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Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by themodernman: 11:11am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Ziggylady: I really wonder if you'd have said this if it was the other way round... That's d issue with women, they're just chitchat chatterboxes who will stop at nothing to ensure the world knows they contribute 60% to the family income, but will make sure they shut the man up when he starts contributing 100% later in life by always reminding him and the world when she was always there for him, as if she quietly carried their whole world on her shoulders alone. Let everyone do as they please and live and let live abeg. Personally marriage is the last and the least of my concerns. I can't even imagine one woman coming to claim sole partnership of the sweat I toiled all alone to get when they were nowhere to be found. Women can do the same too and stop disturbing our ears with all this 60% talk, nobody forced anybody. I'll enjoy my money with as much women as I please and have children with as many women of my choosing. Let women do as they choose too. Simple and free world, no need for all this hullabaloo 3 Likes |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by omoharry(f): 11:31am On Jul 05, 2018 |
oyb:Do you think if most women have this kind of guys as husband they will complain?...maybe you are speaking for yourself..but majority of Nigerian husbands do not take such responsibilities,,they are found wanting in these areas and more. Marriage is good for those that love each other and are selfless, kind, considerate and respectful toward each other and what they have.It not to please society or your pastors..alot of people get married because of pressure from parents, church and society. |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by Nobody: 11:34am On Jul 05, 2018 |
omoharry: How many do you know? |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by themodernman: 11:38am On Jul 05, 2018 |
CAPSLOCKED: #Gbam!!! |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by bukatyne(f): 11:40am On Jul 05, 2018 |
akeentech: Hahahahahahahahahhahahahahahaha I am sorry sir however, you just proved her right. |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by bukatyne(f): 11:43am On Jul 05, 2018 |
cococandy: Hahahahahahahahahhahahahahahaha Very funny innit? 1 Like |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by AreaFada2: 11:46am On Jul 05, 2018 |
pocohantas:Wrong. It's just easier for widowers to remarry. How many guys want to feed, clothe, shelter and educate maybe 3 or 4 kids of another man in addition his his these days? Very few. So most widows have to settle for whoever is willing, if any at all. Most cannot find a new man of their choice. Culturally too, a woman cannot just marry too quickly otherwise inlaws might suspect her of bumping off her hubby. |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by bukatyne(f): 11:50am On Jul 05, 2018 |
pocohantas: @bold: And widows are not. Shaking tables and causing controversies asides, We are need to do critical thinking. Men often complain that women age faster than men especially in marriage hence some advocate for longer age gap between spouses. Someone comes to out to say marriage is the aging factor and peeps are complaining. @Widowhood: after the shock of the loss and a little healing, men look for new wives; women concentrate on their kids and lives. (This is just generally) Could the Ozzy woman be on to something? 1 Like |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by pocohantas(f): 11:56am On Jul 05, 2018 |
AreaFada2: Wrong, after tasting the servitude a wife can bring...men are always more keen on having one or more 'server' for life So, a man can't marry a widow with kids, but he will marry a single lady that will wanna have her own kids in addition to the one his late wife had? Hmmmm! |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by pocohantas(f): 11:57am On Jul 05, 2018 |
bukatyne: OZZY IS RIGHT, to a very good extent. |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by AreaFada2: 11:57am On Jul 05, 2018 |
AnonyNymous: Funny thing is it is women who get super excited hearing the word "marriage". Delay more than 6 months after more engagement and say they o not want to be "Lord of the Ring". Delay proposal and they bemoan men are scared of commitment. Many want to upload their economy burden on a man. They want court marriage eyeing a share of a man's wealth already. Men would happily be single and get them preggy in their own separate home now and then. But they harangue men that they want marriage. So let's agree that baby mama is the way forward. That would suit men nicely. You bet 99% of men won't agree. If marriage is that bad, women should refuse to marry. Simple. 1 Like |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by pocohantas(f): 12:05pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
AreaFada2: Why won't they be excited? At least they can start receiving the respect society gives to married women. Some are indeed happy to be married to their men. But na una dey yab babymama pass na. Will everyone allow these women stay single in peace, abi is it to keep calling them evening newspaper/feminist/ashawo...etc Even the ones wey marry divorce, una no go allow them rest. Chai! Nigerians wahala too much. 1 Like |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by AreaFada2: 12:06pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
pocohantas: Yes ke. Women agree to marry a widower easily so as to offload burden of looking after kids from another marriage on the man. Men know that and are therefore reluctant. We all know that wicked step mums abound because women go into marriage for own interest mostly, not to look after the man's kids. Step-kids are often seen as an obstacle by the new wife. This is not folklore but reality I have seen many times. But wicked step-dads are very rare. In fact men pamper step-kids and yet often get little recognition once the kids grow up. In fact from many I have seen around me, men should refrain from having step-kids if possible. Step-kids treated such men badly despite all witnessing how much such men tried to provide for them. Very sad. I won't like to have step-kids. |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by ABLE001(m): 12:07pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
ok! |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by ABLE001(m): 12:09pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
madam marriage is not by force naa |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by ABLE001(m): 12:11pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
AreaFada2:so true! |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by AreaFada2: 12:14pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
pocohantas: Lol. Nor be only evening paper. Na moin-moin and akara wrap paper. Why would they listen to people? Who is society? Made up of men only? If they are truly independent and confident, why seek approval from people? They just want to avoid what they'd also use to mock others. That is why it matters to them. You know you women and una serious bad mouth. |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by pocohantas(f): 12:15pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
AreaFada2: Of course I agree, lots of these women are looking for men to take care of their financial burden. The ones with money are usually very uninterested in remarrying. They don't mind sexual relationships, but not marriage itself. Wicked step-dad is rare, abusive step-dad is the common one. The kids also see their step-mum as an obstacle, especially if they are grown. It is kinda normal, you can't take the place of one's biological parent...except if the parent na complete write-off. Truth is, lots of Nigerians, [male and female] go into marriages for selfish reasons. Unlike you men that have refused to agree that some of your brothers are looking for glorified maids and child-popper, I have never disputed the fact that my sisters are seeking a maga |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by AreaFada2: 12:25pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
pocohantas: Good. I respect you for bolded. Why need a woman if not to have kids as a major reason? How many women marry without wanting to have kids? How many women would prefer a child-bearing incubator/machine to take over bearing babies? All this cooking and house chore thing is over-rated. Men marry late these days. Most guys do house chores and cook well before marriage. It would take a lot for a lady to wow me with her culinary skills to be honest. |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by Nobody: 1:16pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
cococandy: I have made EXACTLY the same observation. 1 Like |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by Nobody: 1:21pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Ziggylady: This is a comment I discovered on the comment section of The Guardian a few days ago. "This is certainly true of my observations in west Africa, especially in rural areas. The women were always seen selling produce on the side of roads, pounding millet, chopping firewood, collecting water, doing all the domestic chores, usually while having a few kids strapped to their backs. Most of the men seemed to be chilling out under the nearest large tree most of the time." https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jul/02/africa-nigeria-life-saving-optimism-teach-west-depression#comments |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by Nobody: 1:27pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
CAPSLOCKED: you are despicable. a lot YouTube influencers can actually feed you. 1 Like |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by CAPSLOCKED: 2:46pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Proudgorgeousga: SAY NO MORE.. THE VULCANISER AT THIS JUNCTION CAN TAKE CARE OF YOUR NEEDS, AND THAT OF OTHER MEMBERS OF YOUR HUNGRY FAMILY. 1 Like |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by Lalas247(f): 2:51pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
She has a point though like livingfree started ... zero responsibilities zero wrinkles When they are living for themselves what do u expect ... also Naija is a touch climate so can’t blame the wives for looking haggered This lady preaching is she divorced All these undercover hypocrites .... |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by Nobody: 3:27pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Lalas247:You spot on @bold She's married with kids but thinks marriage (for women) is overrated and useless in Naija (she right thou... but must she be the one to say it? ) Simple common sense turned into war of the sexes! Single men look younger than married men ... You know nl and keyboard warriors Hey girl, You went MIA How's the wedding prep going Quote me elsewhere if this thread is too hot 1 Like |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by cococandy(f): 4:23pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
But this still doesn’t any explain why guys insist marriage is disadvantageous to them, yet they attack every female that comments against marriage. SonsOfLiverpool: 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by cococandy(f): 4:25pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
bukatyne: Mindfulness: They are fooling themselves not us 1 Like |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by SonsOfLiverpool(m): 4:49pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
cococandy:the Nigerian male is not an hypocrite in that aspect. But the Nigerian female are. You and I know the females need this marriage even more than a man despite that they won't mention it. Particularly the Nigerian female I don't know whether you live in Pluto. Same way when they like a guy and won't mention it thereby during silently, So your point is baseless. If you must debate, put your petty guard down and be realistic. |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by cococandy(f): 5:01pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Okay but we are still dancing around the topic question without an answer. If the Nigerian male is not a hypocrite, then that means they must be telling the truth when they say marriage favors women more right? That means when they say men shouldn’t marry but have babymama’s instead, it makes sense seeing as marriage is disadvantageous to them (men). Why then do they attack the women who speak against marriage. These women are preaching for the same ultimate goal that they have. Still waiting for my answer. Probably won’t be getting it because you’re trapped now. SonsOfLiverpool: 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by SonsOfLiverpool(m): 5:50pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
cococandy:trapped? No The male are speaking against it because they need it. Everyone needs a partner. Bitter people like the lady are those that claim don't need a partner even when this person has a husband. You should know comment sections filled with emotional rants both from males and females so I still stand by my point, the males are not hypothetical in "this aspect" as earlier pointed. But remember, for every disadvantage, there was or is an hidden advantage. But everyone whines about the disadvantage. This thread proves that men need women but the question is, how many women will accept such even when we all know the lives or well being of an average Naija girl depends on Marriage. That is my point. When the male says marriage favours women, you should understand that the major issue in Nigeria is financial one, that is the major issue affecting everyone, the female have it easier in that regard. Poverty has affected the mental capacity of both parties we don't think straight again. Nevertheless, the female are still more hypocritical to their environment which includes accepting like threads as such, the importance of marriage. Are you not tired of typing |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by Lalas247(f): 6:35pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
LivingFree:It’s going well, thanks Hun But it’s so damn hot! Can’t even shop cause I get so drained Went to Stratford what a shame... see ppl just walking around dressed up doing God knows what .. never again Too many blacks going blue water next time.. How are you though ? Hope good |
Re: "Older Women Without Husbands Looks, And Act Younger" - Nigerian Lady Says by cococandy(f): 7:10pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
@bold, Really? SonsOfLiverpool: |
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