I never knew lonely people now commit suicide.

BoiledHead:
Growing my family believed in nobility and honor. My father never let us meet girls neither did he let my sisters meet boys. He always told us that we were different and how out of this world we were. So many bullsh!t he told us and even used force to ensure we obey. As a result, I had no friends let alone female friends to even talk of a girlfriend.

All my high school holidays I spent at home alone because I had no friend to visit neither did I have a friend to visit me. My brothers were in the university, my sisters were with our aunt who trained them in many stuff so they would be 'Powerful Women' in future. So it was just me.

I went to the university, I had no friends. No one knew me. No girlfriend still. I had no one to share my problems with. I had to 'Google' my problems. About 3 years out of the university, I met a girl in the club which I visited. I do not visit clubs to party (party with who sef) but I visit to pick runs girls. Please don't judge me.. No friends... No girlfriend... At least I will get laid. I won't be Virgin . I loved her and she ditched me after all my work in her life. Hell I'm I destined to be alone

So I met another girl at a company. she approached me first. We exchange numbers and got talking. We fell in love and so on.. It has been 10 months since I have been with this girl..

There is a problem now. I don't talk to her. I don't share things with her so much because I'm not used to it. I'm used to keeping secrets. If I take decisions without involving her and it backfires, maybe it goes south she will get angry saying I never share problems with her. Now it is affecting our relationship. Again, she isn't counsellor of the year.. Little things I tell her, she doesn't offer me any counsel or advice.. She will just say 'ok' or tell me to pray... Or just like tell me to do it.. Which isn't good enough. Sometimes I expect her to tell me NO and 'Don't do it'. Not always saying Ok and Yes when it isn't. So I don't waste my time sharing things with her.

She feels she isn't involved.. I feel I am alone and with no one.. We both made a mistake few weeks ago because she didn't throw me a bone... What is the point of a relationship? If I will do all the thinking and solving? Yes I'm the man but please fvck it.. I'm not in a relationship for breeding like most men (seX and children).. When I'm not a dog. I want to be with someone and no longer be alone.. And being with someone is beyond having sex and making babies.. It's about connecting and sharing.. telling each other what's necessary.. reprimanding each other and maybe judging each other if necessary.. So we don't live like we are alone.

But I guess my case is different. Yes I get the good food she cooks and the hot sex and corporate swag(she is a CEO in a company like that).. But that isn't enough for me. I told her to quit her job and walk with me. She agreed but I'm still thinking what difference it will make because I plan to go far.. Maybe out of the country to some quiet and lonely place. Will she make any difference?

I'm just confused and sad.. Don't know what to do. Should I just walk away from everything including her and murder myself? Or I stay with her in this country and try to adapt to loneliness? Or should i walk away with her and hope for the best?

All my life has been on beer and liquor and prostitutes because I am damn lonely!!! I have no one to keep me company. No one to take me off the Internet and Google or Porn. Back then daddy will punish me for watching porn. Telling me I had a bright future. Hell my future is here but what do I get? I have a house in my name.. A car in my name.. A business in my name.. A CEO girlfriend. . So yes I am OKAY!! My future is damn bright! BUT LONELY!

Sorry I bored you and forgive my foul language. My girlfriend influenced me. I wonder how she is still having a job with her use of language especially the f word.

He came to tell us he has a car, a house, business. No so one person come lie say him get 18million for akant. But I no say you dey lie o.... but if you wan commit suicide, don't forget to give me your car and house, write my name for your company name....

Life eh, e no dey ever dey complete. People get shoe but say dem no want, some don't have and would do anything to have.

Don't mind my pigin and English language. I dey think of want to chop..o.p before you kill yourself on top girl matter no forget to call me to be your next of kin.

See am... he wan kill himself while I dey here dey look for food to chop.

BoiledHead:


Yup.. A good life with no one to talk to isn't a good life. Trust me I can give you all the money but if I take away companionship and friendship from you, you'd understand.

Maybe you need God? Since material things and the flesh of a woman can't bring you the happiness you seek.

BoiledHead:
Growing my family believed in nobility and honor. My father never let us meet girls neither did he let my sisters meet boys. He always told us that we were different and how out of this world we were. So many bullsh!t he told us and even used force to ensure we obey. As a result, I had no friends let alone female friends to even talk of a girlfriend.

All my high school holidays I spent at home alone because I had no friend to visit neither did I have a friend to visit me. My brothers were in the university, my sisters were with our aunt who trained them in many stuff so they would be 'Powerful Women' in future. So it was just me.

I went to the university, I had no friends. No one knew me. No girlfriend still. I had no one to share my problems with. I had to 'Google' my problems. About 3 years out of the university, I met a girl in the club which I visited. I do not visit clubs to party (party with who sef) but I visit to pick runs girls. Please don't judge me.. No friends... No girlfriend... At least I will get laid. I won't be Virgin . I loved her and she ditched me after all my work in her life. Hell I'm I destined to be alone

So I met another girl at a company. she approached me first. We exchange numbers and got talking. We fell in love and so on.. It has been 10 months since I have been with this girl..

There is a problem now. I don't talk to her. I don't share things with her so much because I'm not used to it. I'm used to keeping secrets. If I take decisions without involving her and it backfires, maybe it goes south she will get angry saying I never share problems with her. Now it is affecting our relationship. Again, she isn't counsellor of the year.. Little things I tell her, she doesn't offer me any counsel or advice.. She will just say 'ok' or tell me to pray... Or just like tell me to do it.. Which isn't good enough. Sometimes I expect her to tell me NO and 'Don't do it'. Not always saying Ok and Yes when it isn't. So I don't waste my time sharing things with her.

She feels she isn't involved.. I feel I am alone and with no one.. We both made a mistake few weeks ago because she didn't throw me a bone... What is the point of a relationship? If I will do all the thinking and solving? Yes I'm the man but please fvck it.. I'm not in a relationship for breeding like most men (seX and children).. When I'm not a dog. I want to be with someone and no longer be alone.. And being with someone is beyond having sex and making babies.. It's about connecting and sharing.. telling each other what's necessary.. reprimanding each other and maybe judging each other if necessary.. So we don't live like we are alone.

But I guess my case is different. Yes I get the good food she cooks and the hot sex and corporate swag(she is a CEO in a company like that).. But that isn't enough for me. I told her to quit her job and walk with me. She agreed but I'm still thinking what difference it will make because I plan to go far.. Maybe out of the country to some quiet and lonely place. Will she make any difference?

I'm just confused and sad.. Don't know what to do. Should I just walk away from everything including her and murder myself? Or I stay with her in this country and try to adapt to loneliness? Or should i walk away with her and hope for the best?

All my life has been on beer and liquor and prostitutes because I am damn lonely!!! I have no one to keep me company. No one to take me off the Internet and Google or Porn. Back then daddy will punish me for watching porn. Telling me I had a bright future. Hell my future is here but what do I get? I have a house in my name.. A car in my name.. A business in my name.. A CEO girlfriend. . So yes I am OKAY!! My future is damn bright! BUT LONELY!

Sorry I bored you and forgive my foul language. My girlfriend influenced me. I wonder how she is still having a job with her use of language especially the f word.

Bros pls try to live ur life with what u av around u and the people u meet, try and break the circle. What you call a problem is not , some people wh they can be in ur position, some they jus need a meal to live on and others is job to feed their family but they av not.

Meanwhile you av all this, loneliness is ur problem pls you can walk on it and if possible, try to give out a little out of what u av and believe me u will be surprise at the number of people u put smile on their faces and by so doing u will be happy.

You can also meet new people here on Nland who are genuine and can help u out.

You are your own happiness. Do what you love. Only you know that. No one owes u nada.

pm bro, i am ready to be your friend .... and you won't feel lonely any more.

dear op, you need to accept Jesus as your n personal saviour and he will be more than ten thousand of friends to your soul.

Hey BoiledHead, first of you need to get the suicide thoughts out of your mind. I'm sure your girlfriend does not even know about all these issues, why don't you speak with her??....Above all, you need a friend. I've realized that the place of a friend is not the same thing as that of a lover. Don't know if you reply pms. I would send you one now....Let's be friends.

Go to onisha main market and shout.... Biafra is useless.... Trust me, ur loneliness will be gone forever

Bro i know how you feel... Truth ia, only Jesus can fill that emptiness you feel inside... Download this song and listen to it. http://www.gospelph.com/download/?song=2291
Oguabamba...

op, my advice to u is to try n be free with pple arnd first. Smile, chat n play with them. Make frnds online too but be careful.
relatnship isnt a way outta boredom, nt at all
nd sucide shudnt be an option
where do you reside sef

BoiledHead:
Again, she isn't counsellor of the year.. Little things I tell her, she doesn't offer me any counsel or advice.. She will just say 'ok' or tell me to pray... Or just like tell me to do it. Which isn't good enough. Sometimes I expect her to tell me NO and 'Don't do it'. Not always saying Ok and Yes when it isn't. So I don't waste my time sharing things with her.

There is a darkness that hovers over all men, an emptiness that never goes away, we are slaves to the demons that haunt us. Love and sex, spirituality and prayers, drugs and weed, gambling and alcohol are all temporary distractions - a mere respite from our troubled/restless minds. In the end, we are all alone.

That said, how does running moving away to a hole somewhere save you from YOU? True happiness comes from within, and you, Sir, are not at peace with yourself. Life owes you nothing, and like you've found out the hard way; a woman's love and affection guarantees nothing. Women are biologically programmed to bear your offsprings and not for "connecting and sharing." They just ain't built that way.
Heck, even our own mothers grew up to never really "get" us much less some girl.
All you need bro is you, love you. Go out there, get a hobby - hit the gym, lift, eat right, set up new goals, spend more time with family (family is all you need, really), live life with little or zero expectations from people, most especially women. Be a better you, be your own soulmate nigur.

Keep your head up, better days await you! Peace.

CorGier:


There is a darkness that hovers over all men, an emptiness that never goes away, we are slaves to the demons that haunt us. Love and sex, spirituality and prayers, drugs and weed, gambling and alcohol are all temporary distractions - a mere respite from our troubled/restless minds. In the end, we are all alone.

That said, how does running moving away to a hole somewhere save you from YOU? True happiness comes from within, and you, Sir, are not at peace with yourself. Life owes you nothing, and like you've found out the hard way; a woman's love and affection guarantees nothing. Women are biologically programmed to bear your offsprings and not for "connecting and sharing." They just ain't built that way.
Heck, even our own mothers grew up to never really "get" us much less some girl.
All you need bro is you, love you. Go out there, get a hobby - hit the gym, lift, eat right, set up new goals, spend more time with family (family is all you need, really), live life with little or zero expectations from people, most especially women. Be a better you, be your own soulmate nigur.

Keep your head up, better days await you! Peace.

Thank you so much bro.. I'm a little eased now as I understand what you said. I'll give it a try.

sheycrown:
Hey BoiledHead, first of you need to get the suicide thoughts out of your mind. I'm sure your girlfriend does not even know about all these issues, why don't you speak with her??....Above all, you need a friend. I've realized that the place of a friend is not the same thing as that of a lover. Don't know if you reply pms. I would send you one now....Let's be friends.

Thanks my email of nairaland isn't working...

BoiledHead:


Thanks my email of nairaland isn't working...

Explore... Do that which makes u happy! Be with someone who makes ur heart flip and who gives good counsel. A rich gf ain't all bro

BoiledHead:


Thanks Bro. .Think suicide is the way forward because since I was born I can't boast of a friend. It's such a shame. If I fall sick now, there is nobody to call except my girlfriend. Imagine that. What if I'm in a dire situation who do I call. Do you get it?

Even God gave Adam a partner because He knows we can't survive alone. It's been years and decades for God sake.. I can't continue. .

lol oga call me then infact nairalanders we they ur bk.dnt feel bad help urself sori dear i undastand u cos am also d type wey no dey get frndz bt nt as bad as urs. It seemz u r d 1 dat kips witdrawin, dia is money now so frndz go wan boko nt d oda way round.have fun nd meet people,attend occassions,dnt b a mr dnt talk to me

You simply have to change your lifestyle. I was raised just like you. Maybe not as strict but with a lot of restrictions that impeded my interrelationship with people.

I grew up to be an introvert living a life of solitude. Like you, I realised it didn't make me happy. It was not helping my sanity and happiness. It took certain family loses to force me out of that hole.

I learned that nature is important. I learned that talking with people was therapeutic. I learned that socializing with nature, the trees, the sun, the sand, the grasses and the people has the power to heal.

And I opened myself up. I may be lacking in a high number of friends but I know the value of friendship and human interaction. I know that a life of solitude can never be as healthy as a life with these interactions.

People don't have to be friends for them to give you sanity. You simply have to open up and be free and real when you converse with them. The same thing applies for nature. Use it wisely. You can make yourself happy.

I moved to a city where I have no friend or a job and I took this with me. I stay unoccupied indoors rarely because I know the value of the outside. Mere looking at nature can help. Same apply for mere interaction.

The truth is, selfishness has something to do with it. You were raised to be selfish and it is your duty to change that today. You were brought up with the mindset that people on the outside are less important for your wellbeing. That is a lie.

Your girl could be responding to the negative energy coming from you. Don't infect her with that problem. Sit down and discuss. Open up to her and stop holding back. A CEO can't be that daft to have no input on any matter.

She won't be a CEO if she was that dull. There's a reason she's feigning dull. Try to find out. Don't even think of Suicide. Think of Solutions. You can make yourself happy with the right knowledge and attitude.

Read these two articles to understand what I'm talking about and work on yourself.

http://www.mortalpoet.com/dont-waste-your-pain/

http://www.mortalpoet.com/can-conquer-depression-uplift-mind-urbanization-lifestyle-vs-urbanization-mind/

From what I've read, your suicidal thoughts has nothing to do with your dad and more to do with your personality. You dad was strict not abusive, he did so because he thought that's what's best for you. You don't open up to people because you are naturally secretive, you don't make friends because you'd rather be alone.
Personally I think you are depressed, or you have bipolar disorder etc sometimes i feel depressed too for weeks, I cry for no reason but of recent it has gone. I said this because I want you to know that sometimes I feel that emptiness too. Sorry about your depression

The first thing I want to address is...You need to be comfortable being alone. Enjoy your own company. Don't wallow in self pity mahn...Im like you in a way as can pity myself enh....any small thing, I already start feeling bad for myself...but where we differ is I LOVE being alone...my friends all have to do extra work keeping in contact because they know if they don't call I won't. It's not that I don't appreciate them I just show care in other ways. And Bro, what is the point of gathering 20 friend when all 20 will f$@& you over...but I know you can't just change who you are and it's fine but try and accept it. Again...you need to stop blaming your father for everything wrong on your life. I'm not even this mad about me father and the niggar up and left, soooo... you that your father even cared enough about your future nko!?.He did everything the did because he thought it was best for you...you think if he knew he was messing up his child he'll be fine with it...no father will

And as for your relationship....why are you in a relationship you're feeling lonely in...isn't that the whole point...If you had had an honest convo with her and told her all you're writing her I'm sure things will be different for you. Even if she doesn't give any input sha tell her about things, it makes girls feel like they're in the loop and you care about them....I wish you the best bro....you gat this !!!!

Bros do wetin dey ur mind....,#smell lies

Well I hope I've found a way forward now bru, but I personally feel if u told her all ds things u just shared with a faceless forum it will help both of u see the reality of things and find a way to sort things out.

This is 2020....Boiled head are you still there.??

BoiledHead:
Growing my family believed in nobility and honor. My father never let us meet girls neither did he let my sisters meet boys. He always told us that we were different and how out of this world we were. So many bullsh!t he told us and even used force to ensure we obey. As a result, I had no friends let alone female friends to even talk of a girlfriend.

All my high school holidays I spent at home alone because I had no friend to visit neither did I have a friend to visit me. My brothers were in the university, my sisters were with our aunt who trained them in many stuff so they would be 'Powerful Women' in future. So it was just me.

I went to the university, I had no friends. No one knew me. No girlfriend still. I had no one to share my problems with. I had to 'Google' my problems. About 3 years out of the university, I met a girl in the club which I visited. I do not visit clubs to party (party with who sef) but I visit to pick runs girls. Please don't judge me.. No friends... No girlfriend... At least I will get laid. I won't be Virgin . I loved her and she ditched me after all my work in her life. Hell I'm I destined to be alone

So I met another girl at a company. she approached me first. We exchange numbers and got talking. We fell in love and so on.. It has been 10 months since I have been with this girl..

There is a problem now. I don't talk to her. I don't share things with her so much because I'm not used to it. I'm used to keeping secrets. If I take decisions without involving her and it backfires, maybe it goes south she will get angry saying I never share problems with her. Now it is affecting our relationship. Again, she isn't counsellor of the year.. Little things I tell her, she doesn't offer me any counsel or advice.. She will just say 'ok' or tell me to pray... Or just like tell me to do it.. Which isn't good enough. Sometimes I expect her to tell me NO and 'Don't do it'. Not always saying Ok and Yes when it isn't. So I don't waste my time sharing things with her.

She feels she isn't involved.. I feel I am alone and with no one.. We both made a mistake few weeks ago because she didn't throw me a bone... What is the point of a relationship? If I will do all the thinking and solving? Yes I'm the man but please fvck it.. I'm not in a relationship for breeding like most men (seX and children).. When I'm not a dog. I want to be with someone and no longer be alone.. And being with someone is beyond having sex and making babies.. It's about connecting and sharing.. telling each other what's necessary.. reprimanding each other and maybe judging each other if necessary.. So we don't live like we are alone.

But I guess my case is different. Yes I get the good food she cooks and the hot sex and corporate swag(she is a CEO in a company like that).. But that isn't enough for me. I told her to quit her job and walk with me. She agreed but I'm still thinking what difference it will make because I plan to go far.. Maybe out of the country to some quiet and lonely place. Will she make any difference?

I'm just confused and sad.. Don't know what to do. Should I just walk away from everything including her and murder myself? Or I stay with her in this country and try to adapt to loneliness? Or should i walk away with her and hope for the best?

All my life has been on beer and liquor and prostitutes because I am damn lonely!!! I have no one to keep me company. No one to take me off the Internet and Google or Porn. Back then daddy will punish me for watching porn. Telling me I had a bright future. Hell my future is here but what do I get? I have a house in my name.. A car in my name.. A business in my name.. A CEO girlfriend. . So yes I am OKAY!! My future is damn bright! BUT LONELY!

Sorry I bored you and forgive my foul language. My girlfriend influenced me. I wonder how she is still having a job with her use of language especially the f word.

just enjoy your life nigga, with or without a girlfriend

I feel ur pain dear. You need to make friends and also get involved in sth that'll make you feel fulfilled in life. You depend too much on ur girlfriend for happiness. Get closer to God, because only God can give you Joy. God loves you and He won't want you to end your life.

BoiledHead:
Growing my family believed in nobility and honor. My father never let us meet girls neither did he let my sisters meet boys. He always told us that we were different and how out of this world we were. So many bullsh!t he told us and even used force to ensure we obey. As a result, I had no friends let alone female friends to even talk of a girlfriend.

All my high school holidays I spent at home alone because I had no friend to visit neither did I have a friend to visit me. My brothers were in the university, my sisters were with our aunt who trained them in many stuff so they would be 'Powerful Women' in future. So it was just me.

I went to the university, I had no friends. No one knew me. No girlfriend still. I had no one to share my problems with. I had to 'Google' my problems. About 3 years out of the university, I met a girl in the club which I visited. I do not visit clubs to party (party with who sef) but I visit to pick runs girls. Please don't judge me.. No friends... No girlfriend... At least I will get laid. I won't be Virgin . I loved her and she ditched me after all my work in her life. Hell I'm I destined to be alone

So I met another girl at a company. she approached me first. We exchange numbers and got talking. We fell in love and so on.. It has been 10 months since I have been with this girl..

There is a problem now. I don't talk to her. I don't share things with her so much because I'm not used to it. I'm used to keeping secrets. If I take decisions without involving her and it backfires, maybe it goes south she will get angry saying I never share problems with her. Now it is affecting our relationship. Again, she isn't counsellor of the year.. Little things I tell her, she doesn't offer me any counsel or advice.. She will just say 'ok' or tell me to pray... Or just like tell me to do it.. Which isn't good enough. Sometimes I expect her to tell me NO and 'Don't do it'. Not always saying Ok and Yes when it isn't. So I don't waste my time sharing things with her.

She feels she isn't involved.. I feel I am alone and with no one.. We both made a mistake few weeks ago because she didn't throw me a bone... What is the point of a relationship? If I will do all the thinking and solving? Yes I'm the man but please fvck it.. I'm not in a relationship for breeding like most men (seX and children).. When I'm not a dog. I want to be with someone and no longer be alone.. And being with someone is beyond having sex and making babies.. It's about connecting and sharing.. telling each other what's necessary.. reprimanding each other and maybe judging each other if necessary.. So we don't live like we are alone.

But I guess my case is different. Yes I get the good food she cooks and the hot sex and corporate swag(she is a CEO in a company like that).. But that isn't enough for me. I told her to quit her job and walk with me. She agreed but I'm still thinking what difference it will make because I plan to go far.. Maybe out of the country to some quiet and lonely place. Will she make any difference?

I'm just confused and sad.. Don't know what to do. Should I just walk away from everything including her and murder myself? Or I stay with her in this country and try to adapt to loneliness? Or should i walk away with her and hope for the best?

All my life has been on beer and liquor and prostitutes because I am damn lonely!!! I have no one to keep me company. No one to take me off the Internet and Google or Porn. Back then daddy will punish me for watching porn. Telling me I had a bright future. Hell my future is here but what do I get? I have a house in my name.. A car in my name.. A business in my name.. A CEO girlfriend. . So yes I am OKAY!! My future is damn bright! BUT LONELY!

Sorry I bored you and forgive my foul language. My girlfriend influenced me. I wonder how she is still having a job with her use of language especially the f word.

bro find a nice gym center and register and make sure you work out with positive and interesting guys...it worked for me bro.

Ginaz:


He came to tell us he has a car, a house, business. No so one person come lie say him get 18million for akant. But I no say you dey lie o.... but if you wan commit suicide, don't forget to give me your car and house, write my name for your company name....

Life eh, e no dey ever dey complete. People get shoe but say dem no want, some don't have and would do anything to have.

Don't mind my pigin and English language. I dey think of want to chop..o.p before you kill yourself on top girl matter no forget to call me to be your next of kin.

See am... he wan kill himself while I dey here dey look for food to chop.

what is this one saying? Did you read upside down or downside up?

OP I am just like you. Introverted but I got few friends. You just need to learn how to cope with yourself. At least you are living comfortably. You can get a dog, or any pet. You can keep yourself busy by watching movies, get a game console. Go out, try to make friends. Visit clubs without trying to hook up with a female, just observe the environment. TRY TO MAKE FRIENDS!

BoiledHead:


I think I have more of a job than you do obviously. I think you missed the part where I said, I have a business. I own a business enterprise. So I've passed that. Im not broke. I'm comfortable financially. Learn to read

Makin friends is d easiest thing.......just get ready4d shit dat comes with it

BoiledHead:


Thanks Bro. .Think suicide is the way forward because since I was born I can't boast of a friend. It's such a shame. If I fall sick now, there is nobody to call except my girlfriend. Imagine that. What if I'm in a dire situation who do I call. Do you get it?

Even God gave Adam a partner because He knows we can't survive alone. It's been years and decades for God sake.. I can't continue. .

Friends are everywhere. Take the risk. You will find one.

Come let’s be friends

Stevengerd:
So because yo lonely, you wanna commit sucide. Bro I Support you atleast we we reduce gradually. infact we are too much in dis country.

you bad