Growing my family believed in nobility and honor. My father never let us meet girls neither did he let my sisters meet boys. He always told us that we were different and how out of this world we were. So many bullsh!t he told us and even used force to ensure we obey. As a result, I had no friends let alone female friends to even talk of a girlfriend.

All my high school holidays I spent at home alone because I had no friend to visit neither did I have a friend to visit me. My brothers were in the university, my sisters were with our aunt who trained them in many stuff so they would be 'Powerful Women' in future. So it was just me.

I went to the university, I had no friends. No one knew me. No girlfriend still. I had no one to share my problems with. I had to 'Google' my problems. About 3 years out of the university, I met a girl in the club which I visited. I do not visit clubs to party (party with who sef) but I visit to pick runs girls. Please don't judge me.. No friends... No girlfriend... At least I will get laid. I won't be Virgin . I loved her and she ditched me after all my work in her life. Hell I'm I destined to be alone

So I met another girl at a company. she approached me first. We exchange numbers and got talking. We fell in love and so on.. It has been 10 months since I have been with this girl..

There is a problem now. I don't talk to her. I don't share things with her so much because I'm not used to it. I'm used to keeping secrets. If I take decisions without involving her and it backfires, maybe it goes south she will get angry saying I never share problems with her. Now it is affecting our relationship. Again, she isn't counsellor of the year.. Little things I tell her, she doesn't offer me any counsel or advice.. She will just say 'ok' or tell me to pray... Or just like tell me to do it.. Which isn't good enough. Sometimes I expect her to tell me NO and 'Don't do it'. Not always saying Ok and Yes when it isn't. So I don't waste my time sharing things with her.

She feels she isn't involved.. I feel I am alone and with no one.. We both made a mistake few weeks ago because she didn't throw me a bone... What is the point of a relationship? If I will do all the thinking and solving? Yes I'm the man but please fvck it.. I'm not in a relationship for breeding like most men (seX and children).. When I'm not a dog. I want to be with someone and no longer be alone.. And being with someone is beyond having sex and making babies.. It's about connecting and sharing.. telling each other what's necessary.. reprimanding each other and maybe judging each other if necessary.. So we don't live like we are alone.

But I guess my case is different. Yes I get the good food she cooks and the hot sex and corporate swag(she is a CEO in a company like that).. But that isn't enough for me. I told her to quit her job and walk with me. She agreed but I'm still thinking what difference it will make because I plan to go far.. Maybe out of the country to some quiet and lonely place. Will she make any difference?

I'm just confused and sad.. Don't know what to do. Should I just walk away from everything including her and murder myself? Or I stay with her in this country and try to adapt to loneliness? Or should i walk away with her and hope for the best?

All my life has been on beer and liquor and prostitutes because I am damn lonely!!! I have no one to keep me company. No one to take me off the Internet and Google or Porn. Back then daddy will punish me for watching porn. Telling me I had a bright future. Hell my future is here but what do I get? I have a house in my name.. A car in my name.. A business in my name.. A CEO girlfriend. . So yes I am OKAY!! My future is damn bright! BUT LONELY!

Sorry I bored you and forgive my foul language. My girlfriend influenced me. I wonder how she is still having a job with her use of language especially the f word.

Alright. To start with, Can we trade places for a year? Just joking. Hope this helps

1. Suicide isn't the solution. The solution, is to talk to your girlfriend. Pour your heart out to her and let her know how much she failed you. Let her feel your pain for a moment and ask her to help you. Ask her to be there beyond food and panties.. That is one step.

2. Try to get involved with the world. Smile with people. Try to say hi to people. In your story, on 2 occasions have girls approached you first. It's serious. Try approaching guys first now. Try to connect with guys. Forget the girls. You have 1 already.

3. Be customer friendly in your business. If you own your business, try to be closer to be customers that will build your esteem and slowly shift you off the sidelines.

4. Quit the club! Try poker!

5. Attend events with your girlfriend and meet new people even new ladies (don't cheat). Don't just move from office to house everyday.

6. Get a dog. It increases fun and company in the house

7. Get married and make babies. Start a family. Trust me, loneliness will pass away when you have a boy to chase around the house.

My two cents

story that touch from a real life angle.. ..

Oh God so many of them...

So, if you die today, what opportunity do you have to make your tomorrow better? ABI you no know say Na only life fit bring positive change? You don't see any dead body wey achieve great feats before? Na the achievement we make when alive naim matter o. Better forget this pity party you throwing and look for something positive to fill your time. Go learn tailoring or some other craft if you don't have what to do.

Hmm

So because yo lonely, you wanna commit sucide. Bro I Support you atleast we we reduce gradually. infact we are too much in dis country.

Rest well, bruh.

Eyaaa!

delishpot:
So, if you die today, what opportunity do you have to make your tomorrow better? ABI you no know say Na only life fit bring positive change? You don't see any dead body wey achieve great feats before? Na the achievement we make when alive naim matter o. Better forget this pity party you throwing and look for something positive to fill your time. Go learn tailoring or some other craft if you don't have what to do.

I think I have more of a job than you do obviously. I think you missed the part where I said, I have a business. I own a business enterprise. So I've passed that. Im not broke. I'm comfortable financially. Learn to read

Synzu:
Rest well, bruh.

Thanks Bro. .Think suicide is the way forward because since I was born I can't boast of a friend. It's such a shame. If I fall sick now, there is nobody to call except my girlfriend. Imagine that. What if I'm in a dire situation who do I call. Do you get it?

Even God gave Adam a partner because He knows we can't survive alone. It's been years and decades for God sake.. I can't continue. .

You have a good live mate.

But please feel free to commit suicide you ungrateful fu#k.

Stevengerd:
So because yo lonely, you wanna commit sucide. Bro I Support you atleast we we reduce gradually. infact we are too much in dis country.

Yes I do.. Lonely since was born.. Can't help it. My uncle died and NO ONE ATTENDED THE BURIAL EXCEPT NUCLEAR FAMILY MEMBERS BECAUSE WE ARE BLOODY LONELY IN OUR FAMILY. NOW TELL ME HOW TO DEAL WITH THAT!!

Dudeweedlmao:
You have a good live mate.

But please feel free to commit suicide you ungrateful fu#k.

Yup.. A good life with no one to talk to isn't a good life. Trust me I can give you all the money but if I take away companionship and friendship from you, you'd understand.

BoiledHead:


Yes I do.. Lonely since was born.. Can't help it. My uncle died and NO ONE ATTENDED THE BURIAL EXCEPT NUCLEAR FAMILY MEMBERS BECAUSE WE ARE BLOODY LONELY IN OUR FAMILY. NOW TELL ME HOW TO DEAL WITH THAT!!

Bro eazzy! all you need to do is, you have to be social. make friends, Nobody is an island, dnt isolate ursef frm people.

Learn how to enjoy yourself alone... The biggest company I could ever have is with myself... Infact, I once told someone ... I could stay alone in portharcourt for one year without another human and still be happy, no doubt I may once in a while feel lonely, but that will be like 10% .... Bro... Enjoy being alone... Maybe my upbringing played a part in this but it's cool... Above all... Remain open minded, be willing to learn new things/principles with regards to relationship... There are many folks that will gladly trade places with you... Infact if this is your only problem, you don't have one, you are the problem and not them.... The earlier you realize it, the better for you...

Suicide is never a solution

SmellingAnus:
Learn how to enjoy yourself alone... The biggest company I could ever have is with myself... Infact, I once told someone ... I could stay alone in portharcourt for one year without another human and still be happy, no doubt I may once in a while feel lonely, but that will be like 10% .... Bro... Enjoy being alone... Maybe my upbringing played a part in this but it's cool... Above all... Remain open minded, be willing to learn new things/principles with regards to relationship... There are many folks that will gladly trade places with you... Infact if this is your only problem, you don't have one, you are the problem and not them.... The earlier you realize it, the better for you...

OP he has said it all...
If you don't learn to feel comfortable with yourself, you won't feel comfortable with others either....
You get what you give..

And for the sweetside, lemme know when you're ready to do it, so i can cry at least.

Good night

SmellingAnus:
Learn how to enjoy yourself alone... The biggest company I could ever have is with myself... Infact, I once told someone ... I could stay alone in portharcourt for one year without another human and still be happy, no doubt I may once in a while feel lonely, but that will be like 10% .... Bro... Enjoy being alone... Maybe my upbringing played a part in this but it's cool... Above all... Remain open minded, be willing to learn new things/principles with regards to relationship... There are many folks that will gladly trade places with you... Infact if this is your only problem, you don't have one, you are the problem and not them.... The earlier you realize it, the better for you...

Thanks man but you know you said 1 year.. I have been alone technically my whole life..

But I'll try what you said. God bless

If you really want to commit suicide then what are yoy waiting for?. What you want is help, that is what you should say.

popefuse:
If you really want to commit suicide then what are yoy waiting for?. What you want is help, that is what you should say.

help me please

Divay22:

OP he has said it all...
If you don't learn to feel comfortable with yourself, you won't feel comfortable with others either....
You get what you give..

And for the sweetside, lemme know when you're ready to do it, so i can cry at least.

thanks dear...

BoiledHead:


Thanks man but you know you said 1 year.. I have been alone technically my whole life..

But I'll try what you said. God bless

good... Henceforth, try to enjoy being alone , cos in relationships, you will all bring in what you already have and trust me happiness/joy should be one of them

BoiledHead:


I think I have more of a job than you do obviously. I think you missed the part where I said, I have a business. I own a business enterprise. So I've passed that. Im not broke. I'm comfortable financially. Learn to read

Still go look for something else to keep you busy hence I recommended a craft instead of a formal education. Your mouth is too dirty that is why you have such problems in life. Stop being bitter towards people and life may stop being bitter towards you. Who is talking about finances? Did you read anywhere I said you are poor or that poverty is your problem. I said you have too much time on your hands, go get some new hobbies to take your mind off things. If instead of thinking about death, you think about volunteering for example that would be more rewarding don't you think? All in all sha no kill yourself. Don't say I did not encourage you to live. Because your bitterness surely skipped that part and hung on to the part you consider negative because the pity party is more fun for you

Go download and listen attentively to all The Weeknd album. It's going to make you feel good and enjoy your own company, then people will want to dig you...... giving you chance to select who you want in your life. You can also use your money to buy company of friend by throwing party for whatever you feel like an achievement or event happening in your life. Cheers

BoiledHead:


Thanks Bro. .Think suicide is the way forward because since I was born I can't boast of a friend. It's such a shame. If I fall sick now, there is nobody to call except my girlfriend. Imagine that. What if I'm in a dire situation who do I call. Do you get it?

Even God gave Adam a partner because He knows we can't survive alone. It's been years and decades for God sake.. I can't continue. .

But you have friends all over.... We all here are your friends, I am your friend so why say you have none? I think you are just a loner and the first comment on your thread is a sure way to go... I can counsel you offline If you want though... But never ever think of suicide... Losers do that and you are not one... From the way you sound, you are actually living my dream yet you complain you don't have it all...I understand perfectly what it means to be a loner...I am one too... Let's talk offline

You need plenty sugar in your life . Kidding

If what you've written up there is true, then you need to accept yourself. Fine, you know what your problems are already but running away from them by committing suicide is soooo cheap. You want your gf to provide solutions or help fight your problems when you're running away from the real battle yourself. You're blaming your gf for the loneliness in your relationship when you've been lonely all your life, the fact is you wouldn't even recognize or understand if she's trying her best because loneliness has eaten deep into you.

Like I said earlier, you know whom you're already. You either embrace it or change it and from your post, it's obvious you badly want it changed. And only you can do that. You hate your own company because if you don't, you wouldn't be feeling lonely, you'll rather enjoy and savor your own time and space. I mean, be your own happiness. Find someone to talk to, not a gf this time around. Just anybody, could be a pen friend or something. Just last night, I found out have made a best friend out of an online friend. How we got to that stage, we both don't know but believe me, we share eachother's darkest secrets and we're yet to see sef. . In short, just open up to someone. Putting everything in could be dangerous at times sef.

I wouldn't tell you to do away with porn, social media, club and all but don't build your existence around them.

Don't goan die oooo. If you still wish to die after everything others have said, just come lemme use you for rituals. You cannor go to waste like that. No no no

to bring u out of loneliness is not going to be easy,if u really meet who u love it will fade out without u knowing it. may GOD bring her to u

do you think good car, house, nice babe and money brings joy, do you think been in a relationship would drive away loneliness and bring in happiness, little wonder a man will have the world at his door feet and still be sad, little reason to say why a man like steve jobs had to travel far into India to search for inner peace.
op joy and happiness comes from the perspective at which you look at life, untill you stop trying to use materials things as a measure to your happiness , been In relationship as a problem to your loneliness, you will never truely be happy.
friends are an integral part of life, you never had one because you never wanted to have , open yourself and you would see the right people coming by. I have been there before, succide is never a way out.

You mean this is a problem to someone? Wow!