Toks2008:


Talking about the last line. ..will it be right to say that such ladies who can't regulate or draw a line have a low self esteem?

I still think only immature ladies start having crazy ideas cos you can always draw the line if the guy asks for "too much"

If I ever ask for your contact or give you mine,then it means I really fancy you enough to be my friend which is perfectly normal.

If for any reason I see a need to ask for more,it is still very perfectly normal but it is for you to now tell me sorry guy,not possible then I accept that and move on but we still remain as platonic friends and trust me,we could still benefit from the friendship outside romance.

Wise people understand the power of friendship but when a lady starts to think that if she gives a guy her number,the guy may woo her then she holds back,then she needs to grow up.

I find it necessary to address this issue and I would advise ladies and even guys to stop building walls around themselves cos the greatest investment you can ever make is the people you know.

zero8zero:
Good points.
But then is there any difference between drawing the line and building a wall?

kenonze:
Meanwhile I need a man who can take me to a beautiful and isolated island and scatter my waist (in fact shift my womb)

Toks2008:


Talking about the last line. ..will it be right to say that such ladies who can't regulate or draw a line have a low self esteem?

I still think only immature ladies start having crazy ideas cos you can always draw the line if the guy asks for "too much"

If I ever ask for your contact or give you mine,then it means I really fancy you enough to be my friend which is perfectly normal.

If for any reason I see a need to ask for more,it is still very perfectly normal but it is for you to now tell me sorry guy,not possible then I accept that and move on but we still remain as platonic friends and trust me,we could still benefit from the friendship outside romance.

Wise people understand the power of friendship but when a lady starts to think that if she gives a guy her number,the guy may woo her then she holds back,then she needs to grow up.

I find it necessary to address this issue and I would advise ladies and even guys to stop building walls around themselves cos the greatest investment you can ever make is the people you know.

LadyMarionette:


Since it is now permitted to speak generally....

Who decides when a guy is "asking for too much?" The girl or the guy? Because I think the girl has that prerogative. She should decide how much she's willing to divulge, without being subtly bullied by the guy, who's bound to claim: I'm not asking for too much. You mention drawing the line, and I agree, every girl should be able to draw the line to define that point beyond which a guy begins to make her uncomfortable. Again, she decides where that point is for her. And for some, that line is: no exchange of contacts. I told you girls are different. Whether you attribute the decision to keep guys at arm's length to low self esteem is a matter for the psychologists in the house; but it's their own coping mechanism and it should be respected. Not everyone one is gregarious in nature. A lot of good may come from a platonic friendship, even after a failed attempt to toast, but for those who cannot handle it, they live by the slogan: better safe than sorry. There's nothing wrong with that. Nobody should be made to bite off more than they can chew.


Edited: I thought I was responding to zeroeightzero. Sorry, if it sounds like we've been having an argument.

Toks2008:


A great difference.

Building a wall is not getting to know people but drawing the line means letting them know how far they can go.

zero8zero:
ok, I'm reading you attentively.
So, to you the places of approach according to importance or significance matters much than the guy or set of guys that approach you..
For instance, it matters much to you if i approached you in an organisation's night out or meet & greet than at a shopping mall..innit?

Macgreat:


The end , how?

optional1:
If you men don't gain anything why then do you men rape...


Sex overrated




Biko God separate us from men biko.

zero8zero:
God seperates you from men?, you mean God should take a dick away from your life?, this is very strange coming from a lady. You must be joking.

Minemrys:

she's an igbo woman.

LadyMarionette:



This is true, yes? There are places naturally designed for mixing. Even if a person is naturally aloof, being in a social context where you're required to make an effort to be open and accessible would help to lower your defenses. Otherwise you'd come across as a snob. Why bother? So yes, context is a major factor. That's why it is easier to network at wedding receptions, and conferences, and such. You also expect to meet people there, who you've got one or two things in common with.

But with random meetings, one needs to work extra hard to create context. That's why people pretend they need directions or information, just to start a convo. And sometimes these overused pretexts are even the very thing that put some girls on guard. You don't just walk up to someone and expect them to be open and easy. Or at least, don't blame them if they're closed off.

makydebbie:
In this 21st century when guys underate pre-intimacy, you don't know when the guy cums, that's the end for the lady?

ibietela2:


I don't understand

makydebbie:
What don't you understand?

ibietela2:


Your post

makydebbie:
Okay sir.

I'm talking about pre-intimacy being underrated and the truth is in sex, when the guy cums, it's the end. Whether the girl cums or not. It's the guy that would enjoy the sex more.

ibietela2:


Oh, but girls also enjoy it

kenonze:
Meanwhile I need a man who can take me to a beautiful and isolated island and scatter my waist (in fact shift my womb)

makydebbie:
If pre-intimacy is underrated, I'm afraid she may not enjoy it.

kenonze:
Meanwhile I need a man who can take me to a beautiful and isolated island and scatter my waist (in fact shift my womb)

ibietela2:


Who goes straight to penetration? Except a quickie

makydebbie:
Some guys are selfish jare, they'll just play with boobs for five minutes and they're already removing pant.

ibietela2:


Lol
Not all kitty kat is worth putting mouth na... Some ladies are all shiny but down there is a different story

makydebbie:
Lol I know right? If it's clean, what's stopping you?

ibietela2:


Dive right in with the head first

optional1:
If you men don't gain anything why then do you men rape...


Sex overrated




Biko God separate us from men biko.


If God should answer this prayer now, u ladies be at the receiving end oh.

makydebbie:
Okay sir.

I'm talking about pre-intimacy being underrated and the truth is in sex, when the guy cums, it's the end. Whether the girl cums or not. It's the guy that would enjoy the sex more .

Kekx:


You should have earlier posted it this way to clarify your point.