kimbraa:
Oga, but I thought you're married? Is this how you isolate your wife 'cause you're fùcking scared she may jump on another dick?.

. Yea,am married Nd I don't isolate her from having male friends. What m saying is that we all no our weaknesses. That Mr A did this does not mean that Mr B can do the same. Look some women have this willed power that you can't help but trust her no matter how many male friends she keeps. Others might not be the same. Like I said earlier,insecurity might be involved but the guy knows her weaknesses o he is trying to avoid story that touch. As for me my wife is a working class Nd she is always in contact with different people both male Nd female. Ask urself,how far does this guy trust this girl.Its different strokes for different people. If the guy has stopped seeing female friends,then let the girl do same. Marriage Nd r/ ships has no stipulated formula.

Lalas247:


Maybe the ladies u know will be tripping for those guys

Not me boo .

We know you as runs girl since na no be today,I shock say you dey give relationship advice.

kimbraa:
Silly question. What do people need friends for?.

are u the affected person....how e take concern u....pesin wey get the matter sef no talk Na u be her helper abi, human right activist...I no go talk much but I pity Ur condition sha.....

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JONNYSPUTE:
. Exactly my point. The guy didn't just wakeup one morning and dished out such instructions, he might ve seen or noticed some thing he doesn't like between his girl Nd the opposite sex. The girl never told us how her comportment is when ever she is around male friends.

I am sure there is more to this story. She only abrigbed it in order to make is feel pity for her and blame her boyfriend for making such an unreasnable request according to her inner mind and validation to continue....

I will advice her to do the same considering the guy also practice what he preaches. That means the guy is serious about her. But I think she would refuse because of some benefits or she gets or she is hoping to get. Ladies are most times their own undoing.
Later they would say a guy dumped them without giving the reason for which they were dumped.

JONNYSPUTE:
. Yea,am married Nd I don't isolate her from having male friends. What m saying is that we all no our weaknesses. That Mr A did this does not mean that Mr B can do the same. Look some women have this willed power that you can't help but trust her no matter how many male friends she keeps. Others might not be the same. Like I said earlier,insecurity might be involved but the guy knows her weaknesses o he is trying to avoid story that touch. As for me my wife is a working class Nd she is always in contact with different people both male Nd female. Ask urself,how far does this guy trust this girl.Its different strokes for different people. If the guy has stopped seeing female friends,then let the girl do same. Marriage Nd r/ ships has no stipulated formula.

I totally disagree with you on this one. The guy is fùcking insecure and it's obvious. Let's assume he knows one of her weaknesses is saying "No" to men then invariably you're saying they both have same weakness 'cause he also keep off from female friends. That's very unlikely to happen.

We know how you men are. It's only a lady that hasn't taken her time to study how a man's brain is wired that'll fall to this. Look, men like women who have a mind of theirs and decisive. If he tells her to cut off from her friends and she does exactly what he said, he'll demand for more in marriage and gradually she'll be living to conform just to please her man but this same man will complain of having a woman who doesn't have a mind of hers. Men love women who challenge them, it makes them desire you. Not doormats they'd easily walk over.

habsydiamond:
[s] are u the affected person....how e take concern u....pesin wey get the matter sef no talk Na u be her helper abi, human right activist...I no go talk much but I pity Ur condition sha.....[/s]

I pity you the most. SMH. So I need permission to quote a moniker?.

TheManofTomorrow:
[img][/img]I am sure there is more to this story. She only abrigbed it in order to make is feel pity for her and blame her boyfriend for making such an unreasnable request according to her inner mind and validation to continue....

I will advice her to do the same considering the guy also practice what he preaches. That means the guy is serious about her. But I think she would refuse because of some benefits or she gets or she is hoping to get. Ladies are most times their own undoing.
Later they would say a guy dumped them without giving the reason for which they were dumped.

.. This is what an trying to clear. Kimbraa just asked me a very nice question. I can't just wake up one morning Nd ask my wife to stop going to work or stop keeping male friends if she doesn't give me reasons to.The story is not complete. For the guy to say that both of them should desist from been friends with the opposite sex,something must ve happened behind the scene.

That man love you die,only a real man will decide to cut off from this karashikas loitering all about,if you can’t see he means well or if you are a coded karashiki just back off now and let him get over the heartbreak early,you are lucky to have him.dont listen to all this Kimbra and lalas,check out their past posts they are clearly runs girls l,don’t throw your beautiful relationship away for some loose shewes that don’t have respect for their men “if they have men”

kimbraa:
I totally disagree with you on this one. The guy is fùcking insecure and it's obvious. Let's assume he knows one of her weaknesses is saying "No" to men then invariably you're saying they both have same weakness 'cause he also keep off from female friends. That's very unlikely to happen.

We know how you men are. It's only a lady that hasn't taken her time to study how a man's brain is wired that'll fall to this. Look, men like women who have a mind of theirs and decisive. If he tells her to cut off from her friends and she does exactly what he said, he'll demand for more in marriage and gradually she'll be living to conform just to please her man but this same man will complain of having a woman who doesn't have a mind of hers. Men love women who challenge them, it makes them desire you. Not doormats they'd easily work over.

. Hahahahah. Honestly I like ur argument.Yes insecurity is involved but you Nd I know that it is something that always bring up insecurity in marriage or r/ship. If for e.g my wife caught me hanging out with females in an uncompromising environment, don't you think she can tell me to stop going out once is let's say 7pm? Why because the trust is no longer there. And if I do go out,even with male friends,that distrust will make her feel insecurd. We re all learning I ope u know that?.

kimbraa:
I pity you the most. SMH. So I need permission to quote a moniker?.

I no get Ur time ...I get better people to relate with....

kimbraa:
I totally disagree with you on this one. The guy is fùcking insecure and it's obvious. Let's assume he knows one of her weaknesses is saying "No" to men then invariably you're saying they both have same weakness 'cause he also keep off from female friends. That's very unlikely to happen.

We know how you men are. It's only a lady that hasn't taken her time to study how a man's brain is wired that'll fall to this. Look, men like women who have a mind of theirs and decisive. If he tells her to cut off from her friends and she does exactly what he said, he'll demand for more in marriage and gradually she'll be living to conform just to please her man but this same man will complain of having a woman who doesn't have a mind of hers. Men love women who challenge them, it makes them desire you. Not doormats they'd easily work over.

i still am trying to understand why everytime a guy asks for something the lady doesnt wana give the lady will use the excuse " you are insecure"
and what is wrong with being insecure?

im insecure as hell myself,so dont be doing any sh!t to set my alarm bells off.im hair-trigger insecure. if u cant stand my insecurity then you have an insecurity against insecure people that u need to resolve.

That guy finally get mind oh the more I think about it,all this sweet girls scattered all over like harmattan na hin still use him mouth dey cut off from dem for only you,OP you can’t be that fine na.so what is it about you sef when dey blow him mind.majority of guys think of fvcking their female friends at one point or the other oh don’t get it twisted,if you just lose guard pere dick go fall on you ,guys can stay years forming friendship to achieve this.FACT.its an unspoken truth that shouldn’t be said,I just violated the Bro code sharing this publicly.

Jonnyspute how you dey, bn don dey read your gist since and I understand you wella. As long as the goal of this relationship as described here is Marriage. What the guy is telling her with style is "YOU GOT TO QUIT IF THERE ARE GUYS FVCKING YOU BEHIND MY BACK, I HAVE ALSO STOPPED FVCKING THOSE BABES TOO" that really is the context of what he means by "Don't keep 'MALE FRIENDS' we are soon going to get knotted and fvck each others brains out".

Most ladies have male friends lined up incase SH!T happens and when SH!T gets real in her current relationship, "LIKE A MONKEY she won't let go of one branch, till she firmly grasps another. The 'male friend' that she is hanging out with lately and calling after you both get a fight? HE COULD BE THE NEXT BRANCH" (Chris Haven)

In a nut shell what they guy is telling her is "LET US BE FAITHFUL". It is as simple as that!!!

[quote author=TheManofTomorrow post=63454760]I understand the point you a trying to make and how it works well for you. Everybody all have different personality. The guy must have his reason for telling her to cut off all his male friends. A guy just can't walk into your life in the guise of a boyfriend and ask you to cut off all your male counterparts.
The guy must have taken his time to examine her and noticed some undesired characters from her which rooted from her keeping male friends.
Because you have some self control ur male friends advances doesn't mean all ladies are also like that.

Besides some these examples you sighted earlier can also be done by people you don't know from Adams provided they have a good heart I have assisted pple I don't know before.
There are times when your feelings or theirs for you might have escalated when you are currently in a relationship. Such a situation might have lead to an extra affairs provided the girl is loose.

[b[b]]And you are really lucky lucky with your choice of male friends, some guys don't think like that. They prefer to be burden more than help. I know cos I am a guy and I know them better.[/b][/[/b]quote]
















@ the bolded, it took me a long while before I got to the number of 4 good male friends I have. Initially they were 7.

The three of them wanted fun on different occasions and I wasn't cut out for such crap. So I had to breakup my relationship with 3 Guys differently, who couldn't control their sexual urges towards me.

Until I was left with 4 guys that stood the test of time and they were not coming because of sexx.

Am very disciplined with my body and mind. The remaining 4 friends are still with me today, cos they are good guys with great hearts.

Am an attractive lady , who has passed through so Much hurdles to get where I am today. Am young, witty, selfless ,funny , respectful and with a lively spirit. So they are intrigued, how i got to the level of my career, choice of environment all by myself with just me and God. It's intriguing to them, I don't take advantage of beauty to be a slay Queen. But compared to other ladies out there, who are not ready to work but just feel like depending all their lives on men.

Am not hyping myself but that's the way, they feel about me.

One of them ,smiled and said their is a great goodwill from heavens attached to any one who likes me , and makes me smile and happy. And since then he has been there for me, his Buisness too has never dropped and anyday he sees me, that the day ends up becoming a great day for him buisnesswise. So he joked and said it seems. He will be coming to my house first thing in the morning, before going to work.

I say guy, you no serious, I swear. .
Better come and move to my area nah. As we laughed on.

I appreciate them alot. They are funny and kind also advise me on certain areas am confused about life. We av a simple easy relationship.

Also they want to make it clear to me, that associating with a lady, should not always translate into sexx. Which is true, it shouldn't.
And I feel God purposely placed them in my life and they are willing to stand by me. Without wanting sexx in return, but they adore me. It's a comforting feeling. I like it.

dungburu:
Op needs a common sense Apps... What are u still doing with male friends when u know ur relationship is getting to a point of exchanging rings n ur guy is loyal to have cut off rapport with other ladies because of u .. U need to do away with anything that can bring suspicion or distrust from ur guy. U need no one to tell u dis n It seems u would still keep male friends even after getting married.. U can keep d male friends u have at hand , I mean d ones that u are just friends with n do away with d ones asking u out since dis ur guy seem to be serious n hope not to pursue two rats because u will loose d two.

I'm even suspecting dis Op sef.. What are we looking for under pot, if not fish.

you'll be surprised that the op is still going through teenage phase

when a lady is matured and doesn't lack common sense, she will see through what the guy is saying

lilmax:
you'll be surprised that the op is still going through teenage phase

when a lady is matured and doesn't lack common sense, she will see through what the guy is saying

EXACTLY!!!

IamKashyBaby:


I don't see any point to keep male friends when ur in a relationship even let's say its all nothing but platonic..

Listen to ur bf...he knows better

i kept advising my fiancee to let go of male friends, but she was too confident untill she got bleeped by one

WORDWORLD:
Jonnyspute how you dey, bn don dey read your gist since and I understand you wella. As long as the goal of this relationship as described here is Marriage. What the guy is telling her with style is "YOU GOT TO QUIT IF THERE ARE GUYS FVCKING YOU BEHIND MY BACK, I HAVE ALSO STOPPED FVCKING THOSE BABES TOO" that really is the context of what he means by "Don't keep 'MALE FRIENDS' we are soon going to get knotted and fvck each others brains out".

Most ladies have male friends lined up incase SH!T happens and when SH!T gets real in her current relationship, "LIKE A MONKEY she won't let go of one branch, till she firmly grasps another. The 'male friend' that she is hanging out with lately and calling after you both get a fight? HE COULD BE THE NEXT BRANCH" (Chris Haven)

In a nut shell what they guy is telling her is "LET US BE FAITHFUL". It is as simple as that!!!

. Gbam.Am fyn bro. And u? Ope u re OK?.

If you're sure it's leading to marriage, What do you need male friends for? If he steers clear of keeping female friends, I think you should do the same. Gracias.

xmileeasy:


Who is bothering you this morning? It is been awhile, how you de? You didn't get back to me with your new number as promised. I have forgiven you

Who b this o merry Christmas

youmour:



We know you as runs girl since na no be today,I shock say you dey give relationship advice.

We asin ?
D femz in ur famz wey carry 1.0 ... olori buruku omo

Lalas247:

Who b this o merry Christmas

Na somebody wey you de call dexo, hope you de kampe?

You're beautiful

He loves you

He's scared of loosing you (Insecurity)

Had experience of bad boys.

Girl,let him know the few guys you're keeping and few reasons like,course mate,old time friend etc. If you're really interested in having a happy home with him,learn to listen to your "husband". It is your home,don't break it with 21st century mentality.

Tell him everything you think will not affect your relationship and always tell him the truth. TRUTH will be your saviour if anything happens.

ubunja:
so many wise men on the internet.LOL
yet so many guys in friendzones.so many guys relying on porn.so many guys single and celibate.
yet so many wise men the internet.

you know something doesnt add up when 1+1=3
most guys deal in theory of relationships not real relatiinships.busy dispensing advice they have no right to be dispensing.
its hilarious

Asin ehn, I just tire.

onlyme07:
You're beautiful

He loves you

He's scared of loosing you (Insecurity)

Had experience of bad boys.

Girl,let him know the few guys you're keeping and few reasons like,course mate,old time friend etc. If you're really interested in having a happy home with him,learn to listen to your "husband". It is your home,don't break it with 21st century mentality.

Tell him everything you think will not affect your relationship and always tell him the truth. TRUTH will be your saviour if anything happens.

We know he loves her but that he's scared of loosing her, If he's not careful and he doesn't releases his leash round her neck. He may end up loosing her on the long run.

If you have a gf or wife who works, will u tell her to stop talking to guys who comes around to patronize her services at work?
Whether any possessive man likes it or not? U simply need to trust whom you are dating .

If my bf trusts me alot, and give me breathing space i make sure I don't fucvkup that trust. No matter what.

Likewise him, himself.
He doesn't fucvk up the trust.

You cannot follow your woman everywhere she goes, monitoring and checking if she's talking to a guy or not. Its uncalled for.

Men should just relax. If a man feels he's a dog nd cannot associate freely with women without raping or fucvking them.. Then he shouldn't classify all men like himself.
That's the way I see it.


If u notice, most women who get mad and angry when their husband or bf talks with another lady, are even the ones that cheat on their men big time but pretend they are holier than thou.. Likewise the men too.
As most women loves lies, so do men.

It's a pity.

Rolex67:
That guy might be cheating on you, all these overprotective boys cheat more.

My dear they cheat more. Am telling you.

And that's pure fact.

A friend was dating this perfect serious calm guy. He told her to cut off her friends, both guys and girls.
He said guys will endup fucvking her, while girls will corrupt her.

And she did. She cut off everyone.
I stopped going to her place. Until one day she chatted me. Up on Watsapp. I was surprised.
I replied her, lemme hear what she has to say. I was hurt she cut mi off as well.
So when she was talking, I asked Abeg I don't want to put u in trouble o, before your bf, will say start quarreling with u.
She said they've broken up and he's a wicked soul.

I smiled. In my mind, I said welcome back to earth. Your eyes don clear finally. Lol

I then asked what happened, she said do I know that upon all her friends she cut off from. Her bf is always infecting her with stds and gonorrhea, I was like what!

That innocent looking man, wey serious like fucvk.

Jeez!
She said and he's a drama king. He's always picking on any little thing she does. And always suspicious of her phone calls. She was so frustrated in the relationship. After treating stds twice, she called everything off. She can't cope anymore and shes better off alone than with him .

I said Eeyah Kpele, that's how some. Men are. When I was saying it, u thought I was jealous of your love life. I said OK, is it not men?
No wahala I will keep off. So that's why I kept off o.

She then said she's coming to my home. To see me and she's very sorry. I said no wahala, such is life.

Don't let any man stifle you.. Ain't worth it. Have mutual respect and love for each other . But no stifling Biko.

From Experience.

alexialin:





My dear they cheat more. Am telling you.

And that's pure fact.

A friend was dating this perfect serious calm guy. He told her to cut off her friends, both guys and girls.
He said guys will endup fucvking her, while girls will corrupt her.

And she did. She cut off everyone.
I stopped going to her place. Until one day she chatted me. Up on Watsapp. I was surprised.
I replied her, lemme hear what she has to say. I was hurt she cut mi off as well.
So when she was talking, I asked Abeg I don't want to put u in trouble o, before your bf, will say start quarreling with u.
She said they've broken up and he's a wicked soul.

I smiled. In my mind, I said welcome back to earth. Your eyes don clear finally. Lol

I then asked what happened, she said do I know that upon all her friends she cut off from. Her bf is always infecting her with stds and gonorrhea, I was like what!

That innocent looking man, wey serious like fucvk.

Jeez!
She said and he's a drama king. He's always picking on any little thing she does. And always suspicious of her phone calls. She was so frustrated in the relationship. After treating stds twice, she called everything off. She can't cope anymore and shes better off alone than with him .

I said Eeyah Kpele, that's how some. Men are. When I was saying it, u thought I was jealous of your love life. I said OK, is it not men?
No wahala I will keep off. So that's why I kept off o.

She then said she's coming to my home. To see me and she's very sorry. I said no wahala, such is life.

Don't let any man stifle you.. Ain't worth it. Have mutual respect and love for each other . But no stifling Biko.

From Experience.

Exactly, guys are very easy to read.

U[quote author=alexialin post=63460029][/quote]I appreciate the follow back.

I am also some of the characteristics you mentioned above. If not that I am younger and not ready for marriage, I will come snatch you from your boyfriend. I would be glad to see your prewedding picture poping up in 2018. .

But just one question, haven't you in any way thought of getting sexually close to one of those guys before, it really takes a lot of self control to keep an attractive female friend. The key that is still sustaining their platonic relationship with you are the attributes you mentioned above. I also fancy an intelligent and lively lady. Take for instance you start showing sexual tendencies towards your male friends, and your main man noticed it. Won't he make a likely decision?. That must have being the reason for the guys verdict.
Your beauty attracted those guys, what kept their platonic friendship was your intelligence and wit.

. May your business be blessed with continued prosperity. I like a career-oriented woman.

TheManofTomorrow:
UI appreciate the follow back.

I am also some of the characteristics you mentioned above. If not that I am younger and not ready for marriage, I will come snatch you from your boyfriend. I would be glad to see your prewedding picture poping up in 2018. .

But just one question, haven't you in any way thought of getting sexually close to one of those guys before, it really takes a lot of self control to keep an attractive female friend. The key that is still sustaining their platonic relationship with you are the attributes you mentioned above. I also fancy an intelligent and lively lady. Take for instance you start showing sexual tendencies towards your male friends, and your main man noticed it. Won't he make a likely decision?. That must have being the reason for the guys verdict.
Your beauty attracted those guys, what kept their platonic friendship was your intelligence and wit.

. May your business be blessed with continued prosperity. I like a career-oriented woman.

Snatch me kwa

Hehehehehehehehe

Na so

But you are so right about what u said. Am adoring to look at and be with in real life.
No be nairaland, wey some peeps here go make person behave like agbero and sharks

Chai!

So they appreciate my aura and mind

Hmm about having feelings? There was one, I had feelings for and he has for me too, so we rarely seat together. Whenever we see ourselves on the road, somewhere public, we smile, hail each other and hug. The hug is soothing enough. Then withdraw , smile and gist. We both know we can't see ourselves frequently, like I do the rest. He respects my bf, I respect his gf. And we don't want either of them to get hurt.

Then remaining ones, I just like and admire them, no sexual feelings . And they've learnt to understand, I can't break the trust bf has towards me.

And have never behaved loosely before
I don't drink, before one will blame the alcohol.
I don't smoke before one Wil blame the weed.

My eyes and mind is as clear as the ocean.


So a big amen to my Buisness and settling down

By God's grace next year will be another step towards great more achievements, and for u as well Amen

Cheers on that.

Thanks alot, you truly understand how it is.

This is why many ladies end up unmarried! Please for God's sake don't give up your male friends for a guy who is just a boyfriend. Until he has proposed marriage and you accept, never give up other male friends. What if he dumps your assz in the future when your market values have depreciated? You will start going from one prayer house to another and insulting all men.

This is why it is better to keep an open friendship with guys who show interest in you without having sexual relationship with any of them until that one who is serious takes a bold step to propose marriage, comes to meet your parents and puts an engagement ring on your finger. Then you will know that your relationship is marriage-bound.