Rorachy:
I'm fine dear, did you later talk to her about the stuff?

Yes I did... Making progress

Thanks!

Silentscreamer:
Being a better person is not a function of virginity, but its good for a woman to keep her virginity till marriage. God forbid i have sex with a man who's not my husband.

So wat u teyna say

Although most people see sexual immorality as a norm nevertheless the standard of God still stands, marriage is honorable and bed undefiled. Being a virgin does not guarantee a happy home but then sexual immorality is a sin against God and this is enough reason for us to keep our selves pure

chara019:
Y'all have got your views on virginity.
Virginity doesn't guarantee good attitude,but for a lady to make the decision to remain a virgin,I think that alone speaks volume;especially in a period where guys are ready to sex anything sexable with a hole .
Me o can't allow some guy to have sex with me to the extent of over-widening ,wetin go remain fr my husband, I will have that pride ,yes,pride! of staying a virgin...when I ain't some cheap girl .respect to the non virgins ,you guys gat ur reasons.
I just detest those guy talk "that girl? I don yansh am"and d girl will still be shaking her bum not knowing same guy just listed her to his bleeped girl queue.
Not to even talk of contracting STD,HPV(not HIV now) exists,and one can have it without knowing.

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chara019:
Y'all have got your views on virginity.
Virginity doesn't guarantee good attitude,but for a lady to make the decision to remain a virgin,I think that alone speaks volume;especially in a period where guys are ready to sex anything sexable with a hole .
Me o can't allow some guy to have sex with me to the extent of over-widening ,wetin go remain fr my husband, I will have that pride ,yes,pride! of staying a virgin...when I ain't some cheap girl .respect to the non virgins ,you guys gat ur reasons.

I just detest those guy talk "that girl? I don yansh am"and d girl will still be shaking her bum not knowing same guy just listed her to his bleeped girl queue.
Not to even talk of contracting STD,HPV(not HIV now) exists,and one can have it without knowing.

Please hold on to your convictions. God bless you

"Better person"? This is a very gray area.. Virginity is a thing of personal pride just as a First Class degree. These two are admirable often times but that's where it ends. You're not entitled to any sort of special treatment. It's just a quality that gives you an edge over others as they depict discipline, restraint, self-control and other admirable qualities. Does driving a Ferrari make you better than someone who doesn't? As I said earlier, it's a gray area.

MissRaine69:
A membrane does not shape personality, ambition or drive it means you have not had sex that's it. It is not character defining nor should it be used as a moral compass.

Not a discreet opinion...But contains some element of truth..

Ayoolajumoke:
I don't think it makes one a better person tho, but it is better that way. What can be so unfortunate is ending up with an unfaithful partner at the end of the waiting, being faithful and all.

Oops...bad picture

From what i've seen there's an over-fixation on the private part of females, this same viriginity was taken away in most cases by we same males.

My two cents, if you marry a lady, or if your girlfriend isn't a virgin, don't make her feel bad about it.

Cultivate the love/flame in the relationship and trim it, i've seen an ex-ho got married to a church man, she has three sons today, one a doctor, two engineers, her daughter is married to a successful entrepreneur, just few people know about this incident.

The hymen doesn't describe the person. If there's love, if there's mutual inter-dependency, my brothers forget about the vagina, but work on the relationship...but remaining a virgin till marriage has lots of plus, to many men, you earn trust and respect that wouldn't be easily earned other wise...

God help us all.

Lalas247:

Before nko I get saint certification

That your friend... what a bad story..

One doesn't need endless porn to have a good intimate life. Since the hubby knew, he ought to have schooled her through.. There are psychological classes couples can attend and they use illustrations to teach, she could have learnt from stuffs like these, or asked friends, to me sex isn't a big deal, i wonder why virgin females struggle with this, imagine a stick fit into a hole, twist it in different positions to make it fit in from different angles and walla. Finally, intimacy isn't entirely dull if there's deep connection. Back in the days, our parents employed a few intimate positions and it didn't matter. why the over-fixation n positions? Abeg with all these tedious wahala...if anyone wants to twist and break, it's best to marry a gymnast for that and not a wife. Truth the told, my friends have confirmed this, there are things a man must never try with his wife, but nope, this over-sexed generation doesn't understand boundaries, that's why there's a lack of sexual satisfaction and we have sex-zombies everywhere.


God deliver me first....

Yuji:

Are you minding the chauvinist? If you tell them to show you in the bible where God said only women should be virgins till marriage they can't,all these silly hypocrites looking for Virginia.
That was how one was deceived by an experienced runsgirl. She used alum and pig's blood on their wedding night and till today the poor man thinks he married a virgin. Keep searching for Virginia until you marry Jezebel herself.
Also,what does it profit a anyone to marry as a virgin and still go to hell?? Fornication and adultery are not the only sins in the bible. My only advice is keep your virginity because of God not anybody.

This is the part i love, " because of God not anybody "

supersystemsng:


That your friend... what a bad story..

One doesn't need endless porn to have a good intimate life. Since the hubby knew, he ought to have schooled her through.. There are psychological classes couples can attend and they use illustrations to teach, she could have learnt from stuffs like these, or asked friends, to me sex isn't a big deal, i wonder why virgin females struggle with this, imagine a stick fit into a hole, twist it in different positions to make it fit in from different angles and walla. Finally, intimacy isn't entirely dull if there's deep connection. Back in the days, our parents employed a few intimate positions and it didn't matter. why the over-fixation n positions? Abeg with all these tedious wahala...if anyone wants to twist and break, it's best to marry a gymnast for that and not a wife. Truth the told, my friends have confirmed this, there are things a man must never try with his wife, but nope, this over-sexed generation doesn't understand boundaries, that's why there's a lack of sexual satisfaction and we have sex-zombies everywhere.


God deliver me first....

Not all men do all that training ... and everyone communicates differently to each other shyness comes to mind when it's the first time ..
Please what are the things he can't try ? Intrigued

Lalas247:

Not all men do all that training ... and everyone communicates differently to each other shyness comes to mind when it's the first time ..
Please what are the things he can't try ? Intrigued

Anyone who's shy about sex shouldn't be married. You could have helped her nau..Putting a female friend on the bed and say, babe like this, turn, look into his eyes,touch him here...when he does this, do like this. Turn left, right, move back... though this may be considered an extreme, but something like this can be done... But its typically the guy-ish problem. Sex is more than what we think to me personally. The moment one has much of it, deep down, a satiety level is affected, which is what happened to too many of we men...if we keep having it, satiety level is affected...

Rukkydelta:
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thanks bae

supersystemsng:


Anyone who's shy about sex shouldn't be married. You could have helped her nau..Putting a female friend on the bed and say, babe like this, turn, look into his eyes,touch him hear...when he does this, do like this. Turn left, right, move back... though this may be considered an extreme, but something like this can be done... But its typically the guy-ish problem. Sex is more than what we think to me personally. The moment one has much of it, deep down, a satiety level is affected, which is what happened to too many of we men...if we keep having it, satiety level is affected...

There is free internet but she never been the type to watch all that prudish much .. but like I said first time jitters she must have been thinking the worst.. ( there some girls that can't even say he kissed me ) I'm like na wa o it's just the way it is .. some of has spoil that's why it's easy to talk about it .. remember growing up that kin talk does not exist in Naija household so we act like we know but we really don't ..

Heard in one African country on the bridal shower night the perform sex positions to teach the bride to be as she be Virgin so she knows what she is doing .. trust me it's normal to be like that I just told her the easiest position I know that wont cause too much discomfort but it didn't work..
How come you know so much

Lalas247:


There is free internet but she never been the type to watch all that prudish much .. but like I said first time jitters she must have been thinking the worst.. ( there some girls that can't even say he kissed me ) I'm like na wa o it's just the way it is .. some of has spoil that's why it's easy to talk about it .. remember growing up that kin talk does not exist in Naija household so we act like we know but we really don't ..

Heard in one African country on the bridal shower night the perform sex positions to teach the bride to be as she be Virgin so she knows what she is doing .. trust me it's normal to be like that I just told her the easiest position I know that wont cause too much discomfort but it didn't work..
How come you know so much

I know so much because

1.I'm a man

2. I have an active mind which God gives me the will power to use...

3. I'm my own teacher and don't follow the media or any what-nots

4. I watched my father counselled couples for other 10 years and i sat beside him when this happens

5.I'm old enough to know much of the problems when we're young are more the aftermath of faulty perceptions when we advance further.

6. It's purely genius to be imaginative, twist and turns.Up and down, left and right, Could it be more difficult.

In psychology, there's a school of taught that during the first sexual encounters both parties should wound together, and then heal together in the aftermath. This implies both the male and the female should learn how well to " cope" but since most of the males now are sex-perts...what we males need to know is we have become too wild for some ladies...and some ladies are too deep into sex, they may be , okay for example, i heard of girls practicing anals and such just to preserve virginity...the state of the mind has titled to a large extent...you dig?


So balancing, compromise,adjustment, contentment, keep keeping on, patience all of these will help new couples survive..but i personally have very low hope for marriages of this generation..if God doesn't intervene, i expect 7 in 10marriages to fail...and funny enough, itbores down back to insatiety and flawed perceptions

feelgoodInc:
the need is that she saved it for you, you are the one that opened the road to old Trafford....... You know that road. Where arsenal goes.

Lol,ua funny,but opening the road to old trafford doesnt make her a saint.Some virgins enjoys sucking di.........cks like hell and still tell u they dnt want sex yet

7 pages already! Nairalanders una too like knack knack stories.. lemme be going before someon e will say I commented!

Virginity is still a thing of honour, take it or leave it. Especially when you find the right man. It does not guarantee good home tho, but it brings you on standard of morality.

Stallione:
Lol,ua funny,but opening the road to old trafford doesnt make her a saint.Some virgins enjoys sucking di.........cks like hell and still tell u they dnt want sex yet

True talk..Confirm. Sucking genitals, anals... extreme-ish etc

Chukazu:

Yes I did... Making progress
Thanks!

OK.

it is a good thing but does not guarantee that the virgin is a good person.

It's only the probability that is higher

Please why do some usernames on Nairaland change to 'Nobody' ?
Some comments have 'Nobody' as d poster of certain comments

richG:
Please why do some usernames on Nairaland change to 'Nobody' ?
Some comments have 'Nobody' as d poster of certain comments

They deactivated their accounts...I deactivate mine after every few weeks or two months too...

yes na.But the character must be okay also.Virginity epitomizes the height of virtue and self esteem exhibited by a lady.Nowadays silly girls throw away their virginity any how.They dont know that its value has some divine undertone.Virginity helps to protect a woman emotionally and even health wise amongst other things.When your disvirgined at 18 by 27 you must have slept with over 200 men.If one can help its always better being a virgin.

pocohantas:
NO, it doesn't entirely make you a better person.

Yea, nothing wrong with men being virgins.
Men wear rings too, or don't they wear in your neighbourhood?

You think it's right for a lady to keep her pussie for years...only to donate it to a guy who can be recognised by over 100 ladies with his prick picture alone?

You this girl ehn

Feanah:
Yes,it makes you a better and more decemt person

Correct

pocohantas:
NO, it doesn't entirely make you a better person.

Yea, nothing wrong with men being virgins.
Men wear rings too, or don't they wear in your neighbourhood?

You think it's right for a lady to keep her pussie for years...only to donate it to a guy who can be recognised by over 100 ladies with his prick picture alone?

Omo, this lady talked like somebody that didn't give his huuby her virginity.

anyway, i thank God for my life.

pocohantas:
NO, it doesn't entirely make you a better person.

Yea, nothing wrong with men being virgins.
Men wear rings too, or don't they wear in your neighbourhood?

You think it's right for a lady to keep her pussie for years...only to donate it to a guy who can be recognised by over 100 ladies with his prick picture alone?

i'm a virgin

pocohantas:
NO, it doesn't entirely make you a better person.

Yea, nothing wrong with men being virgins.
Men wear rings too, or don't they wear in your neighbourhood?

You think it's right for a lady to keep her pussie for years...only to donate it to a guy who can be recognised by over 100 ladies with his prick picture alone?

I never knew preek the change shape and value proportional to the number of p$ssy that it has f$cked.
New information, @pocco, lecture me

supersystemsng:


They deactivated their accounts...I deactivate mine after every few weeks or two months too...

Why would someone deliberately deactivate his account.
Or Oga Seun does that to people's account too?