Lalas247:

It’s going well, thanks Hun
But it’s so damn hot! Can’t even shop cause I get so drained
Went to Stratford what a shame... see ppl just walking around dressed up doing God knows what .. never again
Too many blacks going blue water next time..

How are you though ? Hope good

Too many blacks! says the chick from Hackney

PMSL!! Acting like you never went Stratford for a holiday wearing your Sunday best, back in the day

You should go White city- Westfeild it's so much classier! And the crowds are a fairer shade of black

It most be real stressful! Girl, planning for a simple nightout is a killer, imagine a wedding

I tap into the Bread-gang blessing tho


You're making me hella sad! Don't wanna lose you to team wifey-material! You can't move to family section, already annoyed at your attendance on the food section, is too much oo

I send you lots of light and love for the big day and the rest of your lives together!

cococandy:
@bold, Really?

we should really stop fighting each other, stop and listen to one another.

Understanding each other will actually solve more problems than fighting or dismissing the pain of the other.

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Op that's your problem.

My own is to live healthy, pamper myself, live in a peaceful environment, be happy and make more money before I marry and settle down.

I owe no one nothing and no one owes me too.

So keep your analysis to yourself.

Everyone needs a partner

Partner is not limited to marital partner alone.

It can mean friend, associate, etc.

we should really stop fighting each other, stop and listen to one another.

Understanding each other will actually solve more problems than fighting or dismissing the pain of the other.

It's hard to do because most people here are carrying around emotional hurt from their pasts. And as long as they refuse to face this fact they'll keep shifting blame on others who had nothing to do with it.

Stupid because they decided to remain unmarried? You are the stupid one here..sorry!

Tayor23:
Stupid because they decided to remain unmarried? You are the stupid one here..sorry!

Whose post are you responding to?

akeentech:
But my wife looks more younger than her mates, tho we're separated.

Meaning you agree with the poster

Ziggylady:
I dont know why males on this thread are crying about this...Marriage for women in Nigeria is extremely stressful while for men its an eldorado.

Married women look and feel better before marriage,while married men look much better after marriage..fact.

True

If you honestly think marriage for men in Nigeria is an 'El Dorado' then you're either just biased or still lying.

It is though.

monex:


it is not just nigerian men. it is society in general due to our culture. we don't like exceptions /outliers. I have a colleague who is in her early forties and is nasty/mean to everyone.

My other female colleagues thinks she is frustrated about not being married. I say she has an inherent nasty personality. They say they are women and i dont know how women think.

Personality is probably the main reason.

Mindfulness:


This is a comment I discovered on the comment section of The Guardian a few days ago.

"This is certainly true of my observations in west Africa, especially in rural areas. The women were always seen selling produce on the side of roads, pounding millet, chopping firewood, collecting water, doing all the domestic chores, usually while having a few kids strapped to their backs. Most of the men seemed to be chilling out under the nearest large tree most of the time."

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jul/02/africa-nigeria-life-saving-optimism-teach-west-depression#comments

Nice