themodernman:


My dear follow your heart but make sure your heart is rock solid and isn't easily hurt, cos Nigerian men will taunt the hell outta you.

If you walk by the road and mistakenly slip on a banana peel, they'll attribute it to your singleness at your age.

They'll attribute the most ludicrous reasons with anything happening to you and you'll almost get yourself driven crazy.

The best thing most times is to keep your private life private and don't try to form liberator etc. Norms are thoroughly ingrained and not to so easily effaced from people's psyche.

Just live your live privately but if you feel you can put up with the taunting, ridicule, stigmatisation etc, then go public with it.

shugamummy:
Can we now see that women are yet again their own problems. Is that not laziness of the highest dimension. A man goes to his 9-5,comes back to meet long list of demands from his parents,children,sisters,brothers,inlaws,friends, and most importantly his wife...He draws a scale of preference,sends money to parents,takes in-law for treatments,pays school fees of children,pays schools of in-laws children,attends to the financial demands of his friends,sends money to his sister's and husband and still takes care of his younger brothers. And you the wife who just needs to take ur own bath and look good still blames the man for your poor external look. Now that's what I call LAZINESS

LivingFree:
Shi, someone who doesn't have a PHD looks younger than someone who does... It's not science it's common sense. Someone with zero responsibility will always look younger because they get to sleep! Zero worries equals zero wrinkles!



If you wanna argue this fact then argue with your keypad because I no follow you, since I no send you
(this pidgin ting no be easy oo but I dey try sha )

Ziggylady:




Oga as at now,as in 2018...Most married men do not go through any damned stress of providing anything!!!...in Nigeria!!.I have countless real life experiences of married people around me,both colleagues and family members..

99% of the women in the aforementioned marriages contribut at least 60% of the financial burden in the home...I have heard an earful with complaints from them on how their husbands are not bringing in much financially...

They do all the house chores,cook,take care of the kids,work and bring in more money than their husbands.Most married women will not open up to you about the stress they are going through in other to 'cover their husbands unclothedness'..but the mega stress is Real!!!!...And the men very ungrateful and difficult.

Etuagievin:
. .Encouraging fornication/ adultery. In the end the child will either have an irresponsible father or one he/she doesn't know. It would be selfish or self-serving to satisfy societal demand for a child and then allow the child to mocked or suffer because of being fatherless, so to speak in the future. As for the the example you gave, the said women can adopt a child. Its not out of place.

Bossontop:

Hahh!!!....bros fear God na
Evening newspapers right now


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delugajackson:
There is no excuse for being an evening newspaper. You are either on the table or on the menu. I'm not a physiotherapist, but I know that good looks is a product of a balanced diet, a sound mind and overall healthy lifestyle. It has nothing to do with your marital status. It's just a matter of logic and common sense.

shugamummy:
Can we now see that women are yet again their own problems. Is that not laziness of the highest dimension. A man goes to his 9-5,comes back to meet long list of demands from his parents,children,sisters,brothers,inlaws,friends, and most importantly his wife...He draws a scale of preference,sends money to parents,takes in-law for treatments,pays school fees of children,pays schools of in-laws children,attends to the financial demands of his friends,sends money to his sister's and husband and still takes care of his younger brothers. And you the wife who just needs to take ur own bath and look good still blames the man for your poor external look. Now that's what I call LAZINESS

flames01:

Please what led to the separation. No need for details; just hints.

Ziggylady:
I dont know why males on this thread are crying about this...Marriage for women in Nigeria is extremely stressful while for men its an eldorado.

Married women look and feel better before marriage,while married men look much better after marriage..fact.

monex:


it is not just nigerian men. it is society in general due to our culture. we don't like exceptions /outliers. I have a colleague who is in her early forties and is nasty/mean to everyone.

My other female colleagues thinks she is frustrated about not being married. I say she has an inherent nasty personality. They say they are women and i dont know how women think.

IamHeWrites:
A writer who also identifies as an African feminist on twitter took to the platform to assert that older women without husbands look and act younger than their married peers.

She invited others to share their views and she got a wide range of responses.

Read below;

https://www.torimill.com/2018/07/older-women-without-husbands-looks-and-act-younger-nigerian-lady-says.html

SonsOfLiverpool:
we are calling off her hypocrisy. The fact that she is married is a bad pointer.

Ziggylady:




Oga as at now,as in 2018...Most married men do not go through any damned stress of providing anything!!!...in Nigeria!!.I have countless real life experiences of married people around me,both colleagues and family members..

99% of the women in the aforementioned marriages contribut at least 60% of the financial burden in the home...I have heard an earful with complaints from them on how their husbands are not bringing in much financially...

They do all the house chores,cook,take care of the kids,work and bring in more money than their husbands.Most married women will not open up to you about the stress they are going through in other to 'cover their husbands unclothedness'..but the mega stress is Real!!!!...And the men very ungrateful and difficult.

delugajackson:
There is no excuse for being an evening newspaper. You are either on the table or on the menu. I'm not a physiotherapist, but I know that good looks is a product of a balanced diet, a sound mind and overall healthy lifestyle. It has nothing to do with your marital status. It's just a matter of logic and common sense.

The harder these expired evening news papers try to defend themselves, the more stupid they become. It's really a shame.

AnonyNymous:

Going from the responses on this thread I feel like marriage is an outdated, failed institution and is an extreme risk with very low probability of success.

Ziggylady:




Oga as at now,as in 2018...Most married men do not go through any damned stress of providing anything!!!...in Nigeria!!.I have countless real life experiences of married people around me,both colleagues and family members..

99% of the women in the aforementioned marriages contribut at least 60% of the financial burden in the home...I have heard an earful with complaints from them on how their husbands are not bringing in much financially...

They do all the house chores,cook,take care of the kids,work and bring in more money than their husbands.Most married women will not open up to you about the stress they are going through in other to 'cover their husbands unclothedness'..but the mega stress is Real!!!!...And the men very ungrateful and difficult.

cococandy:

When the truth is that women have to give up a lot more than random sexual encounters. many times what they give up include their life goals and plans in order to get and stay married.

Ziggylady:




Oga as at now,as in 2018...Most married men do not go through any damned stress of providing anything!!!...in Nigeria!!.I have countless real life experiences of married people around me,both colleagues and family members..

99% of the women in the aforementioned marriages contribut at least 60% of the financial burden in the home...I have heard an earful with complaints from them on how their husbands are not bringing in much financially...

They do all the house chores,cook,take care of the kids,work and bring in more money than their husbands.Most married women will not open up to you about the stress they are going through in other to 'cover their husbands unclothedness'..but the mega stress is Real!!!!...And the men very ungrateful and difficult.

CAPSLOCKED:



- IT IS OUTDATED.
- IT IS A FAILED INSTITUTION.
- IT DOESN'T GUARANTEE HAPPINESS, PEACE, LONGEVITY, SUCCESS, WEALTH, NOTHING.
- IT IS TERRORISM TO THE MAN'S BANK ACCOUNT.
- IT IS A MEANS FOR SOME PEOPLE TO ACQUIRE PERMANENT HOUSEHELPS, OR PERMANENT PROVIDERS.
- ONLY THE WEAK MINDED SPEND MOST PART OF THEIR LIVES DREAMING ABOUT GETTING MARRIED INSTEAD OF BECOMING USEFUL AND RESPONSIBLE.

Lucid1:

YOU FORGOT TO ADD IT IS SLAVERY TO THE WOMAN. LET'S BE NEUTRAL

CAPSLOCKED:


WELL ALMOST EVERY WOMAN MAKES MARRIAGE THEIR LIFE GOAL FROM AS EARLY AS 13. THERE ARE MORE WOMEN IN CHURCH PRAYING FOR LIFE PARTNERS THAN MEN. THERE ARE MORE WOMEN BROWSING THE LATEST MARRIAGE NEWS AND GOSSIP THAN MEN.

WHAT GOALS ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT.. LIKE LEARNING MAKEUP TUTORIALS ON YOUTUBE, OR BEING THE PROFESSIONAL CALL GIRL?

Ziggylady:
I dont know why males on this thread are crying about this...Marriage for women in Nigeria is extremely stressful while for men its an eldorado.

Married women look and feel better before marriage,while married men look much better after marriage..fact.

donstan18:
Kai! See consolation By all means, unmarried aged evening newspapers are trying hard to belong when they are already gone and looking for a man to rescue their mission. Your looks depends on how you treat and keep yourself, not marital reasons.

They should keep piling hopeless hopes on themselves, they should keep looking young on social media as single women, while their married peers are looking young as a mother and wife in reality


Chai! She said they look younger, even the evening newspapers wey their boobs dn drop like music albums dey claim younger.......They should keep consoling themselves on social media, last last, they'll log out of social media and face reality.

yeyerolling:
They are one of the most frustrated people on earth. If u no get husband den at least born. When i dey bank i knew one customer she had over 100m in mutual fund investment, 46 no kid. Easily irritated and flares up.. Every night u can imagine wat dey face cuddling pillow. There are lots of 25 yr old gals looking 38 today

cococandy:

This one woman is not the reason why I posted that comment.

It’s a pervasive norm that I’ve come to observe. Any woman whether single or married who has even the slightest negative thing to say about marriage is quickly and harshly shouted down by guess who? Guys. Yep. The same guys that supposedly have everything to lose by getting married. Let them keep fooling themselves.

When the truth is that women have to give up a lot more than random sexual encounters. many times what they give up include their life goals and plans in order to get and stay married.

Meanwhile the man is asked to stay with one woman and that’s the big deal that will end the world. Not minding that the woman has to do it without even thinking about it.

monex:


it is not just nigerian men. it is society in general due to our culture. we don't like exceptions /outliers. I have a colleague who is in her early forties and is nasty/mean to everyone.

My other female colleagues thinks she is frustrated about not being married. I say she has an inherent nasty personality. They say they are women and i dont know how women think.

openmine:


Using other people's narrative as a justification to rub on a gender is unacceptable and illogic!
You may have heard maybe 10 to 20 cases does not make a good stat to come up with a hasty "99% conclusion"....

And besides,you only heard and concluded from one mouth simply because you are associated with that gender without confirming from the other...that's a hasty and thoughtless conclusion....

Do you know if the married woman you spoke to is only lying just to make herself a victim while bad mouthing the hubby?

Do you stay and live with these married ladies at home to have confirmed that they contribute 60% for upkeeps?

As much as I believe that there are some guys who relinquish most of their responsibilities in the family setup,its totally unfair to stand by the corridor and judge a family based on what you heard from just one person!

I know of marriages that have lasted for many years and the woman looked prettier and younger while the man looked better.....I know of young marriages where both partners looked old and disfigured...... I also know of marriages that have either of the partners looking young and better or looking old and worse!

Every marriage is not the same for everyone....!

Different strokes for different folks!