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Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by slap1(m): 10:12am On Apr 17, 2017
pocohantas:
*I know some of you will come here to say money is all that matters but pls, don't, I repeat...don't ever use money to get a woman. It's a weak way out, she'll chop your money and go. She might stick to you as her pension manager while getting sweet love from someone else. Your money would be used to cover their overhead costs.

*When you find a good woman, keep her. Don't go sleeping around. Vaginas are the same, maybe a lil difference in the diameter or what you feel for the owner.

*Once in a while, resist the urge to bring out prick. Pretend like you're not in the mood that day. It boosts your self-control and desirability ratings.

*That you took a girl on a date or gave her cash/gift doesn't mean she must follow you to your house and allow you bend her like straw on your bed, while you administer prick with tangential expertise. If you want women that will give you sex for the money, go to Allen.

*If a woman turns your proposal down, be mature enough to take it.
Don't go slutshaming her or all those silly things some of you do!

*If for any reason you stop being interested in your girl, let her go. Don't play her along while increasing her vagina mileage.

For those end time boys, that will know their friend is cheating on his babe but be calling her "our wife"...amadioha will visit you.

I like you.
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Nobody: 10:14am On Apr 17, 2017
bukatyne:
....some ladies actively learn about se.X because they want to pleasure/enjoy their husbands.

Lies everywhere. So she can't learn with the husband abi? In fact the husband should be the best candidate for practice sessions.

I always maintain that as far as the man and woman are open minded, they can learn what works for them. In sex, the learning process should actually be enjoyable. It should be better than having ready made styles.
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by BlackMbakara1(m): 10:14am On Apr 17, 2017
pocohantas:

Some men could very selfish and sometimes I don't know what to say to them. Over the years I have heard people express their concern over where/how women acquire their bedroom skills and how it affects the man. Can we talk about where men acquire their skills for a moment?

Do you think your girl never bothers about where you got skills? You think after making your girl scream to high heavens, she never wonders how many women you have done same to and if they would come for return match? Yet you rarely hear women nag about it or maybe they have been conditioned not to bother.

The worst is, some of these guys go on virgin hunts. What they don't know is, continually remind your virgin wife/fiance/gf that it's about the virginity and she'll slowly resent you. Women have emotions too, and we wanna be valued for something more than the hymen.




That's fair of you. Ehen, I know it isn't in the guy's place to tell the babe his friend is cheating, but he shouldn't go about hailing her either.

I've read all ur comments and will say i'm really impressed, reminds me of a good frnd. U earn my first "following"...
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Nobody: 10:15am On Apr 17, 2017
Brownbarbie97:
I've been seeing ur posts on here for a while now and I must say you're one of those few intelligent women on this forum.Your sense of reasoning,maturity,outspokenness and wittiness is out of this world.Keep it up sis kiss,from a lady to you I'm proud of you.

So are you now ready to implement all she has said?
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Olubee22(f): 10:16am On Apr 17, 2017
robotix,come over here .
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by TroubleMaker47(m): 10:20am On Apr 17, 2017
DonX001:


Its a known fact that having mad skills comes with experience and practice.
A learner cannot just wake up one day and be playing football like Messi.

So when a lady is giving you all those 'mad skills', is it not natural to wonder how she acquired those skills in the first place??

Especially if you're planning something serious/long term with her.


*****
But personally though, me I don't mind. Give me the mad skills any day, any time, don't really like a girl who's dull in bed.
I don't mind a girl who's had some experience....its part of the process of growing up for a girl. (as far as she no be olosho or an extremely cheerful giver).
After all, I'm no innocent virgin myself.

But I can understand where some guys' thought processes will go.
And dat's d reason y olosho will always thrive.
Cuz u can't judge dem.
A good woman as wifey and an olosho to fulfill sexual fantasies

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Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by ReubenE(m): 10:23am On Apr 17, 2017
pocohantas:


Let me tell you something as a lady, Nigerian men would continue getting Basic1 sex styles till they learn to be more open minded.
Women wanna wow their men in the other room, but no one wants to be judged. No one wants her man wondering how many men she has spread the legs to various degrees for.

You arc that ass for a Nigerian man, instead of him to worship it...he pauses and starts wondering how many niggas you been arching it for. You give him a BJ and he starts asking how many guys you have given a BJ. Y'all ask too much gadamn questions!!!

Sadly, majority of you ask these questions not even to know a sister better, but to judge her.
Very TRUE
Some men raise those questions out of ignorance, while others do because of the sexual inclinations of most Nigerian girls, the guys too though.

Most ladies sell sex in Nigeria, and the worth depends upon how well they do it, for example, the action from the four cardinal points, and how well she is able to take control of the four cardinal points.
This gives men the impression that ladies who ordinarily do things like that are wholesalers, or worse still, shoprite.

Anyways, that is not enough grounds to judge anybody when they express themselves sexually, as you rightly said.
Being open minded and accepting or admitting what we want will go a long way in diffusing the situation
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Precious91(m): 10:23am On Apr 17, 2017
pocohantas:

Most of us have sexual acts we are disgusted by, male and female alike, but we can meet halfway. As for the ladies, some are actually not interested in such, some are only pretending. I have nothing against the pretenders/liars amongst them.

Most Nigerian guys don't deserve the truth...they love lies, they claim white girls are liberal but they never stopped to wonder how a white guy reacts to sex related issues. Babes will continue pretending, they will continue lying to you guys, they will simplify and divide their 'body counts'.
Last last, a lot of you will end up with refurbished oloshos.


Can't believe I had to follow all your replies. Now this is what am talking about in a woman.Awesome replies.Keep it up.Wish we can have more of this from ladies on this forum.
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Nobody: 10:24am On Apr 17, 2017
wink Very thoughtful of you op you couldn't have said it better I always share these with my younger brother, life is too short to waste on someone that doesn't appreciate and value you, thumbs up bro
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by TroubleMaker47(m): 10:25am On Apr 17, 2017
pocohantas:
*


For those end time boys, that will know their friend is cheating on his babe but be calling her "our wife"...amadioha will visit you.
It's called loyalty!
Bros before hoes! cool

You don't expect me to snitch on a broda who's got ur back since time immemorial to a chic he probably would say bye someday! Haba! Even God detest such disloyalty

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Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by ad84ada(m): 10:25am On Apr 17, 2017
pocohantas:
*I know some of you will come here to say money is all that matters but pls, don't, I repeat...don't ever use money to get a woman. It's a weak way out, she'll chop your money and go. She might stick to you as her pension manager while getting sweet love from someone else. Your money would be used to cover their overhead costs.

*When you find a good woman, keep her. Don't go sleeping around. Vaginas are the same, maybe a lil difference in the diameter or what you feel for the owner.

*Once in a while, resist the urge to bring out prick. Pretend like you're not in the mood that day. It boosts your self-control and desirability ratings.

*That you took a girl on a date or gave her cash/gift doesn't mean she must follow you to your house and allow you bend her like straw on your bed, while you administer prick with tangential expertise. If you want women that will give you sex for the money, go to Allen.

*If a woman turns your proposal down, be mature enough to take it.
Don't go slutshaming her or all those silly things some of you do!

*If for any reason you stop being interested in your girl, let her go. Don't play her along while increasing her vagina mileage.

For those end time boys, that will know their friend is cheating on his babe but be calling her "our wife"...amadioha will visit you.
Wise words!
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Nobody: 10:26am On Apr 17, 2017
dirty works require dirty mind... not all that's dirty is immoral...hypocrisy is when dirty work is done holy-lly grin


good work @OP
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by ad84ada(m): 10:27am On Apr 17, 2017
importexpert:
There are certain things that as a guy, you must take notice of in your partner. Most guys are really clueless about dating when compared to women. Sometimes, they make many guys feel like learners.
The simple truth is that things might go wrong no matter what you do. It is therefore important you look out and know what to avoid in a relationship. I have penned down a couple of things.

1. If a lady misses a date you both agreed on and doesn’t call to apologize, let her go. There is no time to waste on one woman. If she does call to apologize, let her be the one to request another time so as to make it up to you. If she doesn't show up again, forget about her. She doesn't value your time.

2. Never let any woman disrespect you. If she does and she refuses to apologize and change for good, drop her. You don't want to be with someone who tears down your self esteem or does not know your worth.

3. Dating an indecisive lady can be frustrating. When you find yourself with one, give her space. You should not try to force people to make up their mind. Let her coming to you be out of choice and not compulsion.

4. Never try to buy a lady's affection. Trust me, that's one path you don't want to walk. If a woman does not like you, your expensive gifts will not change her mind. Instead, you will end up becoming be a “financial boyfriend” who sorts out her needs, aka “mugu”.

5. Never beg a woman to give you a chance. If you think she eventually gives you a chance, then you're mistaken. She probably showed you pity. And you know something about pity in relationships? It does not last long.

6. If a woman uses sex as a negotiating tool, dump her sorry ass. She is only manipulating you and nothing more. Sex is not a favour or reward!

7. Never let a lady be sure that you are crazy about her to the point that she feels too confident. In fact, never affirm your love immediately to her. Suppress that feeling to talk about it till she has shown you all possible green lights that she loves you.

8. If you give her a phone call twice and she doesn't answer, do not give her a call again. It is called desperation, and woman can smell it from a distance. You what it does to them, remember? Instead, just send a text.

9. Do not compare her to your ex. In the same way, if she talks about her ex with you to the level of comparisons, let her go ASAP. You will never be enough for her. You don't want to spend your energy trying to fill a shoe that was not yours in the first place.

10. Trust your instincts. The first problem with guys when they start feeling emotional about a lady is that they let the feelings overwhelm their sense of reasoning. Someone told me the other day that he let go of his logical self to date a woman. Huh? Do not make that mistake.

11. Never show 100% commitment to a lady. No matter how sweet she may be, she is not yours till you both tie the knot. Don't even assume that she will not leave. Realize that until you both wed, there is nothing like complete commitment.

12. Maintain an air of mystery. Never divulge too much about yourself too soon. Keep her in wonder of who you are.

13. Except you know how to chat with a lady and keep the sparks on, save the conversation for your dates. You may make use of that platform when you have come quite a distance with her.

14. Women desire attention just like guys desire sex. It is your own weapon. Even if she asks for it, be frugal about it. Never let her talk you in to giving her your complete attention. It may backfire soon since what one gets used to can easily be abused.

15. Do not make all the efforts in a relationship. I for one have a policy that I will take only two steps and wait for the lady to take at least one step. Whosoever invests more in a relationship gets emotional tied more than the other person.

16. Never change who you are for a woman. Never! If you must change, let it be because you feel the need to and not because you want to impress a lady.

17. Never lose your voice to a woman. Do not become a “yes man” to anything she says. It does not get her attracted to you; instead, it makes you look like a wimp. If there is something you do not agree about, state your opinion. If you think she did wrong, let her know
about it and don't keep mute about it.

18. Except you want to, never date any girl who has more problems than you do. Chances are that she may draw you in to all of it and you'd soon be overwhelmed. If you must date such a woman, be sure of what you are stepping in to.

19. If you ever find yourself with a possessive, over-jealous or domineering lady, drop her fast. She is not worth the stress. You will save yourself a lot of trouble by doing so.

20. Be alert about attempts to manipulate you. Recognize when. She is trying to get you to do something or not. Ensure you follow the decision of your will. Do not let the tears get to you or the pleadings get to you. You may do otherwise if you deem it fit to make a compromise on your stand, but guard against manipulation.

21. If a lady ever cheats on you, there is no remedy for it. Let her go. It is an already established fact that women who have affairs end up developing a bond with whosoever the other person is. The mere fact that she cheated means you should call it quit.

These are just a couple of essential dating etiquette guys should know and date by.
You can add more or share your thoughts about specific points through the comment box.
Thanks Op
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by IamaNigerianGuy(m): 10:28am On Apr 17, 2017
bukatyne:
Pocohantas:

I agree with you as per se.X and the solution is to be sexually decent.

Again, the guys should understand that some ladies actively learn about se.X because they want to pleasure/enjoy their husbands.

It must be very hard getting married to the average Nigerian man sha.

It is an impossible task to be married to the average Nigerian woman
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Sirheny007(m): 10:28am On Apr 17, 2017
importexpert:

14. Women desire attention just like guys desire sex. It is your own weapon. Even if she asks for it, be frugal about it. Never let her talk you in to giving her your complete attention. It may backfire soon since what one gets used to can easily be abused.

Point of correction.. angry
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Nobody: 10:29am On Apr 17, 2017
TheLordIsGr8:


So are you now ready to implement all she has said?
Lol I'm here to learn so I'm taking in bits of reasonable advice i come across.Its up to me to decide which to implement

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Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Jadoskii(m): 10:32am On Apr 17, 2017
pocohantas:


*Once in a while, resist the urge to bring out prick. Pretend like you're not in the mood that day. It boosts your self-control and desirability ratings.

so that she can tell all her friends that I'm okobo(sterile) abi.......lemme give ha d mulaa
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Bowwow11(m): 10:33am On Apr 17, 2017
the write up is quite explicit guys need to learn from this article
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by dezzyxv(m): 10:33am On Apr 17, 2017
TroubleMaker47:

It's called loyalty!
Bros before hoes! cool

You don't expect me to snitch on a broda who's got ur back since time immemorial to a chic he probably would say bye someday! Haba! Even God detest such disloyalty
Ma nigga
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Putinbo: 10:33am On Apr 17, 2017
Women should know that no man would take you seriously in a relationship when you claim you love but "no sex". So if you can't have Sex, what else would you offer? But you would expect material things from the man.

Men like Sex. However, do not convert your girlfriend to Sex machine on the guise of relationship. The interest must be balanced.

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Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by robotix: 10:34am On Apr 17, 2017
Olubee22:
robotix,come over here .
lol.
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Pins(m): 10:40am On Apr 17, 2017
Nice article but I don't agree with it completely. I have seen very successful marriages and relationships that never followed this your principles. I personally believe as a guy that if you are looking for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage it is you the guy that chases the woman not pressurize her though but from what I see this are dating tips for a Playboy just retittle the post and prepare another post for those of us that want a serious relationship.

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Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by bukatyne(f): 10:45am On Apr 17, 2017
TheLordIsGr8:


Lies everywhere. So she can't learn with the husband abi? In fact the husband should be the best candidate for practice sessions.

I always maintain that as far as the man and woman are open minded, they can learn what works for them. In sex, the learning process should actually be enjoyable. It should be better than having ready made styles.

Reread the full post you quoted slowly.
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by robotix: 10:46am On Apr 17, 2017
pocohantas:


Let me tell you something as a lady, Nigerian men would continue getting Basic1 sex styles till they learn to be more open minded.
Women wanna wow their men in the other room, but no one wants to be judged. No one wants her man wondering how many men she has spread the legs to various degrees for.

You arc that ass for a Nigerian man, instead of him to worship it...he pauses and starts wondering how many niggas you been arching it for. You give him a BJ and he starts asking how many guys you have given a BJ. Y'all ask too much gadamn questions!!!

Sadly, majority of you ask these questions not even to know a sister better, but to judge her.
kick ass ma'amm I love me a biitcch and I will never judge after all we are all humans, none is above the other.
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Nobody: 10:49am On Apr 17, 2017
I believe there are no hard and fast rules in love and dating cos individuals differ.
What might work in one instance might fail totally in another and you stand the chance of losing a dream someone.

Some of ur points make some sense but a number of them are for those who are really learners that will learn by applying them in relationships and look for the OP afterwards in anger and frustration.

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Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Nobody: 10:55am On Apr 17, 2017
Brownbarbie97:
Lol I'm here to learn so I'm taking in bits of reasonable advice i come across.Its up to me to decide which to implement

tongue

I'm sure we can practice those out-of-this-world encounters together. cheesy
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by papae1(m): 11:04am On Apr 17, 2017
pocohantas:

Most of us have sexual acts we are disgusted by, male and female alike, but we can meet halfway. As for the ladies, some are actually not interested in such, some are only pretending. I have nothing against the pretenders/liars amongst them.

Most Nigerian guys don't deserve the truth...they love lies, they claim white girls are liberal but they never stopped to wonder how a white guy reacts to sex related issues. Babes will continue pretending, they will continue lying to you guys, they will simplify and divide their 'body counts'.
Last last, a lot of you will end up with refurbished oloshos.

Chai.... This talk touches me to the bone.
Hmmmm.
Refurbished oloshos.
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Nobody: 11:06am On Apr 17, 2017
bukatyne:


Reread the full post you quoted slowly.

I have done so.
Did you add anything?
You could do well to enlighten me, lady
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Vivipop(f): 11:13am On Apr 17, 2017
Pins:
Nice article but I don't agree with it completely. I have seen very successful marriages and relationships that never followed this your principles. I personally believe as a guy that if you are looking for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage it is you the guy that chases the woman not pressurize her though but from what I see this are dating tips for a Playboy just retittle the post and prepare another post for those of us that want a serious relationship.
I just had to quote you.
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by Vivipop(f): 11:15am On Apr 17, 2017
Sincere4u:
I believe there are no hard and fast rules in love and dating cos individuals differ.
What might work in one instance might fail totally in another and you stand the chance of losing a dream someone.

Some of ur points make some sense but a number of them are for those who are really learners that will learn by applying them in relationships and look for the OP afterwards in anger and frustration.
Another sensible argument
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by lonelydora: 11:20am On Apr 17, 2017
pocohantas:
*I know some of you will come here to say money is all that matters but pls, don't, I repeat...don't ever use money to get a woman. It's a weak way out, she'll chop your money and go. She might stick to you as her pension manager while getting sweet love from someone else. Your money would be used to cover their overhead costs.

*When you find a good woman, keep her. Don't go sleeping around. Vaginas are the same, maybe a lil difference in the diameter or what you feel for the owner.

*Once in a while, resist the urge to bring out prick. Pretend like you're not in the mood that day. It boosts your self-control and desirability ratings.

*That you took a girl on a date or gave her cash/gift doesn't mean she must follow you to your house and allow you bend her like straw on your bed, while you administer prick with tangential expertise. If you want women that will give you sex for the money, go to Allen.

*If a woman turns your proposal down, be mature enough to take it.
Don't go slutshaming her or all those silly things some of you do!

*If for any reason you stop being interested in your girl, let her go. Don't play her along while increasing her vagina mileage.

For those end time boys, that will know their friend is cheating on his babe but be calling her "our wife"...amadioha will visit you.

You are just just a rare Nigeria girl. If to say I never marry, omo, na you I for marry.
Re: 21 Modern Dating Etiquettes For Guys by bukatyne(f): 11:21am On Apr 17, 2017
TheLordIsGr8:


I have done so.
Did you add anything?
You could do well to enlighten me, lady


The lady I quoted said some Nigerian guys question their lady's 'prowess' in bed; I agreed and said men need to realize that some ladies actively pursue sexual fulfillment.

In the same post, I advised people to be decent.

So every spouse will actually learn from themselves how to pleasure themselves... the question is what happens if after 2yrs of marriage, the wife 'improves' and the husband starts wondering where she learnt it?

This is going in circles however summary is

1. Be sexually decent; the less body count, the better. .if possible, let it be only one (for men & women)

2. A lady though inexperienced or with only one guy can actually learn about sex and be better than 'experienced' ladies. Ditto guys.

3. If you don't trust a person, don't date/ marry them. No need second guessing what's up with your partner whenever they exhibit 'prowess' in bed.

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