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Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Bobby808: 8:06am On May 01, 2017 |
ngmgeek:But 42 years don reach to get sense. He is not a jet age boy when he is 42. Why is he so foolish? |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Nobody: 8:07am On May 01, 2017 |
SafeDavid: I believe you also don't know that this statement was made in regards to politics. |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by EzeChux(m): 8:08am On May 01, 2017 |
"I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else. Relationships work out mostly because of our heads not our hearts. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline; because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with. In those times, love will not help you. Self control will help you. Emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life. You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do! But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings and is the great arsenal that do destroy those unhelpful impulses. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love. We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there; but that can only last for just the first 3 - 6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped and it's now your responsibility to make the relationship work, not love's responsibility. Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment. Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that. That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions. Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough. At some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together. You can scale through the trying times by staying focused and committed. The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined. Please imbibe and share with the young adults, married and unmarried couples. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by menxer: 8:09am On May 01, 2017 |
ifenes: The only catch is aligning the happiness of three people: husband, wife & children; That is why it is said "the urge for unity stifles variety, yet "variety is the spice of life" 1 Like |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by UncleJJ(m): 8:15am On May 01, 2017 |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by soxhixco: 8:19am On May 01, 2017 |
I don't call this love but lust and what I can say about this is just infidelity. You can't prove to anyone that you've endured a relationship of over 5 years with wonderful children and now that you got to see a woman who you think is attracted to you sexually, you now felt you don't love the mother of your children again, I will advice you to just stick to your woman and move on all cos of the children and forget the list in your heart... what goes around, comes around.... the Satan you've knew for long is better than the new angel.. peace out |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by asahnwaKC: 8:19am On May 01, 2017 |
Maybe you guys should take a break from each other and then you will realize how much you will miss each other.....put yourself in her shoes... you think after 15yrs some men out there don't find her attractive |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by zinnywonders(f): 8:23am On May 01, 2017 |
Wish I can see u in person to give u 2 hot slaps so that u will come back to ur senses.... Your wife of 15yrs, u want to sacrifice that and your lovely children to a gal u're lusting after not up to a year? A reasonable Lady won't create problem in ur home or even want u to divorce ur wife for her sake.. .. Haba! Make I tell u oooo, you're just the best now cos you're showering her with gifts and lust not love. Pick up ur shoes and tear race straight to your wife... .. Oh yes! Apologize to her from the sincerity of ur heart n to ur children, then amend ur lustful way of life........ Remember the Devil u know is better than the angel u don't know....Gbagam!!! |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Hotguy27: 8:24am On May 01, 2017 |
Hey Op! Wake up! Go and ask psychologist; what is affecting you is just that you are surprise that a young and proberbly a more beautiful woman than your wife has accepted an old "cargo" like you. Bet me, if you divorce your wife because of this lady you might regret it later because she will serially cheat on you when she eventually discovers the truth. I also guess that she might be a very young colleague who doesn't know how to return clandestine favour you have been doing to but to succumb to your sexual advance. Be warned! |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by b0rn2fuck(m): 8:30am On May 01, 2017 |
ItzChinnex:Greedy man, if both women are still reverse back and you met them both 14 years ago, you may still love your wife, you should learn to stick to your wife because you could still love another woman again after 10 years of dating this fresher too... First time love always seem that way, the same thing that happened to ahmed Musa and to most of us men. You love your woman but the greed of a new fresher is disturbing your brain, soon she will also fade away and your dick will be looking for another. Let her got 2 kids too, everything will change. Modified, I have a daughter of 5 years old, been in a relationship with a woman since 2008 febuary till date, she has been living with me since 2012, I have slide over 4 to 5 fresher that felt like a real love, even once was even 4 years and already bored and trying to chase her away to at least feel breath to work on my relationship, realising thar all new things will soon fade away. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Ayanfeoluwaoba(f): 8:34am On May 01, 2017 |
To add to this A Counsellor once told me that Love will one day look like it's fading, but when you marry for a "defined purpose" you will always want to stay with your partner when you think of the purpose. Secondly, your new Lady will never trust you even when you eventually marry her at least if you could leave your wife of 14 years for her, then you can as well leave her for another if the love dies. From your explanation, you are only in lust with her physical appearance and not thinking of what she has to offer. I bet you if you go ahead with the new lady, she will frustrate you into seeing nothing good in your family of 14 years because she wants you to concentrate on hers. If you know you love life, don't add another baggage to the one you already have. baby124: |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by fredopareto(m): 8:36am On May 01, 2017 |
if u ask me na who i go ask....hmmmm..human being nd der character...it is naw u no u dont luv her after all dis year...e dey ur body..we dnt cherish wat we ve until we lose dem |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by ephi123(f): 8:36am On May 01, 2017 |
sarrki: Uncle sarrki, so no be only politics section you siddon on top Anyway, happy new month to you. 1 Like |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by b0rn2fuck(m): 8:40am On May 01, 2017 |
Ayanfeoluwaoba:The problem with most of us men are a fresher will only reveal a pro and not con of her characters but a lady of 14 years already shown the entire pro and con and even extra details of herself, she already part of the man's life, but greed will surely made this man leave his wife and 2 children to another woman , even with 2 children enough, life could be better without adding any plus either your woman exist or not. All he need is work on your relationship and focus on project like building, business and how to plan for both kids right from now so they can brag like davido, and not making his dick be direction of his life just like my past 1 Like |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by xcllaxix(m): 8:43am On May 01, 2017 |
You took her off the "market" Now u wanna put her back on the shelf after taking her home and keeping her for 15 years.. Na so dem dey do for Una own market?...Young man, it's for better for worse.. Stick it through..Thats why I advise men to marry their best friend and lover.. A lady ur attracted to both physically and behavior wise to avoid stories.. I no go carry because say love blind marry slim woman cuz I love thick ladies.. 1 Like |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by sarrki(m): 8:47am On May 01, 2017 |
ephi123: Thank dearie Happy new month See you on politics section 1 Like |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by ephi123(f): 8:48am On May 01, 2017 |
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Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by madone: 8:51am On May 01, 2017 |
Justdare:No sir i dont no him from Adam.am only speaking my mind .the OP sound like he is trapped in the marriage and seeking for escape route. He should ask the wife and do a survey and see if he has really been a good husband to her.most peoole play the victim just to justify their selfish interest. He should work on himself. |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Nobody: 8:51am On May 01, 2017 |
Mynd44: Completely true . Falling in love with personality. Last for years .. If not life time . Op better readjust your mindset and make it work . you knew from day one before u married your wife . What baffles with some people is that they don't love whom they are married to but still end up saying I do? I honestly don't get the rationale behind it .knowing fully well its marriage till death do us part. I just don't understand |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by seun1960(m): 8:53am On May 01, 2017 |
I think many people in the society force themselve to marriage because of coercion from parents and friends. What will fail to understand is the consequence in the future...mathematically, the OP first son is 7 years old which means he was at the age of x to 35 when he had is first son. Considering this factor, he was afraid that of his age and the result is....he married a lady he never wanted in his life. In conclusion, we need to stop forcing people to marry out of their wish. |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by edetcnn(m): 8:54am On May 01, 2017 |
Mid life crisis!! |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by AHCB: 9:05am On May 01, 2017 |
rosalieene:Thank you. |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Nobody: 9:07am On May 01, 2017 |
fuckerstard:Seriously, datz why I dont blame my hubby's dem sidechicks cuz una men can fit make a lady feel she is d only one dat matters.. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Donjazzy12(m): 9:08am On May 01, 2017 |
ItzChinnex:Intelligent nonsense |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Nobody: 9:12am On May 01, 2017 |
this guy,your comments most time,knock me off with laughter, they lighten up the ugly situation of our beautiful country |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by fabienjoe: 9:30am On May 01, 2017 |
It is called MIDLIFE CRISIS...You are only trying to recreate your youth which you helplessly watch ebbing away. Feeling yoked to same woman on whom domestic challenges and childbirth may have taken its toll does not help matters. The children should keep the bond, more so remembering your wife may feel same way but does a lot to suppress it. At this stage in marriage, the head, rather than the heart rules. You seem to be ruled more by the heart..Most marriages in the western world crash at this point but Africans seem to have more staying power, probably due to better extended family support and advice. You can deal with this, man. Make a deliberate attempt at it. |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by odogwu9(m): 9:41am On May 01, 2017 |
ItzChinnex: Dude you made vows..marriage vows. U will love love your wife. Cherish and adore her..till death do u part..You must uphold and fulfill ur vows..stay glued to ur wife..if u give ur wife the attentions u give ur lover u would find out she is better..don't be deceived by a new and tighter pussey.. Ur wife's pussey was once tighter than Lagos traffic.. |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Nobody: 9:44am On May 01, 2017 |
Remain wise, very viable for this generation. Mynd44: |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Nobody: 9:46am On May 01, 2017 |
B4 I start reading lemme goan call Elsie Okpocha.. |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by Nobody: 9:47am On May 01, 2017 |
Are you daddy G.O or something ? Bless you. EzeChux: |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by ifenes(m): 9:55am On May 01, 2017 |
sharliz: Making others happy while neglecting yourself isn't a good life. He won't be there for her emotionally but financially which is what he is already doing I'm sure. And of course that doesn't stop him from being a great father to his kids. They will grow up to understand how life works. 2 Likes |
Re: Advice : I Care For My Wife But Love Another Woman by ray48: 9:55am On May 01, 2017 |
This is a self imposed problem and requires only yourself to solve the problem. Nowhere in your article did u state dat ur wife did this or that to you. You were simply carried away by the lust u had for ur co worker and along the line became infatuated with her. Your kids also didn't do anything to u and shouldn't be part of the vicious circle. If you want ur marriage to work, then u ve to make it work even by going the extra mile. So many marriages after some time loose that allure and fragrance but they don't bring in a third party and start making comparison. The moment you do that, it becomes the beginning of the end of that relationship. My advise to u is to immediately call it quits with ur cowoker. Don't tell me it's difficult to do. If u know how u started it, then end it like that. Then go to your wife and confess and apologize. She will definitely accept it so far as u re sincere. Then take it as a duty to make d relationship work for the sake of ur family. |
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