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Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by chrisj2(m): 12:58pm On Apr 12, 2017
This thread is now all over the place. The questions from the OP are kind of derivative; although the information from the questions should be useful.

The biggest question the ladies should ask themselves is why do i want to get involved in what might end up being very complicated when there are guys in this country.

With Trump and Brexit and anti-immigrants sentiments all over, he chances of moving abroad even as a spouse is so hard - was not easy before.

So why marry a guy you will not see for long periods of time. And as for marrying a guy that is not even in Nigeria; that will be so strange if they have not met before or she is not already in the family way.

Do you live alone? Not relevant unless it is a case of do you live with another woman for pali sake or otherwise.

The expensive car part - why does he have to have an expensive car and why is he showing off? I will rather show off my house. My 1.2 litres is good enough - fuel efficient, economical in all the taxes, and a good nipper and good for parking. Moreover, I live alone, so why drive a BMW or Benz or people carrier.

Lastly, those saying that guys should be able to find spouse easily where they are - I tell you it is not that easy. The Nja girls here can be very difficult and demanding. One girl in her 40s with no kids yet, still studying but her expectations and expenditures is way off the scale. She just kept on chewing my ears off with what she wants and what she was going to get. An unmarried woman wanting to get a 4×4 and saying she wanted a girl and so on and so on...

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Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by erico2k2(m): 1:07pm On Apr 12, 2017
Cindino20:


Bros just for curiosity...how can someone who is legally married in country A to wife A file for marriage reunion for wife B to come to country A....

Hw is this remotely possible?

Will this not amount to Bigamy?

I await ur response.

AFAIK..this is nt possible and ur claim seems like a fairy tale.

NB: Marriage is diff from "baby mama and baby dada".

Case sturdy MUSLIMS
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by Cutie09(m): 1:08pm On Apr 12, 2017
erico2k2:

How do U get that loan when you are not a UK citezen ? And if you ate a UK citizen why would you wanna get a wife based in Nigeria ? See how both don't connect ?

That's true you must have a valid stay or indefinite leave to remain before you can be eligible for the loan. But people with EU passport are eligible as of now because article 50 is not fully in process yet.

Yeah some Nigeria men here still go back home to get married. Few years ago the smart one will come do sham marriage to get stay then few years later they are free and they can get same benefit as citizens
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by vicardino(m): 1:14pm On Apr 12, 2017
Asking these 3 questions is your version of being smart or smartness? Nneh, you have a long way to go o. U appear to be a simple minded fellow but trust me, this life ain't for simple minded fellow,,, I used to be like u till my simple mindedness got massacred. It is well sha
AimingIncognito:
Ladies, BE SMART! I repeat: BE SMART.

The 3 compulsory-default questions in your "Getting to know you phase'' with any guy should be;

1. Are you married?
2. Is anyone married to you?
3. Please i'm begging you in the name of God, are you married?

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Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by metallisc(m): 1:24pm On Apr 12, 2017
kimbra:
Go joor!. grin

Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by Schwartz: 1:33pm On Apr 12, 2017
Cindino20:


Bros just for curiosity...how can someone who is legally married in country A to wife A file for marriage reunion for wife B to come to country A....

Hw is this remotely possible?

Will this not amount to Bigamy?

I await ur response.

AFAIK..this is nt possible and ur claim seems like a fairy tale.

NB: Marriage is diff from "baby mama and baby dada".

Not that you deserve a response. People I know of course didn't relocate with family reunion. There are many other types of ways to relocate abroad. I repeat, I have met about 2 in person!! And I heard of more plus there is a film acted by Liz Benson on it.
Got better things to do angry
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by Burger01(m): 1:39pm On Apr 12, 2017
SirJeffry:
Trust me, as an Anambra man, I use to think this way until I needed to move up to a certain level. Some transactions in the US are not done with cash or debit card even conmon LAX AIRPORT car rental, go make enquiries. They only accept credit card. Have good credit limit but dont use much, it helps to make you.
Yeah, I understand. I do use credit here and there sparingly. But my body system just wouldn't adjust to total dependence on credit cheesy
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by erico2k2(m): 1:42pm On Apr 12, 2017
godsluvee:
There is nothing special in living abroad undecided undecided

I once rejected a proposal because the guy lives abroad

Such a shame because he was so handsome cry cry
Why do you people just come here and make up stuff ? How can you say there is nothing special living abroad unless u mean ghana lol . If 4 anything your mental well being is secured .
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by Schwartz: 1:44pm On Apr 12, 2017
Cindino20:


Bros just for curiosity...how can someone who is legally married in country A to wife A file for marriage reunion for wife B to come to country A....

Hw is this remotely possible?

Will this not amount to Bigamy?

I await ur response.

AFAIK..this is nt possible and ur claim seems like a fairy tale.

NB: Marriage is diff from "baby mama and baby dada".

You want to tell me that you don't know that there are women back home married to abroad based husbands whose husbands have told them that they need to get married for papers? Situation they find themselves put them in that way. Its either that or deportation. The Naija wife underststands and is party to the arrangements. The women know very well. Some wait till the divorce is final before their husbands can file for them to come over. Others can't, so the only way is to join their husbands through separate visas. This for example if the man wants to make a family with his wife. The husband won't file for them as spouse. They come with visit visa and other means, live separately and wait till the man can set himself free then the husband now files for citizenship for the Naija wife. Its happening that I am 100℅ sure. And my own, aunty and her husband did it!!! Now they are both citizens and the white woman is off.
In the Germany that you live have you not been seeing the bizzare things people do to get papers especially the aduros?? Common!!

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Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by erico2k2(m): 1:51pm On Apr 12, 2017
Cutie09:


That's true you must have a valid stay or indefinite leave to remain before you can be eligible for the loan. But people with EU passport are eligible as of now because article 50 is not fully in process yet.

Yeah some Nigeria men here still go back home to get married. Few years ago the smart one will come do sham marriage to get stay then few years later they are free and they can get same benefit as citizens
What you are saying still done add up . Why would EU citizens come here to get student loans when thier own educational standard is cheaper than the one of the UK ?
2nd . Loans are for full time student . So after getting your stay how do you propose to be a full time student ?
Coming from the EU to get a loan is now challenging cos of brexit
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by NaWetinDey(m): 1:56pm On Apr 12, 2017
Eaugusta:


You will not see the responsible and hard working ones, people like you will not even ask the responsible ones out because to you they are "Low Class". Tell me why u won't spill this when u r look for "Classy girls". I think guys should learn to look beyond outer beauty

I said 'addressing a section' and not all women in Nigeria. And what I am saying is by no means far from the truth. I have done classy and classy is not classy. Character is classy. Tell me, what do you call expected good character as a single woman? By the way, 'hard working' women are rare and they are the real classy. To find them is difficult but any man who finds one should treasure his goldmine because God has blessed him. The question is: are you one?
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by NaWetinDey(m): 2:07pm On Apr 12, 2017
SnowJay92:


My man, hope say this people no do you strong thing?

Lol. The wise learn from the fools. I do not have to be a victim to know what is going on. All these girls angling for overseas men are more like whitewashed sepulchres. They should not be given any chance because their eyes are on the wrong things. They are greedy, extremely wayward and they lack ambition. Most of them would act self porn before you on cam if you were abroad - whether or not you have money or you are doing anything legit to get money - but they would reject and look down on honest working and god-fearing men who are based in Nigeria. They always end up trapped in a marriage that they would be too ashamed to reveal their dilemma. No matter the way you look at it, those girls are the cheapest of the whores around. Some of them may be here and they know themselves. It's their natural impulse despite claiming to be slay queens. You can see most of them calling themselves slay queens in exchange for lay figures using in displaying cloths. They are mostly classy outside but deeply, deeply rotten if you get to know them. They have no depth.
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by erico2k2(m): 2:08pm On Apr 12, 2017
Schwartz:

You want to tell me that you don't know that there are women back home married to abroad based husbands whose husbands have told them that they need to get married for papers? Situation they find themselves put them in that way. Its either that or deportation. The Naija wife underststands and is party to the arrangements. The women know very well. Some wait till the divorce is final before their husbands can file for them to come over. Others can't, so the only way is to join their husbands through separate visas. This for example if the man wants to make a family with his wife. The husband won't file for them as spouse. They come with visit visa and other means, live separately and wait till the man can set himself free then the husband now files for citizenship for the Naija wife. Its happening that I am 100℅ sure. And my own, aunty and her husband did it!!! Now they are both citizens and the white woman is off.
In the Germany that you live have you not been seeing the bizzare things people do to get papers especially the aduros?? Common!!
Tru true BIG things agwan
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by erico2k2(m): 2:10pm On Apr 12, 2017
NaWetinDey:


Lol. The wise learn from the fools. I do not have to be a victim to know what is going on. All these girls angling for overseas men are more like whitewashed sepulchres. They should not be given any chance because their eyes are on the wrong things. They are greedy, extremely wayward and they lack ambition. Most of them would act self porn before you on cam if you were abroad - whether or not you have money or you are doing anything legit to get money - but they would reject and look down on honest working and god-fearing men who are based in Nigeria. They always end up trapped in a marriage that they would be too ashamed to reveal their dilemma. No matter the way you look at it, those girls are the cheapest of the whores around. Some of them may be here and they know themselves. It's their natural impulse despite claiming to be slay queens. You can see most of them calling themselves slay queens in exchange for lay figures using in displaying cloths. They are mostly classy outside but deeply, deeply rotten if you get to know them. They have no depth.
So like dis us wey dey abroad dey hustle are not God fearing abiok no wahala grin cheesy
Those ladies are coming for your head just wait
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by jaybee3(m): 2:15pm On Apr 12, 2017
erico2k2:

What you are saying still done add up . Why would EU citizens come here to get student loans when thier own educational standard is cheaper than the one of the UK ?

Value for money
Specialist courses
Access to specialised market
International appeal


erico2k2:

2nd . Loans are for full time student . So after getting your stay how do you propose to be a full time student ?
Coming from the EU to get a loan is now challenging cos of brexit
I guess you've concluded loan is usually sourced from a single provider which isn't the case.

https://www.gov.uk/government/news/funding-support-for-eu-students

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Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by NaWetinDey(m): 2:21pm On Apr 12, 2017
erico2k2:

So like dis us wey dey abroad dey hustle are not God fearing abiok no wahala grin cheesy
Those ladies are coming for your head just wait

99% of them-especially in Asia-are not just ungodly, they are callous and conniving and, by the time they have made a dime, they would have sold their souls to the devil, literally and otherwise. They lose conscience, godliness, pity and love. Whatever love they may exhibit towards a woman is a pure selfish defense of their perceived investment. They see everyone else as a victim or a mugu and themselves the wise men. No wise woman will marry them without thorough examination. And if she were to go by crosschecking, she will still find about 99% of them to be far away from being ideal husbands. But the sad thing is that some of these wayward women (who pray for god-fearing husbands) in Nigeria would even go to the length of persuading them to marry white women so as to use them to get the necessary thing with which to come back home and marry them. If you have lived in some parts abroad, especially in those places these ignorant women die to get husbands from, you would use cutlass to pursue any man who comes from there to marry your sister...unless youdo not care about the future and spiritual destiny of your sister.
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by tolutweety(m): 2:30pm On Apr 12, 2017
jaybee3:


Hell No!!!!

shocked
I sent you something. wink
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by Eaugusta(f): 3:33pm On Apr 12, 2017
NaWetinDey:


I said 'addressing a section' and not all women in Nigeria. And what I am saying is by no means far from the truth. I have done classy and classy is not classy. Character is classy. Tell me, what do you call expected good character as a single woman? By the way, 'hard working' women are rare and they are the real classy. To find them is difficult but any man who finds one should treasure his goldmine because God has blessed him. The question is: are you one?
Women are generally tagged as "gold digger" which of course is not true. A section, yes I agree with you but believe me there are so many striving hard; I know many, hence seeing it being generalised always annoy me seriously. It matter less if I am one, the point is guys should always see beyond outer beauty
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by ikp120(m): 3:38pm On Apr 12, 2017
Eaugusta:

Women are generally tagged as "gold digger" which of course is not true. A section, yes I agree with you but believe me there are so many striving hard; I know many, hence seeing it being generalised always annoy me seriously. It matter less if I am one, the point is I want guys should see beyond outer beauty
But babe you are extremely beautiful na
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by Eaugusta(f): 3:41pm On Apr 12, 2017
ikp120:

But babe you are extremely beautiful na
I'm not saying this because of myself boss, but speaking on a neutral ground.
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by erico2k2(m): 3:48pm On Apr 12, 2017
jaybee3:


Value for money
Specialist courses
Access to specialised market
International appeal



I guess you've concluded loan is usually sourced from a single provider which isn't the case.

https://www.gov.uk/government/news/funding-support-for-eu-students
How does the three u listed up there not available in the EU ? Ie Germany and France ?
And talking about EU . Are we talking Nigerians EU or Eu Eu ?
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by salford: 3:49pm On Apr 12, 2017
erico2k2:

How do U get that loan when you are not a UK citezen ? And if you ate a UK citizen why would you wanna get a wife based in Nigeria ? See how both don't connect ?
i had a friend who took out a £10k loan after his studies. A non uk citizen and no ilr status. How he did it..i dont know till date. Maybe he obtained fraudulenlty cos he migrated to australia not about 2months after the loan was disbursed.

Cutie09:
Total bullshit seriously smh. Asking such question is good but must tbat determine relationship? I think it's no no. Going uni in UK is expensive but you can get student loan when u finished you pay it back on the condition that you must be earning £30k or more a year you'll be paying back just 2% I think of your loan and after 30yrs it is write off. Secondly you need God credit rating to get anything like mortgage car etc so you buy stuff and pay instalmentaly imagine living in a house for 10 yrs paying rent to land Lord but you can get mortgage from bank live in the same house and the rent is seen as your loan payment. Best deal is finance car cause you can return it back and get another latest one.
Maybe tough to obain credit in the UK.
You dont need Gods credit rating to get a mortgae or car in some other parts of the world. I have 2 friends who got a mortgage in canada a year after their arrival into the country. Its easier to obtain credit in some countries than others.
Also, to be honest...obtaining stuff on credit is not good as the banks make money off you, but its just the way the system has been developed. Not many people can pay cash down for cars or houses. Banks are ran like mafias. When they have problems, government bail them out, when they are running good, they are mean bastards. When you refinance a car, you the consumer loss out not the bank or the auto dealer. They both work together to maximize profit off you.. they buy your old car back from you at a very discounted value, then give you a bigger debt - a shining new car.
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by erico2k2(m): 3:55pm On Apr 12, 2017
NaWetinDey:


99% of them-especially in Asia-are not just ungodly, they are callous and conniving and, by the time they have made a dime, they would have sold their souls to the devil, literally and otherwise. They lose conscience, godliness, pity and love. Whatever love they may exhibit towards a woman is a pure selfish defense of their perceived investment. They see everyone else as a victim or a mugu and themselves the wise men. No wise woman will marry them without thorough examination. And if she were to go by crosschecking, she will still find about 99% of them to be far away from being ideal husbands. But the sad thing is that some of these wayward women (who pray for god-fearing husbands) in Nigeria would even go to the length of persuading them to marry white women so as to use them to get the necessary thing with which to come back home and marry them. If you have lived in some parts abroad, especially in those places these ignorant women die to get husbands from, you would use cutlass to pursue any man who comes from there to marry your sister...unless youdo not care about the future and spiritual destiny of your sister.
So in summary you have concluded the men in your perceived abroad are worse than men in Nigeria right ? Have you stop to think for once Nigerians abroad do not kidnap or bear arms to go rob families ?
Don't go shoting in broad day light in the name of court (Plz don't say SA )They don't go to the witch doctors for political gains .
PS :I have lived in the UK up to 18 years . So from my own observation and expirience , there are far more worse people in Nigeria than abroad.
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by erico2k2(m): 3:57pm On Apr 12, 2017
salford:

i had a friend who took out a £10k loan after his studies. A non uk citizen and no ilr status. How he did it..i dont know till date. Maybe he obtained fraudulenlty cos he migrated to australia not about 2months after the loan was disbursed.


Maybe tough to obain credit in the UK.
You dont need Gods credit rating to get a mortgae or car in some other parts of the world. I have 2 friends who got a mortgage in canada a year after their arrival into the country. Its easier to obtain credit in some countries than others.
Also, to be honest...obaiting stuff on credit is not good as the banks make money off you, but its just the way the system has been developed. Not many people can pay cash down for cars or houses. Banks are ran like mafias. When they have problems, government bail them out, when they are running good, they are shylocks. When you refinance a car, you the consumer loss out not the bank or the auto dealer. They both work together to maximize profit of you.lol
Guy it's called fraud . Simple . People conive with Bank managers and staff etc . Or use fake documents or apply in other people's names . Ie dead people etc .
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by salford: 4:01pm On Apr 12, 2017
erico2k2:

Guy it's called fraud . Simple . People conive with Bank managers and staff etc . Or use fake documents or apply in other people's names . Ie dead people etc .
i guessed as much. I worked in credit card lending for 7 years and i know he wouldnt even pass the banks internal lending process as the first thing checked is the applicant's status in the country. The fraud must have originated from a branch. He waited for his permanent residence to australia to get approved before striking the bank.lol
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by erico2k2(m): 4:05pm On Apr 12, 2017
salford:

i guessed as much. I worked in credit card lending for 7 years and i know he wouldnt even pass the banks internal lending process as the first thing checked is the applicant's status in the country. He waited for his permanent residence to australia to get approved before striking the bank.lol
Yep the Indians are number one for mortgage fraud.the take a mortgage , 100% run it for mayB 2 years take loads of loans and use the house as security default house get seized . They don't care . If you go to the Docklands there are loads of fancy flats sealed off.
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by jaybee3(m): 4:14pm On Apr 12, 2017
erico2k2:

How does the three u listed up there not available in the EU ? Ie Germany and France ?
And talking about EU . Are we talking Nigerians EU or Eu Eu ?

Why do they bother rating the universities If the quality is the same across the continent?

Value for money simply means you get more value attending the best schools

Ggggggrrrrrhhhhhhhhh

If it's going to cost you roughly the same amount of money to attend Harvard/MIT or London Met, which would you choose?
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by Nobody: 4:15pm On Apr 12, 2017
odehaj:
the op must have hit you below the belt abi..?The guy is educating our Nigerian girls on how not to fall prey to wicked men using the language he knows and you went gaga on him. What brings out erectile matter here now?? Anyway, as you reading this, somewhere somehow 'marriage to an abroad guy is being arranged for another mugu',may God help them.
lol mugu ke ?grin grin grin grin grin
majority of those home based naija babes who run after abroad based guys do so with the main intent of moving overseas.they are not as naive as u think cheesy.many of them in a serious relationship with their homebased boyfriends dump them for the obodo oyibo guys not for love but selfish reasons.the same selfish reason a young home based naija guy would have when getting married to an old fat american white woman cheesy.many of them know what they doing.

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Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by ephi123(f): 4:17pm On Apr 12, 2017
InvertedHammer:


Like I said, even if you have $800k to throw down, they will give you so much wahala that you may think it is a crime to have cash. IRS will get involved. Franchise Tax board gets in on the game. The paperworks alone will be out of this world. You will have a whole lot of explanations to do. Let's assume you saved all your money, you better have a paper trail to prove it. If you wire anything above $3000 from your account, the agencies will be alerted. The system is set up that way. It is a win-win for the bankers. US hates people who hoard cash.

Can you rent an apartment without credit? Yes. Throw down six months rent. The problem is that most people don't have it.
Just about any well-meaning organization bemoans the fact that finance and money are not taught in High Schools to educate people. If they do, it will be bad business for banks. Banks do not count on your interest rates to make money. They are hoping for one late payment(even if by one day) to jack up interest rate from 2% to 21%. They bait slackers into financial slavery. You finance a car and miss a few months. Thanks God. They repossess the car and all money paid is lost. It is a win-win for everyone involved in the finance industry. The best part is that you become a slave at work. You will not want to rock the boat to avoid domino effect in your lives.

Why would anyone with $800k cash even tie it down into a single asset when you can spread it around and leverage?
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by InvertedHammer: 4:20pm On Apr 12, 2017
ephi123:


Why would anyone with $800k cash even tie it down into a single asset when you can spread it around and leverage?

Just a hypothetical situation. But some do.
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by jaybee3(m): 4:21pm On Apr 12, 2017
ephi123:


Why would anyone with $800k cash even tie it down into a single asset when you can spread it around and leverage?

Minimise risk
Longer term outlook
OR
It's simply a home not an investment
Re: Ladies, Ask That Abroad Bobo These Before You Marry Him. by ephi123(f): 4:23pm On Apr 12, 2017
InvertedHammer:


Just a hypothetical situation. But some do.

Okay I see.

For those who do, I wonder what the rationale is as it doesn't make financial sense imho, or maybe it's the emotional feeling of fully owning your own home. Or money laundering.

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