MrBottle:
You are not even remorseful for committing the same sh!t you are accusing her of. What's wrong with peeps this days? Nobody forced you to cheat you cheated cos you wanted to....enough of that revenge stuff. If she is aware that you cheated on her and then raising hell that she did same then you are lucky to be alive. Hell has no fury like a scorned woman ...beware.

To hell with a scorned woman, you never see hell wey no get fury for some scorned man.

marriage issues sef... I tire. Why wont a guy b scared to go into one with dz kind of story

keepingmum:
She will take no oath. You think your house is heaven abi what?
You did not make her. You cannot make her. Your uncle is not the only employer in the country.
So because u paid her tuition you own her life?
Is it not ur mates that sponsor people to study abroad and even sponsor their weddings afterwards without asking for anything in return yet you and your arrogant cheating self entitled tiny dicck that cannot fit into a woman after 3kids is demanding what he isnt prepared to also swear to.
Let her leave, she has already found a man with a mandingo sized dicck that will fit into her vjayjay after multiple kids. A man that will buy her a home in her name. A man that will care for her every needs so she doesnt even have to work at all.
So abeg make the transition quick pls. Yeye man

OP some men are women in men's clothing so be less mindful of these fools insulting you, it's your marriage and you'll have to handle how best you deem fit, no one would feel your feelings for you remember that, goodluck once again.

morgan844:
since i married her i have never met another woman. except recently as i am trying to calm my self i just got hooked up but i am not happy about it

Please be matured about this. It may not be anything deep or with affection at all. Family of 3 kids is inseparable already. Tell her that if she thinks that is the best she should go on. Put yourself in a position where you will never ever see her chats again. Never.

morgan844:
i wanted her to feel the pain she caused me i have already pull down the picture. i never knew she will cry like a baby

My friend, kataway from here
And which woman would cry over your kind of man
Wubbish

hmmm...

The only quality of human beings that is constant is that we are unfaithful. Very unfaithful. Even life is very unfaithful. If not we should be equal in everything. Think of it. What is perfect in this world? Bro try be at peace with yourself and your family. When you talk love do so with your teeth not your heart.

This is really a messy situation but it is not beyond redemption. Honestly bro this is not the right place to seek solution for your problem unless you just want to call her out here and shame her.

It requires wisdom and patience to handle things like things, unfortunately marriage this days lack the vital ingredient of success which is communication, if their is good communication between a husband and wife, the marriage will blossom with trust and love.

My advice. Step 1
1..Take this off Nairaland ( You don't take your marriage to the public, especially to unmarried men or women)
2..Call your wife and have serious heart to heart conversation to let her know how hurt you are (also stop your escapade with another woman, two wrongs don't make right)...
3. Both of you should seek marriage counseling
Step 2.....That depends on the outcome of step1

Are you even sure the kids are yours? i suggest you get a DNA expert,sorry to say this

I believe there is just something she's getting from this other guy "in za other room" that you fail to provide her.

Oga sorry o. Think of taking the family with you or settle down here in Nigeria close to family or simply loss her.

millionboi2:
You are always gender bayas.

krushdripper:
You have serious brain problem.

Its OK for a man to cheat

eliadekx:



U be idiot man has every right to cheat
But any woman who cheat my be PUNISHED MERCILESSLY

OK
Sorry

daylyt:


Msteew..

Katikati..

You don vex?
Pele

morgan844:
Heart Broken I Feel Cheated Despite Showing Her So Much Love

My wife still communicate and send picture to her former boy friend. even after i have warned her


This year March, I traveled outside Nigeria to look for greener pastures and I came back home by December I and my family was happy until when I saw I love message she has always sent to a certain man and i was angry. I questioned her. she said she was joking with the man and I told her that I am not happy about it. She promised not to do it again, I was able to read her message because we exchanged our phone and her messenger was in my phone.

Some days after, when I was ready to go back to my base, we prepared and she accompanied me to the park where i boarded a vehicle to Lagos and she went back home, while I was in the vehicle I notice a message from the messenger it was I love message from the guy and my wife responded the she love her to and they communicated and exchanged pictures.

I am heart broken I never knew that she could continue cheating on me. I asked her who was the guy she is charting with she told me that he is a colleague that he is making some inquiry. My wife lied to me. Before I could take the screenshot she has deleted the messages. I want to divorce her for this but we have 3 kids they are very young 6, 4 and 2 years how will this kids cope?

Do DNA test on those kids first to know the paternity before you divorce her.

morgan844:
Heart Broken I Feel Cheated Despite Showing Her So Much Love

My wife still communicate and send picture to her former boy friend. even after i have warned her


This year March, I traveled outside Nigeria to look for greener pastures and I came back home by December I and my family was happy until when I saw I love message she has always sent to a certain man and i was angry. I questioned her. she said she was joking with the man and I told her that I am not happy about it. She promised not to do it again, I was able to read her message because we exchanged our phone and her messenger was in my phone.

Some days after, when I was ready to go back to my base, we prepared and she accompanied me to the park where i boarded a vehicle to Lagos and she went back home, while I was in the vehicle I notice a message from the messenger it was I love message from the guy and my wife responded the she love her to and they communicated and exchanged pictures.

I am heart broken I never knew that she could continue cheating on me. I asked her who was the guy she is charting with she told me that he is a colleague that he is making some inquiry. My wife lied to me. Before I could take the screenshot she has deleted the messages. I want to divorce her for this but we have 3 kids they are very young 6, 4 and 2 years how will this kids cope?

u never had a wife but girlfriend if u continue in dis relationship u will be spending on bastard children the earlier d beta u free her or else. she will huke u down b4 u regain ur brain

morgan844:
i like to take revenge that was why i sleep with some one else and posted it on facebook. she is crying now and begging I plan to make her take out that she will not cheat again. but if she accept we will come back and i will love her but if she say no then i have no option than to continue with other women and not look in her direction

Just listen to yourself! From your story, your wife only chat with her ex inappropriately. You on the other hand is cheating on her but you are trying to justify it. You starved this woman of attention and she's getting it from her ex. Go and work on yourself.

Imagine his lame excuse

Bro, think as a man. Take a shot n stand by it...
What u are about to do has two sides. Ur life is in the balance. Her action may ruin u or even end u.
Whatever ur actions are, u will forever live with it. From the story u told, I have seen there's no love from her side any longer.

junnyjake:
That's sad Bro.

She needs to know how bad her actions are hurting you.

If nothing changes, let me know. I'd assist you in teaching that Ex a lesson, nobody would tell him to not only lose her number but change his sim card and cut off every form of communication.

Sometimes, violence is the only way.

Cheers!

what if you teach that one a lesson and she gets another one what would you do

amunkita:
Dump the cheating ediot nah abi she use juju for you.

It's obvious you're a single guy, if not you would do anything for your innocent kids.

morgan844:
Heart Broken I Feel Cheated Despite Showing Her So Much Love

My wife still communicate and send picture to her former boy friend. even after i have warned her


This year March, I traveled outside Nigeria to look for greener pastures and I came back home by December I and my family was happy until when I saw I love message she has always sent to a certain man and i was angry. I questioned her. she said she was joking with the man and I told her that I am not happy about it. She promised not to do it again, I was able to read her message because we exchanged our phone and her messenger was in my phone.

Some days after, when I was ready to go back to my base, we prepared and she accompanied me to the park where i boarded a vehicle to Lagos and she went back home, while I was in the vehicle I notice a message from the messenger it was I love message from the guy and my wife responded the she love her to and they communicated and exchanged pictures.

I am heart broken I never knew that she could continue cheating on me. I asked her who was the guy she is charting with she told me that he is a colleague that he is making some inquiry. My wife lied to me. Before I could take the screenshot she has deleted the messages. I want to divorce her for this but we have 3 kids they are very young 6, 4 and 2 years how will this kids cope?

Sir, I can feel your pain cos I am also married. Many guys advising you here may not know how grave your situation is and I doubt if you also know how grave it is.
1. It's glaring your wife loves her ex more than you and now the distance between you and her has rekindled her old flame and I doubt if you can stop it.
2. Bro, stop confronting her about what you discovered since you have warned her severally and she has refused to stop. She might kill you if you keep 'disturbing' her by monitoring her 'sweet' escapade with her ex.
3. Again, she trust her ex more than you now... So don't be foolish... Watch your back with her always. Keep tracking her conversation but never react or let her know you're tracking if you don't she can poison you or your kids.
4. Get enough evidences and keep storing them. Try to catch her red handed (you can employ someone trustworthy to play that role of catching her in the act).
Eventually, separate from her and run for your life. God will help you

junnyjake:
That's sad Bro.

She needs to know how bad her actions are hurting you.

If nothing changes, let me know. I'd assist you in teaching that Ex a lesson, nobody would tell him to not only lose her number but change his sim card and cut off every form of communication.

Sometimes, violence is the only way.

Cheers!

I doubt you can do anything .... don't you realize some men are untouchable ?

Talk to the woman ,it's a choice she made

Do a DNA test on the kids you might end up training someone else kids
never you trust a woman

CONFRONT THE MAN. WARNING HIM SERIOUSLY. IF POSSIBLE PLACE A CURSE ON HIM. SIMPLE. DNT DIVORCE YOUR WIFE. SHE IS JUST A STUPID FOOL.

Please give her ota pia pia, make her fucking death look like an accident

Dyt:
OK both of you are cheating


I am.waiting for insults landing on the woman leaving the cheating man behind

This is not fair. It's typical of you women, anyway. Did you read his heart-broken story at all? He started dating another woman to get back to the woman. He wouldn't do it of the woman didn't.
This man doesn't need this kind of judgement now, please!

Oyindidi:
Just listen to yourself! From your story, your wife only chat with her ex inappropriately. You on the other hand is cheating on her but you are trying to justify it. You starved this woman of attention and she's getting it from her ex. Go and work on yourself.

Imagine his lame excuse

Stop condoling nonsemse. As a married woman with 3 kids, her main focus of attention should be her children, their well being, edication et all. her husband is not dead, I am sure they communicate once in a while. Maybe, you don't know the meaning of cheating. Op still loves his wife but both of them must commit to genuine change.

morgan844:
i only did it to pay her back, and keep my self out of the thought

Now you both are guilty of the same crime.... Nevertheless you need to sit her down and talk senses into her. She has no reason to cheat on you since your provide adequately for the family.... Or could it be for sex?? If you know the man in question I suggest you put him in his right place. Who knows he might turn a new leaf and leave your woman alone.

Olulinks:
This is not fair. It's typical of you women, anyway. Did you read his heart-broken story at all? He started dating another woman to get back to the woman. He wouldn't do it of the woman didn't.
This man doesn't need this kind of judgement now, please!

And after posting it on FB too

Wehdone sire

jchioma:


Stop condoling nonsemse. As a married woman with 3 kids, her main focus of attention should be her children, their well being, edication et all. her husband is not dead, I am sure they communicate once in a while. Maybe, you don't know the meaning of cheating. Op still loves his wife but both of them must commit to genuine change.

You no go understand my post.

Happy new year

I took my time to read through the thread and discovered that most commentors here may either be very young people or at least not married. You have a WIFE and she exchanges 'I love u' messages with another guy and they were saying did you see them did u catch them. What other thing does he want to see? May be the man's dick in his wife's kitty The only prelude to diforce as we see it always is what you he had done. Which I would do. But if we consider religion, and experience of others in the past, if the man actuall
y loves his wife. I am very man and I pray that God will lead you. You can however consult a matured counsellor or if you trust your Pastor or imam or what ever see him/her.