I wonder y they can't understand that education is a tool for success and not success in its self....and that also shows many of this ladies don't know the aim of marriage ..marriage is not something you do after school...its something you do when you find someone who makes you happy...its because of the financial culture that kindoff mandates school so that you can pay bills...its not some sort of nysc or job hunt...

ucsparks:
marriage at 30? TUFIAKWA!!!!. You want to give yourself such burden at this young age
Go and get a degree jare, then in 5years time u think about marriage burden

I see...I smell ignorance

Funfair001:
Hello Nlanders, I need mature advice please. I'm a 29years old man....I dropped out of University for business and I'm making stable income but now, I want to go back to school (abroad) which I have started my admission processing. Next year, I will be 30years old and some guys are advising me to get married since I have the money to take care of my family and my studies.

I'm confused even though I wish to get married too but still, I don't know what to do. Please I need mature advise if I should just go ahead or shun marriage for now.

Thank you all

If u think u r fit to get marry pls do but don't do it because your friend said so. Do it because u r married.

There are certain things you can not have back in life-time wasted is one of such. Personally, I dont think the OP is too young to get married. In fact he should have been married by now all things being equal...However, I do not belong to the school of thought that says if he marries much later in life(perhaps at 35 and above) 'he would spend his pension on his children's school fees'...or 'when he is sixty his child will just be twenty'...etc

With all due respect, that is a myopic way of thinking. We have seen instances where people married early,in their twenties and could not even have a child till their late forties/early fiftees. If their aim of getting married then was to have children early to avoid such problems, then has the aim not been defeated?....I have seen instances where a man in his late thirties is still a liability to the parents, while another boy in his early twenties has already become successful,making his own parents proud-Both parents of the man and the young boy are agemates..meaning one married atleast 10years before the other!...

In short, getting married early is not a guarantee you would be relieved of your children's financial or social burden early, it does not even mean you would become a grandparent before someone who married much later in life....

I am not saying getting married late is good...but we need to understand that,'life has no manual'..and the 'end justifies the means'

@Op.
Do you have someone you really like enough to get married to?. I mean someone who also shares in your values and ideals. If yes, then go ahead, marry her and regardless of the challenges you face, both of you can weather the storm together and u would emerge victorious...such stories are sweet to tell..

But, if u are asking this question because some of your colleagues, relatives or friends are married, and you think u should also marry, then you might be making a grave mistake-a kind of mistake which is becoming a recurring decimal in our society today...In as much as I support getting married as and when due, I won't encourage you to marry just because others are doing it. Cheers.

Marriage ain't a key to happiness nor self satisfaction

My advice focus in making your EDUCATION a priority and in process if you "TRULY" fall in love then get married(someone who loves YOU for YOU & ready to be with no matter the circumstance "LOYALTY")

Benita27:
You're still very young op, give it another 5yrs...focus on getting the tertiary education then get married when you're 35.

It will save you a lot, don't run into it because your friends are advising.

Young at 29, stop this pls.am younger than him and am having the zeal to marry now if the chosen one show up...pls...he is old to marry.

OlajumokeBread:


What a Nigerian mentality

30 is a young age ??

Go tell that to Anthony Martial who got married at the age of 18

I got married at the age of 20

So your smoke filled brain told you that marriage is a burden ??

*Spits

Dnt mind them, so surprising how guys here posting that 30yrs old man is too young to marry...Nigerians can think anything stupid...besides...you don't marry at 20,you impregnate someone at 20.stop lieing

Pls do not marry cos ur friends r sayin u shud do oooo its not dem dat will help u in d marriage *A broken relationshop is better dan a broken marriage* if i were U i will go for my education first

you dey consider only the age factor,what of the economy of our country?? cost of feeding your family, bros e no easy to feed other people o... especially in naija where ur take home pay can no longer take you home.....age na numbe for poor people..

Benita27:
You're still very young op, give it another 5yrs...focus on getting the tertiary education then get married when you're 35.

It will save you a lot, don't run into it because your friends are advising.

very young at 35..really

ogtavia:
very young at 35..really

Very young @29 and still young at @30 for marriage, he should focus on pressing things now.

Funfair001:
Hello Nlanders, I need mature advice please. I'm a 29years old man....I dropped out of University for business and I'm making stable income but now, I want to go back to school (abroad) which I have started my admission processing. Next year, I will be 30years old and some guys are advising me to get married since I have the money to take care of my family and my studies.

I'm confused even though I wish to get married too but still, I don't know what to do. Please I need mature advise if I should just go ahead or shun marriage for now.

Thank you all

Nwadialor arinze

Coldfeet:
lolz exactly o! Smh at folks saying 30 is young for a guy.

Let's do the maths.. get married at 30 have a kid by 31( for instance) by the time that child is ready for secondary school the guy is around 42! Add 6 years to that and he is 48.
Uni starts for the child at age 18-19 add 4years uni and 1year NYSC the child is 23-24 ish and the father is 53-54 ish.

And yet some people want him to wait?

Life is just beyond what you presume..I'm aware you've only done your calculations with the belief 'all things being equal' but you failed to understand that things don't work for different persons the same way. How are we sure the op will have children as soon as he gets married;no one prays for unfortunate situations anywhere.I will still reteriate on the op chasing his academic career for now if he's so ardent about it.I might have being jaundiced in my views though but Its just an opinion.

OlajumokeBread:

What a Nigerian mentality
30 is a young age ??
Go tell that to Anthony Martial who got married at the age of 18
I got married at the age of 20
So your smoke filled brain told you that marriage is a burden ??
*Spits

Anthony martial isnt married, get your facts right.

OlajumokeBread:

What a Nigerian mentality
30 is a young age ??
Go tell that to Anthony Martial who got married at the age of 18
I got married at the age of 20
So your smoke filled brain told you that marriage is a burden ??
*Spits

Anthony martial isnt married, get your facts right.

Formal education at the age of 30

Bro you dey smoke something strong, no vex. Apply for e-learning if you must go to school.

University is overrated. At 30 you're still asking childish question.

When e go set, none of them here giving you stup1d advise will be there.

Taryur3:

Dnt mind them, so surprising how guys here posting that 30yrs old man is too young to marry...Nigerians can think anything stupid...besides...you don't marry at 20,you impregnate someone at 20.stop lieing

Bros maka why naa

Funfair001:
Hello Nlanders, I need mature advice please. I'm a 29years old man....I dropped out of University for business and I'm making stable income but now, I want to go back to school (abroad) which I have started my admission processing. Next year, I will be 30years old and some guys are advising me to get married since I have the money to take care of my family and my studies.

I'm confused even though I wish to get married too but still, I don't know what to do. Please I need mature advise if I should just go ahead or shun marriage for now.

Thank you all

I am also in your shoes. I will advise u don't get married now if u are sure u want to further your studies. If u get married now it will make u lose focus. It will also pull you down. It won't make u achieve your aim on time. I will advise you to be focus with ur study for now. Many people made that mistake years back. Now they are mere secondary school teachers. If you really want to go far with ur academics and business don't give marriage a thought now. Presently am out of the country for my post graduate study...when it comes to marriage am over due for it but I won't give it a thought till the next few years. So decide well.

Please my brother go marry leave the rest for ur children

ChemicalReaction:
You can kill two birds with a stone. Follow your heart. In this era, If I'm in your shoes, i'll choose education. You're still a young man, your time isn't ticking yet and you may likely change your mind when kids start coming.#my opinion tho. @Cornoil, say something!

30yrs is a young man.......hmmmmm

Youngzedd:


Bros maka why naa

Lols...sorry...buh how u go say u marry at 20

Benita27:
You're still very young op, give it another 5yrs...focus on getting the tertiary education then get married when you're 35.

It will save you a lot, don't run into it because your friends are advising.

which kan advice b dis? Get married @35?

Benita27:
Very young @29 and still young at @30 for marriage, he should focus on pressing things now.

well for me,i feel,if one can,if the circumstances permit,set out on marriage early,marriage is best enjoyed and savoured in youth...I am 26 and I am praying to get married before I hit 30...hopefully 29..

Guy the best advice for you is to shun that marriage for now. You probably are not planning to travel abroad with the young wife and yet who do you want to keep her here for? You are young bro and worse still going back to school. You may not be making a sound judgement going into uni already with a baggage. You are definitely going to meet a lot of beautiful creatures there and your mind might sway. Forget the love, I bet you'll fall into it a million times and you'll only have regrets and unsettled mind. Bro be free, you still have the time. Don't listen to these shitty about you being old enough, it might end in regrets. Go get the education and when you've sampled a lotta waists there, you may wish to pick one that meets your taste at the tail end of your course if you still gat the cash or leave it you finish and get job.

Its relative. For me 30 is old. Is it wen he strt to grow grey hair that he will settle down? All this girls asking him to go to school...will u marry him ni? Abeg oo. Oga settle down n still go to school. Shikina.

Wait let me read all your comments and tell wether your matured to get married

HCF:
There are certain things you can not have back in life-time wasted is one of such. Personally, I dont think the OP too young to get married. In fact he should have been married by now all things being equal...However, I do not belong to the school of thought that says if he marries much later in life(perhaps at 35 and above) 'he would spend his pension on his children's school fees'...or 'his children would be under stress financially'.

With all due respect, that is a myopic way of thinking. We have seen instances where people married early,in their twenties and could not even have a child till their late forties/early fiftees. If their aim of getting married then was to have children early to avoid such a problem, then has the aim not been defeated?....I have seen instances where a man in his late thirties is still a liability to the parents, while another boy in his early twenties has already become successful,making his own parents proud-Both parents of the man and the young boy are agemates..meaning one married 10years before the other!...

In short, getting married early does not mean you would become relieved of your children's financial or social burden early, it does not even mean you would become a grandparent before someone who married much later in life....

However I am not saying getting married late is good...but we need to understand that,'life has no manual'..and the 'end justifies the means'

@Op.
Do you have someone you really like enough to get married to?. I mean someone who also shares in your values and ideals. If yes, then go ahead, marry her and regardless of the challenges you face, both of you can weather the storm together and u would emerge victorious...such stories are sweet to tell..

But, if u are asking this question because some of your colleagues, relatives or friends are married, and you think u should also marry, then you might be making a grave mistake-a kind of mistake which is becoming a recurring decimal in our society today...In as much as I support getting married as and when due, I won't encourage you to marry just because others are doing it. Cheers.

This is a million dollar advice. funfair001, look no further, this is the advice you're looking for.

I'm 29 also. Feb 14th next year makes me 30. I just got admitted for my degree programme. Marriage is something I wanna do right after education.