She's So Ugly
This lady loves me so dearly and has shown it in many different ways i can't tell u now. My problem with her is she is so ugly. I have tried my best to consider her but can't find it in my heart 2 love her. Somebody advice me.

Do you mean that she is physically unattractive? Or is this an ugliness from within?

If the former, is this something that is not of her control? Was she injured in such a way as to compromise her physical beauty? Also, what are your criteria for beauty? For ugly?

Now, with all that said, consider that if it's physical attractiveness that is keeping you from loving her, then I'm afraid it's not love at all. I'll spare the platitudes about beauty in the eye of the beholder, love is blind, et al. I'm sure you've heard them all. With all due respect, ask yourself why she seems to love you--is it because you're so good-looking that you could be a model? If not, perhaps it would be prudent to re-assess your definitions of "love" and "ugly."

@drrionelli
Its about d physical (especially facial) appearance. Its not dat she had an injury, but the appearance isn't just appealing 2 me. Just dat d way she loves me makes me want to reciprocate, but d looks ain't inviting at all. Hope u feel me.

And i guess u re prince charming

@ joey82 beauty is in d eyes of d beholder she has a beautiful heart and in luv wit u. would u rather date a pretty girl who is rude and uncaring? don't attach so much to d looks thing but try and c beyond dat jst appreciate her 4 who she is and d wondareful things she does.if only u can do this u will find a place in ur heart to reciprocate dat love

hahahahahahaha

madness, now i see ur one of those guys that find it hard to see a girl's beauty beyond what is skin deep, i dey pity u sha, my friend u had better grow up and mature enuff to know all that gloitters is not gold, and sometimes the things that are good for us, as not exactly instantly appealing

Having said that, if u aint sexually attracted to her, then its best u say so to her face b4 u break her heart and cheat on her with someone else

tushlips:

@ joey82 beauty is in d eyes of d beholder

and my brother-man just ain't the beholder !

Joey82:

Dis lady loves me so dearly and has shown it in many different ways i can't tell u now. My problem with her is she is so ugly. I[b] have tried my best to consider her but can't find it in my heart 2 love her.[/b] Somebody advice me.

Eya this is how i feel when i met ugly guys , abeg tell her you ain't intrested jare and let her go.

Ugly people and i don't met at all!!!!!!!!!kaiiiiiii

Ugly people are big turn off both males and females.

Whats going with the land its upside down

_Shouting where is seun oh come and organise the land Oh biko.

i know a lot of pple will say: dont worry about it, beauty is deep down .

yeah they wuld be rite but not completely,

u av to be attracted to her beauty (though not the most important thing) but uve got to find her attarcteive cos it will help u build a relationship with her.

when u av a partner that ure not proud to show off, then think about it (remember that beauty is in d eye of the beholder) but she's got to presentable to u at least!

Man i must confess dating an unattractive girl could have serious side effects. Come to think of it, anytime you set your eyes on her, you'll feel as if you've just received a death sentence before a judge.


It aint worth it man. Your happiness matters.

Just move on.

kingkams:

Man i must confess dating an unattractive girl could have serious side effects. Come to think of it, anytime you set your eyes on her, you'll feel as if you've just received a death sentence before a judge.


It aint worth it man. Your happiness matters.

Just move on.

Second that

niceuzor:

Whats going with the land its upside down

_Shouting where is seun oh come and organise the land Oh biko.

What is upside down about it

eya   sorry o. well i think you don't love her. i have seen many men with ugly ladies. beauty is vain my dear friend. if she knows how to take care of herself, she will be fine enough for u. with hair nicely done and little make up, she will be all set for your handsome face  

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omoge:

eya sorry o. well i think you don't love her. i have seen many men with ugly ladies. beauty is vain my dear friend. if she knows how to take care of herself, she will be fine enough for u. with hair nicely done and[b] little make up, she will be all set for your handsome face [/b]

Putting a make up on is the bad move, she will get uglier than before .

She can start by dressing nice with her hair nicely done

@ Poster.

Please * on my knees* just consider and help service her. PLEASE

Joey82:

@drrionelli
Its about d physical (especially facial) appearance. Its not that she had an injury, but the appearance isn't just appealing 2 me. Just that d way she loves me makes me want to reciprocate, but d looks ain't inviting at all. Hope u feel me.

Joey82,
it baffles my imagination that a lady with a good heart, enough to love you could be termed 'ugly' by you. How handsome are u? who told u that when u marry a 'pretty' lady by ur standard that the beauty will last forever.

calling a lady 'ugly' is undermining our creator. consider this and revert to us.

cheerio

Off the hook topic please let's pretend like it doesn't exist

tHis thread is funny. . . .The answer is so simple
If you don't love her don't date her not even out of pity.
The innocent girl you termed as UGLY is a princess in the eye of another. . .She'll definately find a guy who will appreciate her and love her for who she is.

I don laugh till the point wey my rid don dislocate

I experience the same tin wey my guy dey suffer now wen I dey secondary school,

This babe wugly beyond salvation, I mean. There was nothin to even use consider am, Nkiru, 0 Azuka, 0
But the aggression wey this babe use pursue me, men my mind cut, I really tried, I would sit with her, we will talk, she even went as far as buying me gifts on vals day,

My guilty conscience nearly make me zuzu (mumu) commot with the girl.

Thank God say I change school oh!

The phobia most men have with wor-wor girls is that they are afraid of the critism/mockery they will recieve from their friends and society, and also incase she carry belle, your pikin go resemble evil spirit

But on a more serious note, if I were to find myself in the same situation again, I still wouldnt know how to deal with it, so my advice is,

The next time wey she disturb you, give like three hot slap without any warning, make she vex quarrel with you, This is the only way to get instant peace of mind, Na play i dey play Oh!!

Or you can be more human and Just explain to her that it just wouldnt work out between the two of you, (give her an excuse like you have a girlfriend, or your parents dont want you to date anybody from her tribe, or tell her you have AIDS, or that you have been betrothed to somebody, or you want to become a reverend father, or you are a born again christain.) But make sure it is reasonable and not insulting to her intelligence,

But wateva you do, make sure you set her down gently without hurting her feelings, remember she is human.

Or pack out, change address, or change school or change state,

Rememba say wor-wor na contagious disease oh!!

Don't allow her to keep wasting her time if you are not truly interested in her. Tell her whats up and move on.

Don't worry! The sex you guys will have will be the greatest you will ever have in your life! Really freaky! If everything fails just turn of the light at night. Ugly people are usually very beautiful "between the legs"!

@ poster


My Advice?? Please sit her down and tell her you aren't feeling her . .it will hurt but she'll move on sooner or later. I like you for being honest, some won't.


I'm sure some other guy would come along, that'll think the whole world of her . . i agree with someone saying "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", but its obvious, you're not beholding beauty in her, and its niether your fault nor hers

I guess both of you are yet to find your matches, just keep going . . don't settle for "management" either, though there are chances of improvements, chances of both of you or one party getting hurt down the road is more.

Now is early enough to save both of'ya from that predicament

the replies i see here,for God's sake i don't know why people have a stupid way of thinking . i would always stand with the opinion, that physical beauty fades away. but that beauty inside is what should always be considered cause it does not fade.

ThoniaSlim:

the replies i see here,for God's sake i don't know why people have a stupid way of thinking . i would always stand with the opinion, that physical beauty fades away. but that beauty inside is what should always be considered cause it does not fade.

That someone else doesn't agree with you does not in any way make their opinions stupid

We all love and want "inner beauty" but the fact remains that we're different . . and if you don't know, some relationships crumble because the couples suddenly start lusting for someone they find prettier, or because they feel the person they're with isnt good enough

Physical appearance isnt all that matters but to people in a relationship, it does to some extent . . and that shouldnt mean the girl is ugly, but to him she isn't good looking - - - one man's meat . . .

Another guy might come along and think she's the prettiest girl he's ever seen, so??
Personal preferneces, its not just about our poster here , but don't you as a girl, think and believe the girl in question deserves better?? Or she should be with someone that soemtimes will feel the ground should open and swallow her, maybe even embarrassed to show her to his friends - - now tell me who ends up hurt??

Why go through that when they could both path ways and find hapiness??

if you read through the whole post carefully you would understand why i posted that way.some people got brains but they don't think with it.

Ok then, if you say so!!

If she's a bit managable,please give her a chance

ThoniaSlim:

if you read through the whole post carefully you would understand why i posted that way.some people got brains but they don't think with it.

Dear, its called personal opinion! so don't get malignant with your comments as cutie suggested.

@topic: i feel ur concern. beauty is a relative term and i wouldn't know what exactly your standards are but if what you see and feel does not make wanna reciprocate her love for you, then bid it. don't blackmail urself with pity. but take time to find out what's most important @ d end of the day cos u might meet a thousand and one beauties but none mite ever be able to love u like she does. life is also about trade-offs.

Everybody has his own tastes and preferences, please, don't encourage Joey82 to start or quit anything with the lady in question: he has to decide and work it out himself.
Nice Character actually looks good on ladies, but as for me, i can't marry a monkey because she has good character.
If someone is not physically attractive to you, then, don't dare to start a relationship with her because, you'll cheat on her sooner or later.

please pple who r talkin all dat "beauty lies on d inside not on d outside" talk, for goodness sake refer to d topic in question cos we've all heard dat crap a million and one times. dont get me wrong though, im not disputin d fact that beauty lies on d inside or wa'eva, but com'on now and put urself in d guy's place. I mean if u didnt feel someone and d person wasnt attractive to u, why waste ur time as well as d person's, abi na by force?

@ topic- mehn i say if ure not at all attracted to her or feelin her, then u guys gotta talk nd u let her go. As someone else sed, there'll definitely b someone who wil deem her a princess.

@ Esss- my guy u too funny o lol