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Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by Ebhod20(m): 1:03pm On Feb 18, 2018
Gal is simple my parents are deeper life too bt i left also and dey ask me i told them i was big enough to decide good and evil and my decision is final and am going to a prayer and deliverance chuch now u can call me make i put u through ar add me up on fb jeremiah ehis ebhod
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by Nobody: 1:05pm On Feb 18, 2018
iceadonis:

Seconded... That is why we are still here in Africa... Our culture which we sud start believing naw was formulated by men to suite and favor them... We need to start thinking deeply.... It is this same culture that has given birth to all these religion jargons perpetuating nuisance in our beloved Africa today......


You right about that! Very right!
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by Kamsichime(m): 1:05pm On Feb 18, 2018
Look for a bible base church attend their programmes and be committed and let ur life be the epistle ur dad read. Jst allow God to guide you
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by boxymccoy(m): 1:08pm On Feb 18, 2018
Flourishh:
As we all know, many people believe the children of pastors are mostly wayward.
I for example, I'm a female and my dad is a pastor in Deeper life Bible Church and trust me I've been looking for ways to leave the church. My dad isn't even helping matters, he has serious temper issues that makes him say things that gets me, my mum and siblings angry. I really do not see myself getting married in his church. Please tell me if I'm doing the right thing. Because i feel we all have our lives to live.
I need your advice because I'm already fed up of my dad's attitude and the church's doctrines.

You can also share similar experiences. If you have any
Thank you.
While I understand what you are passing through, I will like to kindly implore you not to act unruly to your parents just because you have grown to make decisions for yourself as this can have some ripple effects years later. As a child of God, you are bound to obey your parents while you are still under their roof. You talked about your father’s anger issue, I know it’s not easy but I can assure you God can give you grace to bear with him. Jesus who was perfect in his ways had to subject himself to imperfect parents for 30yrs. He knew more than them and had more understanding than them but had to obey them for 30yrs that He was under their roof. My dear, the number of years remaining for you to leave their roof can not be compared with the years you have spent. Work at getting a good job, work hard and keep making progress. Don’t allow your dad’s attitude and church doctrines provoke you into making rash decisions that you will later regret, don’t just rush into marriage because you want ease yourself from the wahala you daily face at home. Do you know how many boring sermons that Jesus listened to from those Saducees and Pharisees yet he knew God more than them. But when his time came, None could stop him. See, when it is time you will make these decisions without having any hitch with your parents, and I think you are much more closer to the “liberation “ that your heart is longing for.......God bless you

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Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by donblazer10(m): 1:14pm On Feb 18, 2018
SAMBARRY:
IF YOU don't feel fulfilled in the church where you ARE BUT you're going there to please your parents,you're wasting your time

My parents aren't pastors but I left the church.my pastor noticed and asked my parents and they told him sambarry now attends xyz church,pastor requested I see him so just to honor my parents,I went to see him.he started using emotional manipulation,guilt tripping and a little bit of emotional abuse.of course I could see his anger clearly which also pissed me off the more

Like why should you say because I attended a church since I was 8,gives you the entitlement mentality to think you own me?what further put me off was he criticizing the new church I attend and explaining why his church is better of.How superstitious and ignorant my church is and all thinking that will deter ME

He then gave an analogy of if you have a child you've groomed and nurtured since she was 8 and then she's grown and says she's leaving you and don't want anything to do with you,how will you feel?
Straight up I told him,I'm the CEO of my life,my life my rules.have a nice day sir and walked away immediately

First of all if you don't like your parents church,emancipate yourself from your parents.make them realise you're old enough to make your decisions and stand by the consequences

The first day as an older teenager back then THAT I told my parents I'm not following them to church,THEY thought it was a joke.when they were all dressed and I was STILL in my pyjamas at 9AM, and I carried a straight face insisting I AM not going,THEY realized I was serious.when my dad wanted to start getting confrontational I told him,the only thing that Will move me out of this house to church is physical force and I'm ready.moreover the worst you can say is for me to leave your house which I will gladly do

Omo the next Sunday,they were like sambarry we're already going to church o,help us close the gate.

The thing with African parents is that if you don't start enforcing what you want and how you should be treated,THEY will STILL be making decisions for you that YOU should be able to make for yourself without giving a damn about how you feel.if you don't want to go,tell him,he cannot drag YOU

I'll give another example.There's this friend of mine who the dad was similar to yourself,she owns a beer parlor now.the father forced her to church and she has always been orchestrating how she will leave,she just needed that one opportunity so whilst she was delivering her lines on the pulpit (she's a lead chorister,the dad snatched the microphone from HER and was yelling at her in public in the presence of the church on why she's wearing lip gloss and still has the audacity to sing.BABE,guess what my friend did.she immediately pulled off her deeper life turban,flung it on the pulpit and walked out from the church to go lodge in a hotel till she cooled off and got an apartment for herself.the beef between her and the dad was serious to the extent that she initially didn't want to invite the dad to her wedding if not for THE intervention of the mother.if you see how chic she looks in her makeup and dress untypical of a deeper you will marvel
bro you've said it all...1000 likes from me

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Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by Nathayas: 1:29pm On Feb 18, 2018
You have not told us the areas you have problems with your father. I know your father can not direct you to the wrong way. children use to be sturborn when they are university graduates.
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by princessbarmie: 1:32pm On Feb 18, 2018
Flourishh:
As we all know, many people believe the children of pastors are mostly wayward.
I for example, I'm a female and my dad is a pastor in Deeper life Bible Church and trust me I've been looking for ways to leave the church. My dad isn't even helping matters, he has serious temper issues that makes him say things that gets me, my mum and siblings angry. I really do not see myself getting married in his church. Please tell me if I'm doing the right thing. Because i feel we all have our lives to live.
I need your advice because I'm already fed up of my dad's attitude and the church's doctrines.

You can also share similar experiences. If you have any
Thank you.
I'm in the same shoe as yours a pastors daughter in deeper life but this was what I did I got a job out of the state my parents stay though close but the fact that we don't see daily was a plus I stayed with a neutral family friend who won't criticize my actions I still earned their trust i was going home every weekend later I stopped going my dear apart from your job get busy through on that can fetch you more money on the side give them cogent reasons why you can't come home during weekends gradually they'll detach it might not happen so soon reduce the way you call them not drastically but in a fair way detach yourself gradually when you go home attend their church it's not going to kill you join a church that preaches the word of God not through one that will take you away from God because despite all this you still need God join the workforce and serve God. don't let them know you've left the church until after like 2 or 3years. I hope with this few points of mine I'm able to convince you and not confuse you. P. S don't mind my punctuations I'm not just good at it. much love from a former deeper life girl

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Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by Nobody: 1:36pm On Feb 18, 2018
SAMBARRY:
when popsi was threatening me with I won't pay your school fees,I.won't give you pocket money,back then at 19 or so,I said no problem na,don't give me.if YOU don't give me there are thousands of guys that Will give me (it's a LIE o,na just shakara.I didn't mean it) Shebi if they ask me why I didn't go to school,I will say it's you that didn't pay my school fees,let's see who will get the insult.

Babe,my pocket MONEY dry enter steady,till I finished school and even when I was at home those days and they sometimes forget themselves by calling me unsavory names,I remind them that daddy you can pass your message across without insults.it's not until you insult me,I will do what you want

Since that time till I left the house even as a young girl,if I serve popsi food,he will tell me,thank you,when he wants to send me errand he will say so with respect,e.g please help me do this,not come here,fool,etc typical of how parents insult their daughters.it's you that will train them on how to talk to you,adress you etc

You think African parents care about your age if you don't deliver yourself?lol

I remember my cousin who her dad slapped on her wedding day inside the car in the presence of guests where her husband's friend acted as the driver for that day.that's how disrespectful and disregardful for your feelings or age they can be,if you don't set boundaries now.

That day I was just looking very irritated but in my mind I was laughing because I know they have so basterdized and mumunized her that she can't do anything about it.


Same issue I discussed with someone yesterday, some deeper life parents take it to the extreme. I'm proud of my parents where ever I find myself cause we were not caged, threatened or forced to attend Deeper Life. My dad always made us understand that we have to have a right standing with God and not about church.
You haven't given your dad a reason to allow you attend another church, no matter his strictness. Stand on your words if you really want to leave the church.
Who deeper life pastor pikin help? Your dad needs to be disciplined sef.
I hate all this forced church nonsense, I love deeper life and if I see any genuine reason to leave, I WILL. Just have a right standing with God, no be only deeper life go go heaven ooo.

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Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by princessbarmie: 1:39pm On Feb 18, 2018
boxymccoy:

While I understand what you are passing through, I will like to kindly implore you not to act unruly to your parents just because you have grown to make decisions for yourself as this can have some ripple effects years later. As a child of God, you are bound to obey your parents while you are still under their roof. You talked about your father’s anger issue, I know it’s not easy but I can assure you God can give you grace to bear with him. Jesus who was perfect in his ways had to subject himself to imperfect parents for 30yrs. He knew more than them and had more understanding than them but had to obey them for 30yrs that He was under their roof. My dear, the number of years remaining for you to leave their roof can not be compared with the years you have spent. Work at getting a good job, work hard and keep making progress. Don’t allow your dad’s attitude and church doctrines provoke you into making rash decisions that you will later regret, don’t just rush into marriage because you want ease yourself from the wahala you daily face at home. Do you know how many boring sermons that Jesus listened to from those Saducees and Pharisees yet he knew God more than them. But when his time came, None could stop him. See, when it is time you will make these decisions without having any hitch with your parents, and I think you are much more closer to the “liberation “ that your heart is longing for.......God bless you
thank you I love your advice but I feel you do not understand how frustrating it can be sometimes as much as she wants to be free I won't lie to you your advice at the moment cannot help her to change the already made up mind instead you should advise that even in her quest of freedom she should make sure she doesn't miss her way I think that's the best
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by nwakaibeya1: 1:40pm On Feb 18, 2018
The >greatest gain and beauty of repentance or Christian Born Again locating real Jesus Christ is when you are led to repentance with transfer of unbelievable power >to you by whoever is leading you to Jesus Christ ,so that witches and wizards, evil people,all evil must fear you and you must have peace and Light the same Light Jesus Christ declared and said I am the Light of the world and afterwards the love of Jesus Christ begins to reign upon your life ,its a must for you if the person leading you to Jesus Christ has real Jesus Christ power, that is what we call being born again and meaning of born again Christian and not after claiming to be Bornagain as per your prophets and pastors traditions yet witches and wizards still feast on you and you can't sleep at night nor have peace. You must check your Bornagain if those are missing in your life. For you to seek the true Bornagain of power no matter your level it is your right to reign in peace,light&unbeleivable power as Jesus Christ declared and gives those who truly locate him .Behold the evil spirit said Jesus Christ I know Paul I know who are you it means you must have that light to be recognized and feared by evil .Mathew 13,13-15

Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by shumuel(m): 1:42pm On Feb 18, 2018
Flourishh:
The thing is, I'm 24 and I'm done with school, done with Nysc, and I'm working at the moment. I'm still living under his roof.
But the whole pressure is still there and I find it hard to leave the church since I'm a pastor's daughter.


his advise is the best, take a transfer even if it is to the Northern part of the country, that is the only way you can make it easy for yourself,, you can't change church while you are still under his roof and you can't leave to get a place for yourself in the same state; family, friends and society would not allow, so it is best you move far away first then you relocate later when you have changed church and find yourself your own place to leave,,, it is better that way .
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by amazon14: 1:42pm On Feb 18, 2018
Flourishh:
The thing is, I'm 24 and I'm done with school, done with Nysc, and I'm working at the moment. I'm still living under his roof.
But the whole pressure is still there and I find it hard to leave the church since I'm a pastor's daughter.
From this your answer, you're an adult there's no need for you to live under his roof.
Get an accomodation and pack out of house, then u won't be needing anyones advice. Pick a good bible beleaving church and join.
But in everything u do, dont make them feel u are out of the faith. I dont know if i made sense to but that what i will do. I will even resign from my job change my locality and settle, then do my own thing
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by donblazer10(m): 1:44pm On Feb 18, 2018
Onnasucs1:
You not doing the wrong thing my dear. I've left deeper life a long time ago.

My dad is even yet to know. In his mind, I went to church today oo.

Like someone said, you made the decision to leave so late. Should have been done while on campus.

But nevertheless, Since you're living in his house, sit him down and have and gentle talk with him. Give him reasons why you want to leave his church, if he doesn't agree, free him.
Anytime you leave his house, dump the church.

Most deeper life peeps feel if you're leaving their church, you're already on your way to hell.
lol..exactly.. they feel their church is the only road to heaven
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by Bostin(m): 1:46pm On Feb 18, 2018
JusticeSeeker:
You probably married a backsliden, Judas Iscariot or unrepentant member of the Church. The ones you will marry and have no problem with by God's grace will refer you to their spiritual fathers (Pastors) thereafter, the marriage committee of the church will interact with you and in most cases God helps them to know whether the outsider like you may be a wife beater or not. I mean they are able to discern who you are, born again or not. I'm a member of the church and I have this to say. 99% of Deeper Life members who refuse to subject themselves to marriage committee supervision are mostly the shallow Life members. Compromising or not outrightly born again like Judas Iscariot.
You are on point. Though when I met my wife I asked her if she is born again, she replied she is not a born again but a Christian. But what do we say about mother inlaw who is also a women leader in Deeper life who says no man can stop her to do her self will .
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by donblazer10(m): 1:58pm On Feb 18, 2018
Akinaukwa:
Am sorry i picked holes in what you said. I personally seen ladies born and brought up in Deeper Life getting married outside the church. Has anyone turned up for marriage and your parents rejected him cos of church stuff. Check up your life very well, something is wrong with it. I may not also blame your dad. Pastors children are supposed to live an exemplary life. Churches like Deeper Life discipline their Pastors for their wards wayward behaviour. Thus the strictness some of them employ in child training. Being a matured adult, talk things over with your dad and i believe he will see things wt you.
I still don't understand why you would wanna punish the parents for the sins of the child/children.... It doesn't make sense to me tbh
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by samuelgambo(m): 1:58pm On Feb 18, 2018
Bringing your father in this issue is not your main problem your main problem is, you cannot cope with the doctrines of the church. My friend you can go and marry a man from white garment church and automatically you will say bye bye to deeper life.
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by adexontop(m): 2:00pm On Feb 18, 2018
It is very sad to know how youth of today are so rebellious.You see your parents love and they want the best for you.See don't be rebellious to them don't listen evil advice it surely end you in eternal doom.Live a Godly life obey your parents so that your children too will obey you.If not one day you will regret and that time you will wish to reinvent time but trust me it will too late
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by Ageco(m): 2:03pm On Feb 18, 2018
Leaving the Church can't be the way out. From your story, you don't have salvation & your aim is not heaven. Is your father Jesus Christ? Jesus is our perfect example. Please get saved & stay with Jesus for your good here & hereafter
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by Stevebamdex(m): 2:07pm On Feb 18, 2018
emmalux2:


YOU DO NOT HAVE YOUR LIFE TO LIVE BUT THE LIFE OF JESUS, HE OWNS U, UR FATHER IS JUST A CARE TAKER.

You cant hear from God through this platform, satan will end up advising u like Demas. Many are hear to counsel u badly. Your dad did not die for u on thr cross but Jesus. Honour ur parents as bible admonished, carry the cross b4 u regret in future. Did u not read a comment someone telling u that soon they will advice u on what to wear, how to dress? u wore trouser during NYSC and u have not asked God to forgive u, satan mocked God for it, now u want to go away from ur faith to other places so u can appear half nude like BBNija house mates, paint ur face like Jezebel.Did u ask God on what to do? or u want to hear from satan by asking the world... 90 percent of the replies u will get hates that church ur dad pastors at. Where do u want to go? u want to join Jezebel in other denominations? go on then. Is ur father the owner of the church? JESUS IS THE OWNER
u want to run away from the truth and join the worldly churches? Did u taste the forbiden fruit already? Pastors children are satans target, so be wise and re dedicate ur life to Jesus so u can have a direction.

REMAIN WHERE U ARE, SWALLOW YOUR PRIDE, TURN AWAY FROM THE WORLD. Call or whatsapp me on 08034342755.

GOD LOVES YOU SISTER.
Your comment reeks of spiritual ignorance and religious illegality..you are even judging and contradicting yourself in this same post thinking you are admonishing the OP..
That she is planning to dress like jezebel and planning to join the bbn crew..sad
That the devil mocked God because she wore trousers where she went to serve? Were you there with her during her nysc? Were you there when the devil was mocking God on her behalf ?
You were even asking her if she has already tasted the forbidden fruit..what an effrontery..! Is this what deeper life is all about?
The veil of religion has never made anyone spiritual,your spiritual ideas are too carnal,weak and hyper judgemental..
Your G.O once said tv set is a devil's box. And he said,he is convinced that God himself told him all that,the foolish people under him believed his testimonies because they lack spiritual understanding of God's principles..they followed suit with that belief until technology woke them up from their slumber..that tv set is now the channel through which they now preach the gospel after about 2decades of spiritual rigidity and enormous ignorance.
That same religious veil that made kumuyi to say all that is gradually being torn off his face and he is now seeing things right although is almost too late. But unfortunately,the so called members still have their eyes covered with the veils of religion..and the perfect example here is you and your carnal ideas.
May the lord help you..!

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Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by Alexas58: 2:16pm On Feb 18, 2018
SAMBARRY:
mshrew


THERE are many ways to enter mile 2 .meaning there are many ways to achieve your aim with African parents even if he's the lion of the tribe of sambisia forest
Wow ur dad must be a great man,for him to be the lion of the tribe of sambisa forest
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by anataala: 2:17pm On Feb 18, 2018
Do you worship you father or you worship God?
Flourishh:
As we all know, many people believe the children of pastors are mostly wayward.
I for example, I'm a female and my dad is a pastor in Deeper life Bible Church and trust me I've been looking for ways to leave the church. My dad isn't even helping matters, he has serious temper issues that makes him say things that gets me, my mum and siblings angry. I really do not see myself getting married in his church. Please tell me if I'm doing the right thing. Because i feel we all have our lives to live.
I need your advice because I'm already fed up of my dad's attitude and the church's doctrines.

You can also share similar experiences. If you have any
Thank you.
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by gidjah(m): 2:18pm On Feb 18, 2018
kitaatita:
You can leave but not when you are under his roof. Except you are ready for a tough fight and you don't seem ready for it. Marriage is the best option for you
this is the best advice @flourish,you have to be calm my Dr,despite your age and academic exploits in as much as you are under d roof of daddy and mummy, you have to go by the rules ,that's a one time honor you must accord them you won't like your kids in d future or even a younger one staying with u do d same to u or would u?That can only also happen if you get transferred from your current place of work and u have to relocate and live else where.but until either marriage or job relocation, pls cope for now.,be Godly lady that they so wish, you won't live with them for much longer, meanwhile improve on your looks,Behind up,you will be needing a clean tushed up guy too,so love-vendor up your wardrobe, if you know u can't be transferred due to the nature of your job then pls get another .

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Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by godliman: 2:22pm On Feb 18, 2018
If your father is not even tempered, that is a defect in him but understandably he is human and imperfect as we all are. My little sister, becareful about the steps you take today, the world is a globe, things that go round come around. there is always a pay back period.Treat your parents as you would your children to treat you.
Firstly, it is not about your father's church but your father's God. If you know God as your father and Jesus as ur saviour, that is a good place to begin.If however your desire for independence is to "See all the wider side of life" then understand that such freedom leads to free -doom. Dont break your parents heart, be a fool today, and pray to marry a good man from a good church.
Let no one decieve you, not all churches are good. A friend to me how her little sister attended a church and was impregnated there. Values change with time. You are not the CEO of your life God is and your parents and pastors and well meaning elders are God's deputies. Dont go the prodigal way, it always leads to shattered dreams and tears of sorrow.
A lady once brought a man home and wanted marriage conducted against her mothers wish. The mother couldnt stand up to her, so escaped from the house. But for the intervention of some elders, this lady would have defied her mother to marry this man. That man was latter arrested with human parts: who is he?- a ritualist.
I grant that parents may have some very obnoxious overbearing attitudes, but remember they are still parents. I was a bit heady to my dad some years back but now he is dead and gone to heaven, I miss him every day and sometimes wish He could come back and let me right my wrongs, but that cannot be. I have a mother who can get on my nerves and I am careful not to break her heart, she has a few years to go so I will endure with her the way she did with me in my childood. stay with your parents, endure their imperfections. If you are born again and you seek God, he wll give u a goodman and you will leave their roof and may be their church. Remember Lam 3:27 says it is good to bear the yoke in your youth. In life you are born a king(a baby-cared for), later you become a servant(a lad serving your parents), then a slave(a teenager serving parents, teachers, uncles aunties etc)and finally a king(the head of your own nuclear family). Finally, haveyou heared of child cycle?
At the age of 7(a kid) Dad knows every thing, at age 17(a teen), dad knows nothing, at age 27(a tween), dad seems right, he knows something and at 37(a full grown and probaly himself a father), dad was perfectly righ,t all he said was true. Thanks God bless
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by gidjah(m): 2:24pm On Feb 18, 2018
shadeyinka:

I understand you well.

However, as long as you are under his roof and dependent upon him for sustainance, you are required to be obedient to his rules.

That is the Christlike way.

Max, five years, you are married. Then you can do anything you want
that's the best idea

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Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by gidjah(m): 2:25pm On Feb 18, 2018
Thought I was the only one to observe that. Picking advice from such a one could be disastrous.... Flee....
shadeyinka:


Careful Sis
I perceive you feel honestly justified until you reverse the table and see your own child doing exactly the same for you.

At that time, your views would be ultraconservative to your child. Like
"...Satan is a morning star: I want to be going to the Luciferian Church.

You will then most likely feel like your parent felt when you declared your independence

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Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by mayblow: 2:27pm On Feb 18, 2018
Is Deeper life your daddy's church or God's church? Looks like ur pro is wt ur dad, church and God...one day u wil remember ur dad for his trainings and u wud wish u had stayed more under him to learn!!! Quote me...
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by emerged01(m): 2:30pm On Feb 18, 2018
iceadonis:


Excuse me.... What do u mean by payback in this situation.... Is a kind of pay back attached to changing church.... I think we serve d same God....
My only point on this issue is dat the lady in question sud not use dis Avenue of changing church to backslide in fate and faith
My response was to guy I quoted not the lady. You may not understand the tone behind his words. The guy sounded like he was the one that taught himself how to sit,crawl and walk when he was a baby.
Parenting is not an easy task. All of you need to know that some parents will not make to Heaven because of the wayward life of their children. There is an ultimate task given to parent by God if they fail,they will dearly for it. I believe most parents know this that's why they make sure they guard you to the right path when you are under their roof.
What I meant payback is that if he makes the his parents' task easy,the same he will experience.
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by Funkybabee(f): 2:36pm On Feb 18, 2018
Einl:
Be honest and open with him. Tell him how you feel. Tell him your mind. Cry, so he will see your emotions.

And when you finally leave, don't go to a nonsense church. Find a nice Catholic or Anglican church.


Can you mentions little out of nonsense church since you know good church and for people out here if they want to join cuz I don't know what u will say if non believers say this and maybe u are one self


@op don't listen to what some uncultured children here say to disrespect or stand against ur father just becuz u want to cross to another church,my advice for u is to get ur own apartment far away from your dad church or go to another state to begin a new life but my best advice for u if u can marry from another or ur wish church and pray let holy spirit lead u for everything, I think its will be easier to convince him
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by sabichele: 2:39pm On Feb 18, 2018
Point of correction, it is NOT your father's church but God's house where the truth is preach. Even the bible says .....many will develop itching ears for the truth...if you think you are in that church because of your father, then i am sorry to say you dont know the purpose of your creation then.
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by sharpwriter(m): 2:43pm On Feb 18, 2018
Dirkcoyt:


The truth is most Africans suck at parenting

the truth is most African parents are afraid to ask questions

the truth is most Africans believe they know better because they gave birth to you

the truth is most African parents are largely ignorant

the truth is African parents don't know difference between when to love ,when to protect and when to respect

the truth is African parent pass down ideologies without knowing why it is so

the truth is African parents are religious slave

The truth is not all the ways of African parents are true hence not all should be followed through like zombie.
This is the best comment that shows the issue here. Me, I'm waiting perfectly to strike... just like a snake grin
Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by jacyhelen(f): 2:49pm On Feb 18, 2018
SAMBARRY:
IF YOU don't feel fulfilled in the church where you ARE BUT you're going there to please your parents,you're wasting your time

My parents aren't pastors but I left the church.my pastor noticed and asked my parents and they told him sambarry now attends xyz church,pastor requested I see him so just to honor my parents,I went to see him.he started using emotional manipulation,guilt tripping and a little bit of emotional abuse.of course I could see his anger clearly which also pissed me off the more

Like why should you say because I attended a church since I was 8,gives you the entitlement mentality to think you own me?what further put me off was he criticizing the new church I attend and explaining why his church is better of.How superstitious and ignorant my church is and all thinking that will deter ME

He then gave an analogy of if you have a child you've groomed and nurtured since she was 8 and then she's grown and says she's leaving you and don't want anything to do with you,how will you feel?
Straight up I told him,I'm the CEO of my life,my life my rules.have a nice day sir and walked away immediately

First of all if you don't like your parents church,emancipate yourself from your parents.make them realise you're old enough to make your decisions and stand by the consequences

The first day as an older teenager back then THAT I told my parents I'm not following them to church,THEY thought it was a joke.when they were all dressed and I was STILL in my pyjamas at 9AM, and I carried a straight face insisting I AM not going,THEY realized I was serious.when my dad wanted to start getting confrontational I told him,the only thing that Will move me out of this house to church is physical force and I'm ready.moreover the worst you can say is for me to leave your house which I will gladly do

Omo the next Sunday,they were like sambarry we're already going to church o,help us close the gate.

The thing with African parents is that if you don't start enforcing what you want and how you should be treated,THEY will STILL be making decisions for you that YOU should be able to make for yourself without giving a damn about how you feel.if you don't want to go,tell him,he cannot drag YOU

I'll give another example.There's this friend of mine who the dad was similar to yourself,she owns a beer parlor now.the father forced her to church and she has always been orchestrating how she will leave,she just needed that one opportunity so whilst she was delivering her lines on the pulpit (she's a lead chorister,the dad snatched the microphone from HER and was yelling at her in public in the presence of the church on why she's wearing lip gloss and still has the audacity to sing.BABE,guess what my friend did.she immediately pulled off her deeper life turban,flung it on the pulpit and walked out from the church to go lodge in a hotel till she cooled off and got an apartment for herself.the beef between her and the dad was serious to the extent that she initially didn't want to invite the dad to her wedding if not for THE intervention of the mother.if you see how chic she looks in her makeup and dress untypical of a deeper you will marvel

nice write up..My mother threw hatred at me cos i failed to attend church...I tire oooo

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Re: I Want To Leave My Father's Deeper Life Church. Is It Right? - Pastor's Daughter by SAMBARRY: 2:52pm On Feb 18, 2018
jacyhelen:


nice write up..My mother threw hatred at me cos i failed to attend church...I tire oooo
lol

*ignoring will quell the hatred.hatred only needs attention for it to be fuelled,if attention is not given,the hatred will die a natural death*

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