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Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Lifeofpolice1(m): 10:41pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
TiffanyJ:very dirty dear You need to leave that school dear 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by mcdokwe(m): 10:41pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
That was too childish of him. I have a child too, but once we start getting close, even before you get to know my surname sef, I would have told you about my child. You are already not an option if I have to choose between you and her. I'm proud of her like that. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Nobody: 10:42pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
steph2sweet: Just forgive him and move in, I don't see what's the big deal anyway, it's like the way some women have sex, get pregnant & abort with, they won't tell the new boyfriend that is planning to marry them OK am kidding, dump his ass, marriage no be play, since lie don start e go get worse letter 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by dammyluv911(f): 10:43pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
steph2sweet:. sorry pls r u stephenie efe |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Kylekent59: 10:44pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
steph2sweet: Are you both already married or is it just traditional marriage? |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by TiffanyJ(f): 10:46pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
Lifeofpolice1:Say what you want sir, that dirty school shaped my future and made me who I am today. I am a proud Abusite. Leave the school? I finished my nysc 2015 and I shall always respect that school and my Lecturers for a work well done. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Lifeofpolice1(m): 10:48pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
TiffanyJ:I am not even up to sir I beg Woo I love your reply dear and from today you deserve my respect ma Thank you for shaping my thinking 2 Likes
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Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by MissRaine69(f): 10:48pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
A relationship that starts with secrets can be problematic. It’s best if you sit down and talk to him not argue about why he did it. That would be the chance to ask him if he has any other issues/secrets you are not aware off. If the child is older than your relationship then accept he made a mistake and forgive him. He has a past and that past includes a child. Now if you opt to forgive him you can’t bring this up everytime you have an argument like what some women do . The matter is done and dusted. It is possible you will meet this child one day bear in mind the child is an innocent party. It’s hurtful I am sure and you have the right to be angry but if he has been good to you and has never done anything to hurt you.Cut the man some slack he erred probably feels relived that you know so moving on from this the choice lies with you, we cannot make you choose. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Nobody: 10:50pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
xendra: What is wrong with men? It happens in both sexes, not just men. I had a similar and even worse experience from my ex |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Safiaa(f): 10:51pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
Uguruzik:just listen to your self. Pitiful. |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Malawian(m): 10:51pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
See some of these women here forming victims. The shocker for the man in question will come if he decides to do a DNA test of the kid. |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by andycom(m): 10:51pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
xendra: Shut Up biaytch 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by TiffanyJ(f): 10:53pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
Lifeofpolice1:Lol, you are a sir in your own right. Good night, sir! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by koffsman(m): 10:55pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
Madam he made a mistake he sud have told you from the onset and make you see reasons you have to be with him and more he sud have let you meet the child so as for you to be part of his life to avoid enemity in future I do joke with my gf that she sud just have d mind set that I might have a child outside which I don't knw abt but honestly I don't yet we are still together so my advice if you really love him stick with him have him bring the child home so as to me the child settle it maturely |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by andycom(m): 10:55pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
dominique:marry wetin? she has no story just drawing undue attention |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Lifeofpolice1(m): 10:56pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
TiffanyJ:she keep calling me sir Good night dear and sleep very well dear You made my day Here 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by obillyj(f): 10:57pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
A true relationship is built on trust, forgiveness and honesty. Both intending partners should be able to have enough trust in each other.Thank God u found out early else u would have built ur home on wrong foundation. He was wrong not to have told u n allow u decide to go ahead or not.A child is like pregnancy that u can't hide for long. Before u go ahead with him,u need to know of other surprises he might have for u. Try to fix a meeting with d ex thru him n find out the state of things b/w him ñ d ex.don't just accept his own version. Meet with d child n try relating with him.be sure u can accept him as ur own child before u go ahead with him. Part of what will endear u to the man is d way you treat his child. Then completely forgive him n enjoy ur relationship. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Jacksonmava(f): 11:01pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
Shugarlord213:will you keep quiet 2 Likes
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Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by OChimex: 11:01pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
Listen up dear, verify the fact about the lady, if she is married and stayed married, then, one fear knocked off. Second, verify if the child was as a result of youthful exuberance and recklessness, then if that's the case, another fear knocked off. Third, does he exhibit signs of womanizing or unfaithfulness, if no, another fear knocked off. Last, ask yourself, truthfully if u can take the child as yours and treat the child with love, if u can, another fear knocked off. Don't forget to speak with mature ones from the guy's family and urs about the issue... If you believe in God, then seek His blessings..... cheers. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Adesolomon2014(m): 11:04pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
Hmnm, what do i say? Well, I av got a child outta wedlock and did tell lady i am dating now how she (dauta) came to be. Though i wished to marry my baby mama, but she jus got this proud and egocentric altitude, dnt knw where that altitude came from though but av learnt to move on. To the OP, jus try and sort the issue with your fiance, he definitely means what he said, not all guys got the balls to tell the current lady we dating that we gat a child outta wedlock... |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Adesolomon2014(m): 11:08pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
obillyj: @ the bolded, wat kinda step is dat? UNCALLED FOR @OP, try all the steps above but not the bolded, i beg u... 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by hoebamaa(m): 11:11pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
@Op shit happens but thank God you knew before its too late. It's Vice versa.. I also know of a lady with 2 kids and she decided to keep them away from the man until after marriage. Note: Her family was also part of the plan. |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by daveemuobo(m): 11:11pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
zombieTRACKER: read the story again!! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Adesolomon2014(m): 11:12pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
xendra: Madam, dnt come and play victim here ooo. |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Adesolomon2014(m): 11:14pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
zombieTRACKER: Just remove the TRACKER from ya name. Pronounce, lemme hear U Correction; Read, Re-Read b4 Responding. |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by dre44k(m): 11:22pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
Seriously I still don't understand why anyone should hide a child given birth to out of wedlock I had my son out of wedlock and He's been my source of joy since den, I can't hide him for anybody!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by golor(m): 11:22pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
TiffanyJ: The place you took the picture looks like CBN hall of uniuyo 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by chiedozie198100: 11:28pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
man dey hide pikin? |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by crisycent: 11:32pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
steph2sweet: Sorry to say, you are about to marry a fôolish man! Any man that hides his child from anyone is the biggest föol on earth. |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Aleora(f): 11:35pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
steph2sweet:sister,that was what my ex told.me then,that he as nothing to to with the woman who gave birth to the child,was my sisters mechanic who happens to know him that told my sister that he is married to the woman and that the probability of him divorcing the woman is extremely low...so shine your eyes,before u enter one chance moto 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by Aleora(f): 11:36pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
crisycent:the truth is that the lady should better ask questions well..... |
Re: My Fiance Has A Child Out Of Wedlock. But Kept It A Secret From Me. by kcbaba007: 11:37pm On Apr 17, 2018 |
Come, man no plenty for market o! Make u no go take shakara loose your man o! 2 Likes |
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