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Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by olaboy1: 3:54pm On Apr 21, 2018 |
revontuli: I date everyone I make connection with. Below is a footnote from the clip “Swedish theory of love” “How did the Swedes become the world's most lonely people? In the spring of 1972 a group of social-democratic politicians gathered to create a new vision for Sweden's future. The goal is to create "a society of independent individuals". Forty years later, Erik Gandini examined the results. His reckless movie reveals the back of the Swedish values and paints a self-image that shakes - a Sweden that did not really seem as it was intended”. My point is the idea that western women are better than Nigerian women is laced with all falsehood, and the sooner Nigerian guys realize this the better. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by LordBaelish: 7:32pm On Apr 21, 2018 |
tobianthony: Rollo thomassi- Rational male. good points you're making from there. Guys should know their strengths and weakness after all it's the basis for the art of war. Marriage benefits women more than men especially when it's a woman that's older and past her"hot" days. No one wants 30yr old Benzema |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Talkingboy: 12:26pm On May 19, 2018 |
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Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Jomandi13(m): 11:24am On Dec 18, 2019 |
GeeString:Guy,you are hilarious,you got me reeling in laughter |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by MedicH: 11:36am On Dec 18, 2019 |
lefulefu: You're correct. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by pansophist(m): 1:17pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Men are motivated to get married because they are guaranteed of the whole package (chastity, youthfulness etc). The price to pay in our sexually liberated world is that when sex becomes freely available, then the incentive to get married reduces, as sexual exclusivity and kids are the only thing that will make a man marry. Also, femininity in itself used to be valuable, a woman is respected, honoured and seen as enough just for being a woman, and men were happy and fuelled by the goal of marrying a virtuous women for himself and live ever-after, men are quite idealistic in that regards. Fast-forward now, women have fought to eliminate the very thing that made men respect, honour and see them as enough just for being women, and men see no motivation to get marry anymore, the incentive is just not there. I do not know of any man that wants to marry a woman that has serviced more p.enis than a doctor, engage in all kind of sexual miscellaneous activities, and still expect the whole package from a self-made man, to provide and be her man, meanwhile, all he is marrying is a second-handed woman that has utilised her youthfulness having fun with exciting boys, and looking to settle when she is loosing her youthfulness. If men cant have you at your prime, then they do not want you at your decline. Sadly, men of today do not accept women for being women like men of previous generation, they want more because femininity is no longer enough, and rightly so. Though, from observations, women still haven't come to term with this new reality, and are operating on the previous mindset of being enough just for being women. Also, the average girls sees themselves as too-good for most men, and this is worsen by the numerous boys who flatter and shatter them with hype and cash, making her falsely believe that she deserve only the best, while being unconscious to the existential truism that the reason why those boys have interest in her is not because she is her, but because she is young, pretty and still at the peak of her youthfulness, which sadly, declines much faster than she realised. Also, the fact that she had all these sweet experiences shoots her standards so high, that even when she over 30 years old, she still would not understand why men are not attracted to her anymore, she still operate in her 20's mentality, but men do not see her as a 20 year old. Adding social media to the equation, with the attention they get there that is like porn to them, and the ever fake display of life, strengthening her illusion that is devoid of economical reality of the country, makes her feel that she ''settled'' for a man that is obviously way above her league. And it would get worse, I weep. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by dederocs(m): 1:20pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Marriage is a responsibility, the woman ought to be hardworking and smart to manage the resources properly with her man, otherwise there is no point. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Gerrard59(m): 8:04pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
pansophist: Well written but I witness lots people getting married daily - offline and online. More than 75% of my secondary school female classmates have gotten married. I prognosticate same figure for my university's colleagues in few years to come some which even married while in school (were also pregnant). One even got married before her research project defense and another did same during the week experiments were conducted (which I did for her). Every weekend, event halls are filled to the brim while across most villages on Thursday, traditional wedding ceremonies take place. So when I read posts like yours on social media, I shudder who are the people not getting married. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by pansophist(m): 8:09pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Gerrard59: What I wrote is an explanation on how I see it, why marriage is not a thing for many men, it doesn't invalidate the fact that people get married daily, but my aforementioned reason is a thing out there. Just as you know lots of folks getting married, you should observers not getting married either, my post refer to the latter. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by emmaodet: 1:12pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
pansophist: Ooohhhhhhhhhhhhh Doctor Pansoooooooooooo Doctor Pansoooooooooooo Abasi Mbok |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by emmaodet: 5:32pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
MissRaine69: Don't get annoyed with such statements, we all know not all nigerian ladies are loose but that statement means a large percentage are. That statement means unlike in the past were you don't need to change circle nor meet all nigerian women before you get a good woman but now it is that hard that you probably need to change circle or search diligently to do that. God help us all |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by emmaodet: 5:43pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Shugavee: And having random sex and also been a player is enjoyment? Hmmmmm |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by emmaodet: 5:53pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
AntiBrutus: I think you are right with this question. Why do people judge things from a negative angle? I believe because bad news travels farrrrrr more than good news. Just like the way we read bad news everyday about nigerians abroad into drugs and yahoo yahoo scamming but we all know that we have a far larger hard working nigerians in diaspora doing legitimate jobs and businesses and doing fine but that is no news at all. Where i am, i see more sweet, rosy and good marriages than the bad ones yet the bad ones travels farther and more exaggerated. What is the essence of bringing a good marriage to nairaland? They will tag you pompous and proud, it's no news. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by emmaodet: 11:32am On Dec 20, 2019 |
Eshence: Pls let's be guided, this statement is not too good. A lot of people are hustling and trying their best but the economy makes them look stupid. Ti a ko ba reni feyinti, bi ole lari - if we don't have a good family/financial support and guidance, people may tend to see us as lazy and unfortunate. Sis, Life is not really easy out there. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by gforce5: 3:33pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
I don't understand Nigerians obsession to get married. I know that it's part of the culture and all but it's getting out of hand. Like it's the only achievement that people have in this country. There are so many issues to be worried about such as declining standard of living, lack of infrastructure, lack of jobs, lack of investment, the complete and utter disregard for the rule of law by the ruling party and the rate of insecurity in the land. Why will men want to get married when the current economic climate is not favoring them? Why will men want to get married when the culture of "the man must provide and cater to his woman" has made them rethink the notion of marriage? Why will men want to get married when women in this country want their man to do the job of their father and take care of them even though they are supposed to be helpmates? Why will a man who is either unemployed or a low income earner want to increase the burden on himself in the name of marriage? Would such a person not think about the welfare of his future kids if he cannot support them? A lot of marriages have collapsed because of the "go and marry" syndrome. Many of them end up marrying people they have nothing in common with just to satisfy society. Gentlemen don't do it. Don't give in to pressure as those who attended your wedding will not be there when kasala burst. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Shugavee(f): 12:47am On Dec 21, 2019 |
emmaodet:yes it is enjoyment, |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by emmaodet: 5:26am On Dec 21, 2019 |
Shugavee: Ok ooooo. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by DenreleDave(m): 6:01am On Dec 21, 2019 |
MissRaine69: Muah... My crush |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by DenreleDave(m): 6:02am On Dec 21, 2019 |
Mcy56: So for ur mind, u think ladies ain't scared of karma too Abi. Well, we men are scared of karma bcox almost all our ladies are sluts which makes it easier for karma |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by DenreleDave(m): 6:06am On Dec 21, 2019 |
faithfull18: See now, no wonder we are scared to marry you people.. They are talking about marriage, u r talking about data sef... All these yeye social media wives... Better get sense |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by DenreleDave(m): 6:10am On Dec 21, 2019 |
SoapQueen: Yes we will slide into ur dm bcox we no dt u ladies are vulnerable and mumu.. At any sweet word, sharwarma and cold stone ice cream, u will open your legs again |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by faithfull18(f): 7:35am On Dec 21, 2019 |
DenreleDave:Lol, unserious element. Sha come and buy data whether you are scared of marriage or not, you will surf the internet like you are doing now |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by SoapQueen(f): 9:44pm On Dec 31, 2019 |
DenreleDave: You big fool! DM your account details let me buy them for you. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by DenreleDave(m): 9:48pm On Dec 31, 2019 |
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Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by YModulosGodSon: 11:48am On Jan 01, 2020 |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by SoapQueen(f): 7:27pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
YModulosGodSon: Hmmmm. I can’t remember you. |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by YModulosGodSon: 8:02pm On Jan 02, 2020 |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by SoapQueen(f): 6:43pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
YModulosGodSon: Mind dropping your contact number? |
Re: Why Are Men Scared Of Getting Married? by Small080(m): 11:06pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Money issue ... This 2020 I can't date a broke girl oh |
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