Hmmmn, May God Lead U, Shalom.

Fellow humans...happy new month ..i wish u all d joy good things and happiness of life ..may the lord God bless you nd ur family real good in Jesus name Amen.

80:20 rule

baby124:
New things always hold our attention till we get used to it and then it loses attraction. I am sure you are not the same sexy man your wife married, and vice versa. The new lady is amazing because she is new too, and you can't believe someone like her will find you attractive. Grow up ! She probably just likes the extra money you can offer. Don't be delusional and stick to your vows.

honestly,you are a type of person one should have as a friend.you are just too intelligent i love you dear.

Hmm this one is serious

You loved ur wife when u first met her . The same feeling you have for this new lady. Whose to say that love won't fade tomorrow like it has for your wife. My friend the devil you know is better than that Angel you dont really know. My advice , what made you fall in love with your wife is still there , probably gathering dust somewhere in the attic. Look for it and dust it off , take care if it and you will fall in love with her again.

15 yrs of friendship, trust , dependence , 2 kids etc should not be put on trial against an infatuation. Look closely at your wife I mean really look at her. Those wrinkles you see are a testament that she gave you her best years now that her blossom is fading is when you need to love her even more. You can show this new lady how to love by living your wife even more. Good luck

dingbang:
but the advantage is that they can easily maneuver the situation... The man is saying he doesn't find his wife attractive anymore..I guess she is all fat and shapeless everywhere.. Its normal. Sometimes I wonder how men still love their wives despite such situations..

Guy, there's no excuse for cheating on ur wife, no matter the reason. If she's not sexy enough u can make or even force her to. If it were the other way round would u say this? I bet u'll advice dat she'd endure it for her children's sake.
Do unto others...

TrapQueen77:
Ok, here's my view...

Either we admit it or not a lot of married couples are married for the sake of being married..some are due to parents & peer pressure, culture etc etc...but one thing they concealed here is their true feelings..

Example: This man..imagine he is married for 15yrs but never fell in love with his wife tho he care for her. (Juz be reminded that LOVE & CARE are 2 different things..) He care for her coz of their kids but doesnt mean he Love her, Respect her or being Honest to her..

The only thing he need is to BE HONEST...tell his wife the truth so he can set free himself from all the emotional distress that torn him to be a real man.

Why do you analyse issues critically...You nd I should toast on that sometime.

ObongawanAKS:

lol I stumbled on your profile and laughed the hell out of myself.. Seun didn't force you to enter the Islam section na there was a notification and u saw it and chose to acknowledge it... So

D devil at work

Mynd44:
There is something people dont realize or understand about feelings before rushing into marriage.

Your wife/husband is not the last woman/man you will fall in love with

Your wife/husband is not the last woman/man you will find your self sexually attracted to

You might think leaving your wife for this woman is the best. Heck, you might even believe it but what happens in 7 years when you find yourself falling in love with another woman?
What happens when you find yourself sexually attractive to another woman?
What happens when you begin to feel a different connection with another woman? A connection so deep, it makes you rethink staying with this new woman?

What will you do? Marriage is not all about love and what you feel for your wife. A lot of times in a marriage, you will sit down and think to yourself why you chose to marry this person. Sometimes, you might even hate the person you married guess what, it is not totally abnormal.

Marriage like life has a lot of ups and downs, but do not because of the downs think you cant go up because the down just makes the journey up a lot more fun.

But then again, what do I know? I dont even have a girlfriend not to talk about marriage. I hope you make the right choice.

Sallam

Well said...mynd!
You will do well in the marriage front...I can tell.

Marriage is what we have all be taught to be in,not really what we yearn for. The Soul yearns for happiness even when religion and traditional beliefs weighs it down. OP doesn't have to stay in a marriage that doesn't make him happy. Be happy,that's what life is all about. It can be difficult and you might lose a lot but why stay unhappy?

kneel down, close ur eyes. oya begin to slap ursel. jard, harder. yes, better

That's why am scared of relationship.. The line between love and hatred is so tiny you might think they are together... One minute you love, the next minute your heart is full of hatred.. Why is it sooo... One thing I noticed is, when a man start having good sex outside his marriage.,it takes God to reset his brain...All this married man gansef.. Leave us single ladies alone abeg. Stop enticing and tempting Us.. If you have problems at home.. Look for solution and not replacement and Single ladies leave married man alone joor.. Is there no single guys again...
Me I tire for marriage palaver o

I like the way he called seun and the topic got moved with immediate effect

baby124:
New things always hold our attention till we get used to it and then it loses attraction. I am sure you are not the same sexy man your wife married, and vice versa. The new lady is amazing because she is new too, and you can't believe someone like her will find you attractive. Grow up ! She probably just likes the extra money you can offer. Don't be delusional and stick to your vows.

OMG! This is nothing but the real truth.

mr man, all i hv to tell u is dat ' d old short broom dat u nw see as nt good enough was once new'. If u pit in half of d effort and tym u exert on d other woman on ur wife and home, my brother,u will see d difference.u re jst carried away.pls think well sir and dnt throw ur marriage of over 10yrs 4 just a fling of 1yr. Smh, homebreakers everywhere!

ItzChinnex:
Seun, Please shift this to front page as this may save some shaking Marriage. Thanks.

I am 42, married for 15 years and have two wonderful kids (7 & 3). My wife and I had about 13-14 pretty good years before I began to realize that I wasn't really in love with her, and maybe never was. For a year a co-worker and I began a relationship.

I had always been attracted to her, and I acted on it. Until a month ago we had carried the relationship from some very exciting sex to a very strong emotional relationship. She finally said the words that we should not see each other socially anymore, at least until I decide what to do with my situation at home. I agreed.

My wife and I have been in counseling for about six months, and she doesn't know about my affair. Neither does the counselor, who recently told her she thought the marriage was over. I am deeply in love with the woman I have had an affair with, and told her so during our last encounter (after we decided to call it off).

She told me she loved me, also. Now my wife and I are so distant. I do not find her attractive in the least - and we have not had sex for months. When we did it took all I had to get through it.

My heart hurts badly for the woman I love. She is putting up a strong front and moving on. Even seeing other men. She said in a year, if we are both available, maybe we can try to build a real, honest relationship. My two kids, who are my world, are trapped in between. I don't know what to do. I love another women, but I still care for my wife - just don't love her anymore, and not sure I can again. I've made these mistakes, but I believe I am truly in love for the very first time in my life.

How do I keep hope that things will turn out all right?
Please drop your comments

Source: https://chinnex..com/2017/04/advicr-i-care-for-my-wife-but-love.html

Seun , Lalasticlala , Mynd44

there is no fool like that guy.

after 15yrs with 2kids he is just realizing he don't love the woman anymore .

life is so wicked n unfair

Mr man, do not let the devil use another woman to break your home! you are simply in lust and not love!!!

All I know is love is not only a feeling but Majorly a decision

Ask your wife to go to the gym.

Hummmmmm. ..42years?? ?? Ah! Pray Sir and don't cheat.. ..if you go to another lady, it's cheating.. ..if yo divorce her, it's wickedness, if you pray, you will be eased.. ....sir,do this!

Meanwhile, you don't care for her if you do, you'll love her.. ....please save your home!

You think you're doing your wife,you're doing yourself. Better spice up your marriage now or risk being dumped by your so called lover one day,after you've ended your marriage.
You are very greedy tho.

ItzChinnex:
Seun, Please shift this to front page as this may save some shaking Marriage. Thanks.

I am 42, married for 15 years and have two wonderful kids (7 & 3). My wife and I had about 13-14 pretty good years before I began to realize that I wasn't really in love with her, and maybe never was. For a year a co-worker and I began a relationship.

I had always been attracted to her, and I acted on it. Until a month ago we had carried the relationship from some very exciting sex to a very strong emotional relationship. She finally said the words that we should not see each other socially anymore, at least until I decide what to do with my situation at home. I agreed.

My wife and I have been in counseling for about six months, and she doesn't know about my affair. Neither does the counselor, who recently told her she thought the marriage was over. I am deeply in love with the woman I have had an affair with, and told her so during our last encounter (after we decided to call it off).

She told me she loved me, also. Now my wife and I are so distant. I do not find her attractive in the least - and we have not had sex for months. When we did it took all I had to get through it.

My heart hurts badly for the woman I love. She is putting up a strong front and moving on. Even seeing other men. She said in a year, if we are both available, maybe we can try to build a real, honest relationship. My two kids, who are my world, are trapped in between. I don't know what to do. I love another women, but I still care for my wife - just don't love her anymore, and not sure I can again. I've made these mistakes, but I believe I am truly in love for the very first time in my life.

How do I keep hope that things will turn out all right?
Please drop your comments

Source: https://chinnex..com/2017/04/advicr-i-care-for-my-wife-but-love.html

Seun , Lalasticlala , Mynd44

You don't have to love her forever, that you discovered you didn't love her after 13 yrs is enough that you both can live the rest of y'all life together without love. And this time you are in, happens in all marriage, that lasted 70 yr. Keep the home together, you just want to opt out because you are fornicating and attempt to release a thousand bird for an unknown in the bush

Mynd44:
There is something people dont realize or understand about feelings before rushing into marriage.

Your wife/husband is not the last woman/man you will fall in love with

Your wife/husband is not the last woman/man you will find your self sexually attracted to

You might think leaving your wife for this woman is the best. Heck, you might even believe it but what happens in 7 years when you find yourself falling in love with another woman?
What happens when you find yourself sexually attractive to another woman?
What happens when you begin to feel a different connection with another woman? A connection so deep, it makes you rethink staying with this new woman?

What will you do? Marriage is not all about love and what you feel for your wife. A lot of times in a marriage, you will sit down and think to yourself why you chose to marry this person. Sometimes, you might even hate the person you married guess what, it is not totally abnormal.

Marriage like life has a lot of ups and downs, but do not because of the downs think you cant go up because the down just makes the journey up a lot more fun.

But then again, what do I know? I dont even have a girlfriend not to talk about marriage. I hope you make the right choice.

Sallam

Whao! You da best Mynd! Deep words there. You should consider counselling as a part-time job

Once a married man starts an
affair with another woman the one at home becomes unattractive.

Oga you dey loose guard o

In basket mouth wife's voice "any side chick waiting for a marriage to crash so that she will move in, thunder and lighting will strike her to death while waiting"

ItzChinnex:
Seun, Please shift this to front page as this may save some shaking Marriage. Thanks.

I am 42, married for 15 years and have two wonderful kids (7 & 3). My wife and I had about 13-14 pretty good years before I began to realize that I wasn't really in love with her, and maybe never was. For a year a co-worker and I began a relationship.

I had always been attracted to her, and I acted on it. Until a month ago we had carried the relationship from some very exciting sex to a very strong emotional relationship. She finally said the words that we should not see each other socially anymore, at least until I decide what to do with my situation at home. I agreed.

My wife and I have been in counseling for about six months, and she doesn't know about my affair. Neither does the counselor, who recently told her she thought the marriage was over. I am deeply in love with the woman I have had an affair with, and told her so during our last encounter (after we decided to call it off).

She told me she loved me, also. Now my wife and I are so distant. I do not find her attractive in the least - and we have not had sex for months. When we did it took all I had to get through it.

My heart hurts badly for the woman I love. She is putting up a strong front and moving on. Even seeing other men. She said in a year, if we are both available, maybe we can try to build a real, honest relationship. My two kids, who are my world, are trapped in between. I don't know what to do. I love another women, but I still care for my wife - just don't love her anymore, and not sure I can again. I've made these mistakes, but I believe I am truly in love for the very first time in my life.

How do I keep hope that things will turn out all right?
Please drop your comments

Source: https://chinnex..com/2017/04/advicr-i-care-for-my-wife-but-love.html

Seun , Lalasticlala , Mynd44

when boys got married. make mamiwater dey deceive u

rosalieene:
Mr man, do not let the devil use another woman to break your home! you are simply in lust and not love!!!

care to explain the difference?

After how many years of togetherness blessed with two beautiful kids and now its about realising you've never loved her and ish bcuz of the new lady, huh?

First, OP I understand that sometimes the spark dwindles, the feelings fade a bit and all due to certain circumstances, yea, it happens but the truth is 'we pave way for this feeling'.

Let me guess you got attracted to the lady at work bcuz you wanted to don't blame it on anything. You paved way for whatever is happening and believe me, you are just enjoying the sneaky feeling of having a good sex outside marriage. Bros e no dey last, there is always that good feeling that comes with having a new property/pu**y.

Wait do you in any way think this new lady is gon trust you and vice versa? She know you are married and digging her, how she wan take trust say it'd last with her, huh? You self, how you want take trust bae that is banging you knowing that you've got a wife and kids at home? Ogbeni its pycho men...

Bro 15years and two kids, you don't wanna throw that a way. Try and revive the vibes of your marriage.

Kini councelling? Abeg carry you woman go home. Go on a vacation, try loving her in a diff way. If she has added some pounds, bro revive your love in the gym. Try new ways and things man. Go dump the kids with grannies on weekends and go on week trips and all.

BTW, relationship and marriage is so freaking overrated mtcheeew. Lies, deceits everywhere.

dingbang:
lol I stumbled on your profile and laughed the hell out of myself.. Seun didn't force you to enter the Islam section na there was a notification and u saw it and chose to acknowledge it... So

Abeg park one side first, am too blessed to be stressed this new day/month.
Wish u the best of the month anyway.