SHE IS JUST SO FOND OF ME AND I KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS ...BUT I HAVE NO INTENTION OF CHEATING ON MY WIFE ... AND I WILL NOT... all i need is advice on how to tell this lady off without bruising her feelings. ...Thanks in advance! ...and please i have no trash can to resident okpata from kids here... ONLY MATURED AND SENSIBLE ADVICE PLS! THANKS!

Karlman:
SHE IS JUST SO FOND OF ME AND I KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS ...I HAVE NO INTENTION OF CHEATING ON MY WIFE ... AND I WILL NOT... all i need is advice on how to tell this lady off without bruising her feeling...thanks in advance ...and please i have no trash can to resident okpata from kids here...

Lemmi just book a space first

Sometimes it's better to go on the offensive. If you try telling her in a mild manner, she might think you're actually interested in her and that's why you're taking it lightly. Better safe than sorry.

Parpor:

Lemmi just book a space first

IS ALLOWED ...just no yan okpata in the end because i no get dustbin here.

google please ans his question

Karlman:
IS ALLOWED ...just no yan okpata in the end because i no get dustbin here.

Lols. U Berra no allow her temptations catch u ohh,trust me you won't like it at the end

Fvck her na. No time to waste time

Parpor:

Lols. U Berra no allow her temptations catch u ohh,trust me you won't like it at the end

naaa that is a no no

TosinDru:
Sometimes it's better to go on the offensive. If you try telling her in a mild manner, she might think you're actually interested in her and that's why you're taking it lightly. Better safe than sorry.

you have a point there...

Karlman:
naaa that is a no no

Okay boss

Karlman:
SHE IS JUST SO FOND OF ME AND I KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS ...BUT I HAVE NO INTENTION OF CHEATING ON MY WIFE ... AND I WILL NOT...

If you indeed have no intentions of cheating then you wouldnt't have opened this thread caring about what this disrespectful woman thinks. If she had any respect for you or your union, she wouldn't try to have you cheat on your wife.

all i need is advice on how to tell this lady off without bruising her feelings. ...Thanks in advance! ...and please

If you really cared for your union and really don't want to cheat then you must get rid of such disrespectful women from your life. The fact that you even care about not hurting her feelings is disturbing, and if you truly need advice on what to do, then i suggest you ask your wife, she will surely have the proper solution.

folarinmiles:
Fvck her na. No time to waste time

didnt i warn you about the absence of trash can here? now there is no where to put this your okpata

If you told her already and she is still not leaving you, just tell your wife bout it. Let your wife treat her Bleep up

MrBrownJay1:


If you indeed have no intentions of cheating then you wouldnt't have opened this thread caring about what this disrespectful woman thinks. If she had any respect for you or your union, she wouldn't try to have you cheat on your wife.



If you really cared for your union and really don't want to cheat then you must get rid of such disrespectful women from your life. The fact that you even care about not hurting her feelings is disturbing, and if you truly need advice on what to do, then i suggest you ask your wife, she will surely have the proper solution.

YOU are mean and suspicious ...i will not do anything with her and thats it ...i am very discipline person ...and she is not the first person to come along. ...YOU ARE RATHER TOO PRESUMPTIOUS IN YOUR JUDGEMENT BOTH TO ME AND EVEN TO HER ...you probably shoulda asked one or two questions before making conclusions

dpete1:
If you told her already and she is still not leaving you, just tell your wife bout it. Let your wife treat her Bleep up

Hmm! you are on point.

Karlman:
YOU are mean and suspicious ...i will not do anything with her and thats it ...i am very discipline person ...and she is not the first person to come along. ...YOU ARE RATHER TOO PRESUMPTIOUS IN YOUR JUDGEMENT BOTH TO ME AND EVEN TO HER ...you probably shoulda asked one or two questions before making conclusions

Your focus is on this girl, and how not to hurt her feelings while it should be on your union... Here is a clue: if there was a male friend of your wife bothering her for sex, would you really want her to A) stay in contact with such person, B) care about not hurting his feelings and C) ask NLers what to do instead of telling you?!

Again, ask your dear wife for the solution

MrBrownJay1:


Your focus is on this girl, and how not to hurt her feelings while it should be on your union... Here is a clue: if there was a male friend of your wife bothering her for sex, would you really want her to A) stay in contact with such person, B) care about not hurting his feelings and C) ask NLers what to do instead of telling you?!

Again, ask your dear wife for the solution

I DO UNDERSTAND YOUR POINT ...but you seem to have this feeling that i want to sleep with her which is a no no... that i put up the matter here for discuss should not be seen as a weakness but as a strength of my ability to make open such matter to show it is nothing of importance to me.

Karlman:
I DO UNDERSTAND YOUR POINT ...but you seem to have this feeling that i want to sleep with her which is a no no... that i put up the matter here for discuss should not be seen as a weakness but as a strength of my ability to make open such matter to show it is nothing of important to me.

Well you seem to forget that there are two people that feelings may be hurt here.... But sadly you decide to care about this lady's feelings while disregarding the feelings of your wife on the issue. You clearly have shown which is more important to you.

Karlman:
SHE IS JUST SO FOND OF ME AND I KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS ...BUT I HAVE NO INTENTION OF CHEATING ON MY WIFE ... AND I WILL NOT... all i need is advice on how to tell this lady off without bruising her feelings. ...Thanks in advance! ...and please i have no trash can to resident okpata from kids here... ONLY MATURED AND SENSIBLE ADVICE PLS! THANKS!

Your downfall will be your fear of 'bruising her feelings'. As long as you have that as an objective knowing fully well her ulterior motives, you will eventually compromise, not today, no tomorrow, but very soon. Obviously, she does not care about the sanctity of your marriage.

So, you have to decide which is of more importance to you; the sanctity of your marriage or bruising her feelings, then act accordingly.

It's very simple bro. Just call her tell her that you are a married man, you ain't interested simple. And if your still on i dont want to hurt her that means something is between you guys that you dont want to tell us.

MrBrownJay1:


Well you seem to forget that there are two people that feelings may be hurt here.... But sadly you decide to care about this lady's feelings while disregarding the feelings of your wife on the issue. You clearly have shown which is more important to you.

i donT think youd make a good judge ...this matter has not gotten to where you are taking it...and worst, you dont listen, you simply pickd the first thing i said and held to it with a baby grip...

linearity:


Your downfall will be your fear of 'bruising her feelings'. As long as you have that as an objective knowing fully well her ulterior motives, you will eventually compromise, not today, no tomorrow, but very soon. Obviously, she does not care about the sanctity of your marriage.

So, you have to decide which is of more importance to you; the sanctity of your marriage or bruising her feelings, then act accordingly.

i think some of you misunderstood that line ...telling her off without bruising her feeling......what i simply meant was how to cut her off in a civilized manner...thats all.

Karlman:
didnt i warn you about the absence of trash can here? now there is no where to put this your okpata

do you take drugs?

zealblinks:
It's very simple bro. Just call her tell her that you are a married man, you ain't interested simple. And if your still on i dont want to hurt her that means something is between you guys that you dont want to tell us.

your first sentence was all that was needed...dont know why you had to add that misunderstood line

Karlman:
i donT think youd make a good judge ...this matter has not gotten to where you are taking it...and worst, you dont listen, you simply pickd the first thing i said and held to it with a baby grip...

Again, tell your wife and be done with this issue, or keep playing yourself about keeping such disrespectful female friends in your life.

Jacksparr0w127:
do you take drugs?

DOES this place look like where you can peddle your drugs...you are high on your own supply too bad.

Karlman:
DOES this place look like where you can peddle your drugs...you are high on your own supply too bad.

why you ranting?

My friend go and sleep

MrBrownJay1:


Again, tell your wife and be done with this issue, or keep playing yourself about keeping such disrespectful female friends in your life.

she is actually a customer.... this are some of the things you should have askd

Karlman:
she is actually a customer.... this are some of the things you should have askd

Friend/ customer / neighbor etc.... Same disrespectful act.

MrBrownJay1:


Friend/ customer / neighbor etc.... Same disrespectful act.

so in the case of customer how best do you go about it?

Karlman:
so in the case of customer how best do you go about it?

Same way man, that person's money isn't worth the peace in our marriage. If this lady is not willing to respect your union then get rid of her from your life.

Karlman:
i think some of you misunderstood that line ...telling her off without bruising her feeling......what i simply meant was how to cut her off in a civilized manner...thats all.

Honestly, there should be no diplomacy in telling her an emphatic No, don't say or behave in a manner that she will interpret as you empathizing with her or that you understand her situation or the reason(s) she might be having such feelings.

Tell her you are married and are offended that, she does not respect your marriage, yourself or your wife. Tell her you love your wife and will remain faithful to her.

I believe the above is civilize enough; you are not calling her names, or disparaging her, you are just telling it as it is.